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Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice...
    #18733972 - 08/20/13 07:55 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

How does a 23 year old living with his parents in a major metropolitan's suburbia make friends and fall once again into a tribe?



Having a good group of friends is the biggest thing for my well-being on all fronts, as it keeps me grounded and gives me something I want to stay well to be part of.

Buuut with not being in my college town, I don't know anyone. I used to, but between drugs and being mostly across the state for most of the last several years that we could have grown as friends, I don't really have them.


Firstly, any general tips on getting back out there?

I mean, I have some sort of ish friends I could list as jumping-off points but IDK. I've usually freaked them out by overdoing drugs, or (most often) alcohol. Which I need to seriously curtail my affairs with, but it's also the default social standby.

I mean, what I really want is just people I can casually hang out with a lot rather than my "real world" friends who've graduated and gone corporate... they keep to themselves and their GFs/BFs until its the weekend, then they go out to fancy bar areas and drink, and do it again. This kind of social life is neither appealing to me nor compatible

What I need is a couple/few guys I can just go through the experience of life with for the next few months while shooting the shit.

I mean, there's this 17 year old I work with and his 18 year old friend, but it's just weird with them being so young and they're pretty much nothing like me except that they fucked up way earlier in their lives (they go to alternative schools, don't have much intellectually going on, are complete punks, etc.).


What about making a private facebook note with the few acquaintance-type "friends" I have left around here just explaining I'm back in town for the semester and am looking for people to hang out with and was wondering if they'd be willing to help acclimate me to the local social scene?

This begs the questions though:
- Will they think "...well, where was I the last 3 months?" [[[Did St1ll not have any friends this whole time?]]]
- Should I address my propensity towards substance abuse and acknowledge the damage its done to our relationships?
- Along the last question, should I come out and just say "I promise that I won't show up to stuff you invite me to blasted and that I'll keep it cool should beer or other vices surface during whatever outings may come"?
- How should I approach basically begging for people for friendship and help getting into some sort of social sphere?



Thanks in advance, shroomery. This was a very-humbling few paragraphs to type.

I think as much as anything else, it's a matter of my lost confidence and being afraid to just try stuff.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18733980 - 08/20/13 07:56 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

He moves out of his parents house.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18733985 - 08/20/13 07:57 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

just say "sup'


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Shroomopotamus]
    #18733988 - 08/20/13 07:58 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Shroomopotamus said:
He moves out of his parents house.




This is not realistic right now but thanks for the helpful advice I guess?


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
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st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Sheekle] * 2
    #18733990 - 08/20/13 07:58 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Sheekle said:
just say "sup'




lol


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Sheekle]
    #18733992 - 08/20/13 07:58 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

wish i knew nox, wish i knew.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Sheekle]
    #18734000 - 08/20/13 07:59 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I thought you were going back to school soon now? Did I miss something?


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
    #18734011 - 08/20/13 08:01 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

psychedelic_Abyss said:
I thought you were going back to school soon now? Did I miss something?




Wasn't ready, have to stay at the local uni to retake my summer class that I let myself get distracted from.

So this is my reality... I am just wanting to make it a good one, ya know?


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734035 - 08/20/13 08:04 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Idk what to tell other than if you don't smoke weed, to start smoking weed and finding other people to smoke with. Idk what the norm is for people my age but "hanging out" isn't really appealing to me if it doesn't involve smoking weed.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: luvdemboomers]
    #18734044 - 08/20/13 08:06 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

luvdemboomers said:
Idk what to tell other than if you don't smoke weed, to start smoking weed and finding other people to smoke with. Idk what the norm is for people my age but "hanging out" isn't really appealing to me if it doesn't involve smoking weed.




Wow


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: luvdemboomers]
    #18734045 - 08/20/13 08:07 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Hey, if I could just ask this much....

Could 2 or 3 people PLEASE read my whole post and then reply, especially addressing the facebook idea? Thanks for the input so far guys.

Quote:

luvdemboomers said:
Idk what to tell other than if you don't smoke weed, to start smoking weed and finding other people to smoke with. Idk what the norm is for people my age but "hanging out" isn't really appealing to me if it doesn't involve smoking weed.




This is a key component of what I'm looking for too. Not friendships based on it, but where we can have that bond.

My best friend is leaving for college again in a few days... I'm really nervous already.


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
    #18734051 - 08/20/13 08:07 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

psychedelic_Abyss said:
Quote:

luvdemboomers said:
Idk what to tell other than if you don't smoke weed, to start smoking weed and finding other people to smoke with. Idk what the norm is for people my age but "hanging out" isn't really appealing to me if it doesn't involve smoking weed.




Wow



lol


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"I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago
"you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard
"The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist
"Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft
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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Sheekle]
    #18734056 - 08/20/13 08:07 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Could 2 or 3 people PLEASE read my whole post and then reply, especially addressing the facebook idea? Thanks for the input so far guys.


