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foliocb
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Letting go of old friendships
#18715092 - 08/16/13 03:16 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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What's up Shroomery.
This has to do with friendship relationships instead of the usual romantic talk in this forum.
Anyways, i've been doing following a particular guy and watching a lot of his videos for self help, among other things and i'm really liking it and applying many things that he teaches.
One of the exercises he mentions is to whip out your phone, facebook... etc and to delete every possible cancerous relationship that you are attached to- which basically means deleting their phone numbers, removing them from facebook, etc... and never looking back.
It's a pretty exercise, however I was surprised at all the old emotions that came up when I looked over a lot of names and numbers... old feelings that I still hold onto, hoping that one day things will be 'like the good ol days'... knowing deep down inside that those days are long gone and are never coming back.
Has anyone else been feeling this as of late?
I have one group of friends in particular, the four of us go back to highschool, went to college together, went out camping all the time, and just stomped together when there was nothing to do really... good times indeed. Anyways, after glancing over some facebook profiles, I noticed they just uploaded some pics of them all going camping- to our old spot that we always went to. Except this time, I wasn't there... not even informed about it.
That basically hit home for me... and made me realize that we just aren't friends anymore... or even acquaintances for that matter. I guess we just drifted apart.. who knows 
Anyways, i know deep down I need to let go.... and stop dwelling. I am sure that deleting contacts from my phone and other social networks will slowly allow me to move on to my own path.
Now I guess the real question is... where do I find some new legit friends
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brokentv

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Re: Letting go of old friendships [Re: foliocb] 1
#18715639 - 08/16/13 05:33 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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This is the story of my life. Its much easier said than done, but I've found it's best to just focus on your life by bettering it in any way that you can and let time do what it does. I can completely relate to not being invited out and even made a thread on it a while back, it's painful. For me after spending so much time away from old friends I've realized how much I let them hold me back by relying on them so much to enjoy life. Don't be ashamed of running solo for a while.
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Re: Letting go of old friendships [Re: brokentv] 1
#18716231 - 08/16/13 08:10 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would delete your good friends from Facebook too. There is something about FB that makes everybody an acquaintance - your good friends get downgraded and strangers get upgraded.
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