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my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. 2
#17958404 - 03/15/13 12:23 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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i made several threads here about her, how she led me on and then brushed me off when i asked her out last year.
I gave her a long speech today where i profess my crush towards her and tell her i have very strong feelings for her and i can't handle it and I just want her to reject me so i can move on. she said she's not going to reject me. I beg her to. she says no. I ask her out. she asks where. I throw out "movie", and she said yes.
we're going to meet up next week thursday morning to watch a movie. we both work the night shift that day, and she has kids and i have class so we don't have that much free time.
so what's going to happen? How is this going to go down? i doubt we'll be doing anything sexual given the time period that we'll be going out. i have no experience with girls.
what do i do?
and is this just another of her tricks? Is she still leading me on, but taking it one step further this time by getting a free movie out of it?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17958457 - 03/15/13 12:42 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Great news man! Just be honest, be congruent, be yourself and be brave. When and if you feel like it, make a move, try to touch her. If you don't feel like it, don't do it. It's all about how you feel and what you desire, but of course have consideration for her. If she doesn't let you do anything sexual, don't force it. Try it and see, but don't apologize for your natural desires
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Fedor]
#17958632 - 03/15/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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i wish you the best of luck
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: i made several threads here about her, how she led me on and then brushed me off when i asked her out last year.
I gave her a long speech today where i profess my crush towards her and tell her i have very strong feelings for her and i can't handle it and I just want her to reject me so i can move on. she said she's not going to reject me. I beg her to. she says no. I ask her out. she asks where. I throw out "movie", and she said yes.
we're going to meet up next week thursday morning to watch a movie. we both work the night shift that day, and she has kids and i have class so we don't have that much free time.
so what's going to happen? How is this going to go down? i doubt we'll be doing anything sexual given the time period that we'll be going out. i have no experience with girls.
what do i do?
and is this just another of her tricks? Is she still leading me on, but taking it one step further this time by getting a free movie out of it?
Nice!
Well, she could have had a year now to regret saying no to you.
Either way sounds like she's interested.
I doubt someone would just try to get a free $8 movie.. man.. you're good.
Godspeed!
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Adden]
#17958745 - 03/15/13 02:17 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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bring a sexy movie over to her house, something so ridiculous you wont be able to watch it very long, like lord of the g strings. morning sex
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17958751 - 03/15/13 02:18 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Uhm, well good luck. I hope it works out.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17958889 - 03/15/13 03:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, i don't understand one thing. The other day we were flirting a lot, and when we were alone she just out of the blue asked me "If I wanted to have sex with you, would you have sex with me?"
That seems like .. well, she wants the D.
But when i asked her out, the first thing I said was "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" because I was trying to get her to reject me. She didn't say no, but she didn't say yes either. She said "you have to get to know me first." So I asked her out, and she asked where. I tried to be funny and made jokes about going to mcdonalds. she didn't really laugh and she said to come back to her when I think of a good place to go. That's when I said movie theater and she agreed.
What does this sound like to you guys? It sounds like she doesn't really want to have a sex on the first date thing with me...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: Well, i don't understand one thing. The other day we were flirting a lot, and when we were alone she just out of the blue asked me "If I wanted to have sex with you, would you have sex with me?"
That seems like .. well, she wants the D.
But when i asked her out, the first thing I said was "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" because I was trying to get her to reject me. She didn't say no, but she didn't say yes either. She said "you have to get to know me first." So I asked her out, and she asked where. I tried to be funny and made jokes about going to mcdonalds. she didn't really laugh and she said to come back to her when I think of a good place to go. That's when I said movie theater and she agreed.
What does this sound like to you guys? It sounds like she doesn't really want to have a sex on the first date thing with me...
Dude, she can always change her mind. People are ever changing! Don't lose your confidence so easily, don't doubt yourself. Just go with what you feel, sincerely.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Fedor]
#17958948 - 03/15/13 04:06 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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You guys are gonna make out/get it on in the movie theater. I used to do that all the time with my ex before we got hooked on heroin, then I would just nod out 15 minutes into the movie.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17958958 - 03/15/13 04:13 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Truth be told, she sounds about as insecure as you are and it's a miracle that you didn't completely blow it by 'trying to get her to reject' you. I'd recommend to consider her as a keeper.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: koraks]
#17960545 - 03/15/13 01:44 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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koraks said: Truth be told, she sounds about as insecure as you are and it's a miracle that you didn't completely blow it by 'trying to get her to reject' you. I'd recommend to consider her as a keeper.
yeah. it makes no sense that she said yes after i basically acted like a pathetic bitch. i was almost begging. "please just reject me, it hurts so bad, i'm crushing on you so hard and i can't take it, pleaase"
it makes me skeptical of this whole situation. it makes me think she's still playing me.
i can't take this suspense. i wish i could man up and have some confidence, because i'm pretty sure if i keep this up i'm going to turn her off inevitably.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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on one level you dont have any idea what she wants and why she wants you in this way. well maybe you do, we get attracted to eachother for many reasons and i bet if you loosened up a bit more you'd start seeing those things, why she likes you.
the best plan that ever was and will be in regards to courting women is to be yourself. yeahyeahyeah but some girls like loud dicks and all that and maybe those dudes get more poon than you (these are all thoughts, its much more complex than this!!!), but by being yourself you assure many things. you assure that you arent straining to say waht you want to say and do what you want to do; you see and feel the moment much better than if you are pretending to be other things, which means you'll have a better gauge of when she wants a kiss and when you can go down on her (this is a must too if youre not willing to go down why expect it in return? doing this will TOOTALLLY get her physically into you-and go for the clit and come in with the point of your tounge from underneath it to stimulate it instead of the clitoral hood...
dude good luck. just be yourself, everything comes from that honesty. everything
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: jw2234]
#17969348 - 03/17/13 03:23 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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wow i don't even know. She made me so fucking sad last night.
Giving me a bunch of attention when no one's around, then when other attractive guys are around she ignores me and flirts with them heavily in front of me. While KNOWING that I have very strong feelings for her. Asking someone to give her a massage while she giggles and moans while sitting right next to me. Staring at me and smiling and asking if I'm ok while I'm sitting there fuming with jealousy on the inside but trying to keep my calm and not let it get to me. As if she's trying to get a reaction out of me.
So fucking sad and confused and mad. She literally just played with my emotions and laughed at it.
I told her I bet she won't even call me when we go out. She swears she will.
If she even calls me, I'm just going to take her out to get food so we can sit and talk about what happened. I'm going to ask her why she did that to me. I'm going to ask her if everything she said to me about how she likes me was just a lie and she's just using me for attention.
you guys can't imagine the emotions I felt last night.. jesus fuck. It's so confusing because I'm resenting her for hurting me yet I still want her.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 1
#17969365 - 03/17/13 03:27 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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and if she doesn't call me, I guess I'll just never talk to her again.
fuck, i just want to hurt myself or something so I can feel some physical pain to distract myself from the emotional pain that I'm feeling.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: fuck, i just want to hurt myself or something so I can feel some physical pain to distract myself from the emotional pain that I'm feeling.
