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teamkiller
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how do you cope with rejection?
#18779894 - 08/31/13 12:35 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was reflecting today, and it suddenly occurred to me that i've developed no successful mechanism to deal with rejection. I just feel bad and i'm used to that feeling so i continue about my day like normal.
I'm not talking like major rejection like the love of ur life saying she's not into you either. I'm talking like the cute girl walking down the street won't make eye contact and intentionally looks away. i'm talking like the people that work next door and smoke cigs in the same ally as you say hello but don't really want to make conversation and don't seem to care about or respond to anything you say.
I'm starting to get pretty old, so it feels weird to me that those things make me feel as bad as they did when i was a kid. I just never learned a way to deal with it.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller] 3
#18779902 - 08/31/13 12:37 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: King Klick]
#18779910 - 08/31/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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HAHAHAHAHA. while i was thinking about this i was like "damn i wish i had some ketamine so i could be free from this stupid human shit for awhile".
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18779918 - 08/31/13 12:44 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just dont care, within reason of course, as in if you fear rejection from your boss due to it making things awkward, thats a normal fear. Sounds simple but thats the answer.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller] 1
#18779978 - 08/31/13 01:07 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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i mean no one likes rejection, but for me, i don't really mind the rejection itself too much, i just dont like all the games that come with it. like i'd prefer a chick to just be like okay gtfo its done, rather then play shit out over a long period of time.
which is kind of whats currently happening to me with this bitch from work.... im getting played hard. fcken bitch. and shes not even that hot either. i don't even know why i like her, shes fucked in the head
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18780129 - 08/31/13 02:15 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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It is a part of our existence as human beings! Roll with it babay and take it in stride as much as meantally possible. It's all good and that's the way the cookie crumbles at times. " A roller coaster ride..."
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#18780132 - 08/31/13 02:17 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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didnt read anything other than thread title cope with it like anything else hakuna matata
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AGREED!
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: tyrannicalrex] 1
#18780227 - 08/31/13 02:59 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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The law of attraction exists. I'm not talking some cosmic force. I'm talking your perception selectively retaining experiences to reinforce your beliefs.
While at some time, your problem of rejection was likely instilled by some assholes; I think most likely you are the one carrying on this trauma which is manifesting in behaviors that lead to perceived rejection.
The problem isn't outside, but rather within. Change your living habits, and it will be much easier to change your mental processes.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Acaterpillar]
#18780233 - 08/31/13 03:00 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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HEY THERE! ( not to me was it?)
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#18780234 - 08/31/13 03:00 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
tyrannicalrex said: HEY THERE! ( not to me was it?)
Sorry, I'm drunk. It was to Teamkiller.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Acaterpillar]
#18780236 - 08/31/13 03:01 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Acaterpillar said: The law of attraction exists. I'm not talking some cosmic force. I'm talking your perception selectively retaining experiences to reinforce your beliefs.
While at some time, your problem of rejection was likely instilled by some assholes; I think most likely you are the one carrying on this trauma which is manifesting in behaviors that lead to perceived rejection.
The problem isn't outside, but rather within. Change your living habits, and it will be much easier to change your mental processes.
Did you eat a buffalo burger today?
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Dude, if you were in Dallas I strongly suggest going to Twisted Root burger place. Buffalo, Ostrich, etc...
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18780256 - 08/31/13 03:21 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Interesting questions. The older I get, the less I care to waste any energy on negative feelings, rejection being one of them. Ive gotten much better at just moving on with my life, rather than ruminating on things. In my late teens/early 20s, that kind of shit would eat me up, and id spiral into a depressed, ocd, drug crazed wreck of a human being. haha, shit man, worlds apart today
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: ManianFH]
#18780267 - 08/31/13 03:29 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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FUCK IT You win some, You lose some.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Chowder963]
#18780505 - 08/31/13 08:00 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Chowder963 said: Just dont care, within reason of course, as in if you fear rejection from your boss due to it making things awkward, thats a normal fear. Sounds simple but thats the answer.
I agree. Train yourself towards apathy.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: sukhavati12]
#18780523 - 08/31/13 08:14 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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How I deal with rejection?
