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OrgoneConclusion
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Keeping mementos from past lovers
#18747798 - 08/23/13 03:22 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have a drawer full of letters, cards and photos of past lovers whom I will never see again. Why do I do it? To show myself or others that once upon a time I could win the hearts of some really fine women? Not really sure except that they are little pieces of 'me'.
I think we know what Castaneda's Don Juan would say, but what is your take?
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I like to think of them as 'memory markers.' I've noticed a tendency in older people to look through mementos and I literally see their mind spark. I think it can help those who may experience memory loss to have keepsakes from their lives in order to track the progression of their illness and also to keep them comfortable and reminded of good times.
I have old notes and letters, too. My mom is a chronic keeper of stuff. I have everything from when I started school up until now because she kept it all. I think it just rubbed off on me - monkey see, monkey do. I kept things that were meaningful to me and I just haven't really went through them in a while. Last time I did, though, I threw away a bunch of notes that were passed back and forth in middle school. I have a bunch of postcards my recently deceased great aunt sent to me and it just feels wrong to throw them away.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Penelope_Tree] 3
#18747833 - 08/23/13 03:32 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I till have the very first PM you sent me.
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Hehe, yah I try to keep my exes in mind, together with the reasons why the relation failed
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: BlueCoyote]
#18747841 - 08/23/13 03:34 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I remember 'doing' Madonna like it was yesterday. *sigh*
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Penelope_Tree]
#18748392 - 08/23/13 06:27 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Penelope_Tree said: I like to think of them as 'memory markers.' I've noticed a tendency in older people to look through mementos and I literally see their mind spark. I think it can help those who may experience memory loss to have keepsakes from their lives in order to track the progression of their illness and also to keep them comfortable and reminded of good times.
I have old notes and letters, too. My mom is a chronic keeper of stuff. I have everything from when I started school up until now because she kept it all. I think it just rubbed off on me - monkey see, monkey do. I kept things that were meaningful to me and I just haven't really went through them in a while. Last time I did, though, I threw away a bunch of notes that were passed back and forth in middle school. I have a bunch of postcards my recently deceased great aunt sent to me and it just feels wrong to throw them away.
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OrgoneConclusion
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I am NOT losing my memory yet you young scallywags! 
What is this thread about...?
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OrgoneConclusion said: I have a drawer full of letters, cards and photos of past lovers whom I will never see again. Why do I do it? To show myself or others that once upon a time I could win the hearts of some really fine women? Not really sure except that they are little pieces of 'me'.
I think we know what Castaneda's Don Juan would say, but what is your take?
On one of my more brutal breakups I sent my ex all the pics of all my ex's with a note that said something like. Take your pick, you're all alike. I've never wanted any of them back.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Icelander]
#18748757 - 08/23/13 08:01 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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After a break-up, you are supposed to post the really sleazy photos of your ex on the net.
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Oh.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Icelander]
#18748772 - 08/23/13 08:05 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Not sure why, personally I don't keep any mementos. Too happy to get rid of them to keep a reminder around
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OrgoneConclusion said: http://psychoexgirlfriend.net/
Thanks, I think I'm going to enjoy this.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Repertoire89] 1
#18748804 - 08/23/13 08:11 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said: Not sure why, personally I don't keep any mementos. Too happy to get rid of them to keep a reminder around 
I do, but only because I was so happy to be rid of their presence that I enjoy being reminded of their dismissal.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Icelander]
#18748820 - 08/23/13 08:15 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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OrgoneConclusion said: I have a drawer full of letters, cards and photos of past lovers whom I will never see again. Why do I do it? To show myself or others that once upon a time I could win the hearts of some really fine women? Not really sure except that they are little pieces of 'me'.
I think we know what Castaneda's Don Juan would say, but what is your take?
On one of my more brutal breakups I sent my ex all the pics of all my ex's with a note that said something like. Take your pick, you're all alike. I've never wanted any of them back.
I have notes from past exes, they bring back some memories of times past - and even though I am much happier now I like being able to remember the past from time to time.
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I only like to remember them as filthy sexual fantasies. Other than that I'm pretty much over it.
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OrgoneConclusion said: I have a drawer full of letters, cards and photos of past lovers whom I will never see again. Why do I do it? To show myself or others that once upon a time I could win the hearts of some really fine women? Not really sure except that they are little pieces of 'me'.
I think we know what Castaneda's Don Juan would say, but what is your take?
When I was younger, I used to keep HUNDREDS of hookup phone #s in my wallet... They were written on anything and everything, matchstick cardboard and napkins I don't know if that's the same thing.
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A few weeks ago, I opened up a box and found pictures of me and my most recent ex in there, a few months ago I may have held onto the stuff.
But, as I was going through it and having fond memories, I realized my attachment to these memories serve me little and that it would be healthy to take these to the woods and release them in the fire. (which I did.) A part of me will always love her and since I have that in the abstract, I see no reason to keep physical mementos around.
Perhaps when I am old, I will regret having not kept a picture or two. I really can't say.
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Raven Gnosis]
#18754695 - 08/25/13 10:29 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I know what you mean man. In my last phone, I kept every dirty or decent picture a girl sent within the time I had it. Maybe 5 or 6 til I ended up losing it. I never would look back at them, they didn't mean anything, but I didn't want to delete em either.
You don't want to forget yesterday and lose yourself today
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Re: Keeping mementos from past lovers [Re: Atrium]
#18754874 - 08/25/13 11:36 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I usually keep fingers or ears. Oh the memories.
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