Don't do that. She's acting like a bitch, and it's not your fault at all. You don't need people like that to be around you, or tell her to change her ways because you don't want to hang out with her anymore, if she acts like that.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 1
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Not to be horrendously negative, but I've read all your threads about this girl, and she sounds like she cannot handle attention and will play games with any guy who doesn't come across as a confident as a force of nature and put her in her place.
By all means, take her out and see what happens, but she seems all too willing to shit on people she considers herself to have power over. Given the (in some ways admirable) level of openness and vulnerability you've shown her, you fall into the category of people she thinks she has power over.
Good luck, and I really do wish you well, but don't put a tremendous amount of hope on this girl. She sounds manipulative and weak willed, based on what you've said about her in the past.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: EllisDSox] 1
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This person does not have the emotional capacity to sustain a relationship, OP. She is one of those people who are completely terrified of emotional intimacy and will never be able to sustain a relationship.
Move on. She is not going to change and come back to you the way you desire.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17969816 - 03/17/13 05:10 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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yes she does.. she used to be married and she has 3 kids.
you know what makes me sad?
The guy who said this woman needs a man who's confident to put her in her place.
I want to be that man, but i'm just a weak little bitch and that's why she walks all over me .
I don't even know what approach to take the next time I see her. Do I show my vulnerability again, or do I harden myself and straight up tell her that she's really messing me up and we can't talk anymore?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17969873 - 03/17/13 05:23 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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i mean you're all right, obviously she's being a total bitch.
But I know there's a good side in her too. I know she's a kind person. I suspect she just has a personality flaw of craving attention way too much. She craves it so much that she's willing to hurt people that she would normally care about to get it... she's not a bad person.
I don't know if it's as simple as completely cutting her off and moving on. We're coworkers too... and i'd like to maintain friendly relations with her without dying inside every time I see her.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17969886 - 03/17/13 05:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: yes she does.. she used to be married and she has 3 kids.
you know what makes me sad?
The guy who said this woman needs a man who's confident to put her in her place.
I want to be that man, but i'm just a weak little bitch and that's why she walks all over me .
I wasn't saying that as a criticism of your character, I'm just observing that there is a certain type of woman who will mistreat and disrespect anyone who doesn't give them a firm hand. Even if you were a guy that's confident in the way a girl like that wants, it wouldn't make her the girl for you. That someone will mistreat anyone they feel will not retaliate and respect only those who they see as strong isn't the best indication of a good person. If you're the type of guy who just wants to avoid games, be straight up and honest and expects the same of a woman, she's not the girl for you. Don't idolise the girl just because you've wanted her for a long time and be denied. Take her as she is, and see if the real person (rather than your fantasy woman personified) is actually worth a damn.
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evenbreak said: I don't even know what approach to take the next time I see her. Do I show my vulnerability again, or do I harden myself and straight up tell her that she's really messing me up and we can't talk anymore?
You can't fake it, one way or another. If you have the confidence, just ask her straight up whether she's interested or not, make it clear you're fine either way, and that you'd rather drop contact entirely than play games.
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I don't know if it's as simple as completely cutting her off and moving on. We're coworkers too... and i'd like to maintain friendly relations with her without dying inside every time I see her.
Didn't see that post before I made mine. If cutting contact isn't an option, just amend what I said above to basically state "friends or something more, but no fucking around in between".
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17969905 - 03/17/13 05:29 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think the first thing I would do is stop emotionally investing in someone who treats you in a way they wouldn't want to be treated. What makes this girl so special?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: EllisDSox]
#17969920 - 03/17/13 05:31 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Man, you can't let her treat you like that, and don't hangout with her if she does. That's a pretty fucked up thing to do. I get wanting her still, but you gotta let her know that that's unacceptable. Tell her to fuck off and ignore her
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17969951 - 03/17/13 05:37 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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why would you wanna be with a lady whos been married and has three kids? she sounds a bit out of your league and she likes to play with you because youre sweet to her and theres no strings attached (ie sex, feelings SHE has for you, attraction even maybe).
if i were you in your dating history id find someone more to your type that you arent obsessed with so much before getting intimate. im sorry but the situation from your standpoint it seems kinda like a highschool crush. just talk to more women you find interesting and move on.
also it seems like youre trying to make her feel sorry for you or something by acting the way you have. maybe thats another reason why she hasnt told you to go away. she dont like but shes known you long enough to not wanna hurt you too much.
seems highly complicated id find something better.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: EllisDSox]
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evenbreak said: yes she does.. she used to be married and she has 3 kids.
you know what makes me sad?
The guy who said this woman needs a man who's confident to put her in her place.
I want to be that man, but i'm just a weak little bitch and that's why she walks all over me .
I wasn't saying that as a criticism of your character, I'm just observing that there is a certain type of woman who will mistreat and disrespect anyone who doesn't give them a firm hand. Even if you were a guy that's confident in the way a girl like that wants, it wouldn't make her the girl for you. That someone will mistreat anyone they feel will not retaliate and respect only those who they see as strong isn't the best indication of a good person. If you're the type of guy who just wants to avoid games, be straight up and honest and expects the same of a woman, she's not the girl for you. Don't idolise the girl just because you've wanted her for a long time and be denied. Take her as she is, and see if the real person (rather than your fantasy woman personified) is actually worth a damn.
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evenbreak said: I don't even know what approach to take the next time I see her. Do I show my vulnerability again, or do I harden myself and straight up tell her that she's really messing me up and we can't talk anymore?
You can't fake it, one way or another. If you have the confidence, just ask her straight up whether she's interested or not, make it clear you're fine either way, and that you'd rather drop contact entirely than play games.
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I don't know if it's as simple as completely cutting her off and moving on. We're coworkers too... and i'd like to maintain friendly relations with her without dying inside every time I see her.
Didn't see that post before I made mine. If cutting contact isn't an option, just amend what I said above to basically state "friends or something more, but no fucking around in between".
i straight up told her that I won't hold it against her if she's not attracted to me. She just said "who said i wasn't attracted to you? i never said that."
you know, now that I thought about it, she didn't say "I'm attracted to you." She kind of dodged the question.
obviously you guys have no emotional investment in this woman so it's easy for you to tell me to cut off contact with her or tell her to fuck off. It's not that simple for me.
So I guess all signs point to her being of a higher social status than me? Out of my league? I even told her that. I told her I don't think i'm her type and she's not attracted to me, and she proceeded to list all my good qualities and say that's not true. That's what makes this hurt so much more. She seriously lied to my face like that, about something so personal?
yeah, i've never been a cutter but i'm getting thoughts.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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alright, listen. Maybe i'm blowing this up in my head, please give me opinions on what actually happened.
The guy asks her if she wants a massage. She says yes, she's very sore. We work a physical job.
He massages her and they talk softly. She moans and giggles and makes sexual noises. She keeps looking at me and saying my name while I awkwardly try to focus on the TV. She acknowledges that I'm jealous, and reaches her hand out to me, offering to hold my hand. I'm way too hurt at this point to do anything but brush her off.
