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I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me..
#18047930 - 04/02/13 05:33 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Alright, I need advice...
It's been about five months now that I've dated this pretty little thing:) extremely nice, cute funny and just an awesome women and great human in general.. It's just that I've grown up learning everything the hard way, being low class, going without food someday ect.. BASICALLY, I'm from a poor family, and she's from a very wealthy family, not that it matter to me what so ever about money.. She's never had a job, gets everything handed to her that she wants, her mom and dad spoil her like mad.. I don't care about that either, I do get worried that if I decide to let her move in, her way of life and my way of living is probably tow different extremes.. Also She knows nothing of street life, nothing about drugs, but she likes smoking on occasion and is open minded to drugs..I just wanna ask you guys if you think she's the one, or if I should think things over..
First off, things i think don't like about our relationship, do you think these are important?
- she's way smarter then me.. Like Asian smart.. I am jealous but I don't hold it against her:) - I can't stand her father.. He acts nice but he doesn't like me, when not to brag, but im the best boyfriend shes ever had..he doesn't like her coming to my house either and he's just.. A meany-headed jerk lol - I wish to grow any medicinal herbs/ plants or fungus i want to;)but idk how she will act. - she constantly says she wouldn't know what to do without me.. - ahh.. I took her virginty.. Think she will want to explore other men in the future? -she's weird, especially when stoned, I don't mean like normal silly high.. She just gets like a dumb drunk chick, it's mess.. But she has fun so I don't tell her, though. i don't want her to stop because I say some dick comment lol. -I think The deciding factor is mushies, if she isn't okay with my consumption and love for mushies, then ill have to move on to another girl... -this may sound weird but she doesn't give me personal space. Like ill be standing there, if she wants to talk to me she gets literally right up in my grizzle( white mans stupid words for face) Like we've had sex, madeout soooo many times, but it bothers me when people get that close when I'm trying to talk to them, also I catch her always trying to read my texts.. -I don't make enough money to support her like her parents do, it worries me.. -I love her so much but seriously we like never have sex probably one or twice in this last month.......HOW OFTEN A WEEK DO YOU GUYS NORMALLY SCREW?! I've been a patient turtle, but.. I really hate this shit, if we got married I'd have to deal with this? -- Everyman likes to be cuddled sometimes, she just kinda believes that only the guy should cuddle with the girl.. Which sucks. I like being cuddled too..
Things I loved about our relationship: - we never ever never fight. -I feel more love from her then anyone ive ever known, she really makes me feel loved. - she's always supportive and is behind almost all decisions I make. - I just fuckin love this girl man.. - I love her mom and step dad, all her siblings are cool. -we connect like no other, like if I had a Virginia, and she had a dick, we'd still be together, and we'd be the same person... Kinda fucked up analogy, but w/e - extremely awesome in bed surprisingly:)..well whenever the fuck that is lol -we both share the same love for nature, Hikes, walks, camping.. -I think I see forever when I look in her eyes, but this hesitation in my gut scares me..
What I planned on doing, was to have an extremely spiritual trip take 4-5 grams dry, lock the doors, kick everyone out, light my tibetan inscence, and just think... Not have a fun, giggly trip, but I'm looking for the answer to my problems, weather or not shrooms will help me decide idk, I've never taken 5 grams before..
I just don't want to waste my time, and effort on a relationship that will go nowhere.. I've had downright sexy women ask me to be fuck buddies! .. I know right! That never happened when I was single.. I politely declined because I'm not that kind of guy. It just angers me when I could be having sex, but I'm not because I'm to good of a person to dump my love for some other chick.
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P.s if you are kind enough to post an answer, please be respectful, she is still my girlfriend and not just a piece of ass to me:) thank you..... OH before i forget..if anyone wants to get riddance of any spore prints please pm me an offer... Ill send $ your way too. online spores are expensive and Mushies aren't in season here for a while and my "guy" moved states... I'm screwed out of this magical fruit unless i do it myself... Thanks guys.. If not that's totally fine by me;) can't hurt to ask right?
Seriously..Thank you :7)
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: Dr.Dankhead]
#18049030 - 04/02/13 08:50 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hey, dude, I'm from MN too. I have no spores unfortunately, though
Yeah, I'd say most of it sounds alright, but damn, you only have sex twice a month! That would be a big concern for me... and you've only been dating for 5 months. For me, I'd definitely want to fuck more and I'd think I should be fucking more by 5 months.
How old are you and her? Keep in mind that just because you have this girl move in with you, it doesn't mean that you'll be together forever.
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18049584 - 04/02/13 10:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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The point of her being smarter than you is actually a great thing IF she does not mind. It can only affect you for the best if you don't mind either.
And these points: - we never ever never fight. -I feel more love from her then anyone ive ever known, she really makes me feel loved. - she's always supportive and is behind almost all decisions I make. - I just fuckin love this girl man...
These make it a no-brainer for me. Go with it. And try to talk to her a bit more about your concerns. As you describe her, she should be very comprehensive anyway. A lot of people would envy such a situation of mutual love.
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: CrypticMike]
#18049717 - 04/02/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Twice a month? Dude that's terrible. My girl and I bone 5-7 times a week.
