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Sham87
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I will admit it, I need help!!
#18723606 - 08/18/13 04:23 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have to put my pride aside and ask the shroomery for some help! Here is my problem: I meet cute chicks on the street,work, or school from time to time and they seem eager to meet as well but after a few minutes the whole interaction goes flat.
I need help transitioning the conversation to something interesting instead of asking 20 fucking questions.
The reason I posted this is because I just went to the dispensary around the corner and met this little cutie with her puppy walking around all bored. I approached her and she was all for it but after a minute or two the I could see that she was getting bored or something.
What do you do to keep things interesting when you meet someone? Thanks.
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Chuckfinely
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18723657 - 08/18/13 04:42 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Invite her to go do something later, ask if she wants to torch a blunt, "want to walk your puppy over to this park and chill?", one time I pretended to have been left by friends so I needed a 25 minute car ride "home". Not too hard, shes a person you're a person 
Hell most of the time the best thing to do is to leave a number while still on a high note, and leave before things "flatten" as you would put it
Advice come with warning: she will eventually leave you and suck you dry. all your money, your house, your car, your kids, and your reputation will all eventually be forfeit because of some succubus woman
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Chuckfinely]
#18723687 - 08/18/13 04:47 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Chuckfinely said: Invite her to go do something later, ask if she wants to torch a blunt, "want to walk your puppy over to this park and chill?", one time I pretended to have been left by friends so I needed a 25 minute car ride "home". Not too hard, shes a person you're a person 
Hell most of the time the best thing to do is to leave a number while still on a high note, and leave before things "flatten" as you would put it
Advice come with warning: she will eventually leave you and suck you dry. all your money, your house, your car, your kids, and your reputation will all eventually be forfeit because of some succubus woman 
Ha thanks for the great advice man. I think the phone number on a high note idea is superb. I've always wanted to do that but psych myself out from doing so.(thinking is the worst enemy)
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Chuckfinely
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18723778 - 08/18/13 05:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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The absolute worst thing she can do is say "ew no i dont want your number!", maybe make a little scene. Really what is that going to do? nothing. you're still going to go home that night, watch tv, smoke weed, etc. Some random bitches telling you no really shouldn't put a damper on your day. In all honesty, lol @ them for being too stuck up their own ass's to meet a new person 
Tell your friends you want a girl, odds are some of them have girlfriends who have other female friends, some of them probably single.
A smoke sesh with a couple friends and a new girl gives you the perfect opportunity to small talk, have other people for back up if things get dull, and whispering that you want to pass it to her first is an easy way to get sitting next/close to her
Like i said you're both people. If some girl starting talking with you and then stumbled over her words, or ran out of things to say would you really care? Would you exclaim how bad she was at picking up guys and make things awkward? No, so chances are the girl you're talking to wants things to go as smoothly as possible as well.
Once again, all women are out to use you for your drugs/car/house/money and will eventually drain you of, and consume, your very soul.
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Chuckfinely]
#18723825 - 08/18/13 05:22 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I see your point man.
Lol I think your last sentence is a bit too stretched, I don't think most women are out to use your resources.
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Chuckfinely]
#18723839 - 08/18/13 05:25 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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You said it yourself. Don't think so much.
It helped me greatly when I stopped going out In public really stoned, and I made an effort to talk to at least one random girl. Even if I'm not interested I dating her, just get used to talking to them. You'll getthe hang of it, and after it becomes part of the usual routine, it'll just come naturally.
Like someone else said, leaving on a high note is good, watch the Seinfeld where George does that. Pretty on point.
Tl;dr Go outside and talk to at least one random girl a day. You'll figure it out. Don't force anything, it'll flow naturally. Stop thinking and breathe
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18723857 - 08/18/13 05:29 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm curious about this stuff too.
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: brokentv] 1
#18723944 - 08/18/13 05:56 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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You've got to move on eventually. Nobody is going to just stand on a street corner and talk all day right? Move the ball forward. Tell her you've got to run but 'hey this was nice, can I call you some time?' or if things are going really well, you could ask if she wants to take the conversation to a coffee shop or something. It feels more natural to sit and talk for longer on a real date. Same rule applies there too, after a few hours either invite her over or tell her you can't wait til next time. Otherwise what's the point?
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
#18724005 - 08/18/13 06:12 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Mr.PhilCybin said: You said it yourself. Don't think so much.
It helped me greatly when I stopped going out In public really stoned, and I made an effort to talk to at least one random girl. Even if I'm not interested I dating her, just get used to talking to them. You'll getthe hang of it, and after it becomes part of the usual routine, it'll just come naturally.