15 minutes of massaging later, she asks if I want her to massage me. I say no. I'm very cold to her at this point, and people can tell. Whenever she says my name or looks at me and smiles while being massaged, the guy massaging her is looking at me too and i just feel fucking pathetic. But I try my best to not show it and keep a poker face. The only thing that gave away my hurt feelings was how quiet and stoic I was, because if it didn't bother me i would just be cracking jokes about it or smiling about it.
Maybe she's just saying my name to reassure me that she still likes me and just wants a massage?
Afterwards, I cold shoulder her for a bit and talk to some other girl and she starts acting jealous and asking why I'm talking to her. We start working, and she calls me out for acting cold. I walk up to her as she's calling me out and I give her a tight hug. I felt her lips on my neck, she says i smell good, and we start flirting again.
But later that night, when we clocked out, she didn't even say goodbye or walk with me to the car. It's a long walk, 10 minutes. She walked with another guy in front of me while talking to him, staring at him, and twirling her hair flirtily. Normally she gives me tons of attention and I would think if we're going on a date in 4 days she would at least want to walk with me to her car...
So those are the 2 incidents that happened yesterday that got me so worked up. Am I taking this out of proportions?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17970135 - 03/17/13 06:08 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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dude its not complicated. women love attention. thats her whole reason for messing with your head im sure.
and you told her youre out of her league? pity is not how you get women to like you. itd be one thing if your lady cheated on you and you confided or your mom died or something but you dont just play that card 24/7.
you need to start not giving a fuck so much and date. maybe find a different job if its affecting you working around her. all i can say the hole things a bit ridiculous.
best of luck and remember shit can always be worse. least you got a job and some independence and freedom.
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#17970166 - 03/17/13 06:14 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Dude 100% honesty and not trying to be a dick but you probably turned her off with your huge lack of confidence and jealously. Those two things are incredibly big turn offs to women man. they are warnings signs of an insecure person and a window into what future problems could occur if you guys starting dating regularly.
I haven't commented on this post but I've read it and honestly I think you need to relax a bit, your clearly over analyzing and over indulged in the idea of you two being together.
I think they way you begged her to deny you was a huge mistake as well as giving her a "speech" and this incident you just described sounds like mistake number 3 and a sure sign to her your not confident and the jealous type.
I think you need to take a step back, relax a bit and not worry if things work out with this girl. You need to stop caring about being with her to help you not over think things. This hopefully will let you be laid back, easy going, and confident. Things she will find attractive and a way to redeem yourself a bit.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17970182 - 03/17/13 06:16 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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It is of my opinion that "leagues" don't exist really
I've never understood that whole thing, I don't think either of you or better or worse than the other
I dunno what to make of all this shit but i duno just thought i'd throw that out there for you to work with
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: Am I taking this out of proportions?
Yes, you sound a lot like I did about a year ago
You sound very serious about this whole thing, while the girl sounds like more of a "social butterfly" type of person who just dates whoever does this blah blah
You're more romantic, she isn't
Stop putting so much emotions into one single person in lief, the wisdom of life's experiences will teach you that is an error
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
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Sheekle said: It is of my opinion that "leagues" don't exist really
I've never understood that whole thing, I don't think either of you or better or worse than the other
I dunno what to make of all this shit but i duno just thought i'd throw that out there for you to work with
thats not what it means. it refers to experience sexually, dating or relationship wise. also looks can play a factor. so not so much about whos better just the fact that you or them are not on the same level of thinking or being.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17970294 - 03/17/13 06:36 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I dunno, OP. I think this has disaster written all over it. Sometimes when the sign says, "No Trespassing" it is really a safety issue. Think this over carefully, please. No sense in getting hurt here.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17971124 - 03/17/13 09:43 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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ok well I can't stop thinking about her and if she calls me tuesday I'll feel like a dumbass to brush her off. We were going to watch a movie. Should I just take her to starbucks and spend an hour arguing with each other about our emotions before I tell her that I can't talk to her anymore?
You know what fucking kills me if I cut off contact with her?
First she amps up the flirtiness 10x. Then if I keep brushing her off, she starts ignoring me while pouting and looking sad, while still being polite to me and helping me out with my work. It makes me feel like I'm a mean and bad person and she's the victim. It's so fucking stupid because I know I'm ignoring her to protect my emotions, but her tricks always wear me down and I give in and initiate contact again.
she's really really good at playing me. no matter what I try.
someone rip my heart out.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17971158 - 03/17/13 09:48 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Im sorry dude but how old are you?
Either go on a date with her with confidence, if it doesn't work out then deal with it. Or just be a co-worker who gets along with her and doesn't have feelings. its simple. some girls like to flirt, hell i like to flirt, i do it with all the coffee chicks a beaners everytime I go there. doesn't mean Im going to ask them on a date
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Intelligentxfruit]
#17974491 - 03/18/13 02:35 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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First of all, why the hell would you even chase after a woman that was already married and has THREE FUCKING KIDS. Add to that, she's a total fucking manipulative bitch and I would stay the fuck away from her. You're bound to keep getting hurt by this woman...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
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Forestdie said: First of all, why the hell would you even chase after a woman that was already married and has THREE FUCKING KIDS. Add to that, she's a total fucking manipulative bitch and I would stay the fuck away from her. You're bound to keep getting hurt by this woman...
Mrs. MPD had FOUR kids when I met her. That was 29 years ago and now we have 6 kids and 11 grandkids. Crazy, right?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17975140 - 03/18/13 04:45 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Damn OP...
I'm sorry you have gotten yourself in this type of situation. It truly is a difficult one to get out of, especially if you have allowed yourself to become so emotionally invested in it.
Don't lose hope though. There is really only 1 way for you to guarantee that you do not end up feeling like a chump over this:
Lose the emotional attachment.
The second you stop giving a fuck about how much she likes attention from other males, the likelier you are to have a fun time with this chick.
I'm sure it sounds extremely difficult, but you really have to become detached from all the expectations you have created in your mind about her. She is a single woman with children, I imagine this makes her very insecure. The last thing she wants around her is someone to make her feel even MORE insecure than she probably already does.
Don't act like a bitch and go have some fun with her. That's the whole point is to go have some fun.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17976728 - 03/18/13 09:39 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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she says she's extremely confident. She says guys hit on her all the time and i can tell she loves it. It validates her. She has high standards for guys, she says, and expects them to treat her really really well. A lot of ego in her... I don't think she's insecure at all.
Tomorrow is the moment of truth, if she even calls me or not.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17976857 - 03/18/13 10:06 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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honestly i would call that insecure. having a man validate your worth. she sounds like she's good at playing a part. also reminds me of the cat in heat from south park.
i don't like the fact that she had some guy rub on her and enjoying it while trying to hold your hand. it kinda seems like she's telling you that she can get any guy and you're not important enough. if a guy i digged was with me and some other dude offered a massage, i'd say i would want one from the guy i digged. although it could be to see how much you could buck up to her.
i think she doesn't know what to do with how emotional you are, how she could be, and how dependent you already are with her. you need to back up. and honestly i was thinking you should ignore the whole thing with the massage, i know this will be really hard but totally act like it didn't even matter in the end. if she wants to do that. that's her thing. whatever. if she keeps doing it. chuck her.
things might change after the date, but like everyone said. have fun. that's it. stop being so up her butt or i'll smack you. you keep telling her about how she probably doesn't like this or that about YOU. you need to tell you that SHE'S probably not YOUR type. stop making yourself feel so goddamn unimportant.
man you gotta check yo self before you wreck yo self. focus on your own worth. you are what you have to live with. learn to love it.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17981043 - 03/19/13 07:13 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: i straight up told her that I won't hold it against her if she's not attracted to me. She just said "who said i wasn't attracted to you? i never said that."
you know, now that I thought about it, she didn't say "I'm attracted to you." She kind of dodged the question.
obviously you guys have no emotional investment in this woman so it's easy for you to tell me to cut off contact with her or tell her to fuck off. It's not that simple for me.
