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Is she obsessed or in love with me?
#18738264 - 08/21/13 03:50 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Its kind of exhausting and it bothers me... idk why. I met a younger girl and we had fun hanging out but she fell in love. She likes romantic movies etc and thought we are having a love story. She used to pick up candy wrappers I threw down and keep them while having puppy eyes. Everything I gave her she kind of hoards. She seems to worship me and thought we were going to be together forever. I am the only one she gave attention to. At first I looked pass her crazyness but then it started to choke me. She has a different world view than me and we kind of ignored the fact so we wouldn't have to argue. She has issues about letting past things go. I have a tendency to try to better myself, how to grow and get rid of my negative sides so I also told her about how there are things about her I didn't enjoy. Until we talk about deep things its fun and fine but we didn't connect on a deeper level, her emotions, paranoia and imagination was all over the place. So I started talking with other girls who were on the same "level" and I had more fun talking to them online than hanging out with her. I felt like I was sometimes haning out with a child who I had to please so she doesn't cry, mope or withdraw. I tried to solve these things by talking to her but its like she didnt know what to do and saw this as me finding faults in her.
Well we broke up many times and I always took her back because she makes it look like she will die without me. She posts depressive lines on Facebook as cries for help, also movie stills about tragic love. Its becoming irritating. She sometimes tried to talk about nostalgic fun things we used to do and it seems sad. I wanna help her and be there for her but it seems like I dont fit anywhere in her world. Its like she has a separate reality where things never move forward or improve and she's stuck there reliving the past (mostly the shitty parts). Its like she's in Hell. There's not much to talk about because she's always "I'm fine... can't sleep at all and crying... but fine."
What the fuck should I do? Or can I do anything? I can't build a relationship on fantasies and childlike thinking. I feel like I'm a bad person for trying to help her grow up and out of her bubble. I also see she doesn't want to talk to me really unless I wanna get back together. But she's a wreck and its kind of sad. So I'm trying to be there for her once she snaps out of it but it seems like she's in some twisted way enjoying torturing herself.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#18738285 - 08/21/13 03:53 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Do what feels right. This relationship doesn't sound healthy, so tell her that. Tell her that this isn't the true love she really wants. She'll learn as she gets older.
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Break up with her and stop taking her back. Delete her on facebook and tell her when she's ready to let you go maybe you can talk again. Don't let her emotionally blackmail you into doing something you don't want to do.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: broken]
#18739382 - 08/21/13 07:48 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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r u anon OP
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: Sheekle]
#18739491 - 08/21/13 08:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Me? No. I said word in agreement with what thay said. ...Tl/dr...
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: broken]
#18742560 - 08/22/13 01:55 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like she is just trying to manipulate you into staying with her. I highly doubt she is as depressed as she is trying to appear. Anyone who says, 'im fine, crying all night, but fine.' is a person trying to guilt you into careing, just move on, she needs to grow up.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: Amelia Rose]
#18742581 - 08/22/13 02:00 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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That doesn't exclude the (very real) possibility of severe depression though. I don't see why you'd deny that possibility. It's probably the most common cause of depression in young people.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: koraks]
#18743113 - 08/22/13 04:03 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like a head case.
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Quote:
Cabinet_Sanchez said: Break up with her and stop taking her back. Delete her on facebook and tell her when she's ready to let you go maybe you can talk again. Don't let her emotionally blackmail you into doing something you don't want to do.
Said so well!
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do what i did my psyco girl was calling my cell even my moms house phone. leaving message like " take me back pleaaseeeee ill do anything" dog just that alone gave me the fucking creeps. she finally stopped calling. like 2 weeks after a few dramatic attempts. just man up dawg. get your self a mentally stable girl.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: koraks]
#18744905 - 08/22/13 11:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: That doesn't exclude the (very real) possibility of severe depression though. I don't see why you'd deny that possibility. It's probably the most common cause of depression in young people.
I'm more inclined to think she is really depressed, and she is trying to fill that void (counter-productively) with the op. But that just doesn't work in relationships. Unfortunately and sadly for her, she needs to be cut off to find the strength within her.
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Top her crazy shit with even crazier shit. Give her a dose of her own medicine.
Or just ignore her and delete her off Facebook like somebody else said.
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Re: Is she obsessed or in love with me? [Re: Into The Woods]
#18745096 - 08/23/13 12:16 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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By the way, I didn't mean top it with more obsessive-type crazy shit, I meant something of a more completely psychotic nature.
Out do her, tell her you ate a live bird on a nice sunset walk through the park and google for pictures of dead birds to send proof. Tell her you loved it so much and you know it's only so long before the urges come back.
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