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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: withoutawire]
#17913548 - 03/06/13 02:07 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Am I the only one who smells a whiff of an underlying mental disorder on his part? I think he needs some therapy. God speaks to me too, but God doesn't judge people, so I am thinking there might be something else going on here.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: mpd]
#17915835 - 03/06/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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He was suppose to pay for his wife and he is not allowed to divorce.
Deuteronomy 22:29
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Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the young woman's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he has violated her, he may not put her away all his days.
This guy seems a little 
I could only imagine if I was with a loved one and they pulled that, It would be incredibly hard for me to realize how stupid and immature my partner was.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: EDM]
#17915919 - 03/06/13 09:21 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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EDM said: He was suppose to pay for his wife and he is not allowed to divorce.
Deuteronomy 22:29
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Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the young woman's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he has violated her, he may not put her away all his days.
This guy seems a little 
I could only imagine if I was with a loved one and they pulled that, It would be incredibly hard for me to realize how stupid and immature my partner was.
Come on, you guys never had a drug trip, or some profound experience that made you suddenly wanna change/stop certain behaviors you deemed inappropriate towards your well being?
We can take pot shots at the good book all day long, but the fact remains this guy obviously had some profound dream or realization of the sort. To act like hes any more nuts than you guys is the real childish move.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17915994 - 03/06/13 09:35 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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You actually have a real good point man. I have had profound drug experiences that have changed some of my views. However, none of these views led me to believe in mythical type stuff, or that someone is talking to me (even though no one else can hear it).
Revelation 12:3
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And there appeared another wonder in heaven; and behold a great red dragon, having seven heads and ten horns, and seven crowns upon his heads.
Just saying, I think his justification for not even touching her is a bit ridiculous. "Ohhh boo hoo I am still married, OHHHH the sacrilege of marriage! Oh how horrible. My dreams told me that it is bad and that I should stop such a filthy act!"
"Even though I have not been with my EX for awhile and care about this person who also cares about me, I am going to be a selfish prick and risk such a relationship because I might be slightly insane"..
lol.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: EDM]
#17916010 - 03/06/13 09:39 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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The bible set aside, what is the reason for him doing this to his girlfriend? Oh, its the bible. That is kind of the point I am trying to make and it seems a bit crazy only because he has been cool up to this point.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: EDM]
#17916026 - 03/06/13 09:41 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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EDM said: The bible set aside, what is the reason for him doing this to his girlfriend? Oh, its the bible. That is kind of the point I am trying to make and it seems a bit crazy only because he has been cool up to this point.
Nothing wrong with the good book my friend. Just BELIEVE
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: qman]
#17916042 - 03/06/13 09:44 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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qman said: 1. Married
2. No money
3. On disability
4. No sex
5. Very religious
I think you need a better selection process in the future.
So he starts off as an : A
1. Dropped to B 2. Dropped to C 3. Dropped to D 4. Dropped to F 5. Dropped to short bus
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Repertoire89]
#17916051 - 03/06/13 09:45 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said:
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qman said: 1. Married
2. No money
3. On disability
4. No sex
5. Very religious
I think you need a better selection process in the future.
So he starts off as an : A
1. Dropped to B 2. Dropped to C 3. Dropped to D 4. Dropped to F 5. Dropped to short bus
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17916126 - 03/06/13 09:59 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Almond Flour said: an take pot shots at the good book all day long, but the fact remains this guy obviously had some profound dream or realization of the sort. To act like hes any more nuts than you guys is the real childish move.
Sorry, but no. Its one thing if he woke up one morning and sat his gf down and said "You know, I've been studying the bible a lot and doing some thinking, and last night I had a dream that made me realize this isn't the best choice for me..." Its a totally different thing to wake up in the middle of the night yelling about how god told him he is going to send him to hell if he touches his girlfriend. That's one step away from waking up yelling about how god told him he is the angel of death and it's time to start offing neighbors.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Lynnch]
#17916250 - 03/06/13 10:19 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Lynnch said:
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Almond Flour said: an take pot shots at the good book all day long, but the fact remains this guy obviously had some profound dream or realization of the sort. To act like hes any more nuts than you guys is the real childish move.
Sorry, but no. Its one thing if he woke up one morning and sat his gf down and said "You know, I've been studying the bible a lot and doing some thinking, and last night I had a dream that made me realize this isn't the best choice for me..." Its a totally different thing to wake up in the middle of the night yelling about how god told him he is going to send him to hell if he touches his girlfriend. That's one step away from waking up yelling about how god told him he is the angel of death and it's time to start offing neighbors.
you actually make a GREAT point
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour] 3
#17916283 - 03/06/13 10:25 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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A year from now, Almond Flour is no longer religious.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: EDM]
#17916296 - 03/06/13 10:28 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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EDM said: A year from now, Almond Flour is no longer religious.

Ill never lose my faith. But am fully capable of handling a well put fourth argument, and can even see the psychosis within my own beliefs (and the Religion in general).
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17916391 - 03/06/13 10:45 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well you really cannot explain dragons, Noah's Ark, a talking snake. ..
Good for you though that you will stick to your beliefs. I once did the same until I realized that the book I was following was more science fiction then reality.
Never make permanent decisions off of temporarily feelings. Once you get rid of the idea of a hell, and not going to heaven, it is incredibly easy to forget a 2000 year old book.
Then again you say you will never lose your faith, so even if you are presented with something that makes more sense then your own beliefs, you will still stick to those beliefs.