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: Dr.Dankhead] 1
#18049772 - 04/02/13 11:07 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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We can't tell you if we think that she's the one for you. We hardly know her or you, and to make a commitment to another person is a highly personal decision that can only be made between the parties that are directly involved.
As CrypticMike suggested, you should be talking to her about this. Not so directly as to say "I love you I love you not" or "I want to figure out if you are the one" - but about the things that are important to you that remain unanswered questions in your mind. Ask her questions about her interest in exploring other mind altering substances, and if she seems receptive you might mention your interest in growing your own so that you can experience them together. If you want to have more sex, engage her for it and see how she responds. If you don't feel that your signals are effective, open up a direct conversation about your physical/sexual desires and needs, and make sure to ask her about her's.
Generally, be open with your feelings and actions, and see how see reacts. Is she tolerant and accepting, does she make an effort to accommodate, or does she withdraw or even become hostile? You're not going to agree on everything, so if she isn't seeing eye to eye with you, take a step back and be honest with yourself in figuring out whether her disinterest/disapproval is something that you can accept and tolerate (and possibly work around). All great relationships incorporate a measure of willing compromise.
Only through communication and diligent observation of your mutual interaction will you know if she is right for you. In so far as her father not liking you, or the fact that you have been her only sexual partner, those are phantom fears that should hold no bearing on your decision. Good luck.
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: geokills]
#18049832 - 04/02/13 11:23 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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geokills said: We can't tell you if we think that she's the one for you. We hardly know her or you, and to make a commitment to another person is a highly personal decision that can only be made between the parties that are directly involved.
As CrypticMike suggested, you should be talking to her about this. Not so directly as to say "I love you I love you not" or "I want to figure out if you are the one" - but about the things that are important to you that remain unanswered questions in your mind. Ask her questions about her interest in exploring other mind altering substances, and if she seems receptive you might mention your interest in growing your own so that you can experience them together. If you want to have more sex, engage her for it and see how she responds. If you don't feel that your signals are effective, open up a direct conversation about your physical/sexual desires and needs, and make sure to ask her about her's.
Generally, be open with your feelings and actions, and see how see reacts. Is she tolerant and accepting, does she make an effort to accommodate, or does she withdraw or even become hostile? You're not going to agree on everything, so if she isn't seeing eye to eye with you, take a step back and be honest with yourself in figuring out whether her disinterest/disapproval is something that you can accept and tolerate (and possibly work around). All great relationships incorporate a measure of willing compromise.
Only through communication and diligent observation of your mutual interaction will you know if she is right for you. In so far as her father not liking you, or the fact that you have been her only sexual partner, those are phantom fears that should hold no bearing on your decision. Good luck.
Absolutely fantastic advice.
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Re: I love her? I love her not..(pretty long) please help me.. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18052792 - 04/03/13 02:51 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said:
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geokills said: We can't tell you if we think that she's the one for you. We hardly know her or you, and to make a commitment to another person is a highly personal decision that can only be made between the parties that are directly involved.
As CrypticMike suggested, you should be talking to her about this. Not so directly as to say "I love you I love you not" or "I want to figure out if you are the one" - but about the things that are important to you that remain unanswered questions in your mind. Ask her questions about her interest in exploring other mind altering substances, and if she seems receptive you might mention your interest in growing your own so that you can experience them together. If you want to have more sex, engage her for it and see how she responds. If you don't feel that your signals are effective, open up a direct conversation about your physical/sexual desires and needs, and make sure to ask her about her's.
Generally, be open with your feelings and actions, and see how see reacts. Is she tolerant and accepting, does she make an effort to accommodate, or does she withdraw or even become hostile? You're not going to agree on everything, so if she isn't seeing eye to eye with you, take a step back and be honest with yourself in figuring out whether her disinterest/disapproval is something that you can accept and tolerate (and possibly work around). All great relationships incorporate a measure of willing compromise.
Only through communication and diligent observation of your mutual interaction will you know if she is right for you. In so far as her father not liking you, or the fact that you have been her only sexual partner, those are phantom fears that should hold no bearing on your decision. Good luck.
Absolutely fantastic advice.
Heck yeah thank you everyone, I'm glad there's a Minnesotan out there lol I think I am just gong to sit down and talk to her about my concerns like you guys suggested. I think she Wants to have sex, she just doesn't like to initiate it, ya know? Throughout our relationship she waits for me to start everything.. I'm a timid turtle who never wants her to be uncomfortable so I'm always asking, "you alright with this? You sure.... She's really cool with everything other then sex, but when it comes down to it, she's just really hesitant.. I feel like its my fault for some reason, even though she says its not me, it's her.. Well I'm not that stupid, it must be me somehow.. ( I know i please her..it just kinda makes me glum..) I plan on talking to her, next time we get time.. Hopefully things will change, I really love her but what is a relationship without the physical side of things.. We're grown adults, I'd tell you more info but I didn't originally post anonymously I'm partially new to this site, I just decided to join the other day... So If you don't mind I'd like to just be brief on the details. She still lives with her dad, I live alone I'm under 25y.o.a.. Shes three years younger then me..
I really appreciate the answers, it's been really good advice.. Now that I know how often other people have sex, i think we should more often too, I feel like sex would help our relationship..mabey ill just do a test run and let her live with me.. And see how things go:) hopefully things will work out. i really love this girl, she really loves me, so hopefully everything works:) Thank you guys :7)
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