Home | Community | Message Board

Sporeworks
This site includes paid links. Please support our sponsors.


Welcome to the Shroomery Message Board! You are experiencing a small sample of what the site has to offer. Please login or register to post messages and view our exclusive members-only content. You'll gain access to additional forums, file attachments, board customizations, encrypted private messages, and much more!

PhytoExtractum Shop: Buy Bali Kratom Powder

Jump to first unread post Pages: 1 | 2 | Next >  [ show all ]
Anonymous #1

Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing?
    #18760926 - 08/26/13 06:47 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

So yesterday I had to go out at night to do some errands, and seeing as how my phone has no minutes, I borrowed my girlfriends phone. I was coming down off dextroamphetmaine (30mg to study for an exam I had that day) and as always I get a little paranoid. Indirectly this led me to reading her text messages and I read a conversation with this guy who I'll call "b")

Anyways I'm looking at this conversation log, and at one point she calls him a "sex machine" he talks about how a bracelet she made for him is breaking and he needs a new one. So she says something along the lines of wanting something in return, he says he'll offer her his love. Than she says "your love is only good if it comes in massage form."

SUDDENLY! NO MORE TEXTS!! It's as if the conversation stopped, then started again after 3 hours of silence.

Instnatly I was like "This is strange something is up."

But than I thought, "I'm coming down off amphetamines, does it really seem strange?"

(the date of these messages were august 21st)

I think about it today sober, and it seems really strange.

Funny enough this guy is leaving town in two days to go to school, and she's supposed to go hang out with him at his house.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlineglowing
Stranger


Registered: 12/14/12
Posts: 328
Loc: Inside My Mind
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #18760984 - 08/26/13 07:00 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Of course this is fucking strange dude. If your girl is referring to him as a "sex machine," then there is definite fucking going on. You may be thinking, how the hell could another dude do that shit to me? When it comes to women, some guys don't give a fuck if you're married and have three kids, if they want to fuck a girl they'll do whatever it takes and they'll feel good about it. I dated this girl one time and I knew she had fucked this one particular dude in the past. Any way, first date we ever go on, she posts a facebook status saying something like, "Date Night!" and tags me in it and shit. An hour later the dude comments on it and is whining about how she never invites him anywhere anymore and how he misses her and would have loved to come. That bitch has the nerve to comment back on facebook and tell him "We're still here at the restaurant, come meet us here!" Now you may be thinking, eh no big deal. Fast forward five months and I find out she's fucking the dude behind my back. If it seems like somethings going on, it probably is.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #2

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: glowing] * 1
    #18760995 - 08/26/13 07:02 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

go over there when they hang out and see whats up
or fuck her before, and let the nut sit inside her when she goes over


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: glowing]
    #18761020 - 08/26/13 07:07 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Trust me, I'm not thinking "how could another guy do this to me?"

I'm just confused on how to approach, she doesn't seem like she would cheat on me (but than again, you never know... right?) I'm confused on what to do, I'm not sure if I should talk to her directly about it. But earlier today we had a fight (I already knew she was going to this persons place) and I said "If you're so mad why don't you get B to give you a massage. You seem like you really want one."

And she said, "what?" Than left.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlineglowing
Stranger


Registered: 12/14/12
Posts: 328
Loc: Inside My Mind
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761052 - 08/26/13 07:19 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

They never do seem like they would do it dude, but they always do. They always seem so damn sweet, you would never even suspect they'd be doing shit, and that's exactly how they want it to stay. Be glad that you found out. I say straight up confront her about it. Just ask her, "Are you cheating on me, yes or no?" If she says no, get her to explain her shit, and if she can't, I'd leave her ass. The texts seem like they were pretty straight forward, no way around to misinterpret that shit. Unless you've been with her for a really long time, I'd drop her ass and move on, you're too good for that man. In the wise words of Sugar Brown, "ain't nobody got time for that."



