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ConfettiHead
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Hoping Something Happens Here
#18045669 - 04/02/13 10:00 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I broke up with my ex-ex-girlfriend a year and a half ago and I just recently started talking to her again. It has been at least a year since we have spoken. During this time we have both dated and broken up with other people and now we are talking to each other again. I honestly have not been able to get over her and she has said the same thing about me. I truly think there is something special here. We currently live four hours away from each other, but there has been talk of me moving back closer to where she lives. There are many reasons why I want to move back and needless to say, she is one of the reasons. This is a big deal to me and sometimes I still wonder whether moving back is a good idea. It feels right, but I still wonder whether I am jumping the gun or not. I think it's a good move for many reasons...I just don't want to be disappointed.
Any thoughts?
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JacksonMetaller
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Re: Hoping Something Happens Here [Re: ConfettiHead]
#18045710 - 04/02/13 10:21 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I say get the ball rolling first before you make that commitment! It would suck for things to fall apart after you moved out away from all your friends and familiarities. Plus, if you both like eachother enough you'll be willing to make it work at a distance for at least a little while before having to make that decision. But good luck to ya man
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Re: Hoping Something Happens Here [Re: ConfettiHead]
#18045860 - 04/02/13 10:55 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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sex was amazing at first but then it got old
I just got out of this same type of thing
Its cool because your comfortable with them already so its a different relationship than with someone you just met but then the bullshit comes on faster so if your not compatible or your ticks make each other mad it will be over sooner.
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JacksonMetaller
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Quote:
mindapparatus said: sex was amazing at first but then it got old
I just got out of this same type of thing
Its cool because your comfortable with them already so its a different relationship than with someone you just met but then the bullshit comes on faster so if your not compatible or your ticks make each other mad it will be over sooner.
Guess it's situational. I know people who've gotten back with ex's and are still going strong. I think the big thing is to not expect some kind of epic romance. There may be some spark still there, or there might not be. Chances are you're going to get flung right into the middle of your old relationship though and you guys are going to have to put serious effort to move on from whatever issues led to the original break up. But that could be worth it in the end.
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funegi
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what were the reasons for the first break up?
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ConfettiHead
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Re: Hoping Something Happens Here [Re: funegi]
#18059506 - 04/04/13 07:20 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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The reason we first broke up is long and complicated.
Basically, I was living alone in an apartment and I lost my job and at the same time I was being a dumbass and blowing all my money on drugs. I actually came up short on rent and was evicted. This incident upset my girlfriend, but it wasn't enough to break it off with me just yet. Now I couldn't live with her at the time because she was at her parent's house still, so I started living homeless for awhile and then got into more drugs. From then on I became this mess of a person and she just didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore, which is understandable. I fell into a deep, dark depression and used more and more. Finally, reality dawned on me: "If you don't get the fuck out of dodge immediately, you will die." So, I left town to get away from the drugs and start a new life. My homeless travels brought me to a city that is four hours away where I eventually found shelter and a job. I started saving money and eventually got my own place again, started going to school again, and got a new girlfriend! However, I still had a deep love for my ex and could not get over her no matter how hard I tried. The new girlfriend and I didn't work out and that's fine, I didn't love her or anything, my ex was still on my mind constantly. So, after a year of not speaking to my ex at all I finally contacted her again. Turns out she still has love for me too and so far we have been talking quite a bit and all of our conversations have been super positive.
I want to go back to where she is and be with her again. I will continue to work and go to school, but I just want to be near her. I'm on a month-to-month lease at my current apartment and I can leave whenever. I figure I may just head back once the semester is over. That gives me a couple months to figure out if it's the right decision or not.
If anyone has any advice for me it would be greatly appreciated!
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Re: Hoping Something Happens Here [Re: ConfettiHead]
#18059957 - 04/04/13 09:06 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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If you don't want to be disappointed, fish in other ponds. Plenty of fish in that sea.
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