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Having serious problems dating due to...
    #18069952 - 04/06/13 11:49 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Being about 5 foot 6 inches and about 110 lbs
Any idea how to get past this , girls just dont find me nearly as attractive as taller guys with muscle... ive asked.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18070107 - 04/07/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

If you want to change how your body looks, then obviously start working out and make a diet plan.

I used to be like 130, but then I started working out and eating better and I'm 145 now.

I'm still a lot smaller than most guys, especially my friends. A lot of males like to rag on smaller guys like us, I just laugh that shit off. I'm comfortable with who I am. well for the most part. But the initial reason why I started working out was because I wanted to gain weight, get stronger and look/feel better about myself and my appearance. I wont lie, a lot of it has to do with what I've experienced in my life, bigger guys like to throw their weight around so to speak and rag on us small guys, It's more than certain that it's  just some natural trait in humans I'm guessing.

Fuck em, start eating better and working out. I look at it this way, I started off with a small body, small frame/bones compared to the average male. I have a super fucking high matabolism, seriously I'll lose 5 pounds in like 3-4 days depending if Im active during and I miss a meal or two.

When I get to where I want be, weight wise, muscle tone/appearance whatever my goals are for training.
Im going to be fucking humble dude because I know exactly how it is to be at the bottom of the barrel.

I honestly think a lot of guys who have larger bodies, and larger muscles then the smaller guys.. I think a lot of them have their heads up their asses, they snicker at the little guy in the gym working out, and they talk shit to all their meat head friends.

Fuck em, I'm going to remain humble, and have my eye on the prize.

So dude, it's obviously the answer to your question is that you need to start working out.

Your body isn't accustomed to working out, your gonna need to start slow and use light weights. Before all that I suggest you do this:

Here is your routine:

Monday-wednday-and fridays.

3 sets of pushups, this means you are going to do as many pushups(with perfect form) 3 whole times.
take 2 minute rests in between a set.
Look up videos on youtube to help you see what proper  form is for pushups, do them slowly. Always slow and controlled.

Also in this routine you are going to do crunches, same thing 3 sets with 1-2 minutes in between a set for rest.
Do as many as you can for each set, always try your hardest.
You need to get those abdominals strong son, a strong core is key.

Also, you are going to do squats... no weights, just squat with your body weight, again look up proper form on youtube, watch these videos a million times if you have too. Get form down as close to perfect as your body can.

Only run for 2 times a week for cardio for about 20-30 minutes. light job, run, walk even but push yourself man, start slowly but build upon that.
Choose days to run when your not doing pushups and stuff, do like tuesdays and Thursdays. Saturday and sunday will be your rest days.

Your probably going to have to do this routine for a while, slowly incorporate wieghts into your routine.

Now that I think of it, check out this website http://scoobysworkshop.com
This is a great site to use for starting off, he has a beginners course and its probably similar to mine, I'd use his though just check it out.

He has tips on diet, workouts, ect. ect.

Look up foods on the internet to help gain wieght, try to eat healthily though.

It's going to be a while till you see results, but you need to keep on it in order to get results. Keep a workout journal too to keep track of your progress. just right down your routine on one page at the front, then days you work out right in your routine with the date and how many pushups, ect you did that day. That way after a week and so on you can actually see your improvement, this is good for morale dude.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: The5thElement]
    #18070289 - 04/07/13 01:54 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Workout, The5thElement is giving some great advice.

I am an extremely thin guy. Some girls dont like it, well fuck them they aren't worth your (our) time. Guess what, some girls WILL like it. Same applies vice versa - some guys like thick girls, others dont. It is all a matter of preference.

In the meantime, all I have to say is "Memento Mori". One day you will be dead, so dont waste your precious time or energy worrying about something insignificant. Do what you can (workout) and just live life to the fullest with the cards you were dealt.

Peace brother. Don't let it get to you, now go find a lady who is worthy and quit fucking THINKING so much. :headbang:


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Writ]
    #18070303 - 04/07/13 01:59 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Over thinking has been a massive problem since i was a kid


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18070317 - 04/07/13 02:04 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Here are some pictures of dead babies to put things into perspective.

http://pinterest.com/evileve2012/memento-mori-victorian-death-photos/

Ha.Ha.Ha.

