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Demonic_Chronic
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I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem
#18730516 - 08/20/13 12:09 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I dont have many friends but the ones I have I consider family, no matter how long ive known them, all it takes is a certain event or something and I just feel like ive known them for years. Then I constantly worry about what I say because I feel like I say the wrong things, then i start apologizing and worrying that i pissed people off. Ive been doing this with a lot of my friends recently.. i think im just gunna go hermit mode for a week or so because I cant stop worrying and I fear that I get annoying which I know I prolly do and then I get all apologetic and shit and I sound like a fucking weird-o..
I dont mean to do this, I just had no friends through like my whole life and was always picked on and made fun of so I dont take relationships with a grain of salt.
and Im the kinda guy who will give you the shirt off my back and Ive always had a social akwardness and social problems..
Im just gunna stop talking to my friends for a week or so, that way I cant get on their nerves and seem like a fucking tweak ass stalking creep or something.
Ive been fucking weird lately and I cant help it. I feel like Im going crazy to be honest...
IDK, maybe need to just shut the fuck up.
May not see me for a while.
DC
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730531 - 08/20/13 12:14 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like paranoia, people are probably not as annoyed by you as you think. Do you smoke a lot of weed or anything like that?
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730545 - 08/20/13 12:23 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sometimes I realize I say all the wrong things.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730552 - 08/20/13 12:26 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have this issue too, and as psi said, it's definitely paranoia. There is a difference between paranoia and social anxiety, and that is the specific vividness of paranoia (imagining what your friends are thinking of you or saying about you behind your back, for example) as compared to the generalized self-doubt of social anxiety. Also, think of what drugs you're using, because some of them will seriously trap you in your bed with paranoia if you take too much or if you're in the wrong state of mind.
The only advice I can really give is not to react to it-- don't make desperate attempts to keep friends who haven't turned their backs. And don't turn your back, either. Just relax, everything is fine.
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Demonic_Chronic
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#18730634 - 08/20/13 01:00 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I havent smoked weed in over a week and I dont do any drugs currently. Maybe you guys are right, but I just cant help feeling that way. Ive lost friends this way and I just dont want it to happen again.
DC
-------------------- The Real violence, the violence that I realized was unforgiveable Is the violence that we do to ourselves When we are too afraid to be, who we really are.
 
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730643 - 08/20/13 01:03 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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gnight guys, Im just gunna try and chill out. Not texting any of my friends for a while, just gunna leave em alone. I end up texting them books and I really need to stop before I actually start losing friends due to it.
thanks guys, glad some people feel the same way.
DC
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730656 - 08/20/13 01:12 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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My favorite cure is alcohol.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730662 - 08/20/13 01:17 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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hey man, all of us just gotta shut the fuck up sometimes.. lol..
don't change who you are. Sounds very corny and I'm sure you've heard it before, but it's true when you realize that if you change who you are to appeal to others, you're just creating a relationship that is unreal and will hurt you in the end. Be real.. don't worry too much about what you say. If they accept you, then they ARE family.
Also, I'm positive they're not as worried about this as you are. Give them a call or something in a day or two. Take a break for yourself and don't worry about them. YOU will be ok
oh.. and never apologize.. fuck it man. Like I said, if they accept you, then they're family. And I mean, don't apologize just to gain their approval. Don't back down. However, if you're honestly sorry for whatever you did, go ahead and apologize.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730813 - 08/20/13 03:18 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Demonic_Chronic said: ...friends...the ones I have I consider family, no matter how long ive known them, all it takes is a certain event or something and I just feel like ive known them for years. ...i think im just gunna go hermit mode for a week or so...
...I dont take relationships with a grain of salt.
and Im the kinda guy who will give you the shirt off my back...
Im just gunna stop talking to my friends for a week or so... ... May not see me for a while.
DC
I wanted to see what your post would read like if I took out the parts where I felt you were being too hard on yourself.
I think you seem like the type of person who really pours their heart into things; it takes a powerful person to continually put himself or herself into vulnerable positions.
I hope you do not worry your friends too much in your time in seclusion.
May you take the time to reflect on the benefit you can bring to those around you; it seems as though that is what you want to continue doing, so maybe focus yourself through that lens.
Best of wishes while you are taking a breather.

It can beneficial, at times.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18730848 - 08/20/13 03:48 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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The best way to avid those feelings is to develope a fuckit attitude and not give a shit, thats what I do, everyone gets a little nervous, im sure its worse for some people. I recommend an mxe trip or maybe look into an ssri even though I think those things are the devil.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Chowder963]
#18730872 - 08/20/13 04:08 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Honestly what could you be saying to your friends to piss them off. We need an idea first. Like are you telling one of your friends his girlfriend is a bitch or are you just saying something randomly stupid like he needs a job. Seems like your just worrying too much about losing ur friends that you seem weird. I never text my even good friends for fun.. like if im trying to chill I then hit them up and of course random shit but never go to sleep trying to work out a friendship with a dude.
Maybe you should just listen more and talk less?
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18731073 - 08/20/13 06:35 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I traded all my friends for cats.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Memories]
#18731329 - 08/20/13 08:43 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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i didn't have any friends all throughout highschool. every day i would come home and sit in front of a computer until i fell asleep.
anyway, i still don't really have any friends. i have a couple, which is a couple more than i used to have..
i feel i don't really need friends to stay happy. as long as i am happy, then everyone will seem like a friend. even if we don't even know eachother.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18731341 - 08/20/13 08:48 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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true friends don't care if you are annoying (which you probably are not, just over thinking everything)
i know i annoy my friends, as they do me; that's what makes us such good buds.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18731346 - 08/20/13 08:50 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Try to not worry but instead make yourself such an awesome person that everyone whats to be around you. I find talking less about myself and showing more interest in others helps, as well as just talking less in general. Tell your friends how much they mean to you, and share good things with them.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: druqs]
#18731353 - 08/20/13 08:53 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I don't get too much social anxiety any more but I still have very few friends who I see with any regularity. When I have it the worst I will be constantly replaying dumb things I said or did (even years back) and calling myself an idiot. It's gotten a lot better since I moderated my marijuana use a lot more.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: psi] 1
#18731359 - 08/20/13 08:56 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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i usually always prevented myself from saying dumb things by not saying anything at all. probably the reason i never had a lot of friends, i never opened my mouth ever.
but that's when social anxiety was peaked. as social anxiety declines, you start caring less about what others think, and you don't care so much about the things you say.
as long as you are true to yourself, you will not say the wrong things. and if you do say the wrong things, you won't hesitate to correct yourself.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: psi]
#18731376 - 08/20/13 09:00 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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its ok dc everything will be fine no matter what happens in life
P.s the song "take it easy" is on the radio right now
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Sheekle]
#18731404 - 08/20/13 09:12 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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i think if i had a superpower it would be making friends. i have more truly great friends than i know what to do with. and they're all over the place too from hippies, dj's, musicians to right wing gun nuts, attorneys and soldiers. i really couldn't tell you one friend i have with whom i share complete and total agreement on all issues. i like the diversity of opinions. it keeps me on my toes and it keeps me humble.
OP if you're sweating your friends ditching you over stuff so trivial chances are they aren't worth having as friends. maybe try branching out into different crowds and scenes. it's usually a lot of fun.
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Re: I constantly worry about losing my friends..Its kind of a problem [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
#18731407 - 08/20/13 09:13 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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They call u mellow yellow
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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