So I guess all signs point to her being of a higher social status than me? Out of my league? I even told her that. I told her I don't think i'm her type and she's not attracted to me, and she proceeded to list all my good qualities and say that's not true. That's what makes this hurt so much more. She seriously lied to my face like that, about something so personal?
yeah, i've never been a cutter but i'm getting thoughts.
What the hell, you couldv'e just gone ahead and asked her if you were a pathetic bitch. Never diminish yourself in front of a girl. I'd also say, don't belittle yourself in front of someone at all.
If you want this, you'll need to step up, not physically, or intellectually - just being more confident. Easier said than done but the problem isn't really being confident, but LOOKING confident. You said yourself that you believe she's a confident woman. But maybe she's not? She just looks that way. Appearance is the key, at least in this game. In the general game of life, that's another story...
In short, step up, don't whine, if you felt disrespected simply tell her so, don't apologize or fall on your knees or beg for another date.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Kukaracha]
#17981287 - 03/19/13 08:15 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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lol she didn't even fucking call. fuck. I remember saying to her that I bet she won't even call, all the signs pointed to her not calling, and she swears that she'll call me.
The truth all comes out. Every single word she said about liking me was all just a lie. She just wanted attention, and she'll do whatever it takes to get attention even if it means hurting someone she supposedly cares about. She really just doesn't give a fuck about me as a person, does she?
Every time i think about her, i'm going to hurt myself somehow. I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this.
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#17981560 - 03/19/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: lol she didn't even fucking call. fuck. I remember saying to her that I bet she won't even call, all the signs pointed to her not calling, and she swears that she'll call me.
The truth all comes out. Every single word she said about liking me was all just a lie. She just wanted attention, and she'll do whatever it takes to get attention even if it means hurting someone she supposedly cares about. She really just doesn't give a fuck about me as a person, does she?
Every time i think about her, i'm going to hurt myself somehow. I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this.
Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
You have dug yourself too deep into a hole. I recommend you do everything you can to get as far away from her as possible - avoid this bitch like the plague before you end up hurting yourself.
You sound like a pretty unstable guy and it might be best if you quit this job if you don't think you can handle being in her presence. If you desperately need the job then you are going to have to find a way to keep your shit together and tolerate her presence.
You have already lost with this chick. Count your losses, move forward, and DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE EVER AGAIN!
I can guarantee she will make up some bullshit excuse the next time you see her that will melt your heart and keep you interested. She is playing you for a sap because of how much attention you give her without expecting anything more than her approval in return.
Don't be a sap.
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#17981585 - 03/19/13 09:09 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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It sucks to hear you had to go through this situation man 
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evenbreak said: Every time i think about her, i'm going to hurt myself somehow. I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this.
I have a bitter, alcohol uncle. He has the roughest voice out of anyone I know. One time when we were drunk and sitting by a campfire in his deep grizzly voice he was telling me about someone he know who killed themself. He kept saying "Don't you ever do anything stupid" in his super strong stern voice over and over.
I want you to pretend he's saying that to you. Don't you ever do anything stupid.
"I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this"
I've been through many situations in my life where I thought the mental pain would nnever go away but it does and shit
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17981592 - 03/19/13 09:10 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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shimishimiman said: Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
Hey just out of curiousity how long did you know this girl who you had intense feelings for?
I'm creating mathematical equations of feelings and how long it takes people to like each other and stuff
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#17981662 - 03/19/13 09:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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shimishimiman said: Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
Hey just out of curiousity how long did you know this girl who you had intense feelings for?
I knew her for about two years before I tried to get with her. We were friends in high school and I tried to make her my girlfriend when I went to college. It probably would have worked too if I hadn't been so completely clueless when it came to women and sexuality in general.
That's pretty much the reason I was unable to get over it - because I felt like I had failed as a human being in my relationship with that girl. The truth is that she was pretty much a huge bitch and I was too sensitive at the time to want an emotionally uninvolved sexual relationship with her, or anyone for that matter.
It's all water under the bridge now.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17981778 - 03/19/13 09:43 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I didn't bother to read more that your first post OP.
You fucked yourself from the get go making yourself overly available and pretty much set the stage for your new position as doormat.
You basically turned in your balls and your emotions are directly tied to the little scraps she throws and pulls away from you.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#17981952 - 03/19/13 10:19 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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holy shit she really is going to melt me again isn't she
i'm so fucking angry and sad right now but all she has to do is smile and be nice to me for a week and give me hugs and even if i push her away she just persists and i'm her bitch again
holy fuck i have no control. i'm completley powerless. i understand why people cut myself now. i've been punching the wall and my fists are bleeding and it feels so good to feel physical pain that distracts me from this emotional pain and feeling of helplessness
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982034 - 03/19/13 10:36 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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thats sounds like a shitty situation.
however, next time you feel the need to think about that succubus. i suggest you reread this thread.
lots of good advice was given. you should listen to it.
little tip though.
the reality is love can make us all blind to the others faults. and when i say blind i mean delusional. actually its possible in any friendship too . but even more when it comes to the mysterious ways of women. take it as a learning experience.
and learn to choose wisely in who you wanna have feelings for.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17982209 - 03/19/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, It's easy for you guys to call her a bitch, because you only heard my side of the story. And you haven't seen her charm.
If you met this girl in real life, you would see how nice of a person she is. Extremely friendly and helpful to everyone she meets.
How can I continue viewing her as a bitch when she's actually a genuinely good person?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982240 - 03/19/13 11:24 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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yep she sure seems to be the compassionate and generous type. she sounds like she helped you a bunch by leading you on.
read my last post about when i mentioned becoming blind to reality again. remember dont expect different results from the same actions. thatd be insane
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
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yep she sure seems to be the compassionate and generous type. she sounds like she helped you a bunch by leading you on.
read my last post about when i mentioned becoming blind to reality again. remember dont expect different results from the same actions. thatd be insane

aside from the leading me on part, obviously...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982354 - 03/19/13 11:54 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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read this whole thread, dude, take everyone's advice.
a lot of people here including me have gone through similar situations, she's using you because she knows she can and you've gotten yourself stuck in a cycle that you don't seem to want to get out of.
best of luck man.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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It seems pretty obvious that no matter what anyone says you are still going to defend this chick and cause bodily harm to yourself in the process.
Sorry dude, but if I was her I probably wouldn't want to be with you either. You make it seem as though charm and compassion are rare qualities in a female. They are base-level traits that anyone who qualifies as a decent human being must possess in order to be socially adept.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume she's probably the only attractive chick who has ever shown you any attention before. SHE IS NOT FUCKING ATTRACTED TO YOU, SHE IS JUST TELLING YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR BECAUSE YOU ARE GUILT TRIPPING HER INTO SAYING IT!
