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What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over?
#18769367 - 08/28/13 05:08 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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What is the worst way you have ever been fucked over by the opposite sex (or same sex if youz rollz that way)? For me it was a few months ago. I had been talking to this chick for a while. I had been on a couple dates with her, but after the third date, she texted me and said she thinks we would be better off as friends, and never talked to me again. I was shocked, as things had been going great and we had gotten very physical that particular night (not sex, but some intense making out and other shit we hadn't done before). I kept hoping for a text from her telling me that she was just kidding and had had an awesome time, but I never got it. This is nothing compared to some of the stories I've read hear before. So, what's the worst way you've been fucked over?
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #1] 3
#18769438 - 08/28/13 05:25 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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How is her politely telling you she isn't interested "fucking you over"?
I'm sorry, but I find that people, especially men it seems, are SO quick to pass the buck and blame another human, usually female, for THEIR own emotions.
No one controls your emotions or how you perceive a situation. You and only you choose to react as "being fucked over". Therefor, once we establish this is true, it's really only you that's fucking you over...

That being said, I once moved to high level, alberta...a buttfuck nowhere, scummy rig pig town, for work. I met a wonderfully gorgeous and outgoing redhead from newfoundland(believe it or not, lots of newfies in northern alberta). We started out as friends while I had a gf and she had a boyfriend. Over the course of 8 months we grew really close. We both ended up single and both ended up dating. She told me she loved me. She told me the way I made her feel was so powerful, she had never felt like that before.
We talked about moving in together. We put a rush on it because her living arrangements were sort of falling part(financially, roommate problems, etc). In northern alberta, rent is RETARDED. I forked out 500 dollars just to get on the waiting list, non refundable. Once I got it, my references cleared, I had to pay the first and last months rent in a one year lease which equaled $3600 dollars. Then I had to pay a damage deposit which was half of the monthly rent which was $600. She only contributed $450. So I payed a total of $4250.
One week before we were about to move in, we were having the usual drunk night downtown and she had a bipolar episode or something. To this day, I don't know what happened. But she started being a total bitch to me all night. It ended up in us in an all out arguement where she was losing her shit screaming at me. I kept asking her what's going on here and she said she's just sick of me. She "loved me" only 6 hours earlier 
She phoned the next morning and felt really bad. She sort of apologized, but was fishing for an apology in return. When I didn't give her one, she snapped and lost her temper again. She backed out of the whole rental agreement and I moved back to bc, losing out on 4 grand.
shmeh, at that time I wasn't torn up about the money or her. Life goes on. I choose to not dwell on it.
I was really good at living in the "now" back then.
Now I seem to let everything stress me out. Signs of aging I guess
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked]
#18769444 - 08/28/13 05:28 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Did you end up moving into the apartment? Or did she fuck you for four grand?
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: ChinChiller]
#18769450 - 08/28/13 05:30 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said:
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she snapped and lost her temper again. She backed out of the whole rental agreement and I moved back to bc, losing out on 4 grand.
I couldn't afford the monthly rent on my own, didn't have any other options for a roomate and was sick of that shit hole, so moved back to B.C.
The landlords were seedys as shit, as are most of them up there, and I may have been able to get some of it back, but knew it was a going to be hassle. Money wasn't important back to me then. I just cut my losses and left back to B.C.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked]
#18769455 - 08/28/13 05:32 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said: How is her politely telling you she isn't interested "fucking you over"?
Well she did lead me on for several months. Telling me on a daily basis that she was so into me, and about how she had never felt this way about a guy before. Then she never has the decency to ever explain why the sudden change of heart. I politely texted her and told her I understood, but was just curious as to why. She never had the decency to let me know what had happened. Just an hour earlier we had been on her couch making out, and when she dropped me off, she told me that she had never felt this way before. 10 minutes later I get a text saying we're just friends. That seems like a bit of a fuck over to me.
As to your story, wow man, that is terribly, I'm sorry. You think anything triggered it possibly, or it was just totally random and off the wall??
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18769599 - 08/28/13 05:59 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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We had only been dating a few months before graduating college, and then she moved to another state. We ended on good terms. But a few months later, she got in touch with me again. She convinced me to quit my job (that I had been planning on making a career of) and move to this state on the other side of the country to be with her. When I finally got here, she told me she's seeing someone else now, and we never spoke again.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #2] 2
#18769631 - 08/28/13 06:04 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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See this is what I'm talking about.