Oh... just extreme introversion, like a turtle drawing its head into its shell, followed by long periods of isolation.
Y'know, the healthy way!
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18780548 - 08/31/13 08:25 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't. Rejection brings me down hard until I just forget about it all together. I think the fear of rejection holds me back from a LOT. Deep down I'd rather just not try than try and face the possibility of rejection. Not a conscience choice or anything, but I just can't seem to get over it.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18780552 - 08/31/13 08:27 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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teamkiller said: I was reflecting today, and it suddenly occurred to me that i've developed no successful mechanism to deal with rejection. I just feel bad and i'm used to that feeling so i continue about my day like normal.
I'm not talking like major rejection like the love of ur life saying she's not into you either. I'm talking like the cute girl walking down the street won't make eye contact and intentionally looks away. i'm talking like the people that work next door and smoke cigs in the same ally as you say hello but don't really want to make conversation and don't seem to care about or respond to anything you say.
I'm starting to get pretty old, so it feels weird to me that those things make me feel as bad as they did when i was a kid. I just never learned a way to deal with it.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Big Worm]
#18780638 - 08/31/13 09:03 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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by only envisioning situations where i could get rejected and never actually making them a reality.
that and not really caring.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: druqs]
#18780750 - 08/31/13 09:49 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've never had anyone tell me "no".
Never been turned down for any job or any application, ever.
Never had a girl blow me off or decline a date.

not sure how I would handle it.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: NWlight]
#18780761 - 08/31/13 09:55 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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For what you're speaking of, I would just say instead of thinking of yourself as the cause, think of them. Maybe they're weird? Maybe they're having a bad day?
I'm the kind of guy that's like "F*ck what anyone else thinks".
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Fryer Mike]
#18780882 - 08/31/13 10:48 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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You should reach out more. You'd be surprised at how many people experience the same shit you do and feel the same way about others. I've noticed that most people are overcautious so you gotta shake their daily routine of bullshit up and reach out.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: Fryer Mike]
#18780886 - 08/31/13 10:49 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds like a self esteem issue. No one is better than anyone else. Stop trying to read peoples minds..it doesn't work. For every pot, there is a lid.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: NWlight]
#18780893 - 08/31/13 10:53 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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NWlight said: I've never had anyone tell me "no".
Never been turned down for any job or any application, ever.
Never had a girl blow me off or decline a date.

not sure how I would handle it.
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: tlien]
#18780938 - 08/31/13 11:09 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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don't feel to bad i have my girlfriend girls seem interested in me while am taken... reason being is am not trying nything when i know i dont need to... trying freaks girls out- makes boys nerves. lose-lose situation. now i dont even care who likes me aslong as she does think of it that way and u wont go wrong
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Re: how do you cope with rejection? [Re: teamkiller]
#18781866 - 08/31/13 04:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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teamkiller said: I was reflecting today, and it suddenly occurred to me that i've developed no successful mechanism to deal with rejection. I just feel bad and i'm used to that feeling so i continue about my day like normal.
I'm not talking like major rejection like the love of ur life saying she's not into you either. I'm talking like the cute girl walking down the street won't make eye contact and intentionally looks away. i'm talking like the people that work next door and smoke cigs in the same ally as you say hello but don't really want to make conversation and don't seem to care about or respond to anything you say.
I'm starting to get pretty old, so it feels weird to me that those things make me feel as bad as they did when i was a kid. I just never learned a way to deal with it.
I wouldn't quite consider some cute girl walking down the street that avoids eye contact as a rejection of any sort . And if some folks like you mentioned, that work close by smoking cigs in the ally, don't want to make conversation or aren't interested in what you have to say....then to me it's not even worth the energy to feel rejected.
I dunno, I have a weird approach to these sorts of things. Only time I think I'd actually feel a genuine sense of "rejection", is if it was from someone I cared about or within my life that was avoiding me for a silly reason that I don't feel justifies the rejection. (besides situations like you mentioned, being rejected by the love of my life sort of thing)
Generally I don't let stuff like people rejecting or ignoring me bother me.....
What's I find a little funny about this thread/post...You're actually the only member on the shroomery that's ignoring me .
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