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circastes
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How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people?
#18725458 - 08/18/13 11:47 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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What I'm referring to particularly is, how some people are just born completely fucked.
I was walking into a shopping center today and my attention was drawn to a Specialist School bus by their awkward loudness. I saw this fragile young girl in a wheelchair with some kind of syndrome where her body did not form properly.
I felt intense love for her, an intense compassion. Even though I was having a shit day I just kind of melted for a few seconds. She was so cute, she even had a teddy or something.
Life seems pretty damn great. Only one's state of mind really hides this. So there is plenty to embrace in life but how do we make sense of these unfortunate people? That's a living being, born into a hell, she might not even figure out it's a hell.
What's going on there? What is one to do?
Surely one must live for others in life if they are to be satisfied. We are wired like this I believe. So how do we approach a thing like this?
I'm stumped. But I am feeling humble. I always feel humble and sad when I see these buses.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes] 1
#18725504 - 08/18/13 11:59 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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things like that make me a little more happy for what I got instead of selfishly thinking about the things I don't--ya know
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes]
#18725838 - 08/19/13 02:28 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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What I do is focus on my own life and not the troubles of others, if you find some way to help people and decide that's what you want to do then by all means. But when it comes to finding some definite philosophical reason I think the safest bet is to throw up your hands in the beginning and say I don't know.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes] 2
#18726065 - 08/19/13 05:46 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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circastes said: What I'm referring to particularly is, how some people are just born completely fucked.
I was walking into a shopping center today and my attention was drawn to a Specialist School bus by their awkward loudness. I saw this fragile young girl in a wheelchair with some kind of syndrome where her body did not form properly.
I felt intense love for her, an intense compassion. Even though I was having a shit day I just kind of melted for a few seconds. She was so cute, she even had a teddy or something.
Life seems pretty damn great. Only one's state of mind really hides this. So there is plenty to embrace in life but how do we make sense of these unfortunate people? That's a living being, born into a hell, she might not even figure out it's a hell.
What's going on there? What is one to do?
Surely one must live for others in life if they are to be satisfied. We are wired like this I believe. So how do we approach a thing like this?
I'm stumped. But I am feeling humble. I always feel humble and sad when I see these buses.
Each person decides this for themselves and there is no right answer.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes]
#18726081 - 08/19/13 05:56 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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There is more masochism in the world than most people could ever imagine.
How do you know that someone didn't purposely incarnate into the body of a cripple because they got off on feeling helpless?
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: viktor]
#18726323 - 08/19/13 07:47 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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so some omnibeing with the power to incarnate into any form it desires chooses a cripple because 'lol life's stressful, decisions are hard'?
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: quinn]
#18726553 - 08/19/13 08:50 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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No, it does so because it realises that there's more to life than power, and the surrender of one's will has a value all of its own.
If you aren't a masochist this will not be easy to understand. But there are people who amputate their own limbs for fetishistic reasons - this would be no different.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: viktor]
#18726655 - 08/19/13 09:17 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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surrendering one's will is not an escape from power, it is a relation of power..
...that's pretty gnarly.. how about that woman who killed something like of 7 of her kids for the compounded hits of pity ppl were giving her?
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes]
#18727101 - 08/19/13 11:27 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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"...she might not even figure out it's a hell" You saw her happy. Ever wondered why mongoloid people are often happy ? My guess is, as they "not figure out they are in hell", they are happy because of the good things they already have instead. Often, trying to make their misery better, makes it worse for them first, because it only was a misery in our eyes. For example, freeing slaves will make many of them help- and clueless at first. In the long run it will be better, but this might take a time of discomfort for them.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes]
#18727285 - 08/19/13 12:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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circastes said: What I'm referring to particularly is, how some people are just born completely fucked.
That kind of thing is partly why I can never believe that 'everything happens for a reason.'
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: kennedy]
#18727359 - 08/19/13 12:24 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Who knows, perhaps the story of infernal rebirths is true
There could be great value in these infernal states of existence
or not? no one knows.
