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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18012832 - 03/26/13 06:51 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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ok, well what do i do when she gets all flirty with me? that triggers emotions in me and it makes me start falling for her again, so i need to tell her to back off, but if i tell her to back off then it'll be obvious that my feelings were hurt...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18013620 - 03/26/13 11:57 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, I called her again and she didn't pick up, then I texted "I'm being a begger and i know it's pathetic, but i'm going to call you one more time and if you dont pick up i'll leave you alone" then I called her again and she didn't pick up again.
Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
She texted back right away "would you stop, i'm at an appointment i'll call you when i'm done"
fuck, i can't quit her. feelings are too strong and she's too good at this game.
am I doomed to be stuck in this cycle? it's extremely mentally unhealthy but i'm having a hard time breaking out of it. I'm starting to understand that she's most likely toying with me, but i keep going for it because of the very small chance that she might be genuine.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 1
#18013652 - 03/26/13 12:07 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP you've already screwed this one up. Chalk it up to life experience and move on.
You are too young and immature for a thirty something with 3 kids.
work out and build up some confidence, watch some youtube videos on talking to girls, and try picking up some 18 year olds.
Once I started playing the field and never got hung up (in love) with one girl, everything fell into place.
Found the one, fell in love, got married, had kids.
I used to be you at 20, it gets better.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18013687 - 03/26/13 12:19 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Are you a troll or a psycho?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Kukaracha]
#18014850 - 03/26/13 04:27 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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im starting to think its a bit of both.
no mature adult could possibly function and act the way he says he is.
shit be cray. yo
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18015096 - 03/26/13 05:12 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: but if i tell her to back off then it'll be obvious that my feelings were hurt...
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evenbreak said:
Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
One second you don't want hurt to know that your feelings are hurt, then you tell her that you're "dying inside"?
Alright jeezus cut all this shit it doesn't matter if she knows your feelings are hurt, it's obvious to her
just quit texting her and shit why do u care so much about her anyway jeez
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18015221 - 03/26/13 05:32 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Bikerfool] 1
#18016259 - 03/26/13 08:48 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
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Bikerfool said: You're obviously your own worst enemy.
Reading your threads is always like watching a horrific accident happen in slow motion.
THIS THIS THIS
MOVE ON MAN. THIS SHIT IS GETTING RIDICULOUS.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18016453 - 03/26/13 09:30 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: Well, I called her again and she didn't pick up, then I texted "I'm being a begger and i know it's pathetic, but i'm going to call you one more time and if you dont pick up i'll leave you alone" then I called her again and she didn't pick up again.
Then I texted "Next time you see me, don't play the victim card when i act cold to you. i'm the one who's dying inside."
She texted back right away "would you stop, i'm at an appointment i'll call you when i'm done"
fuck, i can't quit her. feelings are too strong and she's too good at this game.
am I doomed to be stuck in this cycle? it's extremely mentally unhealthy but i'm having a hard time breaking out of it. I'm starting to understand that she's most likely toying with me, but i keep going for it because of the very small chance that she might be genuine.
You have to stop this. KEEP IT COOL.
if you really want her you are not going to get her this way. control yourself man. have some dignity. it smells of teenage angst all up in this bitch, ewwww. come on now...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18016665 - 03/26/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Why do you even post when you don't listen to us? Fuck man stop all contact with her. Don't call her, don't text her, don't think about her, don't jerk off to her image, man don't even look at her. See a therapist if you have to, you sound really emotionally unstable. Learn to live on your own and GO THROUGH THE HEARTACHE. Be sad for however long you want about her not loving you, but in the end you will finally realize that she is not for you. She is a fucking manipulative bitch. You also have no confidence and give in too easily which you need to work on. Man, honestly this is so sad just fucking listen to us.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
#18016863 - 03/26/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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you know what i just did? i made an appointment to my local health clinic, they gave me a same-day appointment, and picked up some anti-depressants. These emotions are so fucking heavy and i think I just need some kind of help.
I give up on her, there's just no way i can have her. I realize there's a bunch of other girls out there and I need to move on. Clearly she doesn't give a fuck about me. We had one more text exchange where i was a begging bitch again but when she responded saying she was just busy i basically told her that she needs to leave me alone when we see each other at work. I guarantee if i was a guy she actualy wanted to date, she would have texted me back or picked up my calls. fuck that shit. now she's going to play the victim when i tell her off at work tomorrow but man, fuck it.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18017235 - 03/27/13 01:50 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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make an appointment with a shrink too dude. Honestly....
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18018309 - 03/27/13 10:37 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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it may not seem like it man but you're going to get through this, everyone has been there at some point in their life.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#18022301 - 03/28/13 03:13 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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she said she was busy the whole day with her kids and that's why she couldn't respond to my texts and calls.
then we agreed to go out next thursday to see a movie.
Then the whole night we flirted and touched a lot. One time we were eating and i had a lot of crumbs on my pants and she started brushing them off. Her hands touched my hard on and then we both bursted out laughing as she held my head against her chest.
We had some deep talks about how I think she's so confident and strong, and she told me I need to stand up for myself more and be assertive.
So I guess she sucked me back in. But i'll try not to be so obsessive this time and have some other things going on in my life.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18022320 - 03/28/13 03:26 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Good to hear. try not to get too caught up this time.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#18023309 - 03/28/13 10:48 AM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#18024133 - 03/28/13 02:12 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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Now, I'm pretty sure that you're fucking with us.
In any case, you should make a move and make some loving to solidify the deal.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#18026196 - 03/28/13 09:31 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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empathy trolling. its a hole new wave of how future trolling shall be. 
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: koraks]
#18034973 - 03/30/13 09:24 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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koraks said: Truth be told, she sounds about as insecure as you are and it's a miracle that you didn't completely blow it by 'trying to get her to reject' you. I'd recommend to consider her as a keeper.
Indeed. This has disaster written all over it but godspeed.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#18037299 - 03/31/13 01:14 PM (10 years, 9 months ago) |
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I have 2 suggestions:
First, you need to chill out and try not to get offended when she disrespects you. If you freeze up or freak out, it plays into the mind games. you're better off laughing about it until she joins in or gets confused; it's better to explain what you thought was funny than to explain why you got super pissed about some frivolous bullshit. If you find it hard to have a sense of humor in these kind of situations, you might want to go practice with some strippers. If you can laugh while a disinterested woman gives you an obligatory lap dance and explain what you were laughing about to her satisfaction, without pissing her off, then explaining yourself to a girl who wants to be with you should be easy.
Second, you're jumping to conclusions way to quickly. Maybe she's really comfortable with her sexuality and flirting around with a couple of guys at the same time is casual fun for her. Don't immediately assume she's doing it to fuck with you. Wait for patterns, so you can firmly and reasonably justify your feelings (with some good old observable reality). This way you can be sure of yourself, which will make you confident, and you'll have good grounds for explaining why and what you're pissed about.
Since she didn't dump you for getting worked up about small things, she either likes you enough to try to get past it, or she's fucking with your head, or some of both. Whatever she's doing just give her the benefit of the doubt until a 3rd party confirms that she's being a bitch. then you can think about what to do and feel good about it instead of hurting yourself. I suggest the shroomery members as a 3rd party, since they seem to be a relatively well adjusted group with lots of diverse experiences (judging from this thread at least).
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