Edited by glowing (08/26/13 07:20 PM)


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: glowing]
    #18761058 - 08/26/13 07:22 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

In 3 days we'll have been together for 5 months; Alright well next time I talk to her I'm going to call her out on it.

I already alluded to it when I talked to her earlier, but I'll be straight forward about it next time I talk to her.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlineglowing
Stranger


Registered: 12/14/12
Posts: 328
Loc: Inside My Mind
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761068 - 08/26/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Let us know how it goes dude, good luck.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Invisibledeadwk
00101011


Registered: 06/17/09
Posts: 8,890
Loc: Canada, eh? Flag
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: glowing]
    #18761085 - 08/26/13 07:30 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Yea I will, I'm curious as to what she has to say.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Invisibledeadwk
00101011


Registered: 06/17/09
Posts: 8,890
Loc: Canada, eh? Flag
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: deadwk]
    #18761115 - 08/26/13 07:38 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Well I'm talking to her through texting right now, not sure if I should bring it up.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Invisibledeadwk
00101011


Registered: 06/17/09
Posts: 8,890
Loc: Canada, eh? Flag
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: deadwk]
    #18761246 - 08/26/13 08:16 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Her response: "My phone does that, read any conversation and itll be the same, it sometimes adds messages from other conversations too."


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlineglowing
Stranger

Registered: 12/14/12
Posts: 328
Loc: Inside My Mind
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: deadwk]
    #18761255 - 08/26/13 08:20 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

thedeadwalkk said:
Her response: "My phone does that, read any conversation and itll be the same, it sometimes adds messages from other conversations too."




Bullshit. The fact that you found those texts and she was going to hang out with him later that day is just too shady. I wouldn't trust her man. Seems way off to me


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: glowing]
    #18761284 - 08/26/13 08:31 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

The conversation was from last week, well 5 days ago realistically. She's going to hang out with him tonight.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineGorlax
Male


Registered: 05/06/08
Posts: 6,697
Last seen: 5 days, 5 hours
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761318 - 08/26/13 08:37 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

lol at her phone just doing that. She is def trying to cover something up. Sorry to say man but she is not going to church on her free time... You need to step it up and call her out.. sadly only one outcome but at least its just a 5 month relationship..


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineMycelium-yum
Stranger


Registered: 08/14/13
Posts: 141
Loc: Canada
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpret ting what I [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761349 - 08/26/13 08:44 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

OP, when a girl flirts behind your back, to the point of calling a person a sex machine and wanting back rubs; it's time to cut your losses.

I'm all for making relationships work, but she's pretty much crossed the line; your the one that's going to get hurt in the end.

It's not that she doesn't love you, it's that she's obviously too immature to be in a relationship.

This girl I know cheated on her boyfriend 10 times. Every time, she would come back to me crying, telling me how much of a horrible person she was. At first I understood her, then after a while I realized she was using me as emotional release. When I empathized with her, it made her feel as if her actions were okay and I believe it enabled her to cheat again.

When I realized how much of a crooked person she was, I strove clear from her.

I know my example is extreme, but trust me, you don't want to learn that your girl's been cheating on you from somebody else; which is what happened to the poor guy from my story.

I wish you all the best man, the situation you're in is not easy.

Be strong and do what feels right.


Edited by Mycelium-yum (08/26/13 09:26 PM)


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Mycelium-yum]
    #18761373 - 08/26/13 08:51 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I agree with you all whole heartedly. She said would it make me feel better if I could go over to Bs house with her.

I said no, it's more than that. If I Tried talking to someone the way you did behind your back, and you found out the way I did, you would not be happy.

I lol'd when she said its my phone. Yea sure, phones don't magically delete messages in the middle of a conversation.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineMycelium-yum
Stranger


Registered: 08/14/13
Posts: 141
Loc: Canada
Last seen: 10 years, 5 months
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761421 - 08/26/13 09:01 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

:hahthatscute: Did the dog eat her homework as well?


