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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Icelander]
#18756543 - 08/25/13 07:05 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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You dated Van Gogh?
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MarkostheGnostic
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OrgoneConclusion said: After a break-up, you are supposed to post the really sleazy photos of your ex on the net.
Hmmm. I've held on to a stack of cards and letter from my ex-wife and me during our distance relationship for a year when I was in grad school. I was hoping to be able to discern pathology that I chose not to see at the time. I also have a bunch of Polaroids with her in various lingerie ensembles, and in various stages of undress. She was maybe 30 or 31, now she's 63. The last pic I have of her she is harsh and scary (at my 20th high school reunion in 1991. I'm not sure why I still keep these, other than they're artifacts of my life, like the few cards I kept from my parents, or my late parents' birth and death certificates which I came across yesterday. Probably send those to my estranged brother for his kids (but would post-college age kids value their grandparents' documents in this age? Perhaps I'll send those pics to my ex-wife whom I've had no contact with since the divorce mediation in 1994. Posting them on the internet? She'd probably find some way to sue me for defamation of character, since she came out of retirement to teach elementary school again. If only people knew what kind of sociopath was teaching 1st graders!
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I frame and hang their unwashed panties.
(It might have been MTV cribs where I first saw this habit, I'm not entirely sure anymore)
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Penelope_Tree]
#18786812 - 09/01/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Penelope_Tree said: I like to think of them as 'memory markers.' I've noticed a tendency in older people to look through mementos and I literally see their mind spark. I think it can help those who may experience memory loss to have keepsakes from their lives in order to track the progression of their illness and also to keep them comfortable and reminded of good times.
I have old notes and letters, too. My mom is a chronic keeper of stuff. I have everything from when I started school up until now because she kept it all. I think it just rubbed off on me - monkey see, monkey do. I kept things that were meaningful to me and I just haven't really went through them in a while. Last time I did, though, I threw away a bunch of notes that were passed back and forth in middle school. I have a bunch of postcards my recently deceased great aunt sent to me and it just feels wrong to throw them away.
Experiencing that spark from a memory marker can be such a beautiful feeling. The other day, i opened a cologne i hadn't used in almost two years. Suddenly i felt a flood of memories spill into my mind, memories of this really unique and surreal fantasy novel i was reading when i first got the cologne. It was quite seductive, with strong whimsical undertones vainly beconing my youthful spirit to explore the fantastical realm whipping about my brain.
Dissociating from my surroundings through literature reminds me of the dissociative bliss brought on by ketamine, escape into what feels like an entirely new reality.
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Mementos from past lovers just happen to be mementos. It is that they are mementos more fundamentally than they are love tokens that you keep them. Do you also have objects and scraps of the past that have little to do with romance?
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