Seriously though, you should meditate - it helps to remove mental clutter an unneeded thought! Extremely useful, all that energy that you waste in la-la land can be recaptured and harnessed in more useful ways.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18070328 - 04/07/13 02:10 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

I'm relatively short and thin as well, like 5'8 or something.  I don't work out at the moment, although I'm not totally out of shape.  I've had pretty good success with women though.  I think it really just comes down to being confident and comfortable with yourself.  If working out is what you need to do to reach that then by all means.  It's also just good for you so that's a thing.  But there are plenty of girls out there who will be attracted to you despite your being short and thin.  And some won't.  Just like you're not attracted to every girl out there.  That's okay.  You don't have to be attractive to everybody, there are literally billions of women out there.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Cabinet_Sanchez]
    #18070935 - 04/07/13 08:13 AM (10 years, 9 months ago)

True relationships are rarely ever born out of just looks. Get in shape, look good, but don't stress about the things you can't change. Nearly every girl I dated has been off the radar for what I would normally be attracted to. So yeah, they weren't catching my first glance, but after getting to know them a little feelings started to develop.

So point is just be confident. Not cocky, but confident in who you are and be approachable. More often than not, not getting ladies has more to do with not making the moves rather than how you look. I know obese people who get laid more than I do


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: JacksonMetaller]
    #18072141 - 04/07/13 02:05 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Same boat as u OP
I never had these kind of troubles when i was younger
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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: JacksonMetaller]
    #18072151 - 04/07/13 02:06 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Im normally a pretty confident guy , and i do work out to no avail , I might be doing it wrong but my doctor did tell me that it may just be a matter of time before i can put on weight.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18072173 - 04/07/13 02:09 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Either way, look at the site I posted its actually really good. Better than what it was a year or two ago when I first looked at it.

Rewritting my routine now after reading over it today.


There is a score of information there, best part is it's all free. He only asked that years from now, once you achieved your goals that if you feel like it; then donations are appreciated.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: The5thElement]
    #18072178 - 04/07/13 02:10 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Ill have to check it out


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18072259 - 04/07/13 02:21 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

If your concerned about your size lift weights and eat a lot of good food. Maybe check out starting strength.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Othyem]
    #18072331 - 04/07/13 02:35 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

I used to be really small compared to others my age all through childhood.

Then I got a job that required hard physical labor. I started to build muscle and develop quite an appetite. I went from a skinny 120 lb to a pretty stocky 200.

Eat lots of red meat and potatoes. Eggs and dairy will also help.

Getting some work where you are physically active will build you muscle the fastest. Nothing like spending 10 hours a day lifting stuff to get you strong in a hurry.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Aser]
    #18072657 - 04/07/13 03:32 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Hey there is one benefit to being smaller; you'll live longer than most other men! Have you tried dating short girls? Mexican girls are really short, I know a couple under 5 feet tall.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: robbyberto]
    #18072675 - 04/07/13 03:35 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Short girls are dreamy :yesnod:


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: The5thElement]
    #18072708 - 04/07/13 03:41 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Most short mexican girls here are far to fat for me or there like cholo yolo girls which is really unattractive to me


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18072716 - 04/07/13 03:43 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Don't know what cholo yolo girls are.


I like girls in all shapes and sizes, well maybe not all but a lot of body types turn me on.


I wish there was no STD's, I would seriously have sex with so many more people :lol:


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: The5thElement]
    #18072733 - 04/07/13 03:47 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

yolo you only live once , they use it as a reason to do stupid shit
then there just like gangerster girl who cake on make up on.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18072747 - 04/07/13 03:49 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Of fuck I remember yolo.


