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Anonymous #1
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urge to cry when around new people
#18753702 - 08/25/13 12:38 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Been trying to meet some new ass people because I'm lonely as shit. Was in a crowded room today at a party, just wanted to cry. So much social anxiety, never know what to say.
The thought of actually getting a girl, going on a date makes me want to cry. I can't keep someone conversationally stimulated for that long. I can't afford dating either, but I'm so alone.
My biggest concern is I'll one day be at a party/on a date and actually start crying due to social anxiety. Or maybe panic attacks will become my thing..
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Anonymous #2
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18753807 - 08/25/13 01:34 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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dude, the worrying is more difficult for you than actually being around people.
who cares if you have a girlfriend or not? sometimes they just sort of pop up like pimples, all you gotta do is get off your fucking ass and go out and DO the things that you enjoy.
i bet you have a shitty diet and waste too much time on the computer.
go out and talk to people. talk to strangers, hell, cry in front of strangers.
if you do it once, you probably won't ever feel like repeating it.
just breath, slow and even. and do things that make you happy.
as nice as it is to have someone around who will let you stick your dick in them, it also comes with putting up with a lot of bullshit.
the universe won't give you that bullshit to put up with until you are ready for it.
in the mean time, i'd recommend giving up pornography for a while. DO NOT STOP MASTURBATING! just practice exciting yourself with your imagination.
i know its easier said than done, but just try not to fight yourself. your problem is as common as dust, and men weaker than you have over-come it.
gl hf dd.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18754966 - 08/25/13 12:09 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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thanks for the advice..
I don't even have a real sex drive anymore. meaning i don't masturbate unless I force myself to.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18755686 - 08/25/13 03:40 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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go to a local music festival and just be accepting of everyone. you'll make friends for sure
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Anonymous #4
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #3]
#18756428 - 08/25/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Some real advice:
Get yourself some therapy.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #4]
#18759235 - 08/26/13 11:02 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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If you want long term results and happiness: Get therapy and keep forcing yourself out there. I was in a similar situation and I learned the best thing to do is keep trying and you will eventually get comfortable.
If you want a quick temporary fix for social anxiety: cocaine... (don't mix it with alcohol!)
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18759247 - 08/26/13 11:08 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #5 said: If you want long term results and happiness: Get therapy and keep forcing yourself out there. I was in a similar situation and I learned the best thing to do is keep trying and you will eventually get comfortable.
If you want a quick temporary fix for social anxiety: cocaine... (don't mix it with alcohol!)
I'm liking all the advice I've been given so far. I'm going to try.
therapy, maybe if i get insurance.
cocaine, fuck to the yeah.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18759255 - 08/26/13 11:11 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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idk bout cocaine but yeah going to music festival and taking peyote would be life changing.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18759275 - 08/26/13 11:17 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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well i will be going to a concert featuring my old all time favorite band in the near future. NIN 
And I plan on taking at least two tabs of what i think is lsd
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Anonymous #6
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18759305 - 08/26/13 11:30 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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bring some xanax just in case.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18759312 - 08/26/13 11:31 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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ha, never tried xanax. Doesn't sound super appealing. Isn't it supposed to treat anxiety? maybe it would help me
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Anonymous #5
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18759329 - 08/26/13 11:38 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said:
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Anonymous #5 said: If you want long term results and happiness: Get therapy and keep forcing yourself out there. I was in a similar situation and I learned the best thing to do is keep trying and you will eventually get comfortable.
If you want a quick temporary fix for social anxiety: cocaine... (don't mix it with alcohol!)
I'm liking all the advice I've been given so far. I'm going to try.
therapy, maybe if i get insurance.
cocaine, fuck to the yeah.
Yeah or even find a friend to talk to about your problems. I was thinking about my post and the last thing I would want to do is get someone I don't know over the internet addicted to blow. Honestly, do the other stuff first, and on a nice day with some close friends take a small dose of LSD or shrooms. At least for me, it really put things in perspective.
Coke isn't something you should just jump into. It made me more social, but I got to the point where I used it as a "crutch" and I am somewhat dependent on it socially.
I actually have a good amount of experience with these sort of situations, so feel free to shoot me a private message.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18759336 - 08/26/13 11:42 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Oh dude, I can never do coke more than 2 days in a row and then i need a huge break. really fucks with my nose.
the only person i can talk to about my problems now is my ex from like 3 years ago. Not healthy, but shes one of the only people i talk to regularly.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18762587 - 08/27/13 05:25 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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your past is holding you back big time. you know you aren't happy, just content with existing. there is much more to live for and remember dude, your past is over and has been over since it came to whatever catalyst.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #7]
#18763954 - 08/27/13 01:30 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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ha, you don't know the half of it.
I try to stop making excuses, like 'I'm just this way because i was raised by retards.'
I can beat it someday
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Anonymous #8
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18763967 - 08/27/13 01:35 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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It took me over ten years but my agoraphobia, social anxiety and panic attacks are finally fucking gone. It's possible if you stay in cognitive behavioral therapy. Careful with benzos. Now I'm on them the rest of my life, but now I actually have a life to live. Wife, nice paying job, lake property.
Hang in there. Believe me I know, it's not easy.
Hell, try going to a party and be a designated driver and watch the retard circus unfold as people get trashed.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #8]
#18763990 - 08/27/13 01:42 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous #8 said: It took me over ten years but my agoraphobia, social anxiety and panic attacks are finally fucking gone. It's possible if you stay in cognitive behavioral therapy. Careful with benzos. Now I'm on them the rest of my life, but now I actually have a life to live. Wife, nice paying job, lake property.
Hang in there. Believe me I know, it's not easy.
Hell, try going to a party and be a designated driver and watch the retard circus unfold as people get trashed.
thanks for the encouragement! I know how amazing it feels to feel like a normal person after being crazy depressed for years.
I'm sure loss of anxiety will feel equally as good.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18764002 - 08/27/13 01:44 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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One thing that helped me was realizing I had the power to create it so I have the power to destroy it.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18764781 - 08/27/13 04:29 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: ha, you don't know the half of it.
I try to stop making excuses, like 'I'm just this way because i was raised by retards.'
I can beat it someday
yeah i know nothing of what you speak of so i wasted my time posting in a thread which i have not had similar issues to deal with 
take a risk dude unless you're afraid of death. if so you're procrastinating the inevitable death of your vessel which is experiencing life.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: urge to cry when around new people [Re: Anonymous #8]
#18764805 - 08/27/13 04:35 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous #8 said: One thing that helped me was realizing I had the power to create it so I have the power to destroy it.
that is surely an interesting view
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