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circastes
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Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this?
#17833853 - 02/20/13 01:26 AM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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I spent most of my time in Nature or in my thoughts or in music. I interact with family seldom (who I live with, there's 3 of us), don't have any friends except one of my brothers who I "hang" with on occasion, and consider my life beautiful overall (with recurring confusion) as life itself and my mind (separable?), especially Nature and rainforests, give me what I'm out for.
Is this okay?
edit: I should add I feel love much of my time, apparently coming from myself.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17834077 - 02/20/13 03:10 AM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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Of course, this is just another thread where people who are more-or-less "loners" feel more comfortable being alone, but self-conscious in the fact they are different from the extroverted people around them and are seeking reassurance from others that their lifestyle choice is "okay."
You don't need affirmation from others if you are happy with your own life.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17834468 - 02/20/13 07:19 AM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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circastes said: I spent most of my time in Nature or in my thoughts or in music. I interact with family seldom (who I live with, there's 3 of us), don't have any friends except one of my brothers who I "hang" with on occasion, and consider my life beautiful overall (with recurring confusion) as life itself and my mind (separable?), especially Nature and rainforests, give me what I'm out for.
Is this okay?
edit: I should add I feel love much of my time, apparently coming from myself.
I would give you a pat on the head and toss you a Milk Bone.
If I Only Could.
Seriously though you are fine. Sounds like you have reached a similar nirvana as I have. It's cool to be cool. Let that rain fall from your back like off the smooth oily feathers of a wood duck.
I mean I have hummingbirds as "pets". What else is it if you feed something, it comes and sits next to you, you can chat with it, and it always comes back. A pet, right?
From what I recall you have had lots of pain so if you are enjoying life why wonder why? My attitude is that people don't suck so much as they just don't get "it" in large part. Faulty connections too much texting too much "conventional wisdom"? Whatever it is I just watch them with interest much like my hummingbird friend. Chatting occasionally, giving them a little food for thought, but mostly inside my little world of my own making.
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Edited by LunarEclipse (02/20/13 07:22 AM)
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17835572 - 02/20/13 12:11 PM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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If it feels okay to you then it's okay.
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circastes
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: Le_Canard]
#17836025 - 02/20/13 01:30 PM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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Thanks everyone!
It's not so much reassurance as that I'm wondering if I've got it wrong somehow? It really works, it really does, I just wonder if maybe I should be seeking friendships or something because they contain some element of life that I'd benefit from...
I don't feel alone, at all. I think loneliness is a misunderstanding.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17836165 - 02/20/13 01:55 PM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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I'm the same way. I don't need to constantly be around people to make me happy. There is loneliness, and there is solitude and there is a big difference between the two.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: Le_Canard]
#17837584 - 02/20/13 06:18 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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I also find comfort in solitude and I consider my life very fulfilling....
Nothing wrong with it, OP. Some people are introverts and some are extroverts. I don't depend on others to find my own happiness, although I will say that COMPLETE solitude is not healthy. I enjoy probably 80% of my time by myself and 20% of my time with others. If you are literally alone all the time then I don't think that's too healthy, but to each his own
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circastes
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: Can-i-bus] 1
#17837719 - 02/20/13 06:46 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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Yeah I think it's probably a bit over the top, but I only get anxious from boredom, I don't actually feel alone. Reality is far too interesting itself for me to bother feeling alone. I do find my life really hard to explain/describe though hahaha.
"Yeah, I uh, live in this spaced out, attention-to-detail wonderland called awesome-consciousness, don't really see people often."
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17837763 - 02/20/13 06:53 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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Absolutely nothing wrong with needing solitude. I am the same way. I think most modern humans are conditioned to believe that being extroverted and sociable is the ideal, and anything that deviates from those traits are somehow wrong.
If you are content with the way you are, and don't view it as a hindrance, there's no need to change.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: circastes]
#17838315 - 02/20/13 08:41 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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circastes said: Thanks everyone!
It's not so much reassurance as that I'm wondering if I've got it wrong somehow? It really works, it really does, I just wonder if maybe I should be seeking friendships or something because they contain some element of life that I'd benefit from...
I don't feel alone, at all. I think loneliness is a misunderstanding.
This fucks with me time to time , like you and many others around these parts i prefer to be alone and find peace in solitude but every now and then i start getting a feeling as if i might be missing out on something (i think its really just a mind/ego fuck when it comes down to it)...
Then i go out catch up with some friends and realise how miserable they are wasting away in one form of escapism or another which still gets the better of me from time to time aswel but its no longer serves as a full blown lifestyle, it always come back around to solitary anyhow.
Absolutely nothing wrong with needing solitude. I am the same way. I think most modern humans are conditioned to believe that being extroverted and sociable is the ideal, and anything that deviates from those traits are somehow wrong.
If you are content with the way you are, and don't view it as a hindrance, there's no need to change.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: Withinity]
#17838588 - 02/20/13 09:26 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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I am same as the rest of you.
*shrugs*
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: PDU]
#17838659 - 02/20/13 09:38 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: Seekingtruth]
#17838757 - 02/20/13 09:53 PM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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Most people "seem" to be extroverts because it's what most people need to be in order to find success in life. It's hard to find/hold jobs, gain promotions, have a social circle to assist you when things get tough, etc. as an introvert. There's nothing wrong with needing solitude, but a lot of people who seem to be "extroverts" are introverted just like you. I have a strong need for solitude, but to get by I need to wear the extrovert mask most of the day.
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: happymealplease]
#17839365 - 02/21/13 12:39 AM (11 years, 4 days ago) |
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Thanks peeps. lol @ cartoon
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Re: Comfort in solitude, most of the time, what to make of this? [Re: happymealplease]
#17843348 - 02/21/13 06:02 PM (11 years, 3 days ago) |
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happymealplease said: a lot of people who seem to be "extroverts" are introverted just like you. I have a strong need for solitude, but to get by I need to wear the extrovert mask most of the day.
While this is true, it is worth noting that there are varying degrees of introversion.
While i can put on the extrovert mask, i find it exhausting, and am perfectly happy to be an introvert in an extroverts world.
That said, i do have extroverted tendencies in certain situations. I am mostly introverted by choice, finding most social interactions to be trivial and unworth the effort or strain of participation.
I do recognize that it limits me in some ways.
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