|
lonelypsychonaut
Stranger

Registered: 07/23/12
Posts: 810
Last seen: 6 years, 11 months
|
New Crush On New Girl (UPDATE!)
#18770887 - 08/28/13 10:00 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
Hey guys, it's been quite a while actually, but I need some help on this one.
So a few weeks ago I randomly went to this party. I didn't really wanna go, but I needed to sell some weed so I went to just go chill in the garage with the stoners the whole time. People would be walking in and out on occasion.
Then she walked in.
As soon as I saw her I knew she was at LEAST a solid 9/10 imo. She's fucking gorgeous. I didn't really talk to her, I might've said one thing to her, but I wasn't having the best night anyway and also I'm a nervous little bitch and I didn't want to make myself look like a fool in front of her and everyone there.
I knew I liked her because days after, even weeks after, her face just kept popping in my mind. I couldn't stop thinking about a girl that I've never even met or talked to. That's how I knew. I didn't think I'd ever see her again.
Then about a week ago, I was hanging out with my friend. We were just smoking some weed and he told me that he'd be meeting up with her and her friend later that night. I instantly told him I was down. I had to see her again and actually talk to her.
So I picked her and her friend up and what do you know, they're doing M that night. We were talking pretty good in the car, and for the time that we spent together, but I was also kind of unfocused because my friend lost her phone in my car towards the end of the night so I didn't really talk to her all that much when she was rolling, but I think I made a decent first impression at least.
The next day I messaged her on Facebook asking her how her night went. We talked for a bit, she sent me some smiley faces. She asked me if I was gonna hang out with her that night with some other people, but I was supposed to be doing M with another friend so I had to decline. She also said that she wanted to hang out with us more because she though we were chill, not me necessarily, but still a good sign right? I also told her if I had any M leftover I would be down to do it with her and she said she would be down and it would sound like fun. I didn't do all the M I had, I actually have quite a lot left over.
It's been almost a week since I've seen her or talked to her. We have technically met now, but I still feel like she doesn't really know me and I still have a good chance at making a better first impression with her. I might be hanging out with her tomorrow, with some friends of course, and I'm not really sure what to do or say to her to get her to notice me without embarrassing myself in front of everyone, especially her. I'm not too good with girls, I think I come off as too shy cause I can never really keep a conversation with people I don't know too well, although with a group of people it kind of helps. I also want to talk to her about doing M with me because next weekend I'll have the house to myself.
I just really like this girl, and over the past couple years I've had 0 luck with women, and I don't want her to be another one that I wonder about in the future. Getting close with her would be so awesome.
So any advice? What should I do? Should I try to get her number somehow next time I see her?
Edited by lonelypsychonaut (09/04/13 06:40 PM)
|
llama_police
Fun guy



Registered: 02/20/13
Posts: 516
Loc: Australia
Last seen: 7 years, 11 months
|
|
Just show her your dick
|
fruitrollup
Stranger

Registered: 08/22/13
Posts: 53
Last seen: 3 years, 2 months
|
|
you could ask her if she wants to go for a walk somewhere... to a corner store or something. then you two are alone and can dissect eachother
|
Soularize
slanted and enchanted


Registered: 02/11/05
Posts: 1,178
Loc: United States
|
|
you know you don't HAVE to develop and maintain a "crush" every time you meet a cute new girl.
I've been guilty of it before, we all have. Everyone around here seems to be crushing and pining for some girl, it hurts to read about. Just imagine, if all the people here obsessing over someone else would just take all that time and spend it on bettering and improving THEMSELVES. It seems to me like an infinitely better option. We all know that being confident, successful, and passionate is what truly attracts other people. And you can't make a person like you anyway, so just quit trying so damn hard. Be yourself, or improve yourself, but don't chase after girls and waste all your precious time stressing over them. Supply your own self with the approval you seek in others, it'll pay dividends. I'm in my late twenties and am only now having some of these things really sink in.
Don't hold out lofty expectations or obsess about what the future with her is going to look like. Enjoy the present moment with her. Girls just want to feel GOOD when they're around you. Be positive, be cool. No worries.
Just have fun dude.
-------------------- "All but one man died. There at Bitter Creek. And they say he ran awayyy." - A little show called Branded
|
urbannerd
W.TheMushroomTip



