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 Deviate
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 Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? 
#17758302 - 02/06/13 08:16 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am 29 and have very few relationships, never had a true girlfriend. I have had sex with one girl I sort of dated and I have made out with a couple of other girls who I don't really count because they were extremely drunk and just started making out with me despite my protests. So that is all my experience with girls right there, a couple of drunk sluts who came onto me and a girl I semi dated. I want to get a girlfriend now, but I am kind of embarrassed about my loserish past. Do you think I should avoid telling prospective girlfriends about this? I know its not good to lie but I can sort of make vague statements that don't really reveal the full extent of my naivety when it comes to women. Or is it better to just be honest and open and tell them I was extremely shy and lacked confidence around women which is the reason for my lack of girlfriends?
Edited by Deviate (02/06/13 08:17 PM)
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Sulfurshelfsean
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Deviate]  2
#17758317 - 02/06/13 08:20 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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You'd be surprised how many women would like to teach you everything they know.
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AlanWatts
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Deviate]
#17758336 - 02/06/13 08:23 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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probably not as much of a turn off as your shyness and lack of confidence is, if that makes you feel any better.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: AlanWatts]
#17758517 - 02/06/13 08:56 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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if you want it bad enough, try hard enough, think and study books, get out in public and practice talking/meeting women like bars and schools(lunch time)
it will happen in no time, just don't give up, and have confindence, no one else will if you don't 
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Deviate]
#17761775 - 02/07/13 12:56 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Deviate said:
Do you think I should avoid telling prospective girlfriends about this?
Yes! Not during the first 5 minutes you speak to them, of course  But definitely be honest about it if things start to get frisky. Most women will be fine with this. If they aren't, then they're not the kind of woman you're looking for right now.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: koraks]
#17762509 - 02/07/13 03:12 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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practice on a hooker
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AlanWatts
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#17762629 - 02/07/13 03:32 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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practice on a hooker
a real seasoned hooker, so she can give you good advice afterwards. And don't wear a condom, that way you will be used to the feeling and can last longer. If you are nervous beforehand, just smoke some meth. It is good for your libido, and is a real confidence booster.
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: AlanWatts]
#17763682 - 02/07/13 06:57 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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AlanWatts said:
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Anonymous said:
practice on a hooker
a real seasoned hooker, so she can give you good advice afterwards. And don't wear a condom, that way you will be used to the feeling and can last longer. If you are nervous beforehand, just smoke some meth. It is good for your libido, and is a real confidence booster.
OK, I'm not too sure I agree with any of this personally. Always wear a condom with a hooker or someone that you don't know and I have found that the few times I've had meth that it has killed my erection...
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AlanWatts
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Jordy]
#17763710 - 02/07/13 07:03 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well I guess you know more about meth and hookers than I do, good sir.
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luisacuadillo
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Deviate]
#17763792 - 02/07/13 07:19 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Deviate said:
I am 29 and have very few relationships, never had a true girlfriend. I have had sex with one girl I sort of dated and I have made out with a couple of other girls who I don't really count because they were extremely drunk and just started making out with me despite my protests. So that is all my experience with girls right there, a couple of drunk sluts who came onto me and a girl I semi dated. I want to get a girlfriend now, but I am kind of embarrassed about my loserish past. Do you think I should avoid telling prospective girlfriends about this? I know its not good to lie but I can sort of make vague statements that don't really reveal the full extent of my naivety when it comes to women. Or is it better to just be honest and open and tell them I was extremely shy and lacked confidence around women which is the reason for my lack of girlfriends?
There are some girls that actually find inexperience in sexuality (but assertiveness in other regards like intelligence, demeanor), to be a HUGE turn on. Like ahem, me. So be yourself and be honest! She may reveal her inner dominatrix and please you!
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: luisacuadillo]
#17764065 - 02/07/13 08:12 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Depends on how you carry yourself. If you're timid, yes. If you are confident, no... they tend to think they are special because you chose them. Honestly, I would not bring it up.
