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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
    #17990074 - 03/21/13 03:07 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

jesus man:facepalm: you told her youve been lead on before? why didnt you just say you dont like flaky people? you just pulled the pity angle again.

ive been obsessed a few ladies in my days. granted i was intimate beforehand but i know the feeling. the painful reminder thing is a bit weird though i must say. you might have a few issues you need to resolve with yourself before you can even have a healthy relationship because youre identifying coping with emotional pain with physical pain. thats not good.



anyways, did you ask her why didnt she call again or leave a voicemail or text? that would seem fishy to me. after all, you say youve known her for two years.


my opinion is that you should work on yourself before you attempt a relationship. but if you feel that you must pursue the lady then do it. i know how regret feels and it sucks bad too. and it could teach you a few things.:shrug:


maybe talk to someone professionally about all these issues you seem to be going through if you seem to get worse over this woman in the near future. whatever you do. dont tell her you hurt yourself. shell be freaked. and dont forget you WORK with this lady. i just hope youre not her boss because that would complicate it even more.


good luck really. you seem like you sure could use it.


this is highly sensitive for you i can tell. so this is all i can say as advice. seems too delicate and i hate to add fuel to the fire.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #17990112 - 03/21/13 03:18 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

she said she just assumed i was pulling a "player move" and didn't want to go out with her :/. she said she wasn't the type who begs or keeps on calling.

whatever. obviously i know my head is fucked. but I can't just forget about her until she flat out rejects me. if there's any chance that she actually likes me, i absolutely have to pursue it or i'll never be able to sleep easy for the rest of my life.


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Anonymous #1

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #17990147 - 03/21/13 03:26 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

does a player take two years to pick up a lady he likes? does a ladies man act the way you did and make himself look the way you have?


thats a pretty bad excuse on her part.


all the same. i still stand by everything i told you here. same as go for it if you feel you must. either way it will be a experience for you. what kind is something youre gonna have to find out, i guess.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #17991560 - 03/21/13 07:55 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Bro she is full of shit how can you NOT see that. You know full out that she KNOWS you're not a player. Holy fuck this situation has actually started to piss me off with how obsessed you are over somebody that DOES NOT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU. Fuck man, get the fuck away from her I'm telling you she is no good for you.


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Edited by Forestdie (03/25/13 03:16 PM)


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Forestdie]
    #17991751 - 03/21/13 08:22 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Fuck it man, you might as well go for it.  Some people just need to humiliate themselves more than others before they learn their lesson.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
    #17992250 - 03/21/13 10:11 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

I told her i slept with a couple girls before. I told her about the girl that i slept with 1 time that called me 30 times every night at 6am in the morning. Made a thread about her.

So it's not entirely unplausible that she thinks i might be blowing her off.

I don't know. time will tell. In 2 weeks, the truth should all come out, and then i can deal with that later.

2 weeks is an eternity right now though :/.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #17992316 - 03/21/13 10:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Dude...:facepalm: You're clearly not listening to anyones adivce.
We all see this is fucked up and not good for you.
Do what you do man, youre doing it despite everyones advice anyways....

Shes a cat with a string, and you're the string bro.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Intelligentxfruit]
    #17992453 - 03/21/13 10:54 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

i don't understand.

it would fucking kill me if she was just leading me on this whole time. I don't want to get played like that.

But she straight up looked in my eyes and said she's not a cruel hearted person and she would never lead me on like that. She acknowledged how fucked up that would be, and she said she's not a bad person.

She would have to be the scummiest person in the world to say that with such a sincere and genuine tone, only to be lying the whole time.



Edited by evenbreak (03/21/13 11:11 PM)


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Anonymous #1

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #17992592 - 03/21/13 11:30 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

just go with it even. youve gone this far.


i just thought you should be aware because you seem about the furthest thing from a player.


what she said was a big red flag. and donnt think that theres women out there who arent that self centered and narcissistic.



in fact ill give you a example. one of my best friends just had a breakup with his lady that he was with for almost 4 years. treated her like gold and she cheated on him with another good friend.

who is a roommate of his and a really good friend or was and a band mate that hed known for 5 years. people just can be that fucked up. so be aware.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #17992642 - 03/21/13 11:53 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

man, stop waiting for her. If something happens let it happen, if not then so be it. Don't make the same mistake I did when me and my ex broke up and end up waiting 2 years for something to change, when perhaps it never will. You gotta be strong, I don't think many girls are attracted to those who appear weak and stop acting like nobody knows your pain because rest assured most of us do.

I waited like a fucking dog in the rain for my ex, and ultimately she did pop back into my life one day, quite recently actually and ended up basically completely fucking my mind over twice as hard again. She basically just hit the refresh button on me and my emotions, telling me she still loves me and crap. We were hanging out pretty frequently there for a month or two, until she stopped talking to me practically over night. I don't what the fuck is going on with her now, its been over a month since I have heard anything from her, I tried texting her awhile back to no response. she was at a low point if not rock bottom in her life when she reappeared in mine and i can honestly say i wasn't doing so well myself but I dont feel she had the right to drag me down with her.

not trying to jack your thread, but it gets more unfortunate then that. Add in she was addicted to heroin..that should have been a red flag there, coming from someone who has never taken an opiate in there life, I didn't know what the fuck to think. Talk about confusion but at the same time I really enjoyed her presence regardless. I should have just ran for the hills, but instead I kinda find myself in the same damn place again, yet this round I don't got the fucking time to wait in the rain any longer.

sorry for the rant, its just something I've been thinking about a lot lately.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Rafiikii]
    #17994380 - 03/22/13 10:52 AM (10 years, 10 months ago)

There are lessons in everything, OP has gone this far so he may as well see it to the end. Maybe it will work out, I personally doubt it though that's just my opinion.
Either way hopefully he learns something from all this.