Your bleeding heart is unfit for a modern female and you cannot guilt trip a woman into loving you.
Please, cut the emo shit and learn to act like a man before you descend even further into the pathetic abyss you have decided to hurl yourself into.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17987225 - 03/20/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP, do you need that smack now?
but i'm really sorry about all that. i wanted to say she wouldn't call but i really hoped she would be a good person about it. but she's not. don't think she is. she's a scared little girl who needs as much affection from others because she can't provide it to herself.
man there are seriously so many girls out there that are better. you need to take care of yourself, build your courage and your confidence and love yourself more and find them.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17987951 - 03/21/13 02:49 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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She isn't worth it. She is no different than any other chick who has the same M.O. ... They are just attention whores and will never be exclusive to you or anyone for that matter.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: wow i don't even know. She made me so fucking sad last night.
Giving me a bunch of attention when no one's around, then when other attractive guys are around she ignores me and flirts with them heavily in front of me. While KNOWING that I have very strong feelings for her. Asking someone to give her a massage while she giggles and moans while sitting right next to me. Staring at me and smiling and asking if I'm ok while I'm sitting there fuming with jealousy on the inside but trying to keep my calm and not let it get to me. As if she's trying to get a reaction out of me.
So fucking sad and confused and mad. She literally just played with my emotions and laughed at it.
I told her I bet she won't even call me when we go out. She swears she will.
If she even calls me, I'm just going to take her out to get food so we can sit and talk about what happened. I'm going to ask her why she did that to me. I'm going to ask her if everything she said to me about how she likes me was just a lie and she's just using me for attention.
you guys can't imagine the emotions I felt last night.. jesus fuck. It's so confusing because I'm resenting her for hurting me yet I still want her.
Don't let her walk all over you or play you like a fiddle? Maybe you should give her a taste of her own medicine when there are other ladies around......
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: MagicMyc]
#17989066 - 03/21/13 11:20 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just go for it.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: NastyNoah]
#17989178 - 03/21/13 11:44 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I spent the whole day tuesday and wednesday hurting myself. I did it in a way that won't harm me long term. Rubber band around my wrist, I pull it and snap it on my wrist every time I think about her so I associate thoughts about her with pain. I do meditation practices and try to stay focused on the present.
Things got much more complicated when I came in to work last night. She was sitting in the breakroom, and the moment I walked in, she said "why did you ignore my call?" Apparently she did call me on tuesday, but my phone didn't receive it. I straight out said "bull shit you didn't call me" and I made her show me her phone and it did show that she called me. I told her I really thought she flaked on me, and I told her that'd be fine, i would get over it. She said she can't believe I thought she would flake on me. She said she would never do that to me.
We flirted a lot throughout the day. But I was very distant. She would walk really close to me and just put my hands around her waist and her hands around my neck but i would shake her off and walk away because i was so confused. I spent 2 days getting over her, convinced that she flaked on me, and I felt myself succeeding... and now it turns out I was mistaken all along? And also what about that time that she flirted with other guys right in front of my face? Do I really want to be with someone like that? Yet my emotions are flairing up when she flirts at me like that..
So I said "so let's go out monday?" And she said she's moving out of her apartment in the next couple days so she'll be busy and she'll let me know when's a good time. She asked if I wanted to help her move, and I said yes. I should have asked for her address or asked when is a good time to come over, but instead I just changed the subject.
We had a long talk as we got off work. We talked for 30 minutes. I begged her to reject me. I told her that on tuesday when I thought she flaked on me, I felt really hurt, but I also felt really relieved to know the truth. I told her that if she just told me she just wanted to be friends, I would completely understand and I would feel a lot better than being strung along. She said she understood what I was saying, and she's still not going to reject me.
I told her I'm getting a very strong vibe from her that she's just using me for attention. I told her I think she's leading me on. I said other girls have done that before. She told me that's really messed up. She said she would never do that, and asked me if I really think she has such a black heart.
so i don't know what the fuck. I Just don't. know. what. the . fuck.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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Go over and help her move. See where that takes you.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
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Even if she did call you I would stay the fuck away from her. You DO NOT need her in your life. From what it seems, mentally you're completely unstable and adding her into your life will only make things worse.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
#17990074 - 03/21/13 03:07 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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jesus man you told her youve been lead on before? why didnt you just say you dont like flaky people? you just pulled the pity angle again.
ive been obsessed a few ladies in my days. granted i was intimate beforehand but i know the feeling. the painful reminder thing is a bit weird though i must say. you might have a few issues you need to resolve with yourself before you can even have a healthy relationship because youre identifying coping with emotional pain with physical pain. thats not good.
anyways, did you ask her why didnt she call again or leave a voicemail or text? that would seem fishy to me. after all, you say youve known her for two years.
my opinion is that you should work on yourself before you attempt a relationship. but if you feel that you must pursue the lady then do it. i know how regret feels and it sucks bad too. and it could teach you a few things.
maybe talk to someone professionally about all these issues you seem to be going through if you seem to get worse over this woman in the near future. whatever you do. dont tell her you hurt yourself. shell be freaked. and dont forget you WORK with this lady. i just hope youre not her boss because that would complicate it even more.
good luck really. you seem like you sure could use it.
this is highly sensitive for you i can tell. so this is all i can say as advice. seems too delicate and i hate to add fuel to the fire.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17990112 - 03/21/13 03:18 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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she said she just assumed i was pulling a "player move" and didn't want to go out with her :/. she said she wasn't the type who begs or keeps on calling.
whatever. obviously i know my head is fucked. but I can't just forget about her until she flat out rejects me. if there's any chance that she actually likes me, i absolutely have to pursue it or i'll never be able to sleep easy for the rest of my life.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17990147 - 03/21/13 03:26 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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does a player take two years to pick up a lady he likes? does a ladies man act the way you did and make himself look the way you have?
thats a pretty bad excuse on her part.
all the same. i still stand by everything i told you here. same as go for it if you feel you must. either way it will be a experience for you. what kind is something youre gonna have to find out, i guess.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17991560 - 03/21/13 07:55 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Bro she is full of shit how can you NOT see that. You know full out that she KNOWS you're not a player. Holy fuck this situation has actually started to piss me off with how obsessed you are over somebody that DOES NOT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU. Fuck man, get the fuck away from her I'm telling you she is no good for you.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
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Fuck it man, you might as well go for it. Some people just need to humiliate themselves more than others before they learn their lesson.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17992250 - 03/21/13 10:11 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I told her i slept with a couple girls before. I told her about the girl that i slept with 1 time that called me 30 times every night at 6am in the morning. Made a thread about her.
So it's not entirely unplausible that she thinks i might be blowing her off.
I don't know. time will tell. In 2 weeks, the truth should all come out, and then i can deal with that later.
2 weeks is an eternity right now though :/.
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#17992316 - 03/21/13 10:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Dude... You're clearly not listening to anyones adivce. We all see this is fucked up and not good for you. Do what you do man, youre doing it despite everyones advice anyways....
