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shimishimiman
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 2
#17981560 - 03/19/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: lol she didn't even fucking call. fuck. I remember saying to her that I bet she won't even call, all the signs pointed to her not calling, and she swears that she'll call me.
The truth all comes out. Every single word she said about liking me was all just a lie. She just wanted attention, and she'll do whatever it takes to get attention even if it means hurting someone she supposedly cares about. She really just doesn't give a fuck about me as a person, does she?
Every time i think about her, i'm going to hurt myself somehow. I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this.
Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
You have dug yourself too deep into a hole. I recommend you do everything you can to get as far away from her as possible - avoid this bitch like the plague before you end up hurting yourself.
You sound like a pretty unstable guy and it might be best if you quit this job if you don't think you can handle being in her presence. If you desperately need the job then you are going to have to find a way to keep your shit together and tolerate her presence.
You have already lost with this chick. Count your losses, move forward, and DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE EVER AGAIN!
I can guarantee she will make up some bullshit excuse the next time you see her that will melt your heart and keep you interested. She is playing you for a sap because of how much attention you give her without expecting anything more than her approval in return.
Don't be a sap.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak] 1
#17981585 - 03/19/13 09:09 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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It sucks to hear you had to go through this situation man 
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evenbreak said: Every time i think about her, i'm going to hurt myself somehow. I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this.
I have a bitter, alcohol uncle. He has the roughest voice out of anyone I know. One time when we were drunk and sitting by a campfire in his deep grizzly voice he was telling me about someone he know who killed themself. He kept saying "Don't you ever do anything stupid" in his super strong stern voice over and over.
I want you to pretend he's saying that to you. Don't you ever do anything stupid.
"I'd rather die than have feelings for a woman like this"
I've been through many situations in my life where I thought the mental pain would nnever go away but it does and shit
life is a party cheer up
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17981592 - 03/19/13 09:10 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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shimishimiman said: Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
Hey just out of curiousity how long did you know this girl who you had intense feelings for?
I'm creating mathematical equations of feelings and how long it takes people to like each other and stuff
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shimishimiman
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Sheekle]
#17981662 - 03/19/13 09:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sheekle said:
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shimishimiman said: Man, this situation sounds so similar to what I went through a little while ago. I had very intense feelings for a girl who was completely uninterested in emotional intimacy and the whole thing blew up in my face and filled me with hatred for several years.
Hey just out of curiousity how long did you know this girl who you had intense feelings for?
I knew her for about two years before I tried to get with her. We were friends in high school and I tried to make her my girlfriend when I went to college. It probably would have worked too if I hadn't been so completely clueless when it came to women and sexuality in general.
That's pretty much the reason I was unable to get over it - because I felt like I had failed as a human being in my relationship with that girl. The truth is that she was pretty much a huge bitch and I was too sensitive at the time to want an emotionally uninvolved sexual relationship with her, or anyone for that matter.
It's all water under the bridge now.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17981778 - 03/19/13 09:43 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I didn't bother to read more that your first post OP.
You fucked yourself from the get go making yourself overly available and pretty much set the stage for your new position as doormat.
You basically turned in your balls and your emotions are directly tied to the little scraps she throws and pulls away from you.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#17981952 - 03/19/13 10:19 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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holy shit she really is going to melt me again isn't she
i'm so fucking angry and sad right now but all she has to do is smile and be nice to me for a week and give me hugs and even if i push her away she just persists and i'm her bitch again
holy fuck i have no control. i'm completley powerless. i understand why people cut myself now. i've been punching the wall and my fists are bleeding and it feels so good to feel physical pain that distracts me from this emotional pain and feeling of helplessness
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982034 - 03/19/13 10:36 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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thats sounds like a shitty situation.
however, next time you feel the need to think about that succubus. i suggest you reread this thread.
lots of good advice was given. you should listen to it.
little tip though.
the reality is love can make us all blind to the others faults. and when i say blind i mean delusional. actually its possible in any friendship too . but even more when it comes to the mysterious ways of women. take it as a learning experience.
and learn to choose wisely in who you wanna have feelings for.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17982209 - 03/19/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, It's easy for you guys to call her a bitch, because you only heard my side of the story. And you haven't seen her charm.
If you met this girl in real life, you would see how nice of a person she is. Extremely friendly and helpful to everyone she meets.
How can I continue viewing her as a bitch when she's actually a genuinely good person?
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982240 - 03/19/13 11:24 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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yep she sure seems to be the compassionate and generous type. she sounds like she helped you a bunch by leading you on.
read my last post about when i mentioned becoming blind to reality again. remember dont expect different results from the same actions. thatd be insane
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#17982245 - 03/19/13 11:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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yep she sure seems to be the compassionate and generous type. she sounds like she helped you a bunch by leading you on.
read my last post about when i mentioned becoming blind to reality again. remember dont expect different results from the same actions. thatd be insane

aside from the leading me on part, obviously...
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982354 - 03/19/13 11:54 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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read this whole thread, dude, take everyone's advice.
a lot of people here including me have gone through similar situations, she's using you because she knows she can and you've gotten yourself stuck in a cycle that you don't seem to want to get out of.
best of luck man.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17982356 - 03/19/13 11:54 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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It seems pretty obvious that no matter what anyone says you are still going to defend this chick and cause bodily harm to yourself in the process.
