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Kalypto
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: Kalypto]
#17817655 - 02/17/13 08:38 AM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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OP, read up or youtube up on some nice PUA material. See David DeAngelo, Mystery, Tyler Durden. Free and educational.
Then get your arse in gear and place yourself outside, where girls hang out naturally, maybe get a hobby that's cheap and interesting enough to get people talking to you, without you having to think about starting a convo with them. See library for instance, cheap and public, see drawing or painting or sketching, artsy stuff goes a long way. Sketch a girl and most of the time she'll come around wanting to see what the hell you sketched. You don't even have to be any good, say you're a student or something. Mall or whatever works too. Any place that's teaming with life and doesn't require a bunch of money to allow you to hang out there.
Do that for a while, and from then on it's a numbers game. You WILL meet some chicks, and by probability alone sooner or later you'll end up nailing them, perhaps even regularly.
Avoid The Game, it's a shitty PUA book, lowest common denominator for the masses. Get some of the good stuff instead.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: InFest]
#17817764 - 02/17/13 09:19 AM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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InFest said: Hello all, So heres the deal. I'm in my early 20s, have no job, no car, and usually broke. I have my own place (thank god) in the city. I've been extremely lonely these days, and don't have much expierence in this area. I'm pretty cool once someone gets to know me and imo relatively attractive (although I cannot confirm this) Any suggestions on where and how to find women? lol sorry a bit vague I know. But I really have no idea what I'm doing here. Thanks
Get a job and buy a car.

No finance, no romance.
They made a song about it:
Edited by ch1ck3n.s0up (02/17/13 09:22 AM)
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Kalypto
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THAT book i posted has a triangle in it with wealth health and love , Each relies on the other two to have that one essentially , so love requires you to be wealthy and healthy , this doesnt mean you need to be mister moneybags just that you can like support yourself and have some free money , and health is easy dont be like a fat druggy , chicks dont like that
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ch1ck3n.s0up said: Get a job and buy a car.

No finance, no romance.
That's just not true!
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AquaDub
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LunarEclipse said: Great advice people. Guy has no money, no car, no confidence and has to drink to get any. Advice is walk? to bar, buy drinks he can't afford, and hope to meet some floozy. To what, walk back to his place? OK pretty basic stuff. Maybe he can find some spare change on the walk there if he keeps his head down.
The thread is about getting laid, not landing the woman of his dreams. So, yeah. Walk to the nearest bar with 20 bucks, have a few, buy a few for her, walk back to your place. Shouldnt be driving if hes drinking anyways
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: AquaDub]
#17818708 - 02/17/13 11:45 AM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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LunarEclipse said: Great advice people. Guy has no money, no car, no confidence and has to drink to get any. Advice is walk? to bar, buy drinks he can't afford, and hope to meet some floozy. To what, walk back to his place? OK pretty basic stuff. Maybe he can find some spare change on the walk there if he keeps his head down.
The thread is about getting laid, not landing the woman of his dreams. So, yeah. Walk to the nearest bar with 20 bucks, have a few, buy a few for her, walk back to your place. Shouldnt be driving if hes drinking anyways
True, and if you dont want to spend too much money, go out around 12:30-1:00am when the women are already drunk. Then you might buy them one drink, say a few funny things, then suggest going back to your place for a few more drinks since the bar/clubs close at 2am. The rest will fall into place
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AquaDub said:
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LunarEclipse said: Great advice people. Guy has no money, no car, no confidence and has to drink to get any. Advice is walk? to bar, buy drinks he can't afford, and hope to meet some floozy. To what, walk back to his place? OK pretty basic stuff. Maybe he can find some spare change on the walk there if he keeps his head down.
The thread is about getting laid, not landing the woman of his dreams. So, yeah. Walk to the nearest bar with 20 bucks, have a few, buy a few for her, walk back to your place. Shouldnt be driving if hes drinking anyways
True, and if you dont want to spend too much money, go out around 12:30-1:00am when the women are already drunk. Then you might buy them one drink, say a few funny things, then suggest going back to your place for a few more drinks since the bar/clubs close at 2am. The rest will fall into place 
Great. Stumbling drunk chick in heels walking back to your place assuming she can even make it. Probably puke in your place and then pass out. The only thing falling in his place will be her. Falling down.