Shes a cat with a string, and you're the string bro.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Intelligentxfruit]
#17992453 - 03/21/13 10:54 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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i don't understand.
it would fucking kill me if she was just leading me on this whole time. I don't want to get played like that.
But she straight up looked in my eyes and said she's not a cruel hearted person and she would never lead me on like that. She acknowledged how fucked up that would be, and she said she's not a bad person.
She would have to be the scummiest person in the world to say that with such a sincere and genuine tone, only to be lying the whole time.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17992592 - 03/21/13 11:30 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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just go with it even. youve gone this far.
i just thought you should be aware because you seem about the furthest thing from a player.
what she said was a big red flag. and donnt think that theres women out there who arent that self centered and narcissistic.
in fact ill give you a example. one of my best friends just had a breakup with his lady that he was with for almost 4 years. treated her like gold and she cheated on him with another good friend.
who is a roommate of his and a really good friend or was and a band mate that hed known for 5 years. people just can be that fucked up. so be aware.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17992642 - 03/21/13 11:53 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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man, stop waiting for her. If something happens let it happen, if not then so be it. Don't make the same mistake I did when me and my ex broke up and end up waiting 2 years for something to change, when perhaps it never will. You gotta be strong, I don't think many girls are attracted to those who appear weak and stop acting like nobody knows your pain because rest assured most of us do.
I waited like a fucking dog in the rain for my ex, and ultimately she did pop back into my life one day, quite recently actually and ended up basically completely fucking my mind over twice as hard again. She basically just hit the refresh button on me and my emotions, telling me she still loves me and crap. We were hanging out pretty frequently there for a month or two, until she stopped talking to me practically over night. I don't what the fuck is going on with her now, its been over a month since I have heard anything from her, I tried texting her awhile back to no response. she was at a low point if not rock bottom in her life when she reappeared in mine and i can honestly say i wasn't doing so well myself but I dont feel she had the right to drag me down with her.
not trying to jack your thread, but it gets more unfortunate then that. Add in she was addicted to heroin..that should have been a red flag there, coming from someone who has never taken an opiate in there life, I didn't know what the fuck to think. Talk about confusion but at the same time I really enjoyed her presence regardless. I should have just ran for the hills, but instead I kinda find myself in the same damn place again, yet this round I don't got the fucking time to wait in the rain any longer.
sorry for the rant, its just something I've been thinking about a lot lately.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Rafiikii]
#17994380 - 03/22/13 10:52 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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There are lessons in everything, OP has gone this far so he may as well see it to the end. Maybe it will work out, I personally doubt it though that's just my opinion. Either way hopefully he learns something from all this.
Word of advice though, if you can't feel happy and content on your own, and think relying on other people like this girl to do it for you, you won't find happiness with her or anyone for that matter. Don't let this person walk all over you, don't let anyone do that. People who don't stand up for themselves will be taken advantage of, and that should never be accepted by anyone. If she rejects you, be sad for a day; then get over it and move on. Be strong mother fucker, and find someone who won't make you feel sad or disrespect you.
There is literally billions of people out there, more than a few that are compatible with you or anyone else for that matter. Work on yourself, live your god damn life and be patient and when the time's right you'll find each other. At least that's what I like to believe.
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I waited like a fucking dog in the rain for my ex, and ultimately she did pop back into my life one day, quite recently actually and ended up basically completely fucking my mind over twice as hard again. She basically just hit the refresh button on me and my emotions, telling me she still loves me and crap. We were hanging out pretty frequently there for a month or two, until she stopped talking to me practically over night.
I've been there before man, it isn't easy.
and evenbreak, dude why are you even asking us for help anymore?
clearly you intend to obsess over her (in a very creepy manner I might add) until she finally just tells you to fuck off for being so whiny and creepy.
Not trying to be mean man, but you need a serious wake up call. I'm starting to wonder if you should even be trying to have a relationship with anyone as you can't even get a grip on your own emotions.
Food for thought.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#18011660 - 03/25/13 10:50 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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yay we had a long talk again where i told her all my feelings and she tells me to chill and that she really likes me and i should call her some time
and now i called her and texted her and she ignores me, yay just like last year.
hahaha. I texted her "you played a really good game, i'm not a sore loser. if i don't talk to you it's not because i'm mad, i'm just doing what i have to do to be happy and move on. nice knowing you."
i'm done. guess i should have listened to you guys.
fuck my life. i hope i heal soon.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18011682 - 03/25/13 10:55 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Plenty of other women out there man, don't even sweat it.
You'll feel better as soon as you choose to be, just move on and forget this chick.
She's not worth your time.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: The5thElement]
#18011691 - 03/25/13 10:58 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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How old are you man? you should like you're in highschool.... its called infatuation, for someone you never even dated you're acting way to emotional.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #4]
#18011746 - 03/25/13 11:09 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: How old are you man? you should like you're in highschool.... its called infatuation, for someone you never even dated you're acting way to emotional.

you don't think it's messed up that she knows full well that i'm infatuated with her, and then she says straight to my face that she's not leading me on and she really likes me and tells me to call her, only to ignore my calls and texts?
i fucking can't believe it. after our long talks where i pour my heart out to her. i tell her that i won't hold it against her if she just tells me the truth instead of stringing me along. she insists that she likes me.
jesus, what the fuck. i thought we were friends. i thought she cared about me at least as a human being. She said she understands how i feel and she wouldn't lead me on because she wouldn't want someone to do that to her and she's not a cold hearted person.
wtf is going on. how can somebody who i was convinced was a compassionate and nice person do this to me.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18011771 - 03/25/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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She probably felt sorry for you and weirded out. Welcome to reality bro, women like CONFIDENCE
Not many find an insecure highschool infatuated mentality attractive...move on and sack up. Be a man and gain some confidence.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #4]
#18011896 - 03/25/13 11:45 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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i tried to to tell you how buddy. theres cold fish in the sea. luckily only some are so poisonous.
look at it this way tho. shes most likely single with three kids for a reason. and least she isnt completely freaked out because you work with her. just keep your heart open and look to the future.
its what im doing after dealing with a bad breakup.
life just aint easy man. if it was everyone would do it righteously.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18012388 - 03/26/13 02:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Next time you meet a girl that you like, try not to beg for constant reassurance that she indeed likes you. You gotta know man and go from there! She may not always let you know, but that's sometimes just part of the game. Girls might try to lead you on and play you, but don't let them! If you like her, make a move and have some fun with the thing. Take a chance or two, and take a chance physically. When you get intimate, things will hopefully smoothen out and you'll be able to relax more. Relationships aren't meant to be a terrible heart breaking thing where the girl in constantly deceiving you and manipulating you. That might be part of it in some cases, but there's different side that's good. You gotta start seeing the fun side of it and take it more easy, dude! You were expecting this girl to fuck you over from the start. But, fuck it dude, go find another one.
Not trying to be a dick, but have you ever considered seeing a therapist? Or have you ever seen one? To be honest, I really think that you should.