Registered: 06/27/13
Posts: 997
Loc: California
Last seen: 9 years, 3 months
|
|
Quote:
lonelypsychonaut said: We talked for a bit, she sent me some smiley faces.
--------------------
Soaking in the energy of the universe since '91
|
Herbologist
Grrratata



Registered: 05/09/10
Posts: 7,471
Loc: Casa Bonita
Last seen: 3 years, 1 month
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: Soularize]
#18772805 - 08/29/13 12:05 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
Try having a date or doing something that DOESNT just revolve around doing drugs.
-------------------- Shroomery Law: Don't piss off the leftist mods & their friends!
|
sonamdrukpa
Wayfarer


Registered: 10/18/11
Posts: 2,777
Last seen: 2 months, 8 days
|
|
M is mexy, right?
Doing large amounts of hard drugs together has a way of forging really strong romantic attachments. It is also slightly unethical, and also it will totally wreck your shit whenever the probably-inevitable breakup happens. It is the best thing in life, in my opinion.
--------------------
|
lonelypsychonaut
Stranger

Registered: 07/23/12
Posts: 810
Last seen: 6 years, 11 months
|
|
Quote:
urbannerd said:
Quote:
lonelypsychonaut said: We talked for a bit, she sent me some smiley faces.

LOL omg this actually killed me 
Quote:
Soularize said: you know you don't HAVE to develop and maintain a "crush" every time you meet a cute new girl.
I've been guilty of it before, we all have. Everyone around here seems to be crushing and pining for some girl, it hurts to read about. Just imagine, if all the people here obsessing over someone else would just take all that time and spend it on bettering and improving THEMSELVES. It seems to me like an infinitely better option. We all know that being confident, successful, and passionate is what truly attracts other people. And you can't make a person like you anyway, so just quit trying so damn hard. Be yourself, or improve yourself, but don't chase after girls and waste all your precious time stressing over them. Supply your own self with the approval you seek in others, it'll pay dividends. I'm in my late twenties and am only now having some of these things really sink in.
Don't hold out lofty expectations or obsess about what the future with her is going to look like. Enjoy the present moment with her. Girls just want to feel GOOD when they're around you. Be positive, be cool. No worries.
Just have fun dude.
I know I don't HAVE to crush on this girl, but I can't really help myself. I've only met her twice so I can't help but to think about her and stuff. But I realized that I've made mistakes before in the past where I would either wait too long and get friendzoned or not make a good enough impression for the girl to like me in that sense. I'm generally pretty confident around a friends and stuff, but I'm not so good with strangers, especially if it's a really hot girl that I like.
I feel like I'm still in a good position to do this right. I know I have to be confident and fun, but I think I need some ideas on how to seem cool to this girl and make sure that she has a good time next time we chill, cause that's the part where I seem to lose it. Also, keeping conversation isn't one of my greatest skills either.
Quote:
fruitrollup said: you could ask her if she wants to go for a walk somewhere... to a corner store or something. then you two are alone and can dissect eachother
Good idea, but imo this could be life or death lol. If I end up being super awkward then it's all ruined.
Quote:
sonamdrukpa said: M is mexy, right?
M is MDMA, sorry I should've been more specific, but that's what everyone calls it here lol.
But I think Herbologist is right, starting off with drugs probably isn't the best thing to do. I also still have about a week and a half to jam with her sober before I invite her to do M with me, and that week and a half gives me time to chill with her at least once or twice to establish a base in the relationship.
|
lonelypsychonaut
Stranger

Registered: 07/23/12
Posts: 810
Last seen: 6 years, 11 months
|
|
UPDATE
ok so I haven't seen her since the time I explained about in my first post. However, today I decided to follow through with my plan of doing M with her. So I texted her, the usual "hey whats up" kind of thing, and after a few responses I asked her if she was free Sunday to do M with me. Her reply was "For sure haha why would I ever say no to that". Sounded like more than a yes to me
Now I'm really fucking nervous lol. I'll just put it out there that I have social anxiety, general anxiety and my anxiety has been stronger since I did M a week and a half ago. I'm really worried about being awkward. I'm usually not too good with meeting new people. I never know what to say and small talk has never been my thing, and on top of all that the anxiety, but I really like this girl and I want her to have a good time with me. I assume we'll have around 2 sober hours to hang out before we're high. I think when we're high I won't have too much of a problem, but who knows.
I just want to make a really good first impression. I'm not trying to fuck her or instantly make her my girlfriend or anything, I just want her to like me in a flirty kind of way. I'm really just trying to make the base of this relationship this time. So any tips? Help will be hugely appreciated!
|
sonamdrukpa
Wayfarer


