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OfflineTwista
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women problems
    #1866422 - 08/30/03 06:37 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

not any longer. my girl friend and i just broke up.

no hollering and screaming but mostly an emotional talk about the two of us that lasted about an hour. I could've married this chic, i thought at first. i dunno what to think about it really, we both have issues with each other and now we're taking a "break".

I have put up with a lot from this girl and I dont think im going to jump back in even when she comes back because she will. i really feel bad about everything. Im sorry that i cant be the guy she wants me to be but you just cant change people, especially men.

We dont share many interests which doesnt help things. Maybe it wasnt meant to be but in the begining, it felt so right.

Im really confused...dont know what to say really. there is so much to the story as u can all imagine. I really just want her to be happy and I can see that it isnt going to be with me. 

:frown: -t- 


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1866438 - 08/30/03 06:42 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

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OfflineTwista
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Re: women problems [Re: ]
    #1866489 - 08/30/03 07:03 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

thanks dlag, we really were a great couple. i think she's also experiencing some post-anxiety from our fun last weekend, too.

she also works, goes to school, and has tremendous responsibilities at school.


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1866506 - 08/30/03 07:12 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

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OfflineTwista
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Re: women problems [Re: ]
    #1866524 - 08/30/03 07:19 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

i havent even smoked today either! lol...i wanted to get fucked up tonight too but i dont even feel like getting real trashed but a bowl sounds appealing.

::dips into the hash stash::


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1866619 - 08/30/03 08:04 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

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Re: women problems [Re: ]
    #1866697 - 08/30/03 08:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Damn twista thats sad news.. my best wishes.. they say there no pain like a lost loved one.. i know this from experience.. just fire up the bowl and maybe throw down some beers and keep your head clear.. time will be on your side.. pm me if ya need to talk or anything..


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As modernman took control
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And to conquer was their goal
So he built his great empire
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He died a confused man
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Re: women problems [Re: Fungushungry]
    #1867050 - 08/30/03 11:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Twista, you are in the same position as me.

But me and my girlfriend are in our second break.
This one is more serious, i was (am) far more hurt this time.

We still have fun, we still have good talks, we still feel very good around eachother, sex is ok too.
The only thing we lack is passion, we are together for 2 years and we were good friends before we started dating so actually there never was much passion, only a very good friendship with sex.

There is a slight chance we will get back together after this break, but just as you, i do not know if i want to anymore, its just a matter of time before it al restarts.




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Re: women problems [Re: Dava]
    #1867623 - 08/31/03 04:10 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

definitely sounds similar...thanks for sharing dava.


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1868568 - 08/31/03 04:35 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

I'm really sorry to hear that, twista :frown:

I went out with my last girlfriend for over a year. We ended up breaking up in similar fashion to what you described. We're just too different.

My mom always told me "opposites attract...but they don't work out". I've come to see this as true, at least most of the time.

A break can sometimes be the best possible way to save a relationship. It should let you both take a step back and re-evaluate you situation.

You can't change a person...but people do change theirselves over time. Sometimes it's easy to hold on to the image you first had of someone, even if they have changed since.


My best wishes to you, twista. I'm sure you'll see the answer you're looking for :wink:


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Re: women problems [Re: trendal]
    #1877250 - 09/03/03 01:45 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Hey I feel you brotha. Over the weekend my girl and I separated. We have both neglected to do the things that we wanted to do while we were together. Like when we met the whole outside world sort of ended. We both stopped doing the things that are most important to us. Pushed aside our realigus belifes and practices, our friends, and our duties as family members. I understand her reasoning. We both need to concentrate on our careers and what not. All I know is that love must fallow blind. All you can do is keep the faith and hope for the best. I am not interested in any other woman except for her. Someday when we are both more grownup and responsible I would like to countinue the relationship.