Each life is really just a cosmic millisecond so its not so bad in the long run
whether its good times baby whether its bad times, its the nicest time we will ever have...
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: kennedy] 1
#18727373 - 08/19/13 12:27 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just not a reason you like.
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How do you know that someone didn't purposely incarnate into the body of a cripple because they got off on feeling helpless?
We don't know that but there's no reason to believe someone who hasn't been born has the power to choose how to exist. I guess that might be one way for people to deal with reality by telling themselves fucked up people choose to be fucked up. That's fucked up. Not your fault.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Sse]
#18727470 - 08/19/13 12:41 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sse said: Who knows, perhaps the story of infernal rebirths is true
There's reincarnation, which would level out the fairness of any given situation. Didn't bring that up because its not a logical point, if the belief is not based in experience then its nothing more than a delusion one tells themselves to feel better about the world.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: circastes] 1
#18727473 - 08/19/13 12:42 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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You don't know what's going on in her head. She might be more content than you.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18727592 - 08/19/13 01:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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True, even just taking it into consideration makes me feel better about the world. I have no evidence and likely no one else will be able to provide any, so I can't ever say. It sure would bring a lot of sense to the world if it were proven.
It is unfortunate but a lot of good does come from horrible places and nothing is permanent so that helps me to embrace the suffering in this world.
-------------------- "Springs of water welling from the fire" "Life may seem to flee in a moment, but when the mind is freed of the veil of ignorance, and illusion that comes between the mind and the truth, life and death are only opposite sides of the same coin - "water welling from the fire."
"Within us, we carry the world of no-birth and no-death. But we never touch it, because we live only with our notions." -Thich Nhat Hanh instant "Experience always goes beyond ideas"
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Sse]
#18727834 - 08/19/13 02:17 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sse said: True, even just taking it into consideration makes me feel better about the world. I have no evidence and likely no one else will be able to provide any
One could provide themselves evidence through meditation, whether they believe the experiences or not is their prerogative
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18728777 - 08/19/13 05:35 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Rahz]
#18729045 - 08/19/13 06:32 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rahz said: I guess that might be one way for people to deal with reality by telling themselves fucked up people choose to be fucked up. That's fucked up. Not your fault. 
What I'm saying is that, from a certain perspective, such a girl isn't fucked up in the slightest.
I have no way of knowing if she deliberately incarnated into such a body or if it was a horrible random fluke. But because I have no evidence for either I won't leap to the conclusion that her life is misery merely because I myself would not like to be in a wheelchair.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: viktor]
#18732555 - 08/20/13 02:17 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have no way of knowing if she deliberately incarnated into such a body or if it was a horrible random fluke. But because I have no evidence for either I won't leap to the conclusion that her life is misery merely because I myself would not like to be in a wheelchair.
You also don't know it the god Zandel, or maybe the girls unborn twin sister decided to make her that way. Seems obvious to me genetic abnormalities are semi-random flukes, but there's no evidence to suggest the unborn person could have anything to do with it, or a God or other fantastical inclusion. Chromosome pairs can hold genetic abnormalities or they can form during gestation. She is fucked up by a general standard because she is in a wheelchair with a contorted body, though that's not a de-facto stance on whether she's miserable or not.
I understand the subjective aspect of being fucked up, I'm just protesting the possibility the girl somehow chose her genetic disposition.
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Re: How are we to embrace life when things go so wrong for some people? [Re: Rahz]
#18737621 - 08/21/13 02:00 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I guess a possible way to understand it would be to acknowledge that we don't know WHAT we are. We may exist on other planes and our purpose in Nature could be highly strange. Our culture is the only reasonable, normal thing in existence. Nothing in Nature is ordinary. Our bodies are not ordinary. The nature of reality is not "ordinary".
So I guess a way out of feeling bad about all this is, we don't know what is happening, return to first principles.
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