Like someone else said, leaving on a high note is good, watch the Seinfeld where George does that. Pretty on point.
Tl;dr Go outside and talk to at least one random girl a day. You'll figure it out. Don't force anything, it'll flow naturally. Stop thinking and breathe 
Thanks man. Ya I've noticed that bud does not help at all when interacting with people, I tend to over analyze everything.
Thanks for the advice man.
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Lynnch]
#18724014 - 08/18/13 06:15 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: You've got to move on eventually. Nobody is going to just stand on a street corner and talk all day right? Move the ball forward. Tell her you've got to run but 'hey this was nice, can I call you some time?' or if things are going really well, you could ask if she wants to take the conversation to a coffee shop or something. It feels more natural to sit and talk for longer on a real date. Same rule applies there too, after a few hours either invite her over or tell her you can't wait til next time. Otherwise what's the point?
Yea you have a point.
See that is where I start to doubt myself, will she go? will she tell me to fuck off? I think I will bite the bullet from here on out.
Your advice is on point. Thank you sir.
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18725640 - 08/19/13 12:49 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just show them yer dick!
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: llama_police]
#18726345 - 08/19/13 07:53 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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The women must be lining up to talk to you huh? I will keep your advice in mind though...
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18726731 - 08/19/13 09:43 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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My advice to you is stop looking at every interaction with women like an opportunity to date/fuck a new person. Look at it as an opportunity to make new friends that you would enjoy spending time with because they are sexy women. Not so big secret--sexy women have sexy friends. Hang out with sexy women as friends and you get to their sexy friends and it isn't from a walking up saying hi standpoint. You are more desirable to these women because their friend trusts you and it is a lot easier to establish the deeper connection when they arent focused on trying to read your intention. Also, if said sexy woman's friends are hitting on you and sexy woman is at all interested in you as more than a friend... well look at it this way. When a sexy girl is hanging out with a group of guys, whether or not they outwardly show it, most of the dudes are trying to get in her pants. It works the other way around too!
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18727984 - 08/19/13 02:45 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sham87 said: The women must be lining up to talk to you huh? I will keep your advice in mind though...
Sometimes, yes. However I don't pursue anything with them lest I ruin my relationship with my girlfriend of over a decade
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: Sham87]
#18728067 - 08/19/13 03:02 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Whenever I meet a new girl, I usually start with names and then just a few questions about her to get things rolling.
When talking to her, ask questions that relate to things that she's doing at that same moment and see if you share any mutual hobbies.
Questions about the dog, her clothes (compliments of course ), where she's from, and all the stuff like that.
If the conversation goes dry, just make observational humor about the stuff around you.
Usually can keep a conversation going for a while just doing this.
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: empty space]
#18728528 - 08/19/13 04:39 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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empty space said: My advice to you is stop looking at every interaction with women like an opportunity to date/fuck a new person. Look at it as an opportunity to make new friends that you would enjoy spending time with because they are sexy women. Not so big secret--sexy women have sexy friends. Hang out with sexy women as friends and you get to their sexy friends and it isn't from a walking up saying hi standpoint. You are more desirable to these women because their friend trusts you and it is a lot easier to establish the deeper connection when they arent focused on trying to read your intention. Also, if said sexy woman's friends are hitting on you and sexy woman is at all interested in you as more than a friend... well look at it this way. When a sexy girl is hanging out with a group of guys, whether or not they outwardly show it, most of the dudes are trying to get in her pants. It works the other way around too!
Easier said than DONE!!! I cannot help my instinctive drive to penetrate beautiful women.
But Ya I need to get hot women friends. I like your point of view though.
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Sham87
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Re: I will admit it, I need help!! [Re: empty space]
#18728546 - 08/19/13 04:44 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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The Lizard King said: Whenever I meet a new girl, I usually start with names and then just a few questions about her to get things rolling.
When talking to her, ask questions that relate to things that she's doing at that same moment and see if you share any mutual hobbies.
Questions about the dog, her clothes (compliments of course ), where she's from, and all the stuff like that.
If the conversation goes dry, just make observational humor about the stuff around you.
Usually can keep a conversation going for a while just doing this.
All great points but there is a certain point when conversing with a woman where (for some dumb reason) I feel that I have to either make my intentions known or let it just turn into a friendship.
Empty space made a great point with the first sentence of his post and feel that I need to learn in order to really advance with my motives.
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empty space said: My advice to you is stop looking at every interaction with women like an opportunity to date/fuck a new person. Look at it as an opportunity to make new friends that you would enjoy spending time with because they are sexy women.
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