Sorry dude, but if I was her I probably wouldn't want to be with you either. You make it seem as though charm and compassion are rare qualities in a female. They are base-level traits that anyone who qualifies as a decent human being must possess in order to be socially adept.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume she's probably the only attractive chick who has ever shown you any attention before. SHE IS NOT FUCKING ATTRACTED TO YOU, SHE IS JUST TELLING YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR BECAUSE YOU ARE GUILT TRIPPING HER INTO SAYING IT!
Your bleeding heart is unfit for a modern female and you cannot guilt trip a woman into loving you.
Please, cut the emo shit and learn to act like a man before you descend even further into the pathetic abyss you have decided to hurl yourself into.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: shimishimiman]
#17984014 - 03/20/13 12:03 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17987225 - 03/20/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP, do you need that smack now?
but i'm really sorry about all that. i wanted to say she wouldn't call but i really hoped she would be a good person about it. but she's not. don't think she is. she's a scared little girl who needs as much affection from others because she can't provide it to herself.
man there are seriously so many girls out there that are better. you need to take care of yourself, build your courage and your confidence and love yourself more and find them.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17987951 - 03/21/13 02:49 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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She isn't worth it. She is no different than any other chick who has the same M.O. ... They are just attention whores and will never be exclusive to you or anyone for that matter.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17988881 - 03/21/13 10:34 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: wow i don't even know. She made me so fucking sad last night.
Giving me a bunch of attention when no one's around, then when other attractive guys are around she ignores me and flirts with them heavily in front of me. While KNOWING that I have very strong feelings for her. Asking someone to give her a massage while she giggles and moans while sitting right next to me. Staring at me and smiling and asking if I'm ok while I'm sitting there fuming with jealousy on the inside but trying to keep my calm and not let it get to me. As if she's trying to get a reaction out of me.
So fucking sad and confused and mad. She literally just played with my emotions and laughed at it.
I told her I bet she won't even call me when we go out. She swears she will.
If she even calls me, I'm just going to take her out to get food so we can sit and talk about what happened. I'm going to ask her why she did that to me. I'm going to ask her if everything she said to me about how she likes me was just a lie and she's just using me for attention.
you guys can't imagine the emotions I felt last night.. jesus fuck. It's so confusing because I'm resenting her for hurting me yet I still want her.
Don't let her walk all over you or play you like a fiddle? Maybe you should give her a taste of her own medicine when there are other ladies around......
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: MagicMyc]
#17989066 - 03/21/13 11:20 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just go for it.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: NastyNoah]
#17989178 - 03/21/13 11:44 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I spent the whole day tuesday and wednesday hurting myself. I did it in a way that won't harm me long term. Rubber band around my wrist, I pull it and snap it on my wrist every time I think about her so I associate thoughts about her with pain. I do meditation practices and try to stay focused on the present.
Things got much more complicated when I came in to work last night. She was sitting in the breakroom, and the moment I walked in, she said "why did you ignore my call?" Apparently she did call me on tuesday, but my phone didn't receive it. I straight out said "bull shit you didn't call me" and I made her show me her phone and it did show that she called me. I told her I really thought she flaked on me, and I told her that'd be fine, i would get over it. She said she can't believe I thought she would flake on me. She said she would never do that to me.
We flirted a lot throughout the day. But I was very distant. She would walk really close to me and just put my hands around her waist and her hands around my neck but i would shake her off and walk away because i was so confused. I spent 2 days getting over her, convinced that she flaked on me, and I felt myself succeeding... and now it turns out I was mistaken all along? And also what about that time that she flirted with other guys right in front of my face? Do I really want to be with someone like that? Yet my emotions are flairing up when she flirts at me like that..
So I said "so let's go out monday?" And she said she's moving out of her apartment in the next couple days so she'll be busy and she'll let me know when's a good time. She asked if I wanted to help her move, and I said yes. I should have asked for her address or asked when is a good time to come over, but instead I just changed the subject.
We had a long talk as we got off work. We talked for 30 minutes. I begged her to reject me. I told her that on tuesday when I thought she flaked on me, I felt really hurt, but I also felt really relieved to know the truth. I told her that if she just told me she just wanted to be friends, I would completely understand and I would feel a lot better than being strung along. She said she understood what I was saying, and she's still not going to reject me.
I told her I'm getting a very strong vibe from her that she's just using me for attention. I told her I think she's leading me on. I said other girls have done that before. She told me that's really messed up. She said she would never do that, and asked me if I really think she has such a black heart.
so i don't know what the fuck. I Just don't. know. what. the . fuck.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: evenbreak]
#17989459 - 03/21/13 12:46 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Go over and help her move. See where that takes you.
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Re: my coworker that ive crushed on for 2 years said yes. [Re: mpd]
#17989905 - 03/21/13 02:35 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Even if she did call you I would stay the fuck away from her. You DO NOT need her in your life. From what it seems, mentally you're completely unstable and adding her into your life will only make things worse.
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