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 Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: All We Perceive]
#17765196 - 02/07/13 11:48 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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AlanWatts said:
probably not as much of a turn off as your shyness and lack of confidence is, if that makes you feel any better.
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koraks said:
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Deviate said:
Do you think I should avoid telling prospective girlfriends about this?
Yes! Not during the first 5 minutes you speak to them, of course But definitely be honest about it if things start to get frisky. Most women will be fine with this. If they aren't, then they're not the kind of woman you're looking for right now.
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All We Perceive said:
Depends on how you carry yourself. If you're timid, yes. If you are confident, no... they tend to think they are special because you chose them. Honestly, I would not bring it up.
All quoted is good advice. I personally don't have a ton of sexual experience because A) it's just not the #1 thing on my priority list B) intelligence turns me on as much as looks (though looks are obviously nice in a sexual relationship) and C) when I do get some they never seem to mind taking control and making it a good experience for us both. Also I'm sorta timid sexually, in general, but when I gain a females trust, the inner animal in me finally comes lose and I probably perform a lot better than I normally feel conditioned to think due to my lack of getting tons of pussy left and right.
If you're looking for a relationship, as stated, they'll be looking for more than just a good dick-down assuming they're looking for a relationship for similar reasons. And if you meet a girl you really connect with, exploring each other sexually and building chemistry can be a lot of fun.
The few flings I've had with women have been sorta awkward and goofy but fun at the same time. And over the years these women still call ME because they're attracted to my philosophies and intelligence and chill attitude and those shallow sluts just love my body (the shallow slut part is a joke, but I know my body drives them nuts lol)
This one girl I met at a rave and did some molly with and danced with ended up in my hotel room later that night. I later realized she has a boyfriend (although they have a rocky relationship) and she's mentioned him to me and says she likes fucking him. Yet she'll STILL drive 2 hours to my place to sleep with me. When I told her I'm sorta shy at opening up until I feel comfortable, she'll just turn on me and start making out with me til she's ready and then she'll rip my pants off and start suckin' til I'm rocked up and then she'll hop on. I guess I just have a special something 
If you're a good looking guy and have a solid head to offer, and are open to learning, most women really won't find it a big deal. Just don't be completely retarded and act put off by it. If you show some passion, that'll give you a start no doubt.
29 though huh? I'm a little younger so even the girls I sleep with are still sorta fucking around too. You find a solid lady your age that's willing to get down with you.. just get into it and don't let up and it'll quite possibly be her pleasure 
We were all virgins at one point!
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: extreme]
#17772655 - 02/09/13 12:54 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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I always use the "I'm a virgin." saying.
They will literally try to jump in your pants, Works EVERY time. 
I guess girls like what they can't have. 
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ForgottenExistence
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#17773308 - 02/09/13 03:41 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Some of us are teachers.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#17774246 - 02/09/13 06:55 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
I always use the "I'm a virgin." saying.
They will literally try to jump in your pants, Works EVERY time.
I guess girls like what they can't have.
Good to know
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: Anonymous #4] 1
#17775000 - 02/09/13 09:58 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Relationships are built on getting people to trust each other. Trust happens when there is honest communication. In my past I have always just asked what they like and then suggested (never demanded) things I might like. Sexual relations is a union where both parties are in it (ultimately) for their own personal gratification until they reach their own personal plateau, after which the self becomes subordinated to the moment, the intense desires of the partner and being the catalyst so that they realize Self. It all happens with time and good, honest communication. There is nothing here to hide or cause for shame. It can be awkward for a moment or it can be treated as something funny (be careful though, laughter can kill an erection sometimes) and then you just move on towards creating an ever-lasting moment of now.
Remember that it is a contact sport so you can get blocked or tackled out of play every now and then. The trick is realizing that you have a big heart to share and you can love many expletive for many unique and wonderful reasons.
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Edited by mpd (02/09/13 10:00 PM)
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Re: Do you think girls would find my lack of experience a turn off? [Re: mpd]
#17778027 - 02/10/13 03:00 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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go into it confidently. Confidence is sexy. but if you want to learn specific technique....
http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=165182754
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