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InFest
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Yeah, PUA stuff is not really what I'm looking for. I think I'm really looking for a decent relationship, I just don't have any idea of how to do this sorta stuff. I've lived a relatively sheltered life.
Sheltered really isn't the right word; I've seen and gone through allot of stuff in my life. but sheltered when it comes to women, yeah. I don't really know where to begin. In fact, the only thing in this world I can say I'm afraid of are girls lol.
My goal is getting back into college. Part of my inexperience comes the fact I left the university I got into after high school, cause I got wasted and ended up being taken out of the li bary by the paramedics. Blood alcohol level .43. But I digress.
There is a university about 3 miles from home. I've applied, and am pretty sure I won't have issues with admission. But that is not until the summer. But my intention is getting into law school, if I can. Thats gotta be a be a good outlet for my self confidence and what not eh?
The problem too, is that its fucking winter here. Very cold and snowy. Otherwise I'd be a little more apt to head down to the beach or something. Its depressing
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: InFest]
#17819266 - 02/17/13 01:49 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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I'm trying to go to law school too
Good luck...what have we gotten ourselves into
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Kalypto
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: itsthedank]
#17819597 - 02/17/13 02:21 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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Pua stuff doesnt have to be about one night stands, if thats what you think then you know nothing about it
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LunarEclipse
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: InFest]
#17821108 - 02/17/13 07:21 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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InFest said: Yeah, PUA stuff is not really what I'm looking for. I think I'm really looking for a decent relationship, I just don't have any idea of how to do this sorta stuff. I've lived a relatively sheltered life.
Sheltered really isn't the right word; I've seen and gone through allot of stuff in my life. but sheltered when it comes to women, yeah. I don't really know where to begin. In fact, the only thing in this world I can say I'm afraid of are girls lol.
My goal is getting back into college. Part of my inexperience comes the fact I left the university I got into after high school, cause I got wasted and ended up being taken out of the li bary by the paramedics. Blood alcohol level .43. But I digress.
There is a university about 3 miles from home. I've applied, and am pretty sure I won't have issues with admission. But that is not until the summer. But my intention is getting into law school, if I can. Thats gotta be a be a good outlet for my self confidence and what not eh?
The problem too, is that its fucking winter here. Very cold and snowy. Otherwise I'd be a little more apt to head down to the beach or something. Its depressing
Well the worst part is that women hate guys who lack self confidence. Better to be a jerk than a wimp. Just don't equate school money a car a job or any of that shit with self confidence. Sounds stupid right now I know. But trust me. If you lack self confidence now going to college isn't going to help. It may even make it worse! Now you are really competing.
So you gotta get this shit figured out NOW without all this future projection.
Tough love bro.
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Yeah. Just do it man. I know in your early 20s when you have confidence issues that probably sounds like a dumb culteral cliche. But really. Its that easy.
Walk your ass down to wherever the local gathering may be, and go for it. If you fail, who cares? Try again, and again, and again, until you get it right. Don't worry about perception. Just do your thing.
In my early 30's with a little bit of life behind me, and hopefully much more ahead, one thing I've learned is that BOLDNESS PAYS DIVIDENDS, ALWAYS. Be bold, be daring, say what you're thinking, you'll be surprised.
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So you're saying its more of a mind set? Like even if you don't have any real reason to be cocky, if you act like it, it doesn't really matter? I am not completely lacking self confidence all the time- just that sometimes I feel different than other people, and have a hard time finding a topic to like engage in. Maybe a better word is shy. Once I get to know ya; I don't have problems generally. Ya dig?
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: InFest]
#17821236 - 02/17/13 07:45 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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InFest said: So you're saying its more of a mind set? Like even if you don't have any real reason to be cocky, if you act like it, it doesn't really matter? I am not completely lacking self confidence all the time- just that sometimes I feel different than other people, and have a hard time finding a topic to like engage in. Maybe a better word is shy. Once I get to know ya; I don't have problems generally. Ya dig?
