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danlennon3
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Forgiving Yourself
#18429488 - 06/16/13 08:03 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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I've had trouble doing this my entire life. Whether big or small, there are times when I find it impossible to forgive myself. I recently realized this as one of the biggest and most self-destructive flaws that I have, and still do not know how to let go of the pain. Anyone got any suggestions on what to do? Sometimes a single negative memory could fly through my head and all of a sudden, the weight of all my regrets seem to suffocate me and throw me into a deep, downward spiral. And this can be extremely debilitating!
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danlennon3
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Re: Forgiving Yourself [Re: Sheekle]
#18432124 - 06/17/13 02:01 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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yea too easily at times
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I still think about things I have done in the past, people I have hurt, things ive said etc etc and I still feel terrible about it all. I also have secrets that only I know and I hate that as well.
Forgiving yourself is hard
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Sometimes a single negative memory could fly through my head and all of a sudden, the weight of all my regrets seem to suffocate me and throw me into a deep, downward spiral. And this can be extremely debilitating!
I know what you mean. Just the other day I had a break down, but I fought my way out of it.
I find that most humans, at least the ones I know, have mood swings. Some moments you feel great and some moments you feel bad. I think the key is to recognize when a bad moment is upon you, take a breath, remember that good days will come again, and try to break out of any negative feelings.
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Re: Forgiving Yourself [Re: XUL]
#18434707 - 06/17/13 11:21 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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XUL said:
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Sometimes a single negative memory could fly through my head and all of a sudden, the weight of all my regrets seem to suffocate me and throw me into a deep, downward spiral. And this can be extremely debilitating!
I know what you mean. Just the other day I had a break down, but I fought my way out of it.
I find that most humans, at least the ones I know, have mood swings. Some moments you feel great and some moments you feel bad. I think the key is to recognize when a bad moment is upon you, take a breath, remember that good days will come again, and try to break out of any negative feelings.

Following your breath can be very beneficial for any situation imaginable. When in doubt, control your breathing.
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Re: Forgiving Yourself [Re: cez]
#18437872 - 06/18/13 04:14 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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danlennon3
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Re: Forgiving Yourself [Re: XUL]
#18444668 - 06/19/13 09:33 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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XUL said:
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Sometimes a single negative memory could fly through my head and all of a sudden, the weight of all my regrets seem to suffocate me and throw me into a deep, downward spiral. And this can be extremely debilitating!
I know what you mean. Just the other day I had a break down, but I fought my way out of it.
I find that most humans, at least the ones I know, have mood swings. Some moments you feel great and some moments you feel bad. I think the key is to recognize when a bad moment is upon you, take a breath, remember that good days will come again, and try to break out of any negative feelings.
I agree, I am quite aware of when those negative thought patterns are going to occur. Yet I still have difficult forgiving myself from these past events when they boil to the surface!! The person I have hurt the most throughout all the years is myself. I have always be loyal to others but when it comes to myself... Its like I am a complete slave to myself. I have not really cheated, stealed, or hurt others too deeply. Except for me!!! For almost all people who truly know me, they never need to worry about how I will react or how I think of them... It is only me who is so hurtful and spiteful toward, well me. I have a lot of difficult forgiving myself when painful events occur that may or may not have been my fault. Thats why I am completely my own worst enemy as cliche as that sounds... Because 99% of all the evil or negatvie things I have done were aimed at myself. And that is why I have so much difficulty forgiving myself
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danlennon3 said: I've had trouble doing this my entire life. Whether big or small, there are times when I find it impossible to forgive myself. I recently realized this as one of the biggest and most self-destructive flaws that I have, and still do not know how to let go of the pain. Anyone got any suggestions on what to do? Sometimes a single negative memory could fly through my head and all of a sudden, the weight of all my regrets seem to suffocate me and throw me into a deep, downward spiral. And this can be extremely debilitating!
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