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JacksonMetaller
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Having a hard time reading this girl
#18071043 - 04/07/13 08:52 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Okay so I'm stuck in this sort of weird situation. I just met this girl who's recently single and I see her a couple times a week now. She has loaddddds in common with me and is super fucking cute. Anyways, since day one I notice she's had a tendency to turn towards me more than the others in the group when speaking. Ie we would be talking about something, someone else would ask her something else and she would go off a minute, then turn back to me to revert to our old conversation, even if it was sort of dead.
Anyways I mentioned having done DMT and she was interested. Told her I could hit her up on Facebook or get her number if I ever came across it again. She jumped for her phone and gave me her number. But seemed really excited about giving it to me. She decides she wanted to start coming to yoga with us. Problem is, when she texts, she's incredibly dry. I'm used to women (even ones who are just friends) sending really friendly texts, smileys every now and then, etc. hers are just... Dry. Only word I can use to describe it.
Now... I have screwed up so many times in the past because I can't read women. Between being down about her recent breakup, dry texts, enthusiastic personal communication she is by far harder for me to read than the others. Part of me feels she may just have a shy personality or not like texting but I don't know. How should I handle this?
Edited by JacksonMetaller (04/09/13 04:29 PM)
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Some people just txt differently, I would just judge things by how she's been in person.
Just keep asking her to do things with her, and if she wants to hangout with you she will.
Then go from there, take the chance and ask her out eventually.
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: The5thElement]
#18073393 - 04/07/13 06:03 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah thanks. That's probably what I'll do. It's just hard to tell. I'm probably just being impatient. I've been out of the game for 3 years and I think I'm probably just expecting things to move faster than they actually do.
Would it be okay to just cut conversation off on a good note and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime?
That's probably a dumb question but it's kind of my plan right now for the next time I see her
Edited by JacksonMetaller (04/09/13 04:36 PM)
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Quote:
JacksonMetaller said:
Would it be okay to just cut conversation off on a good note, tell her I've got somewhere to be, and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime outside of yoga? Or would that be setting me up in the friend zone if it's not a designated date?
That's probably a dumb question but it's kind of my plan right now for the next time I see her
Honestly man, I don't believe in this friend zone thing.
I see that term thrown around tons in here.
I think what you said above is not a bad idea at all, in fact I wouldn't ever ask a girl if she wanted to go on a date, I just ask in the same manner as you stated above.
ask if she wants to hang out, do something... Maybe think of things before suggesting incase she does and asks like what?
Hang out with her a few times and just warm up to her, go from there
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: The5thElement]
#18074223 - 04/07/13 09:20 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah you're probably right. Thanks man! I'm probably going to do just that. Thinking of things to do that don't make it sound like a straight up date are pretty difficult though... 
On a plus note... I found that DMT. Fucking finally. I don't want to make this a strictly drug encounter, but that could perhaps help initiate a little bonding time. I'm going to ask her to hang out casually before though as I'm more interested in getting to know her than getting her high.
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Yeah definatly hang out with her for a bit before mentioning the dmt, I know you intially said she was interested in it, but I duno I would just feel un easy bringing that up around people I don't know well, especially someone I want to be closer too.
Then again I cant read your exact situation other than what you've said before, even then I don't have the whole picture.
Good luck though man, just relax and take things slow; have fun above all else.
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: The5thElement]
#18074284 - 04/07/13 09:35 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah that's what I was conflicted on. It would be a really easy ticket to spending a couple hours alone with her. But again, it could be taken as purely a drug interest. ie. "I want someone to get high with." Then again i'm giving it to her for free so... I guess I'll keep that one to myself for now, and use it as a back up plan.
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You want to be her romantic interest, not some hookup for her drugs that she can use or is trying to use her. Keep this in mind.
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: Dest]
#18075560 - 04/08/13 07:01 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah definitely. But she did still want it. So how could I got about introducing it to her without becoming just a drug buddy? Would simply asking her to hang out first be enough and then bring it up later? Maybe save it for a second or third date?
I'm also conflicted because it may be a good ice breaking activity. We're both pretty shy so I can imagine shits going to be pretty awkward at first just hanging out. But once again you're right. I don't want drugs to be the focus of our encounter
Edited by JacksonMetaller (04/08/13 10:45 AM)
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Don't think too much about it. Gamble a bit and ask her to hangout without thinking about the extent of each motive and detail. Who cares if shit gets awkward? If it does, it isn't a deal breaker. You two can still have fun even if it's awkward.
I would probably save the DMT for when you get to know each other a bit more. There's another better ice breaking activity that you can do-- Drinking.
You gotta assume that this girl wants you. She's been showing some clear signs that she does, so it's a safe assumption. Go get her brother.
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18076401 - 04/08/13 11:53 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: You gotta assume that this girl wants you. She's been showing some clear signs that she does, so it's a safe assumption.
Well that makes me feel better I know I overanalyze everything... It comes with the anxiety
Are there any good hangout ideas that are fun but still allow for conversation? I need something that takes away some of the edge of just being a one on one conversation between two unfamiliar people. We're both pretty shy, so just getting together to hangout and talk could be really weird without a good ice breaker.
Edited by JacksonMetaller (04/09/13 04:37 PM)
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Jackson, why don't you just ask her out to dinner? I think people still do that. Instead of dinner and a movie, could be dinner and some DMT. Seriously though, just ask her....her response will probably tell you everything you want to know. Dinner is a great place to get to know someone....face to face and all.
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I know a chick in the Acworth, GA area that was looking for some DMT, just curious, you in the area?
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: Vainmetal]
#18082624 - 04/09/13 03:50 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I always found a twenty and a condom did all the talking that was necessary.
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Re: Having a hard time reading this girl [Re: Vainmetal]
#18082733 - 04/09/13 04:13 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Vainmetal said: I know a chick in the Acworth, GA area that was looking for some DMT, just curious, you in the area?
Ackworth? Nah. Athens. I'm sure there are plenty of women in GA looking for DMT
Edited by JacksonMetaller (04/09/13 04:48 PM)
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