Absolutely man. And in regards to dealing with women, at least upon first meeting, its all about perception. I hate to generalize, but Im going to. Women love a confident man, moreso upon first impressions.... They of course love a man with confidence later on to an extent, but balanced with compassion and sensitivity.
But yeah, if you're in a social venue like a bar, the perception of confidence is paramount. Believe in yourself, and project it. Try to become self aware, rather than self conscious . Above all, remember, that at this point, its all a game, none of it really matters. If you fail, keep trying. No one is judging you other than yourself
**No one IMPORTANT is judging you, other than yourself, I should say
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Edited by AquaDub (02/17/13 07:47 PM)
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: AquaDub]
#17821279 - 02/17/13 07:53 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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I think you're just shy OP. The only way to overcome shyness is to not be shy...talk to randos, men and women...ask someone for the time, talk to someone on the bus or make small talk with the gas station clerk about the weather or some random shit about the day.
I'm shy too dude, but I'm cool with it. I know I'm shy and by doing those things above, I can overcome and NOT be shy when the situation calls for it...like when I wanna talk to a pretty lady. Knawmsayin...
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: Kalypto]
#17821662 - 02/17/13 09:05 PM (11 years, 7 days ago) |
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Kalypto said: Pua stuff doesnt have to be about one night stands, if thats what you think then you know nothing about it
I second this, PUA is THE shit to get a handle on, if you are having trouble getting laid OR getting a relationship. The name, pick-up, is somewhat of a misnomer, implying it only deals with breaking the ice and nailing the girl the first time. It's not. It spans the whole range of male-female interactions, from getting to know a girl, to spending the rest of your life with her and growing old together (if that's what you want to do).
Several of us have brought this up to you already. If from here on you fail to even Google and get informed about this, then suit yourself. You asked for advice, that is it. Read up and get the theory right, then go out there and get the practice as well.
The chances of you meeting a girl that's relationship material are far better if you have 3-4 new female friends, than if you're a lonely dude with confidence issues.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: Fedor] 1
#17822453 - 02/17/13 11:45 PM (11 years, 6 days ago) |
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Fedor said: Maybe you should read about the game?
Oh god no. Fuck that book and any tool that seriously trys that shit out on ladies.
Go to the bar and chat with people fer fuck sakes, aint that hard to get some broads attention once shes loosened up a little. However if you want a relationship thats actually meaningful those are a lot harder to come by, you gotta put yourself out there, having a steady job and a car helps out immensely it shows them that you can get shit done, your a man, independent, interesting and actually have something to offer. As for where to meet them it can happen anywhere if you got the gall to strike up a conversation with one, personal conversation not thinly disguised banter thats only aimed at getting them to like you enough to fuck you. Way to many virgins completely orient there conversations and actions around the opposite sex with sex in mind its a horrible mistake, your trying to build up an actual relationship, like you would with any male friend, keep that in mind, its your primary objective, sex will follow later if she develops a taste for you.
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Tbone W
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I agree that trying things from that book is made for some pathetic d bags.
OP I think it would greatly help your chances if you got a job and a car. I'd start there if it was me. Women are everywhere. Just take some chances. You're a likable guy. Get in good shape and have some confidence.
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Re: Need help getting laid [Re: Tbone W]
#17831011 - 02/19/13 03:39 PM (11 years, 5 days ago) |
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Take up a martial art. Preferably a defensive form such as Jui Jitsu and it will teach a lot of self discipline so you don't end up a as a pumped up tool spoiling for fights.
It's do 3 things for ya:
Improve your fitness/body. Lots of excersise and stretching.
You'll meet knew people and join a club of very interesting people. You might meet a girl there or starting hangin out more and thus meet girls.
Improve your confidence. Your improving body, new social circle and an interesting topic for conversation will help massively.
I met my girlfreind of 3 years because she'd seen me wandering about in my jitsu hoody. One night we met in a club, she came up to me to tell me she used to do Judo and the rest was history.
Chicks love a man that can look after himself without been an arrogant tw@t about it.
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