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The Lizard King
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Need some opinions about a girl
#18729020 - 08/19/13 06:28 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Alright, so I'll just be blunt first and explain as I go on.
There's this girl who I've only known for a week (met at a party one week ago, today) and within the first three days of knowing her, she asked me out (while talking on the phone), and told me she wants "what's under my pants."
All in all, we've probably hung out about four times (two sleepovers but no sex) in the last week and only half of those times were sober.
She's pretty cute, probably around a 6/10.
She's pretty chill; she's done shrooms once, pills, meth once, and rolled once (which is almost as bad as my record, so I don't really give much thought to her drug use).
Now she just drinks and smokes pot, or so she says.
Sounds pretty awesome, I know, it'd be like guaranteed drunk/high sex anytime either of us wanted it. 
Here are some kickers, though.
She is on medication for anxiety/depression.
On the third day that I knew her, she called me about once every 10 minutes to talk about trivial things (which I normally wouldn't mind, if not for me only knowing her for three days).
She apparently huffs air (I was at her house with her sister and she straight up told me if she is ever caught huffing air again, she's going to get sent by her mom). Also, she was on the phone one time for like 20 minutes in her room, alone, and her sister went in and said that she found an empty can of air duster. She tried to defend herself by saying "No I'm not," but the way she said it was unusually slow and spacey.
I've been an all around partier since high school and have done some stupid stuff when I was her age (she's 18 and I'm 20), so I guess I can level with her a bit, but this would be the first time dating a girl who is this transparent with her problems.
Now, I almost like the idea of getting serious with a girl like this and getting her to stop doing juvenile things like huffing air and I would love to help her get her quality of life up so that she wouldn't need to take medication anymore, but am I getting in over my head?
TL;DR Potentially crazy girl wants to be my girlfriend, are hotness and good times worth the weight of this potential relationship?
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Psilosopherr
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personally I would deal with almost anything for sex and a companion right now
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FruitOfLife
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: Psilosopherr]
#18729218 - 08/19/13 07:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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rbalzer said: personally I would deal with almost anything for sex and a companion right now
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The Lizard King
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: FruitOfLife]
#18729256 - 08/19/13 07:19 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Drewsifer69 said:
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rbalzer said: personally I would deal with almost anything for sex and a companion right now


That is probably the most tempting thing about starting a relationship with this girl.
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: Psilosopherr]
#18729270 - 08/19/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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At 20, "hotness" and "good times" are always worth the risk of eating a heavy dose of crazy.
EDIT: Just don't be stupid and get her pregnant.
Edited by happymealplease (08/19/13 07:50 PM)
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I say do it. Maybe even see if you can be the reason she doesn't do stupid shit like breathing duster any more. (I've sucked the stuff before so I'm calling it stupid shit from experience, not being judgmental)
She deserves a chance at companionship. And you would get something out of it too. The depression, anxiety and substance abuse might make things a little harder but I'd say worth the effort. And definitely at least worth trying because you could end it any time.
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Psilosopherr
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Quote:
The Lizard King said:
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Drewsifer69 said:
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rbalzer said: personally I would deal with almost anything for sex and a companion right now


That is probably the most tempting thing about starting a relationship with this girl.
what is? the sex? the companionship?
I almost think I'd like the companionship more lately.
Every time a human female talks to me lately it gives me such a rush of dopamine or serotonin or whatever.
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: Psilosopherr]
#18730589 - 08/20/13 12:43 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Do it if you're into her. Don't if you plan on playing shrink, trying to fix her, and expect her to get better. You know what you're getting into. But let me tell you right now, those things that are giving you the 'aw fix the sick birdy' feelings right now will be the things driving you up the wall in a month. All that said, it does feel good to be the one that helps someone through a rough patch of life...
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NubeEnLaMontana
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How would you assess your ability to end a relationship with someone who can't live without you? Guestimate if you aren't sure.
Your answer to that question should be entered into evidence before you reach a verdict.
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NubeEnLaMontana
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: Lynnch]
#18733732 - 08/20/13 07:08 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: Do it if you're into her. Don't if you plan on playing shrink, trying to fix her, and expect her to get better. You know what you're getting into. But let me tell you right now, those things that are giving you the 'aw fix the sick birdy' feelings right now will be the things driving you up the wall in a month. All that said, it does feel good to be the one that helps someone through a rough patch of life...
Also a very good answer.
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The Lizard King
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Hmm. 
Thanks everyone so far, I think I'll just (try) to keep her as just a close friend.
However, I don't think I'll even have to do that because her sister found receipts for air duster and empty cans in her room. 
Her mom and sister are probably going to send her somewhere on Thursday.
I feel bad for her and all, but it looks like she probably needs help anyways. 
It's looking like this one is gonna end as soon as it started.
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sonamdrukpa
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Damn, you have one night to give her a proper send-off then. Go for it dude!
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Repertoire89
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Lynnch said: Do it if you're into her. Don't if you plan on playing shrink, trying to fix her, and expect her to get better.
Words of wisdom right there 
Have fun and don't get her pregnant or become emotionally involved
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: Repertoire89]
#18735657 - 08/21/13 03:17 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Don't try to change people, it doesn't work.
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The Lizard King
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Re: Need some opinions about a girl [Re: sonamdrukpa]
#18737854 - 08/21/13 02:36 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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sonamdrukpa said: Damn, you have one night to give her a proper send-off then. Go for it dude!

I like this idea.
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