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Freyja
High Priest of his own madness



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Re: What to even say to girls [Re: mycology]
#17543850 - 01/13/13 06:58 PM (11 years, 1 month ago) |
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I agree with the talk to clerks thing, It really does help. And this way you don't need to get a full conversation going the first time. I've been doing this myself.
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savage.renegade


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Re: What to even say to girls [Re: Freyja]
#17544248 - 01/13/13 08:42 PM (11 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just try more without trying so hard. I flirt with all women even if I don't want them. Maybe practice on a girl you don't get nervous around. Compliments and questions work. Women love to talk about themselves. Unless there shy. I had a bad cold awhile ago and lost my hearing for 2 weeks and I managed to carry on conversation by being agreeable and saying key things like I know exactly what youmean. You're hella right. For real?.. and smiling and getting a smile back. Then laughing but not really knowin why.
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LunarEclipse
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savage.renegade said: Just try more without trying so hard. I flirt with all women even if I don't want them. Maybe practice on a girl you don't get nervous around. Compliments and questions work. Women love to talk about themselves. Unless there shy. I had a bad cold awhile ago and lost my hearing for 2 weeks and I managed to carry on conversation by being agreeable and saying key things like I know exactly what youmean. You're hella right. For real?.. and smiling and getting a smile back. Then laughing but not really knowin why.
Ultimately, if it isn't fun for the guy it won't be fun for the woman. The real thing with the clerks is they are not going to reject you, generally all clerks like to talk, and many of the clerk women are there cause they like to talk to guys. But yeah if you get them talking and smiling it allows you to relax as well. Still as with some guys my default setting is frown. Then the girl will think oh he doesn't like me or he is a negative ned.
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Connoisseur

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savage.renegade said: Just try more without trying so hard. I flirt with all women even if I don't want them. Maybe practice on a girl you don't get nervous around. Compliments and questions work. Women love to talk about themselves. Unless there shy. I had a bad cold awhile ago and lost my hearing for 2 weeks and I managed to carry on conversation by being agreeable and saying key things like I know exactly what youmean. You're hella right. For real?.. and smiling and getting a smile back. Then laughing but not really knowin why.
Says a lot about women
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savage.renegade


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Re: What to even say to girls [Re: Connoisseur]
#17549838 - 01/14/13 10:47 PM (11 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you don't want someone to say no to you then only ask questions which you know they will say yes.
If you can ask question and give a compliment in one sentence then you have accomplished something especially if they answer yes.
I also enjoy talking double meanings which gives me pyschological delight to no end.
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Dough
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bro you gotta pop some moll at a party, it'll do some of the work for you if you feel like MDMA cold help out for a time or two im proof.i brought myself into a pretty positive personality change w shrooms and some other good stuff but thats just me
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Repertoire89
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Building confidence
Say hello to people on the street Ask people how they're doing at waits (bus stops, offices, bs) When starting a conversation, start with a question
Talk to as many people as you can, go out and get used to socializing. Can't figure out how? Volunteer somewhere
Good luck to you OP
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Thanks there was some good advice, my problem isn't confidence. Its ironic that I actually operate very well in situations where you could get in trouble but if your good at talking you can talk your way out. But when it comes to girls I have nothing to say, mostly because me and my friends talk alot about reality and time and all that sort of stuff. Also Im not going to put a picture of myself but I look pretty good that isn't a problem.
Edited by Anonymous (01/15/13 08:08 PM)
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Dough
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yea chances are if you're on here you might need to air on the side of a girl who is more mellowed out, "likes to partake in substances" broadly whatever and might take an interest into the shit you think about that's so deep but don't rant on like a spacehead talk about relevant things, ask her whats good in her day in a life if you're just meeting idek
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shaggyp
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Anonymous said: Thanks there was some good advice, my problem isn't confidence. Its ironic that I actually operate very well in situations where you could get in trouble but if your good at talking you can talk your way out. But when it comes to girls I have nothing to say, mostly because me and my friends talk alot about reality and time and all that sort of stuff. Also Im not going to put a picture of myself but I look pretty good that isn't a problem.
That's funny, because last week I had this in-depth 3-hour conversation with my girlfriend about the nature of space/time travel, what aliens would look like, etc. and it turned out to be extremely insightful for both of us. I had no idea she was even interested because I ASSUMED she wasn't, turns out I was wrong.
I should also mention she's drop-dead gorgeous, the kind of girl that gets 5+ high school acquaintances confessing their undying love to her through facebook every week, and nothing about her appearance suggests she would have a nerdy side.
Basically I'm saying your right, you can't just approach someone with "So how do you feel about time travel?", you need to start more casual, but don't assume girls aren't in to interesting stuff. Just be yourself!
As far as making small talk, one of the other posters was right about practicing by just saying "Hey, how ya doin?" to more people. You need to get used to just chit chatting, then it won't be such a big deal that it's a girl.
Just today I met a girl at college by saying "Are you waitlisted for this class, too?" right after. It was a DUMB question, and I already clearly knew the answer. That didn't matter, we talked for 10 minutes after that.
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Edited by shaggyp (01/16/13 05:09 PM)
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