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gref
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Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem
#18060633 - 04/04/13 11:51 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Okay so here's the story: it takes place over the course of a couple months.
I met this girl in my college class, it started as small talk and then we began spending time together after class working on homework or just chilling on campus. She mentioned she had a boyfriend early on and I didn't care because I wasn't interested in her yet. But as I got to know her better I realized we have so many common interests and she has a great personality from what I know.
Some time has past since, I like her and I know she likes me because she flirts back all the time. Also, she went out of her way to mention that she recently broke up with her boyfriend. Now here's the problem, they were living together for a few years so they haven't moved apart yet; I have no idea when they will.
If this were any other girl I would move on no sweat. But I've met a lot of girls and I know she's something special. Give me some advice, I'm not sure what cards to play or when to play them. I haven't explicitly expressed my interest, should I? Or should I lean back and see what happens with her and her ex? I've accepted the possibility of them getting back together and if they do that's okay, but I'd hate myself for not taking a chance at her.
TLDR: I like this girl but she is still living with her ex whom she just broke up with, what do I do?
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Tmethyl
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: gref]
#18060650 - 04/04/13 11:57 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Best thing to do is be patient and understanding. Be polite to her ex. But don't take any shit. Seems impossible, but she'll respect you.
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Sham87
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: Tmethyl]
#18060666 - 04/05/13 12:01 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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In the words of iwasaclown: "DSHSB!"
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keyohnah
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: gref]
#18060802 - 04/05/13 12:55 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Are they still sleeping in the same bed or has she moved into another room? Even if they aren't together, two exes living together can be a very complicated situation. I would suggest being there for her, and continuing to be her friend but wait to pursue her on a serious level until she's really ready to leave her ex.
If you're worried about missing your opportunity then maybe you should talk to her about it in a lighthearted fashion. Tell her you wanted to ask her out on a date but didn't want to push things or make her feel uncomfortable since she is still living with her ex-boyfriend. It's direct but still understanding.
Good luck!
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gref
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: keyohnah]
#18060820 - 04/05/13 01:00 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
keyohnah said: If you're worried about missing your opportunity then maybe you should talk to her about it in a lighthearted fashion. Tell her you wanted to ask her out on a date but didn't want to push things or make her feel uncomfortable since she is still living with her ex-boyfriend. It's direct but still understanding. Good luck!
This is pretty much what I was thinking, classes end in a few weeks and I'm not sure if I'll ever see her again as I am transferring to a different university in the city. Like I said I'd hate myself if I didn't try at all.
Edited by gref (04/05/13 01:03 AM)
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keyohnah
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: gref]
#18060826 - 04/05/13 01:02 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well, then it sounds like you have to try. Sometimes you just have to take that risk.
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: gref]
#18063785 - 04/05/13 06:40 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well you don't know for sure that her and her boyfriend might get back together. They might just be still living together because she's having a hard time finding a place to live.
If I was in your position, I would tell the girl how I felt about her, and let her know that I am interested in her. You don't have to say anything about a relationship, but I do think you should tell her how you feel.
If you do this, she will more than likely tell you how she feels about you, which can help you determine the next move to say.
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gref
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Re: Guy and girl like eachother, but there's a small problem [Re: deadwk]
#18094819 - 04/11/13 10:04 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Okay so I asked her out, she said she liked the idea but she couldn't because she is still tied up with her ex and they'll probably get back together. It's funny because yesterday she told me she was single when I didn't even ask. I thought that was my signal to make a move, guess not. 
Oh well, time to move on. I wish great girls like her came around more often.
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