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Re: Living with gf [Re: Magenta]
    #18730998 - 08/20/13 05:45 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Yeah OP - I personally think you rushed into things w this girl. Did you guys sign a year lease or what?


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Re: Living with gf [Re: VivaLaMushie]
    #18731297 - 08/20/13 08:26 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

OP do you honestly think that a relationship entirely based of drugs will work out?

Just ditch that chick man, she'll get you in trouble.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: Patlal]
    #18731550 - 08/20/13 10:06 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Some of you all aren't even reading. No year lease. I'm staying at her place nightly is all I meant. We didn't rent it together. There's no shared finances or anything

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OP do you honestly think that a relationship entirely based of drugs will work out?

Just ditch that chick man, she'll get you in trouble.




Because we both like drugs our relationship is entirely based off them? That's a pretty poor assumption. Some of my issues with her are drug-related. Doesn't mean it's a drug relationship


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Re: Living with gf [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18731582 - 08/20/13 10:21 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Then what's the issue? Leave, go back home. Go get your own apt.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: VivaLaMushie]
    #18731668 - 08/20/13 10:50 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

i miss having a woman around the house. i'm not settling though.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18731896 - 08/20/13 11:49 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Anonymous said:
Some of you all aren't even reading. No year lease. I'm staying at her place nightly is all I meant. We didn't rent it together. There's no shared finances or anything

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Patlal said:
OP do you honestly think that a relationship entirely based of drugs will work out?

Just ditch that chick man, she'll get you in trouble.




Because we both like drugs our relationship is entirely based off them? That's a pretty poor assumption. Some of my issues with her are drug-related. Doesn't mean it's a drug relationship





seems like you came here to nag and try to get similar responses to your nagging and it went all bad for you.

you dont LIVE together youre just staying there and just like you fell asleep there one night, its that easy to leave.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: urbannerd]
    #18732165 - 08/20/13 12:53 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Exactly.  Tell her "I think we took things a little too quickly.  I'm going to stop sleeping here every night so that we don't spoil our relationship so early on."  Something like that.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #18733018 - 08/20/13 04:00 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Exactly.  Tell her "I think we took things a little too quickly.  I'm going to stop sleeping here every night so that we don't spoil our relationship so early on."  Something like that.




Thanks for at least a decent response. 5 shrooms for you. Some of the comments on here are beyond ridiculous. Coming here to nag? Just walking out without any thought to what I say? Getting my own place? Pretty clear some people have dyslexia on this board or are just too eager to slam someone that they don't actually pay attention to my posts. Lack of details in the first post should show that I was not coming here to nag. I was asked by like 3 people to spill the deets so I did. I was hoping to not get into dirty details and just get a general response on the difficulty of adjusting to living together. Walking out is not as easy as walking in because I do like her and I'm not going to dump the relationship on silly stuff and just head out the door. And I do have my own place, also states multiple times.

Anyways, an update. We sat down and talked (clearly something we need to do more) and things are looking better. I've got classes coming on and am getting out to the gym with my buds so that should be some good separation time


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Re: Living with gf [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18736080 - 08/21/13 06:16 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

[Mod edit: no flaming]


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Re: Living with gf [Re: VivaLaMushie]
    #18737113 - 08/21/13 11:55 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

spending the night is way different than actually living with someone. but it sounds like it might be for the best that you're not tied to this person through a lease due to the circumstances.


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Re: Living with gf [Re: millzy]
    #18772413 - 08/29/13 10:31 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I figured I would update for anyone with similar issues. Things have been AWESOME lately. When I made this post there was a lot of stress about random little things and I think people were taking it that we had problems with each other, but it was more that the little unavoidable differences were stacking up.

As simple as this sounds the big issue was communication. I was at the point in the relationship where I was afraid to talk out and be honest. Considering it was still rather young I was afraid it would be too early to start noticing big differences if we dug too deep (bad long term plan I know, but emotionally I wasn't ready for the possibility of letting it go). Well anyways, as logic would suggest, it did worlds of good. Other stressors on her end were exposed that I was unaware of and it was kind of a relief to talk about it. Also going about my own day now that school has started has helped tremendously in terms of mental space.

So I guess the moral of the story, speak out before it builds up. Nothing's perfect, but far more manageable when both sides can be put into perspective honestly. I've been working on assertiveness more in counseling too. It's a big issue I've had my whole life. I tend to be really passive until I can't take it anymore and explode rather than throwing my thoughts out when it's the proper time? I'm starting to realize how much not having a voice sucked


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Re: Living with gf [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18772434 - 08/29/13 10:35 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)



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Re: Living with gf [Re: urbannerd]
    #18772677 - 08/29/13 11:31 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Communication makes and breaks relationships.  Truthful, honest communication is THE most important factor in any relationship.


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