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Back, bitches.
st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734057 - 08/20/13 08:08 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

st1llnox said:
, especially addressing the facebook idea? .



yeah don't send them a long thing explaining yourself just be like sup


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"I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago
"you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard
"The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist
"Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft
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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
    #18734058 - 08/20/13 08:08 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

try meetup.  there are like 932743247234234 meetups here for pretty much anything imaginable.  lots of interesting cats.  I found my tai chi class on meetup.  :thumbup:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Sheekle]
    #18734059 - 08/20/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Sheekle said:
Quote:

st1llnox said:
, especially addressing the facebook idea? .



yeah don't send them a long thing explaining yourself just be like sup




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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: All We Perceive]
    #18734062 - 08/20/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

You can always try craiglist :shrug: I'm sure you'd meet some interesting people to say the least


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Legend]
    #18734063 - 08/20/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)



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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: All We Perceive]
    #18734065 - 08/20/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Re your facebook idea, that is not going to work.  People don't respond well to people begging to hang out--especially given your baggage with them.  I would try new avenues... like meetup.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: All We Perceive]
    #18734070 - 08/20/13 08:11 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

All We Perceive said:
Re your facebook idea, that is not going to work.  People don't respond well to people begging to hang out--especially given your baggage with them.  I would try new avenues... like meetup.




Yeah spilling your guts on social media is probably the best way to make this situation infinitely worse


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: All We Perceive]
    #18734072 - 08/20/13 08:11 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Find some REAL hobbies dude, those will be things you can take to the grave.

Work on your balls, then you can die happy...


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Legend]
    #18734103 - 08/20/13 08:18 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

if you're an open person, you just have to be willing to make that first step with people. Many people out age (I'm 21) are completely fucking crippled by social media and their phones, so taking the first step in talking to them and getting them to open up is crucial.
What kinda hobbies you got? I've met a shit load of cool cats at the skatepark that I otherwise never would have if I didn't go there all the time.
If your problem is simply finding people period (it can be rough, outside of school and living with parents, I know), then I don't have much advice.
Actually, if you wanna take the plunge, a lot of people on PlentyOfFish.com (dating site) are on there strictly to make friends, that's one of the options on the "what are you here for" tab - give that a shot. You'll prob meet some cool people and who knows, maybe bone a few cuties.:peace:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Absent Minded]
    #18734116 - 08/20/13 08:21 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

maybe you'll realize boning cuties is what you needed all along. :lol:

really tho ive heard good things about plenty of fish. im skeptical tho.

goodluck stillnox, my best of wishes to you!


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Konyap]
    #18734124 - 08/20/13 08:23 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

actively seek and pursue your interests. never stop engaging with the things which excite you. in the end, your pursuits will have been the only things that mattered. those and the connections you've formed while pursuing.
what dreams did you act on? how far into the dreams have you chosen to delve into?

if you follow your dreams, friends will follow. you will come across like-minded friends who you can learn from, and can learn from eachother and grow together through the connections you form together.

friendships are a merging of consciousnesses, to form a larger more-expanded conscious entity. together many things are possible, for 2 minds are better than one. a whole group of minds are capable of even more things, but also more prone to conflict and arguments.

you can learn from any person. if you actively seek  your interests, you will come across people who you can learn from, and come together as parts of a whole dream machine. together as a group, all working towards similar goals, you potentially have the power to change the world. on like a drastic level.

teamwork, it's what makes the dream work.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Legend]
    #18734139 - 08/20/13 08:26 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Legend said:
maybe you'll realize boning cuties is what you needed all along. :lol:

really tho ive heard good things about plenty of fish. im skeptical tho.

goodluck stillnox, my best of wishes to you!



dude, idk about that site... my good buddy just met a girl on there. This kid was about as hopeless as they come when it comes to girls. They're really happy (as of now) but it's the honeymoon phase fer sure.
I have a fake account to check the local talent, and there are some serios fucking cuties on there, mayn. I'm seriously considering making a real profile. It's just one of those things that no matter how successful it might be, you never wanna do. It's just weird thinking that people I know could see me on there and think "wow this kid is on a dating site? He's 21 what a bum"
but on the other hand I don't give a flying fuck.
hmmmmmmm:strokebeard::strokebeard::strokebeard:

also

:shockedpussy:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Absent Minded]
    #18734146 - 08/20/13 08:27 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Do girls on those sites really look for normal people though?

They just come off as wanting the 'right' guy.

At least facebook will get you layed.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Legend]
    #18734152 - 08/20/13 08:29 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

The people you mentioned as "jumping off points", use them to find out about events / meet other people with whom you haven't such a long history.

Ish-friends are good enough if they'll get you out of your house. You don't need perfect friendships right away, just exposure to new people

My input, best of luck filling your social void :thumbup:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: JrayJ]
    #18734177 - 08/20/13 08:34 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Thanks for everyone who saved me from spilling my guts on facebook >.<

Quote:

JrayJ said:
The people you mentioned as "jumping off points", use them to find out about events / meet other people with whom you haven't such a long history.

Ish-friends are good enough if they'll get you out of your house. You don't need perfect friendships right away, just exposure to new people

My input, best of luck filling your social void :thumbup:




It's really getting to do like, ANYTHING that's the barrier to entry here.


