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Offlinewhole9
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Should I forgive him?
    #1796959 - 08/10/03 01:34 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

OK well basically I just found out that a kinda good friend of mine has been stealing shit from my house. Lets call him Stealer. Stealer has been taking small bills, and a few random objects (headphones, cd's ect.) from my hose for a long time now I guess. I never knew untill yesterday my other really good friend told me he took $8 from my desk cus we were gona go buy a 20 sack to smoke. I was pissed. I connected a few things that happened over the past few months instantly to him. My dads wallet was stolen, mine was too, and random shit has been disapearing. Now this friend is not just a friend, i mean hes a prety good friend. We have had some good times. He bought me a $250 radar detector just for no reason the other week. I think he feels bad, becuase his parents dont give him money at all, and he doesnt have a job. But I just cant forgive him.. he broke my trust. Its fucking over. Or should I forgive him and just watch him with a close eye? But see thats the thing I dont like the idea of having to watch a friend.. Its either 100% or get the fuck out my house kinda thing with me.. Comments would be appreciated..


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Offlinezandorf
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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1796965 - 08/10/03 01:37 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

well

confront him about it and see how you feel afterward?

i can't say that's the best advice in the world, but i know that's
what i would do.


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OfflineLikwidDrawp
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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: zandorf]
    #1796978 - 08/10/03 01:43 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

He may have character defects. Look into his personality, can he talk to you about ANYTHING with you feeling comfortable? The only theives that have come around here are no longer here, because they were all simply fucked up in the head. I was shocked when my buddy Johnny stole a 1/5 of my booze. He never showed any signs of dishonor. He was so ashamed he never came back, and I'm sure he knew not to come. To no suprise he has been diagnosed with bi-polar and gets a friggin' check from the government for his little brain disorder.

To forgive, or not to forgive.
I would forgive him, but never trust him again. Trust is a big thing, ya know. I dont trust many, as many are not trustworthy!


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1797298 - 08/10/03 04:23 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

You should talk to him .Maybe he has a deeper problem .Trust is something special .


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: sroc]
    #1797507 - 08/10/03 08:11 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Confronting him in a supportive and understanding way is probably the best course of action. If you don't do that, then I suggest you try to figure out what's going on in his life and to keep a close eye on him, to the point where it is obvious you're watching him to make sure he's not stealing anything - just don't be an ass about it or mean or anything. Kind of let him know you know what has been going on, and that you want to help him.

If he refuses to get help, then after the problem is discussed and he is refusing to get help, then you need to tell him that you feel uncomfortable with his actions and that you feel it he is being unfair in the friendship. How can he expect to be friends with you when he is engaging in self-destructive and destructive in general behavior? Be supportive, but in the end you may have to draw the line for your own safety if he refuses to get help and if the problem doesn't get any better.

Good luck, hope it turns out well.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1798158 - 08/10/03 02:53 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Some people feel the need to steal. I'm pretty sure there's even a mental disorder associated to compulsive stealing.

Before you jump to any conclusions, sit down with him and talk. Give both of you some time. I'm sure you'll figure something out.

He does sound like a good friend. But maybe he just can't help putting a few things in his pockets here and there. Maybe give him another chance, but if he steals again, forget about him.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: Meph]
    #1798231 - 08/10/03 03:28 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

yeah confront him and if he doesnt give your shit back tell him you forgive him. then just wait till it dies down and steal loadsa shit from his house.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1799171 - 08/10/03 08:39 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

id forgive him, but def after confronting him


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Offlinewhole9
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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: ]
    #1799526 - 08/10/03 10:32 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

already did confront him he said he would pay me back full, but I dont know what else he has stolen from me really... And its hard to guess becuase I dont how many times he got away with it..


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1799654 - 08/10/03 11:19 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

This post made me think of a scene in Trainspotting, where the character Mark has two of his friends living with him. Mark says his two friends sit around all day looking for stuff to steal from him.. but he goes on to say something like: They are my mates, what could I do?

I would confront him about it. He will most likely deny it so make sure you have some evidence to back it up and then see what he says. If he gives you a genuine appology then consider staying friends with him. If he basically tells you to go fuck yourself then don't be friends with him anymore.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: FileSoup]
    #1799859 - 08/11/03 12:25 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Confront him about atleast the $8 and mention the other stuff, he probably wont do it again. If he tried to lose contact, i would try and talk to him again cause some people get scared and shamed and will leave forever...especially GOOD friends so it could be a big loss to you. People make mistakes, and when they go unnoticed, and they profit from them, its easy to do again till they get caught..its a flaw, but it doesnt sound like hes trying to rob you, he just has a little thief in him, and you letting him know whats up will probably fix the problem. I cant say, its your call, but if you trusted him while he was still doing this and you didnt know about it, you still had reason to trust him. now that its worn thin, you still know where he stands on those other levels. dont give up a good friend because of a mistake like that.

on the other hand some people gotta get the boot cause they will pawn anyting you got for crack money ;]


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: tak]
    #1803673 - 08/12/03 12:23 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Never forgive anyone. That's something I've learned. Don't trust anyone and don't forgive them.
-Mr.Sleep


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Offlinewhole9
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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: MrSleep]
    #1804474 - 08/12/03 04:44 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

gawd this is hard. He hasnt called me in weeks. I think he feels like shit, I miss him too. He also just got a job working at an auto place :laugh: good for him. Its like his dream job. It would be mine too ;D we both love cars.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1808487 - 08/13/03 08:25 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Fuck that assmaster, I let someone stay with me when he had nowhere else to go, and I ended up $700 on the short end of the deal by the time he left, not to mention the $400 i spent on a futon so he'd have a place to sleep. He even changed his mailing address to mine, even though the cops were looking for him for shit! People are best left to take care of their own problems, I wouldn't worry about the fuck.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: TheHobbit]
    #1808495 - 08/13/03 08:36 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

I'd forgive him, my mate used to do it a lot even to me, was never anything major mainly weed and money. I think it all starts when they do it for the first time and get away with it.
I think everyone's taken a candy-bar from a shop when they were younger and felt the fear and andrenalin. I think they kinda get hooked on it and start thinking less about the trust they are violating, all my other friends have practically disowned him, he even moved away but I still see him every now again and he's still one of my close friends. Thankfully, he has changed I think he realised it got him nowhere, friends will share anyway...
Stealing is ultimately self-defeating, if you think your friend is a cool guy that has just fucked up then stick with him, sorry to sound cheesy but lead by example.....


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: st0nedphucker]
    #1808773 - 08/13/03 11:34 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Call him up and ask him if he wants to hang out. Just put it behind you and act like it's old times. Just don't put up with it.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: neutralizer]
    #1808796 - 08/13/03 11:42 AM (13 years, 7 months ago)

I wouldn't have that shit going on at all. I'd tell him to fuck off and I'd find a new friend.
-Mr.Sleep


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: MrSleep]
    #1808931 - 08/13/03 12:35 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Me too. I would kick his ass first though.


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: shakta]
    #1808944 - 08/13/03 12:41 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

Of course if he still steals from you, you probably wouldn't want to be around him. But if he's got his shit together, what's the problem with being friends again?


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Re: Should I forgive him? [Re: whole9]
    #1819462 - 08/16/03 12:09 PM (13 years, 7 months ago)

wow that would really piss me off, i say screw him


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