--------------------
"Before researchers become researchers they should become philosophers.” -Masanobu Fukuoka.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Mycelium-yum]
    #18761446 - 08/26/13 09:07 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

:whathesaid:

"i would never call anyone a sex machine, i dont talk like that. but yea, thats how weve always talked, thats how he talks with all the grils. regardless, im soryr, i understand it doesn't look good, and i apologize. are yuo sure it wouldnt make you feel better to come over with me? he wants to get to know you. or i could not go over at all if you want."

The more she talks about this, the more it seems like bullshit to me. I've always felt uneasy about their relationship, and this does nothing to confirm it.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinebalanced
Hakuna Matata
Male


Registered: 05/16/11
Posts: 56
Last seen: 9 years, 2 days
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Mycelium-yum]
    #18761478 - 08/26/13 09:15 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

If she won't admit to sexual feelings, then she was definitely going for the D. That shit is too obviously past friendly teasing. It implies deeper sexual inhibitions.

20-30 years ago, it may have been worth a strong discussion to mend things. While I'm old fashioned and would like to encourage you to talk it out with her.. I'm also realistic and know that if she's this readily responding to some dude within 5 months, then she'll readily respond down the line. Technology is a blessing for its convenience, but all blessings have their downfalls. This is one of them.

That being said, handle it like an adult. Be open to what she says. Also be open to what she means to say instead of her emotional response. Thirdly, look for the relative truth behind the two. Make your decision based on all three. Anything that you feel doesn't match up, you can ask her about. If she wants the relationship to work, she'll answer it.

Just don't question so much that she doubts you want the relationship to work. If you find any cognitive dissonance.. ask yourself why.

A healthy relationship can only exist with 2 healthy individuals.


--------------------
If I have seen a little further,
it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleSleepwalker
Overshoes

Registered: 05/07/08
Posts: 5,503
Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18761494 - 08/26/13 09:19 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
:whathesaid:

"i would never call anyone a sex machine, i dont talk like that. but yea, thats how weve always talked, thats how he talks with all the grils. regardless, im soryr, i understand it doesn't look good, and i apologize. are yuo sure it wouldnt make you feel better to come over with me? he wants to get to know you. or i could not go over at all if you want."

The more she talks about this, the more it seems like bullshit to me. I've always felt uneasy about their relationship, and this does nothing to confirm it.





Are you kidding dude?  Go back and read your first post.  You are blinded by your feelings for this girl.  I'm sorry.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I misinterpretting what I"m seeing? [Re: balanced]
    #18761502 - 08/26/13 09:21 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I want to believe what she has to say, from her responses to my texts she seems very genuine. And we've had this conversation before, once about this same person and another person, each time she was like "I'm sorry for how it looks."

I've trusted her every time, but I think this is the last time. If she was really sorry for how it looked, it wouldn't happen again.

She just replied with "I dunno what to tell you love, i know it doesnt look good. if you want to see me ill come over, if not ill just go home."

To me that sounds like she's so eager to not come over. Normally she wants to do anything to spend time with me. I feel like I Should call her out, but to be honest, I'm pretty much done trying.

I think I'm just going to kick it at my crib tonight by myself, and contemplate what to do. Me thinks I'll be going to my cabin by my self.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Jump to top Pages: 1 | 2 | Next >  [ show all ]

PhytoExtractum Shop: Buy Bali Kratom Powder


Extra information
You cannot start new topics / You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled / BBCode is enabled
Moderator: Middleman, Shroomism, automan, yogabunny, CookieCrumbs
406 topic views. 0 members, 2 guests and 1 web crawlers are browsing this forum.
[ Show Images Only | Sort by Score | Print Topic ]
Search this thread:

Copyright 1997-2024 Mind Media. Some rights reserved.

Generated in 0.023 seconds spending 0.006 seconds on 15 queries.