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shroom-a-zoom
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Lynnch]
#17917906 - 03/07/13 09:51 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I brought it up because I have seen it too many times. I didnt say it was the case, but a thought.
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Almond Flour
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: shroom-a-zoom]
#17918000 - 03/07/13 10:14 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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shroom-a-zoom said: I brought it up because I have seen it too many times. I didnt say it was the case, but a thought.
Really? Not being a smart ass but I had no idea people used religion as an excuse to cheat
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17918026 - 03/07/13 10:21 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Abandon ship!
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SHROOMYG
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: migraineur]
#17918047 - 03/07/13 10:26 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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stop bangin some ladys husband.
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Repertoire89
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Repertoire89]
#17918612 - 03/07/13 12:23 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well since theres so much anti-religious talk here, I'll point out that my post dropping him to "short bus" for being religious was referring to the combination of events and his particular take on religion.
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Lynnch said:
Its one thing if he woke up one morning and sat his gf down and said "You know, I've been studying the bible a lot and doing some thinking, and last night I had a dream that made me realize this isn't the best choice for me..." Its a totally different thing to wake up in the middle of the night yelling about how god told him he is going to send him to hell if he touches his girlfriend. That's one step away from waking up yelling about how god told him he is the angel of death and it's time to start offing neighbors.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: stardust_lucey]
#17918758 - 03/07/13 01:04 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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The man is the worst kind of zealot....a fake one. Op, can't you see that he is banging her again and using God as a scapegoat?
Go with your first instinct....that's my advice. M
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Enjoywho
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Thayendanegea]
#17918856 - 03/07/13 01:24 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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LOL.
Op was too funny. Maybe you're just fat.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Enjoywho]
#17918895 - 03/07/13 01:30 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said:
fat.
That was my first thought and probably the truth of the matter
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Enjoywho
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Repertoire89]
#17918905 - 03/07/13 01:32 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I've never cut off my pussy flow intentionally. Either they go crazy or get fat.
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MushroomTrip
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: qman]
#17918938 - 03/07/13 01:37 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
qman said: 1. Married
2. No money
3. On disability
4. No sex
5. Very religious
I think you need a better selection process in the future.
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stardust_lucey
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: stardust_lucey]
#17919114 - 03/07/13 02:08 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hi everybody!
It's the OP here. I tried to write a thank you to everybody who posted yesterday, now I can't find it, but I meant to thank everybody! You have all given me a lot to think about.
I wish there were a more "easy" answer to what the fuck happened here with him/us. I doubt he's physically cheating on me with someone else, since I work from home, he's disabled so he's home all day too..just time-wise it would be quite a feat! He's not with his (scary) ex, she lives about 1,000 miles away from us.
I also wish I could just say, oh I'm just not attractive anymore, but I truly don't believe that to be the case. I tend to avoid posting my picture online to a group of (albeit very helpful, and funny) strangers but you have to kind of think, if I thought it was that, why would I bother posting here? Here's a description of me that I think is pretty honest: I'm 5'1, weigh 115 pounds, I work out regularly and have a pretty nice body but a small frame (meaning: small boobs! but nicely shaped, and I have a great little ass to make up for it), I have blue eyes and shoulder-length blond hair, I think I'm slightly above average on the attractiveness scale. Oh, and I'm 34 years old, and bf is 42--he's also attractive (probably a bit more so than me, I think), 6'6 and black.
I did know when I posted that a lot of people would immediately think "cuckoo!" about the religious stuff. I'm not religious at all myself (agnostic) but I try to keep an open mind for his sake and in matters concerning him.
What I have pretty much told him is that I would like him to talk to a psychiatrist to find out if they could help him with the issues he's having as a result of his religious experience on Saturday, and consider if he could compromise to slowly become comfortable with rebuilding a physically intimate relationship with me. I love him very much, it's hard to think of life without him. And I think he feels very trapped by his religious beliefs and the experience he believes he has. But if he can't compromise at all, I do not know how we can move forward.