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Re: women problems [Re: ]
    #1892345 - 09/08/03 12:06 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

thanks for sharing fungi, i too don't feel like I want to be with anyone else, esp. right now.

damn, i miss having her around. I havent talked to her that much and we were just alone together for the first time since we broke up. I just wanted to hug her and hold her in all night in her driveway. :-\


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1892562 - 09/08/03 01:24 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1892578 - 09/08/03 01:30 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

tell her how you feel and how much you mean to her.

If you really love her, then what could hurt in trying?

I feel the confused position you're in. There's many other out there in similar situations.


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is to be like water
For water benefits all things
and goes against none of them
It provides for all people
and even cleanses those places
a man is loath to go
In this way it is just like Tao        ~Daodejing


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Re: women problems [Re: Cracka_X]
    #1896028 - 09/08/03 11:20 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Hey twista lets go have some fun this weekend and take your mind off of things for awhile :smile: i know you need it as bad as i do... 


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There mind's weren't all the same
And to conquer was their goal
So he built his great empire
And he slaughtered his own kind
He died a confused man
And killed himself in his own mind"


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Re: women problems [Re: Fungushungry]
    #1897576 - 09/09/03 11:07 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

most definitely FH!  :bong: :spliff: :nut: 


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1900189 - 09/09/03 11:08 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

:stash: :spliff: :stoned: :rasta: :bong: :pill: :mushroom2: :thumbup: :heart: :rolleyes:


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"Early man walked away
As modernman took control
There mind's weren't all the same
And to conquer was their goal
So he built his great empire
And he slaughtered his own kind
He died a confused man
And killed himself in his own mind"


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1902160 - 09/10/03 02:30 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Twista said:
I havent talked to her that much and we were just alone together for the first time since we broke up. I just wanted to hug her and hold her in all night in her driveway. :-\





That is so sad... In your first post you say you?re not even sure if you want to be with her if she comes back. Then in this post it seems as if you want her around very much. Your making it so much harder on yourself this way, you must decide one way or the other (im sure she wants you to make up your mind as well). I can tell by your words you are in pain. Few things can heal these wounds. You?re pouring salt on them thinking this way. Think long and hard about it, but don't always follow your heart. There is no reason to dwell on things that get you down. Nothing can come from this way of thinking but continued sorrow.

Have you ever seen the movie "Ghost in the Darkness"? There is a part where Remington says: "They have an expression in prize fighting. Everybody has a plan until they?ve been hit. Well my friend, you?ve just been hit. Getting back up is up to you."

It?s exactly like that. You?ve just been hit. It?s up to you whether you get back up and continue with this girl, or you lay there and take the count. Only you know what is best for you. Only you know what it is that you want. Only you can prevent forest fires. (OK, ignore that last part). At the very least, you should talk things out. It usually works out so much better in the end if you talk to each other, and figure out mutually what it is that you both want.

good luck!


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Re: women problems [Re: ATWAR]
    #1902612 - 09/10/03 05:10 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

DAMMIT!!! i hate this! love is a bitch.


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Re: women problems [Re: Twista]
    #1902929 - 09/10/03 03:22 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Twista said:
DAMMIT!!! i hate this! love is a bitch.





Yes. When things get bad, or don't work out, then it can be painful. Actually, I think love is one of the biggest challenges in our lives. Usually we put too much emotional effort towards finding a mate, making it very difficult to recover and move on when it's just not right. These are the hardest hitting emotions IMO, they dig at you deep when your lonely (you always have fellow Shroomerites at the very least). If the current Ex/GF is not a good match for you, and brings you emotional turmoil, then its best you separate. I don't really know the whole deal, but when your really in love, you will know. I suppose you heard this before, but it's so very true. When you find the right match, you will know. You really need to look at the way you feel about this girl, and how she may feel about you. See how you fit together as a couple and decide it you think it would last.

Love can be a bitch. But when it works out perfectly, it can be pure bliss. Don't let this little sneeze make you think you have a cold. There is that perfect fish in the sea just waiting for you, throw the other one back, and cast some fresh bait. Or you could get hooked yourself, it works both ways.


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