I think people need to take responsibility for their actions.
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She convinced me to quit my job
The decision was yours and yours alone. YOU quit your job.
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She convinced me to move to this state on the other side of the country to be with her
No, you convinced yourself because you had feelings for her. The decision was yours and yours alone.
I'm not trying to be an ass. Just trying to give a different perspective. She didn't fuck you over anymore then the woman I choose to move in with "fucked" me over. We fucked ourselves over. We choose to feel the victim or not the victim. We choose to feel "fucked over".
So in essence, many of us...fuck ourselves over.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked] 1
#18769668 - 08/28/13 06:08 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah, I know. Trust me, I blame myself for this every day lol. I just wish she would have been honest with me about seeing someone else. I asked her how long it had been going on and she said a few months.
I meant that she was "convincing" me in the sense that I initially said no and she continued to press it for a while. I realize that ultimately the decision was mine. I don't think that makes her actions any less confusing or heartless, but I know that nobody forced my hand.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#18769685 - 08/28/13 06:11 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I realize that ultimately the decision was mine. I don't think that makes her actions any less confusing or heartless, but I know that nobody forced my hand.
Agreed and understandable.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked] 1
#18769815 - 08/28/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said: All these things make us who we are. They build character. 
yeah, I think so too. what's crazy is this occurred just after I tried psychedelics for the first time. the big revelation I had is that I have spent my entire life in fear and never took any risks. as a result I've been unhappy. then this situation pops up a few days later and I told myself "this is your chance. take a risk and stop being a pussy!"
oops! guess you can't just blindly throw yourself into every situation either
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18769830 - 08/28/13 06:39 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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guess you can't just blindly throw yourself into every situation either
sometimes, sure you can. Keeps life interesting.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked]
#18770565 - 08/28/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said: How is her politely telling you she isn't interested "fucking you over"?
I'm sorry, but I find that people, especially men it seems, are SO quick to pass the buck and blame another human, usually female, for THEIR own emotions.
No one controls your emotions or how you perceive a situation. You and only you choose to react as "being fucked over". Therefor, once we establish this is true, it's really only you that's fucking you over...

Masked has some really good advice in this thread.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Cyclohexylamine] 2
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Masked said: How is her politely telling you she isn't interested "fucking you over"?
I'm sorry, but I find that people, especially men it seems, are SO quick to pass the buck and blame another human, usually female, for THEIR own emotions.
No one controls your emotions or how you perceive a situation. You and only you choose to react as "being fucked over". Therefor, once we establish this is true, it's really only you that's fucking you over...

Masked has some really good advice in this thread.
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All these things make us who we are. They build character. 
Very much so.
Masked is an awesome dude. Very thoughtful and open minded, with a sweet ass too.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: koods]
#18771264 - 08/28/13 11:37 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked is an awesome dude. Very thoughtful and open minded
aw thanks. I'm no saint though. I have my moments where I could have been more thoughtful. Especially lately, unfortunately, I am getting more irritated with some of our members than I normally would
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked]
#18771447 - 08/29/13 12:37 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Masked said: See this is what I'm talking about.
I think people need to take responsibility for their actions.
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She convinced me to quit my job
The decision was yours and yours alone. YOU quit your job.
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She convinced me to move to this state on the other side of the country to be with her
No, you convinced yourself because you had feelings for her. The decision was yours and yours alone.
I'm not trying to be an ass. Just trying to give a different perspective. She didn't fuck you over anymore then the woman I choose to move in with "fucked" me over. We fucked ourselves over. We choose to feel the victim or not the victim. We choose to feel "fucked over".
So in essence, many of us...fuck ourselves over.
Women can fuck people over too. I mean, I know that's not what you're saying but
An ex fucked me over when she came at me with a bat or when she broke my apt window because I wouldn't let her borrow $. Essentially, I fuck myself over for even messing with her at the time...but her level of fucking over was wayyy higher than mine.
Aside all that, we're homies now. We actually gotta class together this semester. I'd cut for her.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: itsthedank]
#18774623 - 08/29/13 07:10 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Masked]
#18776416 - 08/30/13 08:14 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Masked said: See this is what I'm talking about.
I think people need to take responsibility for their actions.
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She convinced me to quit my job
The decision was yours and yours alone. YOU quit your job.