Good luck dude. Remember that you can keep moving on and keeping on.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18012563 - 03/26/13 03:59 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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that's women for ya.
you need to chill out man. keep it cool. now you know why some guys treat girls like its nothing special. because they really aren't. they are just as special as me and you. you need to have more respect for yourself. the more you respect yourself the more people will respect you.
do this, man:
next time you go to work, act like nothing happened, give her a smile like you give everyone. if she asks you questions or brings up the past just say stuff life "it's cool, no i ain't mad about it..", and try to keep the answers short and simple, example "mmhhmm, yep, nope.."etc.. act like you could care less about what she is saying, but don't make it too obvious. if she tries to make you jealous ignore it and again, act like you don't give a fuck, but don't get angry about it. you can even laugh about it as she does. when you talk with with her try to have fun with the conversation, leave the drama out of it.
you've failed at trying, now try not to try.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18012832 - 03/26/13 06:51 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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ok, well what do i do when she gets all flirty with me? that triggers emotions in me and it makes me start falling for her again, so i need to tell her to back off, but if i tell her to back off then it'll be obvious that my feelings were hurt...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18013620 - 03/26/13 11:57 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, I called her again and she didn't pick up, then I texted "I'm being a begger and i know it's pathetic, but i'm going to call you one more time and if you dont pick up i'll leave you alone" then I called her again and she didn't pick up again.
Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
She texted back right away "would you stop, i'm at an appointment i'll call you when i'm done"
fuck, i can't quit her. feelings are too strong and she's too good at this game.
am I doomed to be stuck in this cycle? it's extremely mentally unhealthy but i'm having a hard time breaking out of it. I'm starting to understand that she's most likely toying with me, but i keep going for it because of the very small chance that she might be genuine.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 1
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OP you've already screwed this one up. Chalk it up to life experience and move on.
You are too young and immature for a thirty something with 3 kids.
work out and build up some confidence, watch some youtube videos on talking to girls, and try picking up some 18 year olds.
Once I started playing the field and never got hung up (in love) with one girl, everything fell into place.
Found the one, fell in love, got married, had kids.
I used to be you at 20, it gets better.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18013687 - 03/26/13 12:19 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Are you a troll or a psycho?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Kukaracha]
#18014850 - 03/26/13 04:27 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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im starting to think its a bit of both.
no mature adult could possibly function and act the way he says he is.
shit be cray. yo
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18015096 - 03/26/13 05:12 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: but if i tell her to back off then it'll be obvious that my feelings were hurt...
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Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
One second you don't want hurt to know that your feelings are hurt, then you tell her that you're "dying inside"?
Alright jeezus cut all this shit it doesn't matter if she knows your feelings are hurt, it's obvious to her
just quit texting her and shit why do u care so much about her anyway jeez
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18015221 - 03/26/13 05:32 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
THIS THIS THIS
MOVE ON MAN. THIS SHIT IS GETTING RIDICULOUS.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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evenbreak said: Well, I called her again and she didn't pick up, then I texted "I'm being a begger and i know it's pathetic, but i'm going to call you one more time and if you dont pick up i'll leave you alone" then I called her again and she didn't pick up again.
Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
She texted back right away "would you stop, i'm at an appointment i'll call you when i'm done"
fuck, i can't quit her. feelings are too strong and she's too good at this game.
am I doomed to be stuck in this cycle? it's extremely mentally unhealthy but i'm having a hard time breaking out of it. I'm starting to understand that she's most likely toying with me, but i keep going for it because of the very small chance that she might be genuine.
You have to stop this. KEEP IT COOL.
if you really want her you are not going to get her this way. control yourself man. have some dignity. it smells of teenage angst all up in this bitch, ewwww. come on now...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18016665 - 03/26/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Why do you even post when you don't listen to us? Fuck man stop all contact with her. Don't call her, don't text her, don't think about her, don't jerk off to her image, man don't even look at her. See a therapist if you have to, you sound really emotionally unstable. Learn to live on your own and GO THROUGH THE HEARTACHE. Be sad for however long you want about her not loving you, but in the end you will finally realize that she is not for you. She is a fucking manipulative bitch. You also have no confidence and give in too easily which you need to work on. Man, honestly this is so sad just fucking listen to us.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
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you know what i just did? i made an appointment to my local health clinic, they gave me a same-day appointment, and picked up some anti-depressants. These emotions are so fucking heavy and i think I just need some kind of help.
I give up on her, there's just no way i can have her. I realize there's a bunch of other girls out there and I need to move on. Clearly she doesn't give a fuck about me. We had one more text exchange where i was a begging bitch again but when she responded saying she was just busy i basically told her that she needs to leave me alone when we see each other at work. I guarantee if i was a guy she actualy wanted to date, she would have texted me back or picked up my calls. fuck that shit. now she's going to play the victim when i tell her off at work tomorrow but man, fuck it.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18017235 - 03/27/13 01:50 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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make an appointment with a shrink too dude. Honestly....
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #5]
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it may not seem like it man but you're going to get through this, everyone has been there at some point in their life.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#18022301 - 03/28/13 03:13 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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she said she was busy the whole day with her kids and that's why she couldn't respond to my texts and calls.
then we agreed to go out next thursday to see a movie.
Then the whole night we flirted and touched a lot. One time we were eating and i had a lot of crumbs on my pants and she started brushing them off. Her hands touched my hard on and then we both bursted out laughing as she held my head against her chest.
We had some deep talks about how I think she's so confident and strong, and she told me I need to stand up for myself more and be assertive.
So I guess she sucked me back in. But i'll try not to be so obsessive this time and have some other things going on in my life.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
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Good to hear. try not to get too caught up this time.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18023309 - 03/28/13 10:48 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18024133 - 03/28/13 02:12 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Now, I'm pretty sure that you're fucking with us.
In any case, you should make a move and make some loving to solidify the deal.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18026196 - 03/28/13 09:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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empathy trolling. its a hole new wave of how future trolling shall be. 
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: koraks]
#18034973 - 03/30/13 09:24 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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koraks said: Truth be told, she sounds about as insecure as you are and it's a miracle that you didn't completely blow it by 'trying to get her to reject' you. I'd recommend to consider her as a keeper.
Indeed. This has disaster written all over it but godspeed.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18037299 - 03/31/13 01:14 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I have 2 suggestions:
First, you need to chill out and try not to get offended when she disrespects you. If you freeze up or freak out, it plays into the mind games. you're better off laughing about it until she joins in or gets confused; it's better to explain what you thought was funny than to explain why you got super pissed about some frivolous bullshit. If you find it hard to have a sense of humor in these kind of situations, you might want to go practice with some strippers. If you can laugh while a disinterested woman gives you an obligatory lap dance and explain what you were laughing about to her satisfaction, without pissing her off, then explaining yourself to a girl who wants to be with you should be easy.
Second, you're jumping to conclusions way to quickly. Maybe she's really comfortable with her sexuality and flirting around with a couple of guys at the same time is casual fun for her. Don't immediately assume she's doing it to fuck with you. Wait for patterns, so you can firmly and reasonably justify your feelings (with some good old observable reality). This way you can be sure of yourself, which will make you confident, and you'll have good grounds for explaining why and what you're pissed about.
