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tealeaf
Just Touch It


Registered: 09/21/06
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i think what ive learned from all this is plain and simple, chivalry is dead in the sense of what it used to be.
i think today to be chivalrous, you just gotta stick your neck out when other people dont, step in an do the things everyone steps over, just be an all around good person. kinda sad that we need to come up with a term to define what should be normal every day behavior.
perfect example, went jogging on mushrooms in winter, terrible idea but was still fun. lady was stuck on the street corner in her wheelchair in the snow and ppl were walking right past her. ppl are walking past her and here come lil ole me fried to the bejesus on fungus and i push her all the way to walgreens. i coulda kept walking like everyone else and considering the state of my condition (MF'ing BS!) coulda acted like i had no idea what was happeneing. now does that make me chivalrous, fuck no i just did what was supposed to be done and now apparently that needs to be labled something instead of doing the right thing
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yogabunny
fancy cat



Registered: 11/01/09
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Loc: Nasty Women Get Shit Done
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Re: Chivalry [Re: Newbie]
#17427797 - 12/21/12 01:51 PM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Newbie said:
My brain judges pictures based on the style they were taken in. If it's a pose in a bathroom mirror showcasing an ass or boobies (non-nude, just obvious pose) my brain sees that as, "This chic is putting herself on display."
If she posts a picture of herself at party or something, or just simply being herself, I don't see them as being on display.
i guess that makes sense. however, a lot of users post judgmental comments regardless.
also lots of dudes post pics in the bathroom mirror or with the shirts off, muscles displayed, and you don't hear any of the men OR women calling them attention whores who need validation. Again, it's usually just like, nice arms bro, how much do you lift? etc.
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Masked
The Nutter


Registered: 11/26/12
Posts: 8,979
Loc: Canada
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attention whores who need validation
what's wrong with that? my need for validation doesn't make me a bad person. Perhaps deluded, but it's a value system embedded in my psyche.
We all trigger "happiness responses in our brain" in whatever way works best for us.
I posted a picture of myself in the sexy guys forum once...and for the first time in a long time, I felt great about my appearance. I was exercising and weight lifting regularly before posting the photo. The replies I received felt very negative "steroid junkie posting half naked pictures" or something along those lines. or "why do guys who don't look good post pictures without their shirt on"
I took it down because I felt it bothered people, maybe offended, created jealousy, contempt, etc. maybe i don't look as good as I feel? i dunno. It stung a little, but whatever. I won't lose sleep over it.
Guys definetely don't get as much backlash, but we still get it.
edit: after re-reading, I should note, I pose my original question in general. Not accusing you of accusing people of seeking validation
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geokills
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Registered: 05/08/01
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Chivalry is not dead in my world. I held a door open and carried bags for a woman this morning, after waking up at 4:55am to drive her to the airport (I also do this for guys for what it's worth). I helped another woman with her jacket earlier this week. I offer my own jacket in the cold, even if it means that I will suffer. I kept my dick in my pants even when it seemed likely that I could have taken advantage of the situation, because I care more about the long term consequence of my relationship with this woman, and in light of prior conversation earlier in the day and week, I knew that she was way too drunk at that point to be making a fully conscious decision.
I do these things because my integrity is paramount. It is important for me to feel that I am acting in a way that I would want others to act towards me. I do so particularly with women, because it is how I was brought up, but I do so more generally, because it releases dopamine in my brain and makes me feel good. The human experience is comprised of the sum of individual actions. I want the human experience to be a positive one.
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Masked
The Nutter



Registered: 11/26/12
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Loc: Canada
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I want the human experience to be a positive one.
another play on pay it forward. It's just good for everybody
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luvdemshrooms
Two inch dick..but it spins!?


Registered: 11/29/01
Posts: 34,247
Loc: Lost In Space
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geokills said: Chivalry is not dead in my world. I held a door open and carried bags for a woman this morning, after waking up at 4:55am to drive her to the airport (I also do this for guys for what it's worth). I helped another woman with her jacket earlier this week. I offer my own jacket in the cold, even if it means that I will suffer. I kept my dick in my pants even when it seemed likely that I could have taken advantage of the situation, because I care more about the long term consequence of my relationship with this woman, and in light of prior conversation earlier in the day and week, I knew that she was way too drunk at that point to be making a fully conscious decision.
I do these things because my integrity is paramount. It is important for me to feel that I am acting in a way that I would want others to act towards me. I do so particularly with women, because it is how I was brought up, but I do so more generally, because it releases dopamine in my brain and makes me feel good. The human experience is comprised of the sum of individual actions. I want the human experience to be a positive one.
I must have you.
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EllisDSox
King Hella!

Registered: 01/22/07
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Re: Chivalry [Re: Newbie]
#17430859 - 12/22/12 02:31 AM (11 years, 2 months ago) |
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Newbie said: An example (me)
On display:

Just being me (and letting out a fart):

It looks like the guy behind you can see the fart. Is he an X-Man?
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Newbie
User of semicolons.



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morrowasted
Worldwide Stepper



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Re: Chivalry [Re: Newbie]
#17468033 - 12/29/12 07:40 PM (11 years, 1 month ago) |
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chivalry isn't dead. I'm kind of an asshole and I still let cold-looking girls borrow my jacket
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