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She convinced me to move to this state on the other side of the country to be with her
No, you convinced yourself because you had feelings for her. The decision was yours and yours alone.
I'm not trying to be an ass. Just trying to give a different perspective. She didn't fuck you over anymore then the woman I choose to move in with "fucked" me over. We fucked ourselves over. We choose to feel the victim or not the victim. We choose to feel "fucked over".
So in essence, many of us...fuck ourselves over.
I doubt that we choose anything of the sort. I know better, but that does not change how I feel. I never chose to go down lonesome town and I never wanted to stay there as long as I did. My mind perceives these feelings as irrationality and utter stupidity, this does not change the emotions of heartbreak and disappointment. As a younger man my thoughts were congruent with my emotions but this does not imply choice.
People blindly fuck each other over. Is a woman who entices a man to quit his job and move across states for a relationship without mentioning that she is already seeing someone, presumably to create an option completely blameless? No deception to detect here?
We definitely fuck ourselves over, and other people, as they do us. I do believe in choice, only many need to do allot of process to get to a place where there are more choices. Blame is irrelevant, sometimes there are consequences other times we walk away scot free.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: usulpsychonaut]
#18785507 - 09/01/13 02:16 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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This girl I was madly in love with teased the fuck out of me on a MDMA binge (stripping, dancing, showing, kissing) only to back out later claiming that she was asexual. All these things only happened because she was on MDMA, causing her to magically lose her asexuality.
My bullshit sensor was going off big time but she kept elaborating on it, even hanging out with me face to face to talk about it. To basically get sympathy for how it has fucked with her puberty and adolescence.
I had no choice to believe her.
As of now, she has a boyfriend and keeps posting nudes of him and her on her tumblr.
Pretty bad way to get rejected, just be fucking honest.
Maybe she was so anxious about everything that she truly believed she was an asexual? Not sure.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: GoldenEye]
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Dr. Crapsghetti]
#18788193 - 09/02/13 03:29 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I remember 2, but theese are nothing compared to some previous stories on this topic
- I had a relationship with a girl for 3months, I was younger and I was looking for some fun (only). She asked me something more, I told her some bulshit: "we live far from each other" "it's complicated". Well the same day I told her this things she started to flirt with my friend on the rebound (in spite )....Their relationship last for years (2-3). She showed evil and opportunist during thoose year, a very dangerous woman!
- The other was a summer relationship with a 18years old. It was fun, but I had another in the meantime. One day I wrote her a text message like "How are you? I need to talk with you"...she never answerd me (i tried to call her again) and I've never seen her
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: evenlock]
#18788421 - 09/02/13 06:04 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Girl A:
First serious gf ( I was in to her ). Plenty of freaky stuff, everything highschool sweethearts do, plus tons of the fucked and unique things people like me do. Dated for 3 years, and had lived together for a few months. I was working midnights while she would be able to do whatever at night. I am not the jealous type so i didnt get to inquisitive about the specifics.
Some shit kept happening culminating in her calling me another dudes name. I had enough, so i took a night off work and went to a place she was with another chick friend of mine. This friend of mine was pretty hard core, so we snuck up around back and over a roof to view what was going on. Sure enough the 'luv of my life' was fucking her friend's brother in the hot tub. I didn't do anything except fuck a chick friend that night and cry myself to sleep. (second girl i ever hooked up with, and that night was the first time).
Next night, I took work off again the gf shows at my house. I had a few friends over to keep me company, so i decided to dump her publicly, but without shaming her. she threw a shit fit, and kicked me in the balls twice. I took the first one, but the second sent me into a rage. My buddy punched me on the chin before i could hit the girl. He was a good friend for that. she was eventually removed by a few girls that were hanging out. They kept some of her hair, and one of them made me feel a lot better that following week 
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Girl B:
Fucking my childhood friend and roommate behind my back. She didnt like me finding out and the resulting lack of me being around so she ran her mouth to bad people ( we were both enjoying too much coke). a few guys worked over my house pretty good. They stole a car and some tools, as well as breaking most of the fucking windows. Still don't exactly know why I deserved that one so i will chalk it up to being her fault alone. She's dead now from cancer at age 32...
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Slut C:
not really about fucking me over, but here goes any way: Got into this chick i kept seeing on lunch break. She worked in a grocery, and was SuPer hot. We dated a few times and i got invited to her place to "watch a movie". knowing what the fuck was up, i was happy to get it finally. I really liked this girl and she knew it. About 30 minutes into our first sex ( awesome ) her boyfriend shows up at the bedroom window and announces himself. I thought it was going to end badly, but he was actually alright (with me) after i told him I had no idea about him, and i filled in some of the suspicions he had about what she had been up to... slut.
