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FlusH
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just found out...
#18771951 - 08/29/13 06:06 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Edited by FlusH (09/28/15 11:05 PM)
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Cyclohexylamine
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Re: just found out... [Re: FlusH]
#18771971 - 08/29/13 06:29 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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FlusH said: My wife has been lying to me for over 6 years.
Feeling pretty shitty at the moment. Not sure what to do at this point.
Fuck
Lying about what?
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Tmethyl
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I'd recommend exhaling. You've been fucked pretty hard, but this is to be expected with every relationship. A relationship is like a room full of drunk people, at some point someone is going to fight or get fucked, it's a matter of "when", not "if". Sometimes this merits leaving, other times not.
When you deal with this in your head, you'll get over it. But understand you're both human, don't regret your next actions.
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FlusH
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joshisstoned
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Re: just found out... [Re: FlusH]
#18772011 - 08/29/13 07:10 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rest assured they fucked. Sorry to hear that man. Those are not your friends bro. Real friends wouldnt do you like that!
Edited by joshisstoned (08/29/13 07:11 AM)
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Re: just found out... [Re: FlusH] 1
#18772013 - 08/29/13 07:15 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Time to cut people out wholesale, sorry to hear about this shit. Had one of these episodes a couple of years ago
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Damn, really sorry to hear about your situation man. Looks like it's time for you to start a new chapter. It may not be easy seeing how I'm sure you guys share a home and have a daughter, but you should start dreaming up a game plan. You deserve better bro.
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Tmethyl
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Re: just found out... [Re: toader123] 1
#18772068 - 08/29/13 07:53 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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She doesn't respect you, nor do your "friends", the only option in my opinion is to show them all you don't give a fuck and abandon them permanently. That's s pretty ridiculous situation, don't continue to be a part of that story. Surprise her with something shell never expect, like "bye, and fuck you".
Start over, because this is never, ever going to work out. You'll never be able to trust her again.
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FlusH
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Re: just found out... [Re: Tmethyl]
#18772077 - 08/29/13 07:57 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus
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Re: just found out... [Re: FlusH]
#18772094 - 08/29/13 08:06 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Wow man that's horrible. If I were in your shoes I would probably pick up, move, and start a new life.
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Tmethyl
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If you really want to make this sting for her, show no emotion. If you cry and try to get revenge, or show her you're heartbroken, that feeds her.
Give nothing, no matter what. Just be done with it and disappear. Continue to take great care of your kid though.
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toader123



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Re: just found out... [Re: Tmethyl]
#18772127 - 08/29/13 08:24 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Tmethyl said: If you really want to make this sting for her, show no emotion. If you cry and try to get revenge, or show her you're heartbroken, that feeds her.
Give nothing, no matter what. Just be done with it and disappear. Continue to take great care of your kid though.
VERY solid advice
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psychodelia
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Re: just found out... [Re: Tmethyl]
#18772211 - 08/29/13 09:20 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Tmethyl said: If you really want to make this sting for her, show no emotion. If you cry and try to get revenge, or show her you're heartbroken, that feeds her.
Give nothing, no matter what. Just be done with it and disappear. Continue to take great care of your kid though.
I have no marriage experience and very little relationship experience but this guy is right IMO. This would Burn so much more than giving her a mouthful of hate. Show no emotion, move on, leave her and her thoughts alone
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Masked
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Re: just found out... [Re: Tmethyl]
#18772221 - 08/29/13 09:28 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Tmethyl said: Just be done with it and disappear. Continue to take great care of your kid though.
Unfortunately, this is an oxymoron. You can't take care good care of your child AND dissapear, even metaphorically speaking.
As someone who is also going through a similar situation, you cannot "disappear". Unfortunately, once you have kids, that partner is going to be in your life, for life.
You also have a responsibility to your child to get along with each other as best you can.
The rest was solid advice though. I currently give my ex so much power over the situation and the emotions involved because I show too much emotion about it all
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psychodelia said: This would Burn so much more than giving her a mouthful of hate.
Even better than that its good for OP, some bitch like that, who cares what she experiences. Moving on and not letting shit like that sit on you, priceless
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Masked
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who cares what she experiences
Probably any person that has had children with someone and has loved them for 6 years, who isn't a psychopath by clinical definition.
OP, I understand what you are going through. I am going through something similar, with kids involved as well. If you want to talk, PM me.
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Re: just found out... [Re: Masked]
#18772287 - 08/29/13 09:55 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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This is all pretty confusing. I'm at work now. Can't really go into details.
Thanks foe the replies.
If we didn't have a kid together I would literally quit my job now and hop a plane somewhere.
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Re: just found out... [Re: Masked]
#18772301 - 08/29/13 10:02 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said:
Probably any person that has had children with someone and has loved them for 6 years, who isn't a psychopath by clinical definition.
Well call me Charlie, but speaking from experience I don't care about the people who have done me the most wrong. Sounds pretty claustrophobic
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OP ..Perhaps, speak to a lawyer...if she admitted fucking someone else...that is a reason for divorce. You can work out your custody agreements at the same time. If she has indeed been unfaithful....then..you are in the drivers seat.
I agree with masked....ALWAYS keep the childs welfare in mind. M
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Masked
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Regardless if someone has lied to me, cheated on me, or whatever...if I loved them for 6 years and had a child with them, I'm still going to care how they feel. I'm pretty sure many would agree. 
...speaking from experience
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