Since she didn't dump you for getting worked up about small things, she either likes you enough to try to get past it, or she's fucking with your head, or some of both. Whatever she's doing just give her the benefit of the doubt until a 3rd party confirms that she's being a bitch. then you can think about what to do and feel good about it instead of hurting yourself. I suggest the shroomery members as a 3rd party, since they seem to be a relatively well adjusted group with lots of diverse experiences (judging from this thread at least).
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Mr.GuessWork] 1
#18044773 - 04/02/13 01:29 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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1 week after taking anti-depressants, i'm thinking a lot clearer.
All this time i've made it my life goal to get with her, when my life goal should be working on myself and being more of a man. because lately, i've been acting like a total bitch and it's so pathetic.
We agreed to go out this thursday, and i have a feeling she won't pick up anyway. But maybe i shouldn't even bother calling her and just forget about this whole thing.
thanks for the advice and feedback. especially the people yelling at me for being stupid, i needed that.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18044813 - 04/02/13 01:56 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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you next post better be about you getting laid. it's the only way to redeem yourself. make us proud son. they grow up soo fast
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18045033 - 04/02/13 03:54 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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yeah, get fucking laid dude... call her up, take her out, and get laid.
slap her ass a little, too man. that'll instill the man back into you!
The chick wants you for sure. you just gotta get on up out there and get her. Good luck getting it up with those anti depressants, though, but it sounds like you've wanted this chick so bad, your libido will over power any anti erectional force in the universe.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18066731 - 04/06/13 11:32 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I guess i got my closure.
We had a long talk. with lots of hugging, grinding, hand holding, a peck on the lips... she told me i made her wet after our walk was coming to an end so i slowly put my hand down her pants while staring in her eyes but she pulled my hand out after a couple seconds.
She says I arouse her and i turn her on. But then she says that she's a sex addict and likes to sleep around. And she's not looking for a relationship. So I ask if she wants to have sex with me, and she said she wouldn't mind. But then she told me she won't because we're coworkers and she's had a lot of bad experiences with that in the past.
I gave it my best shot. Made all the moves. I couldn't have been more forward, and she still said no.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18066823 - 04/06/13 11:51 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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all that matters is you tried your best man, she was finally honest with you and even though it was probably not what you're hoping for, you finally know.
and like she said, she likes to sleep around. not good relationship material anyway.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#18066853 - 04/06/13 11:57 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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mushroom_sandwich said: all that matters is you tried your best man, she was finally honest with you and even though it was probably not what you're hoping for, you finally know.
and like she said, she likes to sleep around. not good relationship material anyway.
thanks man.
rejection always hurts, but on the bright side i gained a lot of experience with flirting and being more comfortable putting my hands on a girl, and i could still take this whole thing as an ego boost.
so it's ok, now i just need to get my life together. get a social life and meet other girls .
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18066871 - 04/06/13 12:04 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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mushroom_sandwich said: all that matters is you tried your best man, she was finally honest with you and even though it was probably not what you're hoping for, you finally know.
and like she said, she likes to sleep around. not good relationship material anyway.
thanks man.
rejection always hurts, but on the bright side i gained a lot of experience with flirting and being more comfortable putting my hands on a girl, and i could still take this whole thing as an ego boost.
so it's ok, now i just need to get my life together. get a social life and meet other girls .
exactly man! she even said she was attracted to you! just because one girl has problems doesn't mean there aren't a TON of girls looking for someone like you, go get em tiger.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#18067264 - 04/06/13 01:27 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Good for you OP
I think at the end of all this you came out on top.
You have closure, and are willing to move on now.
I was in a simular situation, things defiantly did not end up in my favour; but like you
I found closure, some people never find closure.
And that's what tears people apart, good on you for moving on.
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#18068657 - 04/06/13 07:16 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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yea everyone else siad the gist of it, good shit op the world just got a bit brighter and stuff ya kno
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18068905 - 04/06/13 08:00 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Any tips to getting over the longing and sadness?
Sadness that she basically told me she's fucking another guy and essentially would rather fuck him than me even if she's a self proclaimed nympho who doesn't want a relationship at this point of her life.
And longing for her touch. We touch each other a lot, and it feels so amazing. I know that i could give her a long intimate hug any time and just feel the oxycotin rushing through my blood afterwards. When I avoid her, i miss her terribly.
I called in sick today just so i won't have to see her, and it's almost like i'm experiencing drug withdrawal because i miss her a lot.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said no. [Re: evenbreak]
#18068927 - 04/06/13 08:04 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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hit up your favorite pron site and jerk it off.
fuck her man, you'll find something better. like you said, you got some experience out of it, now use those newly gained skills to catch some better fish.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said no. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18069120 - 04/06/13 08:40 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dam, not being able to get laid from a sex addict must really suck, and not be good for a mans self esteem.
You don't ever want to fall in love with a whore/sex addict, cut your losses and consider yourself lucky.
How to get over this girl? Cut off communication as much as you can, and give it time.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18069680 - 04/06/13 10:50 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: Any tips to getting over the longing and sadness?
Sadness that she basically told me she's fucking another guy and essentially would rather fuck him than me even if she's a self proclaimed nympho who doesn't want a relationship at this point of her life.
And longing for her touch. We touch each other a lot, and it feels so amazing. I know that i could give her a long intimate hug any time and just feel the oxycotin rushing through my blood afterwards. When I avoid her, i miss her terribly.
I called in sick today just so i won't have to see her, and it's almost like i'm experiencing drug withdrawal because i miss her a lot.
You just have to move on, simple as that. You can't have her, accept that. You want to be close to SOMEONE, she is the object of that because of your interactions with her. Find someone else, simple as that.
You have to understand that you need to be able to be happy on your own, before being in a relationship with someone else. This is absolutely KEY, this is a must.
Dude, I wanna have a girlfriend probably just as much as you. I got so much shit up in the air right now, I need to find a place to live by the end of the month... I'm supposed to start my new job on monday, I have to start getting back into the gym and playing guitar, and get ready to set up my grow.... And yeah, I want someone close to me. I seriously spoon the fuck out of my pillow every night
Because I miss sleeping with another person.
But I'm also happy on my own, and I know if I wasn't able to be happy by myself, that I'd never find a girl in that state of mind.
You need to just simply move on, accept it. Fuck cutting off all communication, you work with her; thats not going to work. Your going to see her from time to time; probably everyday. So what!
Don't avoid her, just disconnect that feeling of wanting to be with SOMEONE- with her as the object of that connection. Do you know what I'm saying?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18080728 - 04/09/13 07:53 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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whoas. well man, that sounds better... or ya know.
the only advice for getting over people that i do, is to just... kinda.... empty them from your brain. i go thru memories and all and remember how it felt to get hurt and that i don't want it and then they become so far in my past that i feel like i'm a new person... i dunno.
hope you find some closure and get thangs squared away.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: pachoo]
#18083310 - 04/09/13 05:37 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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hi pachoo
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18084770 - 04/09/13 11:05 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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hellllllllllllllllllo sheekle. long time no talk. how's life?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: pachoo]
#18088300 - 04/10/13 05:26 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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right now life is feeling sleepy gentle and mellow but im supposed to be writing a paper
what about ur version of life how is it
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