Word of advice though, if you can't feel happy and content on your own, and think relying on other people like this girl to do it for you, you won't find happiness with her or anyone for that matter. Don't let this person walk all over you, don't let anyone do that. People who don't stand up for themselves will be taken advantage of, and that should never be accepted  by anyone. If she rejects you, be sad for a day; then get over it and move on. Be strong mother fucker, and find someone who won't make you feel sad or disrespect you. 

There is literally billions of people out there, more than a few that are compatible with you or anyone else for that matter. Work on yourself, live your god damn life and be patient and when the time's right you'll find each other. At least that's what I like to believe.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: The5thElement] * 1
    #17994681 - 03/22/13 12:09 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

I waited like a fucking dog in the rain for my ex, and ultimately she did pop back into my life one day, quite recently actually and ended up basically completely fucking my mind over twice as hard again. She basically just hit the refresh button on me and my emotions, telling me she still loves me and crap. We were hanging out pretty frequently there for a month or two, until she stopped talking to me practically over night.




I've been there before man, it isn't easy. :hugitout:

and evenbreak, dude why are you even asking us for help anymore?

clearly you intend to obsess over her (in a very creepy manner I might add) until she finally just tells you to fuck off for being so whiny and creepy.

Not trying to be mean man, but you need a serious wake up call. I'm starting to wonder if you should even be trying to have a relationship with anyone as you can't even get a grip on your own emotions.

Food for thought.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
    #18011660 - 03/25/13 10:50 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

yay we had a long talk again where i told her all my feelings and she tells me to chill and that she really likes me and i should call her some time

and now i called her and texted her and she ignores me, yay just like last year.


hahaha. I texted her "you played a really good game, i'm not a sore loser. if i don't talk to you it's not because i'm mad, i'm just doing what i have to do to be happy and move on. nice knowing you."

i'm done. guess i should have listened to you guys.

fuck my life. i hope i heal soon.


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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #18011682 - 03/25/13 10:55 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Plenty of other women out there man, don't even sweat it.

You'll feel better as soon as you choose to be, just move on and forget this chick.

She's not worth your time.


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Anonymous #4

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: The5thElement]
    #18011691 - 03/25/13 10:58 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

How old are you man? you should like you're in highschool....
its called infatuation, for someone you never even dated you're acting way to emotional.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #18011746 - 03/25/13 11:09 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
How old are you man? you should like you're in highschool....
its called infatuation, for someone you never even dated you're acting way to emotional.
:seriousamanita:




you don't think it's messed up that she knows full well that i'm infatuated with her, and then she says straight to my face that she's not leading me on and she really likes me and tells me to call her, only to ignore my calls and texts?

i fucking can't believe it. after our long talks where i pour my heart out to her. i tell her that i won't hold it against her if she just tells me the truth instead of stringing me along. she insists that she likes me.

jesus, what the fuck. i thought we were friends. i thought she cared about me at least as a human being. She said she understands how i feel and she wouldn't lead me on because she wouldn't want someone to do that to her and she's not a cold hearted person.

wtf is going on. how can somebody who i was convinced was a compassionate and nice person do this to me.


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Anonymous #4

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #18011771 - 03/25/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

She probably felt sorry for you and weirded out.
Welcome to reality bro, women like CONFIDENCE

Not many find an insecure highschool infatuated mentality attractive...move on and sack up.
Be a man and gain some confidence.


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Anonymous #1

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #18011896 - 03/25/13 11:45 PM (10 years, 10 months ago)

i tried to to tell you how buddy. theres cold fish in the sea. luckily only some are so poisonous.

look at it this way tho. shes most likely single with three kids for a reason.  and least she isnt completely freaked out because you work with her. just keep your heart open and look to the future.

its what im doing after dealing with a bad breakup.

life just aint easy man. if it was everyone would do it righteously.


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Anonymous #5

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18012388 - 03/26/13 02:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago)

Next time you meet a girl that you like, try not to beg for constant reassurance that she indeed likes you. You gotta know man and go from there! She may not always let you know, but that's sometimes just part of the game. Girls might try to lead you on and play you, but don't let them! If you like her, make a move and have some fun with the thing. Take a chance or two, and take a chance physically. When you get intimate, things will hopefully smoothen out and you'll be able to relax more. Relationships aren't meant to be a terrible heart breaking thing where the girl in constantly deceiving you and manipulating you. That might be part of it in some cases, but there's different side that's good. You gotta start seeing the fun side of it and take it more easy, dude! You were expecting this girl to fuck you over from the start. But, fuck it dude, go find another one.

Not trying to be a dick, but have you ever considered seeing a therapist? Or have you ever seen one? To be honest, I really think that you should.

Good luck dude. Remember that you can keep moving on and keeping on.


Edited by Anonymous (03/26/13 02:30 AM)


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Anonymous #6

Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
    #18012563 - 03/26/13 03:59 AM (10 years, 10 months ago)

that's women for ya.

you need to chill out man. keep it cool. now you know why some guys treat girls like its nothing special. because they really aren't. they are just as special as me and you. you need to have more respect for yourself. the more you respect yourself the more people will respect you.


do this, man:

next time you go to work, act like nothing happened, give her a smile like you give everyone. if she asks you questions or brings up the past just say stuff life "it's cool, no i ain't mad about it..", and try to keep the answers short and simple, example "mmhhmm, yep, nope.."etc.. act like you could care less about what she is saying, but don't make it too obvious. if she tries to make you jealous ignore it and again, act like you don't give a fuck, but don't get angry about it. you can even laugh about it as she does. when you talk with with her try to have fun with the conversation, leave the drama out of it.

you've failed at trying, now try not to try.


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