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Offlinenettwerk
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Don't be shy about picking up
    #1788262 - 08/07/03 01:58 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Just a note for those out there who are too nervous to try picking up the one they have a crush on. About two years ago I met a girl and developed a mad crush on her. Maybe I should have been more forward, but I was nervous as hell too. We went out a few times, but she always said to me that she wasn't looking for a relationship and was happy to have good friends like me around. I gave her as much time as I could, but 9 times out of 10 she'd blow me off. When I started feeling foolish for going after her, I gave up and moved on. We still have been running into eachother once in a while and talking whenever we meet up.

Well, a little while back, my girlfriend and I and some of our friends went to a wedding and my friend from 2 years ago was there as well. The girls hit it off well and we all had a lot of fun and many bottles of wine that night. Word got back to me that my friend who I had given up on really did like me, but was too nervous to have a go at it, and then it was too late because I had found my current girlfriend.

This really bugged me, mostly because my gf felt threatened and made a big deal out of it. I'm happy with the current situation though and wouldn't go chasing after dead dreams. It's a little depressing to think about it all because we might have had a great relationship and I think we both missed out on something special. So for any of you out there who might be second guessing yourselves, take a lesson from me and don't be so shy.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: nettwerk]
    #1788543 - 08/07/03 03:09 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

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nettwerk said:
she always said to me that she wasn't looking for a relationship and was happy to have good friends like me around.




when girls talk about relationships and being friends its a clear sign that they want your man seed.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: Lazerouth]
    #1788754 - 08/07/03 03:50 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

dued let me tell you something stick with what you have!It sounds like a similar story about me about a year ago. The girl from the past just wants attention because you seem like your taken now and that seems appealing to her. I ended up going to jail at the end of my story and about 1 year of probation. so be careful around women. they are fucking assholes. no matter how you think they are or how nice they are. they will fucking screw you big time!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If that girl wanted you she would have gotten you back then. and for godsakes don't cheat on your old lady. be a man! tell her how you feel. don't cheat on her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!have a little character. sorry im rambling on but you sound like me a year ago and if would have been a man or just had someone too talk to about it maybe just maybe i would have done the right thing.:) hell i had a girl come in my office last week and put her fine ass in my face and ask me how it looked! instant hard on. but i didn't chase her down. because ive learned what could happen when you deceive people.and start telling lies. well maybe ive put some insight into your brain or you might have stopped reading by now. but i do know one thing you only learn from experience and i have fucking learned! that gf you have probably really cares for you.and that is a hard thing to find:)


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Offlinenettwerk
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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: Tomandjerry58]
    #1788868 - 08/07/03 04:24 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)


Yeah, I wasn't quite all-together back then to realize some of the signals, but I was putting out plenty myself for her to grab. It's too bad I never had that little escapade but I got a great thing going right now and wouldn't give it up for anyone. She does really care for me, and although I'm still younge, I've learned that's very rare in a girl, and well worth keeping.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: nettwerk]
    #1788933 - 08/07/03 04:42 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

im married now and have a 1 month old little girl. my wife loved me enough to give me a second chance. im happier than i have ever been in my life. If she really cares for you stay with her. all that other shit is just pussy.And sometimes looking is a hell of alot better than doing. because it leaves mystery. which leades to curiosity and thats when you get into trouble. hey she had a chance she blew it. so who gives a fuck about her let her sift threw the guys that will give her one night stands,cheat on her,emotionally abuse her. then the next time she meets a guy that has a little sense that probably would treat her right, maybe she will respect that. most girls like guys use phisical attraction for their way of getting together. which don't get me wrong plays a big part but being able to get along wwith your mate and caring for each other is 80% of the relationship. and thats what alot of younger women look over nowadays.:) hope ive helped . but if you do one thing don't cheat on her.respect her she probably really cares. how would you feel if she cheated on you? have a nice day and treat her like a queen she deserves it.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: Tomandjerry58]
    #1789905 - 08/07/03 09:46 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Man, im so shy about it...and there's a girl who i really like right now...and who i think like's me..but it could just be friendship wise :s Im scared to make a move cause it could ruin our friendship. Fuck it bug's me.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: PDU]
    #1791389 - 08/08/03 10:16 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

PDU: I know what you mean. It can be hard as hell when you're in the middle of it. She might be just as shy as you are and worried about the friendship. Being funny and aloof always helps you get away with stuff you'd never want to say seriously. When the girl told me that her friend asked her out but she turned him down, and we were talking about dating eligibility, and how some people just aren't considered, some are just friends, some were eligible but she's known them for too long....

I should have said something like "Really, you didn't go for him? You must be waiting for just the right guy...(eye contact here!) Imagine if I ever asked you out, what slot would you categorize me into?"(aloof tone)

Instead, I choked, and read her as being upset and distressed that her friend asked her out. I figured there's no way I can ask her out any time soon (because I'm "just a friend" aren't I?), but apparently that wasn't the case.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: nettwerk]
    #1791504 - 08/08/03 11:00 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: ]
    #1793275 - 08/08/03 08:01 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

dlagwagon said:
man i've lost so many and only got a few cause i'm such a pussy, i won't even ask a girl to hang out i'm so nervous!




me too, but whats the worst that can happen? we get denied and dont end up hanging out with her either way, but there's that chance...just gotta remind ourselve's of that.


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Re: Don't be shy about picking up [Re: PDU]
    #1799807 - 08/11/03 12:08 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Good luck, guys. I went for it and I'm two and a half years into the happiest relationship of my life.

Cheers,

2dope


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