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Re: My boyfriend [quote][b][i]EDM said:[/i][/b] Well you really cannotwon't have sex with me anymore [Re: EDM]
#17916620 - 03/06/13 11:21 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Has no one come to the conclusion that he has thought this all along but the short-lived pleasure had him in denial? I mean prodigal son anyone?
Assuming g-d did not talk to him(which I do think is a viable option, though I would approach it with extreme skepticism), isn't he just retorting to a previous standpoint you previously discussed?
This place is so biased it's ridiculous. Once you mention the word 'god' you automatically have set a good majority of the community against you(or him in this case). If you just said that he wasn't in the mood, I feel most here would say that that kind of thing happens and to be compassionate and give him time. Nevertheless, I think you should establish some firm guidelines as to what needs to happen for your physical relationship to be reestablished and make a rational decision on whether he is someone you'd like to be with.
That being said, I would expect these types of things to be repeated in due time.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: metalfaith]
#17916734 - 03/06/13 11:50 PM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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is he a porn addict? many people are facing that trouble
maybe you should check his history to make sure
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: stardust_lucey]
#17917316 - 03/07/13 05:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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stardust_lucey said: Hi everybody,
First I have to say...this is not something I thought I would ever have to post or even think about! This is my first post here.
My boyfriend and I live together and have been together for about a year and a half. We have been very close and have had a healthy relationship all along. We were a very physical, sexually intimate couple; we had sex at least once a day for the most part and we were very good together--the best either of us had ever had, thrilling, exciting, adventuresome. We watched porn together, tried new positions regularly, weren't afraid to explore things with the other person and always finding new ways to pleasure each other.
On Saturday night my boyfriend woke me up having what seemed like a panic attack. He was raving, speaking loudly and quickly at first, and then shouting. He said he could not do this anymore...could not have sex with me anymore. He said God had appeared to him and told him that it was wrong because he is still legally married to another woman (but they have been legally separated since before we got together, just never had the money for the divorce), and that if he has sex with me before his divorce is final, his soul will be damned to hell.
I had known of his legally married status, of course, but I always said it didn't bother me because it had nothing to do with me. They hadn't been together for a long time before I came into the picture. I did know my boyfriend is a very religious, spiritual person, but he had usually seemed at peace and extremely happy with the way things were between us. (I say usually because we did have a discussion last year about the possibility of not having sex until he was divorced, but he looked into it and determined that he truly couldn't afford it, and made his peace with it somehow.)
But now suddenly I am told we are not going to have a physical relationship until this legal business is taken care of. I have no choice. I basically feel like he has dumped me...he has, right? He doesn't see it that way somehow, he still sees us as together, but he literally won't touch me for the most part, definitely won't kiss me or share a bed with me.
I feel obligated to let him stay with me for now because he is on disability and can't afford to live on his own. But I feel that our relationship is basically over. How am I supposed to live sex-free as friends/roommates for likely several months or more, then suddenly go back to the level of intimacy, trust, physical enjoyment etc. that we shared?
I am heartbroken and just don't know what to do. I realize there are people who will judge about the whole marriage thing...but that's not what's important to me. I've been married and am divorced. I respect the institution but if you're legally separated and just can't afford the process, I don't see a problem being with other people.
I would welcome any thoughts, words of encouragement, suggestions to kick his ass to the curb, advice on how to come back to each other someday (I am not religious but respect his belief in God and haven't even considered attempting to seduce him into changing his mind)...anything would be helpful to hear! Even haters would be good, I can use a laugh. I haven't been able to tell any of my friends or family yet, I feel like if we ever did get back together no one would trust him in the future. I'm not even sure I can.
Stardust Lucey
break up with this whack job and stop listening to the zealots on this thread. dont you see how religion STARTED this problem? this guy sounds absolutely crazy. get out before its too late.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: sirbojangles]
#17917594 - 03/07/13 08:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Come on assholes there are lots of badass religious folks out there.
Just look at me Everyone loves me!
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: Almond Flour]
#17917648 - 03/07/13 08:42 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP, I have a couple things to say about all of this. Look into a pro se' divorce. I got one years ago and it was very cheap. You basically do all of the work but you dont have to pay the lawyers to do it for you. Next, if you truly love him, you should be ok with his decision as long as you trust that he is not cheating on you or has alterior motives. Personally, when I started reading this post, it stunk of cheating on his part. I hope, for your sake, that is not the case but, keep your eyes wide open. Anyway, that is  I hope this works out for the best for you. Good luck.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: shroom-a-zoom]
#17917805 - 03/07/13 09:27 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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shroom-a-zoom said: OP, I have a couple things to say about all of this. Look into a pro se' divorce. I got one years ago and it was very cheap. You basically do all of the work but you dont have to pay the lawyers to do it for you. Next, if you truly love him, you should be ok with his decision as long as you trust that he is not cheating on you or has alterior motives. Personally, when I started reading this post, it stunk of cheating on his part. I hope, for your sake, that is not the case but, keep your eyes wide open. Anyway, that is  I hope this works out for the best for you. Good luck.
I agree with mild psychosis more than cheating.
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Re: My boyfriend won't have sex with me anymore [Re: shroom-a-zoom]
#17917856 - 03/07/13 09:38 AM (10 years, 10 months ago) |
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Religious feelings aside, if my significant other wakes me up in the middle of the night, yelling about not wanting to have sex with me any more, uh, i'm going to reconsider the relationship. And tell them to take their meds.
I first brought up cheating because it seemed like a possible excuse, or lie to cover his tracks - "Naw honey, it's not that im seeing another woman, its god, thats why im leaving you..." But I doubt it.
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