Registered: 10/18/11
Posts: 2,777
Last seen: 2 months, 8 days
|
|
GO DANCING
--------------------
|
urbannerd
W.TheMushroomTip



Registered: 06/27/13
Posts: 997
Loc: California
Last seen: 9 years, 3 months
|
|
just seem interested in her, and ask her questions and carry the convo.
--------------------
Soaking in the energy of the universe since '91
|
Tripsurfer
Bring Back Asante!



Registered: 08/01/12
Posts: 7,129
Loc: West of Windward
Last seen: 3 months, 28 days
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: urbannerd]
#18802816 - 09/05/13 10:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
How the hell can you be awkward on mdma? I assume that is what you are talking about...
-------------------- Ach en wee ben ik de klos, met mijn boog schoot ik een albatros... A philosopher is a person who knows less and less about more and more, until he knows nothing about everything.

|
lonelypsychonaut
Stranger

Registered: 07/23/12
Posts: 810
Last seen: 6 years, 11 months
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: Tripsurfer]
#18803232 - 09/05/13 12:47 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
urbannerd said: and carry the convo.
I'm not very good at this
Quote:
Tripsurfer said: How the hell can you be awkward on mdma? I assume that is what you are talking about...
No, I'm talking about being awkward before the MDMA, like when I pick her up.
|
Dark_Star
train driver pervading a desktop


Registered: 08/20/04
Posts: 31,859
Loc: Uranus
|
|
You think too much man. That's what gets ya. I know this cause I was the same way, and can still be that way if I let it happen. Just ask her about her week, what she has going on, etc.... Listen to her answers, and just let it flow. Don't over think it. A bit of advice on that; when she's talking, make sure that you don't start composing/thinking about what you're going to say next while she's still talking. That's a huge communication block that everyone is guilty of at one time or another. What til she's done talking, then just let it flow. You've got this.
--------------------
|
Shroomism
Space Travellin



Registered: 02/13/00
Posts: 66,015
Loc: 9th Dimension
|
|
Ya you are overthinking the whole situation. She's obviously down to chill with you and roll with you (with enthusiasm!) so you pretty much have it in the bag. Just don't be a douchebag and fuck everything up. Be cool and be yourself.
You don't need to prepare a speech. She's a human being. Talk to her like you would talk to a friend, ask her about what kinds of things SHE likes.. tell her what kinds of things you like... Talk about music, or art, or whatever the fuck you are into. You know.. get to know her. LISTEN to her, respond back. Conversation will ensue naturally. Don't try and dominate the situation. Let it flow. And may the force be with you.
--------------------
|
urbannerd
W.TheMushroomTip



Registered: 06/27/13
Posts: 997
Loc: California
Last seen: 9 years, 3 months
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: Shroomism]
#18803883 - 09/05/13 03:55 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
Shroomism said:
You don't need to prepare a speech. She's a human being. Talk to her like you would talk to a friend
thiiiiiiisssss
just dont be a douche
--------------------
Soaking in the energy of the universe since '91
|
Tripsurfer
Bring Back Asante!



Registered: 08/01/12
Posts: 7,129
Loc: West of Windward
Last seen: 3 months, 28 days
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: urbannerd]
#18804004 - 09/05/13 04:20 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Take her out to a modern art exposition. That way you can talk about all the weird art you see there. Girls like guys who like art
-------------------- Ach en wee ben ik de klos, met mijn boog schoot ik een albatros... A philosopher is a person who knows less and less about more and more, until he knows nothing about everything.

|
Constantine
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)



Registered: 05/01/11
Posts: 4,643
Loc:
Last seen: 1 year, 2 months
|
Re: New Crush On New Girl [Re: urbannerd]
#18804094 - 09/05/13 04:42 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Don't worry man, you can do it. If you really feel too anxious why don't you just have a beer or two before meeting her just to take the edge off ?
And like Charlie Sheen says, alcohol is only a temporary solution if you stop drinking. 
Quote:
Dark_Star said:

Jesus christ
|
|