Anyway...thank you everyone for all the food for thought. It really is helpful to hear other people's input. Even the haters! 
Take care, all, ~Stardust Lucey
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MushroomTrip
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: stardust_lucey]
#17919401 - 03/07/13 02:48 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I also wish I could just say, oh I'm just not attractive anymore
Why do you wish that?
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: MushroomTrip]
#17919737 - 03/07/13 03:40 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP, you're missing it. You need to figure out what his choices are going to be, then decide whether you are in or out. Not make decisions for him, etc. Not that i don't agree with the whole psychiatrist thing, i just imagine you setting him up to have another epiphany of something he already desired.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: metalfaith]
#17919865 - 03/07/13 04:02 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Taking him to a psychiatrist because of his faith in god? That's fucked up. He doesn't want to have sex with you on moral grounds....not sacrifice your first born child.
You seem pretty selfish to be honest. His options are pills...going against his beliefs...or hitting the road? You sure are wife material arnt ya way to stand by your man in his hour of crises. Sorry it postpones your pussy getting wet while he figures shit out.
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Edited by Almond Flour (03/07/13 10:09 PM)
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17921361 - 03/07/13 08:29 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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I can take his place while he makes up his mind
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: All The Colors] 1
#17926083 - 03/08/13 07:39 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Your boyfriend is crazy and I'd get rid of him
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17927530 - 03/09/13 01:52 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Almond Flour said: Taking him to a psychiatrist because of his faith in god?
No, she's suggesting he seeks help because of the panic attack he experienced as a result or during his religious experience. If his issues persist, i.e. he is still (or regularly) panicky or shows other symptoms that could point towards mental issues, then it isn't such a far-fetched idea.
Look dude, I have a neighbor who's really religious. She's into God like there's no tomorrow. She's also schizophrenic. If she becomes psychotic (and she has been from time to time) and her psychosis involves all sorts of religious aspects, of course she needs to seek professional help. Not because she has religious experiences, but because she's psychotic.
Same with this guy here: don't send him to a shrink if he's religious, send him to a shrink if he's showing signs of going mad. None of us an judge this; OP is closest to this guy and if she says he's going bananas and the guy needs professional help, then that's the best assessment we've got.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: koraks] 1
#17928084 - 03/09/13 07:09 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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You can always have sex with me
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: ManifestTheMind]
#17928255 - 03/09/13 08:34 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sorry it postpones your pussy getting wet while he figures shit out.
Give it time. You act like its over already?
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: stardust_lucey]
#17953398 - 03/14/13 05:18 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hi everybody,
OP here....I truly appreciated all of your responses (even the haters and pickups...really). I wanted to tell you all the "answer" to what had really happened.
As it turned out, those who had suggested mental illness were correct. As the week went on, my boyfriend continued to have more and more panic attacks and his behavior got stranger and stranger. It was weird, we would have totally normal, nice days (still nothing physical, in fact being around me was increasingly difficult, and caused panic attacks) and then it was like a switch was flipped and he would be talking about God and Jesus again. We tried going to a church and I really thought this would be a healthy outlet for his spirituality (and I still think it would be).
But unfortunately, he had another massive, night-long panic attack Sunday night into Monday morning, where he was raving about this life not mattering at all and the next one being what mattered--something finally clicked inside me and I realized, he needs help or he is going to harm himself or me (or my 3-year-old daughter). We checked him into a mental hospital that day and he is still there, starting some anti-anxiety meds and anti-depressants, and then we will go from there.
I wanted to thank everybody who responded to my bewildered post. I had trouble figuring out what had happened--it was hard to come to realize, this truly wasn't about me at all. Something just snapped inside his brain, as hard as it is for me to come to grips with--the old him I knew isn't there anymore, at least right now. I hope in time and with therapy he can come back.
Take care, everybody, and hug the ones your with extra tight tonight...you never know when they will suddenly be taken from you, even if they are still right there living and breathing before your eyes.
Stardust Lucey
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