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Slut D:
Worked with this hottie for a year, and we really flirted the whole time, but it didnt get serious until all of the sudden this one easter. I thought it escalated fast, because she 'felt like she was so close to me'' and i met her family etc, all in this one week or so. Her mom even did a load of my laundry i left in my car she borrowed for a few hours. Her friends hated me (i fucked 3 of them, but none knew about the others). We had a great little fling and I dumped the other girls i had been making an honest attempt to date.
Sure enough, this slut had a boyfriend. But not just any BF... she had a giant motherfkr, coke dealer of a boyfriend who had been away on a cruise. Everything would have been cool with just writing her off, but on of the nights we were together she had one of the other girls i fucked drop her off at my house, all while telling the girl she needed a ride to her aunt's house or some shit, of course the driver girl had already been to my house, and just so happened to be friends with the monster boyfriend.
The rest of the details of this one are in the police reports, although my name was luckily not included. I'de rather not tell the whole story to the internets. I got away relatively un-fucked up. Thanks a million for that, slut.
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Girl E:
pretty much started the same as all the others, but she couldnt keep me because my skin is the wrong color.
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Man I could write you a fucking list of these....
Lets just say Im happy with what I've got today, and I dont have very many emotions left for women anymore beyond this one last great girl im trying love with. No one of these ways I was fucked really felt worse than the others. They were all bad, bad, bad. Women like these turned me into a huge player for many years. That was fun at least. I really do love the girl im with now, and i am giving her 100%.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Anonymous #3]
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I was catfished for a period of about seven or eight months. She turned out to be an obese black chick. Everything she told me was a lie. I was homeless for three or four days in Houston when I tried to go see her. They say ugly people have hearts of gold, but I found out that's definitely not true. She was physically very ugly. I came to find out that she doesn't even work or go to school. She just sits in her room and eats.
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Re: What is the worst way the opposite sex (or same sex) has ever fucked you over? [Re: Dr. Crapsghetti]
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meh, i have never really had many issues with guys i'm involved with aside from the usual shitty relationship cons that are byproducts of confused emotions and whatnot. To my knowledge I've never been cheated on(it's always a possibility, not that I really care nowadays), I've never cheated, no one has ever wronged me immensely - I try to avoid douchebags at all cost.
I mean, I've had my fair share of encounters with douchebags, but none that I dated. The worst was probably new years weekend in 2011 when my friend and I were obliterated and totally lost in the same neighborhood she lived in up in boston. These guys offered to walk us back and just kind of walked into their apartment building instead, and we followed, realized we were not in a good situation..2 completely trashed girls and (I'm not really sure how many of them there were exactly, my memory of that weekend is...er, foggy.)4+ strange guys in their apartment. My friend had the sense to pull us both out the door and one guy under the guise of "mr nice guy" offered to walk us home(honestly, it really was probably a good thing. I don't remember the walk at all, I remember barely making it up the stairs to her apt). He then followed us into our apartment and I think he was trying to get a threesome going, but my friend had to disappear to go check out our other blacked out friends who came home early and then he just kind of started pulling me on top of him. At first I kept going "I can't! I can't! it's rude to do this on my friend's couch!" But I eventually started to give in and kiss him back, and my friend walks back from the bedrooms, and is like "WTF?!" I suddenly have a moment of clarity and get up and walk to the kitchen. I distinctly remember pouring myself a shot of vodka ( ) while she demanded he leave. He started trying to pull the same thing with her, but she is a very sassy 5'10 aspiring opera diva(no srsly) and promptly kicked his ass out.
We were both ridiculously drunk, underage(we had a convo with the cops about this just before this incident, that was kinda nervewracking), and it was also a little irresponsible on our part - and he was probably quite drunk too(I can't remember, everyone seemed more sober than me), and it's not like he forcibly held me down and made out with me - but it was definitely an "are you fucking serious, duuude" moment looking back. I more at myself though.
Iiiii have also kind of unknowingly "screwed over" my bf in the process of losing my virginity, or the first attempt, at least... long story short things started all hot and bothered and ended in massive blue balls, he was so sweet about it, too, poor guy.
tldr:
i'm lame.
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