Some guy in the city I live in got that tattoo'd on his arm, big letters




YOLO


How lame is that one.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: The5thElement]
    #18072799 - 04/07/13 03:58 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

You gotta give woman the "%100"

Of the "%100," %30 is physical appearance (just get in shape) and %70 is confidence in yourself. You need power and inspiration.. you need DRIVE.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: shparky]
    #18076553 - 04/08/13 12:22 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Short girls can be pretty hot.
At least your not fat. Thats a bigger turn off than being short.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #18076571 - 04/08/13 12:26 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Yeah but being skinny is worse than being fat


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18076575 - 04/08/13 12:27 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Not to me. Being fat can be a very large problem in numerous ways (no pun intended)


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #18076598 - 04/08/13 12:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

As far as health yes as far as getting girls no


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18076877 - 04/08/13 01:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Quote:

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Most short mexican girls here are far to fat for me or there like cholo yolo girls which is really unattractive to me




That's too bad. One of the cutest chicks I have ever seem was a lil mexican girl. She's so freaking adorable.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: robbyberto]
    #18076896 - 04/08/13 01:34 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

One of my biggest problems is that most of the attractive girls in this university town are taller like 8+s who from what i can tell are just into guys atleast 5 10 which many have straight told me and guys with muscle


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    #18076912 - 04/08/13 01:37 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

If a person is that vapid then I doubt you're missing out on a really good girl.


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    #18077050 - 04/08/13 02:05 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Oh hell I love Cholo girls they are sexy as all blatant!

heres a video of cholo girls



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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #18077503 - 04/08/13 03:24 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

It isn't your size that's hurting you, it's how you see yourself.

Girls, above all, are attracted to one thing: confidence.

If you learn to stop putting yourself down about your body and be more confident, then make a few moves here and there, you'll naturally start getting girls.

I have a buddy who is almost exactly the same size as you and he does alright... he gets quite a few girls and has had a few long term relationships with some nice looking girls. He just has some swagger and he is a funny dude, so some women dig him

I'm skinny as fuck, too. I'm like 6ft, 135 lbs, but I still do alright. I've been with some solidly fine girls, and some near hags, too, I'm not picky at all. It's all about just talking to girls, and believing in yourself that you have a chance. And don't be afraid to practice on the girls you're not completely attracted to. You'll gain some confidence and you'll have some fun along the way.

And you know, you may not be able to change your body (at least overnight), but there are a few things you can do that will help. Buy some nicer clothes, get a haircut, and practice good hygiene. Doing things like that will immediately help.


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #18077543 - 04/08/13 03:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

I'd have no problem being with a short lean guy.  He'd need to be masculine and protective though, and treat me like a gentleman.  I love chest hair and beards.  That would be a bonus


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #18077892 - 04/08/13 04:32 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
It isn't your size that's hurting you, it's how you see yourself.

Girls, above all, are attracted to one thing: confidence.

If you learn to stop putting yourself down about your body and be more confident, then make a few moves here and there, you'll naturally start getting girls.

I have a buddy who is almost exactly the same size as you and he does alright... he gets quite a few girls and has had a few long term relationships with some nice looking girls. He just has some swagger and he is a funny dude, so some women dig him

I'm skinny as fuck, too. I'm like 6ft, 135 lbs, but I still do alright. I've been with some solidly fine girls, and some near hags, too, I'm not picky at all. It's all about just talking to girls, and believing in yourself that you have a chance. And don't be afraid to practice on the girls you're not completely attracted to. You'll gain some confidence and you'll have some fun along the way.

And you know, you may not be able to change your body (at least overnight), but there are a few things you can do that will help. Buy some nicer clothes, get a haircut, and practice good hygiene. Doing things like that will immediately help.




I agree its not how u look its how u see ur self! There's always someone out there who will love u for u! U just have to have patience!:grin:


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Pink_Mushroom11]
    #18079795 - 04/08/13 10:51 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Its not confidence , Im just having a hard time competing with people that are taller and better looking than me


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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18079890 - 04/08/13 11:14 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

Maybe it's time to lower your standards for women?

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Re: Having serious problems dating due to... [Re: Aser]
    #18079894 - 04/08/13 11:16 PM (10 years, 9 months ago)

I just go off what actually attracts me
I cant help it if some girls are just not attractive to me


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