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734236 - 08/20/13 08:47 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Well, one of the "probably doesn't wanna be friends" stand-bys is giving me advice on applying to his work over facebook IM right now so maybe I'm just overanalyzing and sabotaging myself by making it seem like there's some big obstacle.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734248 - 08/20/13 08:48 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe you could use the time alone to develop your own interests more and self reflect?

Sometimes the desperation of a stranger's attempts to create friendship shows badly and it will turn most people away from letting you in.

Likewise, if you are ok on your own just going about your business you will naturally draw people towards you that have similar interests that you can befriend.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Prole]
    #18734266 - 08/20/13 08:51 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Prole said:
Maybe you could use the time alone to develop your own interests more and self reflect?

Sometimes the desperation of a stranger's attempts to create friendship shows badly and it will turn most people away from letting you in.

Likewise, if you are ok on your own just going about your business you will naturally draw people towards you that have similar interests that you can befriend.





SHIT man I just started leading in to inviting myself to hang out with him and our mutual friend from boy scouts' cousin next time they hang out (by asking if they ever still hang out?)

Maybe I should just flee.

Now I'm being all "Girl in middle school" about this.


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Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734274 - 08/20/13 08:52 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

Prole said:
Maybe you could use the time alone to develop your own interests more and self reflect?

Sometimes the desperation of a stranger's attempts to create friendship shows badly and it will turn most people away from letting you in.

Likewise, if you are ok on your own just going about your business you will naturally draw people towards you that have similar interests that you can befriend.





SHIT man I just started leading in to inviting myself to hang out with him and our mutual friend from boy scouts' cousin next time they hang out (by asking if they ever still hang out?)

Maybe I should just flee.

Now I'm being all "Girl in middle school" about this.





I just closed the window. See no flusteredness, hear no flusteredness, experience no flusteredness.


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734282 - 08/20/13 08:54 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

Prole said:
Maybe you could use the time alone to develop your own interests more and self reflect?

Sometimes the desperation of a stranger's attempts to create friendship shows badly and it will turn most people away from letting you in.

Likewise, if you are ok on your own just going about your business you will naturally draw people towards you that have similar interests that you can befriend.





SHIT man I just started leading in to inviting myself to hang out with him and our mutual friend from boy scouts' cousin next time they hang out (by asking if they ever still hang out?)

Maybe I should just flee.

Now I'm being all "Girl in middle school" about this.





I just closed the window. See no flusteredness, hear no flusteredness, experience no flusteredness.




Fuck this, I'm going running.


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Back, bitches.
st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734289 - 08/20/13 08:55 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Uhhh, well, do you have any hobbies mate? The easiest way to meet people is to do shit that you like and find other people who like to do the same shit you do. Someone mentioned meetup and that site is awesome, I've met quite a few interesting people off of that site.

A lot of people use the internet these days to meet like minded folk...its the easiest way.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734320 - 08/20/13 09:02 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

st1llnox said:
Quote:

Prole said:
Maybe you could use the time alone to develop your own interests more and self reflect?

Sometimes the desperation of a stranger's attempts to create friendship shows badly and it will turn most people away from letting you in.

Likewise, if you are ok on your own just going about your business you will naturally draw people towards you that have similar interests that you can befriend.





SHIT man I just started leading in to inviting myself to hang out with him and our mutual friend from boy scouts' cousin next time they hang out (by asking if they ever still hang out?)

Maybe I should just flee.

Now I'm being all "Girl in middle school" about this.





I just closed the window. See no flusteredness, hear no flusteredness, experience no flusteredness.




Fuck this, I'm going running.




Chill dude it's all good. You could still go on the meet up just don't be all frantic about NEEDING to make friends.


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Prole]
    #18734430 - 08/20/13 09:23 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Yeah, good points. I just like... miss having my tribe of dudes. You're never gonna get in the suburbs what was wrought in university dorms though. :shrug:

I had hobbies but I need to get back into them. Thanks for the advice guys, although I don't think with having no car that a meetup thing's gonna work.

Guess I'll keep chilling with my young hooligan friends.


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Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: st1llnox]
    #18734666 - 08/20/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Nox you can always pm me if you want to talk


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Re: Humiliating to even ask, but I really need advice... [Re: Legend]
    #18734675 - 08/20/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Legend said:
Nox you can always pm me if you want to talk




I was actually going to anyway when the "last reply" thing reminded me your name. BRACE YOSELF NIGZ!!!

Let me put in a nicotine lozenge first though


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st1lln0x: so i'm on weed, temazepam, adderall, dexedrine, dxm, dph, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, tryptophan, GABA, and kratom
Cavemen_savemen: st1lln0x, do you feel like a robot yet?
st1lln0x: I feel like a fucking Gundam
Click to friend me on Steam for Counter-Strike
:crankey: IS LIFE SKULLFUCKING YOU!? HAVE SOME FREE MORALE! :awesomenod:
Click if you want to feel you alone can do it! Click if you want to feel confident and beastly! Click if you want courage to let go and move on! And click the message if you need someone to talk to -- I'll understand, even if we "hate" each other on here :hug: :sun:


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