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the most hilarious traumatic experience ever
#16860842 - 09/17/12 05:22 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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Edited by Anonymous (10/10/12 06:03 PM)
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Lynnch
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16861694 - 09/17/12 10:46 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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Do you look at porn? What does turn you on? It's your sexuality, what do you really want? Sounds like you've had some awkward situations, but you have nothing to be guilty or ashamed about. Your first sexual experiences are usually awkward anyway.
You should go for what you're attracted to. That fear means you care right?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Lynnch]
#16861754 - 09/17/12 10:57 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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i like watching exclusively lesbian porn. particularly when one dominates the other .. lol this to me signals that i see myself as not even participating in the sexual act. a pure voyuer... 
or maybe i only identify with being a girl.
i met some girls tonight. i felt extremely uncomfortable in the beginning. then as i got more drunk i felt i could hook up with one of them...
part of my problem is i feel the eye of everyone i know watching me all the time. i feel them watching me fail. i feel bad. what can i do??
with this guy i felt good and the most sexual i have been but it could just be my own fantasy of what i imagine myself to be and avoiding the confrontation of what i really want which is girls (perhaps)...
i am confused 
he kept telling me to stop thinking about things. perhaps he was right.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16861812 - 09/17/12 11:11 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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You should relax, and go with what feels natural to you. Don't read so much into things. Do you identify with being a girl so much that you want a sex change? If you like lesbian porn you're clearly not afraid of pussy...
Chill out. Fear of failure is completely normal, failure is totally normal. You're not perfect, no one is, that's OK. The only way to get past your failures is to keep trying.
It's ok to feel good too.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Lynnch]
#16861845 - 09/17/12 11:19 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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thanks bro...
i do not want a sex change. with this guy i felt like something else. i felt good, but i felt bad that i could not reciprocate his feelings for me.
i am afraid of pussy. i am not really attracted to it. i am attracted to girls tho. wtf.
in my mind i keep arguing: either i do like girls and am just pathetically shy of approaching them OR i feel like a girl and just want a dominant person to comfort me and guide me.
my resolution atm is to try both.
my third thought is: sexuality is fucking stupid. why do i keep bothering myself with this shit?..
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16861887 - 09/17/12 11:27 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sexuality is weird. Just don't get stuck thinking you have to be a particular way. Do what works for you, relationships should be a means to find happiness. Best of luck with the life thing
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Lynnch]
#16861905 - 09/17/12 11:31 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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cheers bro.
thanks.
i have posted this kinda shit here before annonymously but at least now i feel i can move forward (in some kind of direction).
Edited by Anonymous (09/17/12 06:02 PM)
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16866498 - 09/18/12 12:40 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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dude ur gay.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16866500 - 09/18/12 12:40 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, this cab driver sounds like he didn't give you any room or time to feel unsure about yourself. He clearly was attracted to you and before you had a chance to second guess and over analyze his motives, your desirability and all the other self doubt, it was too late to sabotage it. It was an unambiguous situation, and you were not exposed to rejection.
You're not being a chick. You just can't take the lead in any of these situations, not for fear of rejection as much as ridicule, and embarrassment.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: koods]
#16866528 - 09/18/12 12:49 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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dude what you felt for the cab driver straight guys feel for women, all that lust and wanting to penetrate them.
i say you give your self a chance, and the cab driver too
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: shallowbastard]
#16866541 - 09/18/12 12:54 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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i say you give your self a chance, and the cab driver too 
i second that. More power to you brotha!
does this mean shrooms really do make you gay???
tun! tun! tun!
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: steelyNads205]
#16866550 - 09/18/12 12:57 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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easy, shrooms made me real gay
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: steelyNads205]
#16866551 - 09/18/12 12:57 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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franc36 said: dude ur gay. 
I don't think so. His buddy was his prepubescent love, sounded mutual. He cant make male friends because he is sensitive to the gay label, he can't make female friends because he's invested in the outcome, and he has no confidence.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: koods]
#16866557 - 09/18/12 12:59 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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i feel bad for op
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: steelyNads205]
#16866573 - 09/18/12 01:03 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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guys i dont think i'm gay. i think i'd like to be. it would help deal with/explain the massive stress in ordinary interactions... but who knows, it doesnt matter really. 
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koods said: Well, this cab driver sounds like he didn't give you any room or time to feel unsure about yourself. He clearly was attracted to you and before you had a chance to second guess and over analyze his motives, your desirability and all the other self doubt, it was too late to sabotage it. It was an unambiguous situation, and you were not exposed to rejection.
You're not being a chick. You just can't take the lead in any of these situations, not for fear of rejection as much as ridicule, and embarrassment.
holy shit! this right on the money bro. seriously. wow.
the funny thing is last night when i was drunk i was petrified of the girls i was with but then i reminded myself i'm probably gay, which gave me the confidence to talk and even fathom hooking up with them.
god. hence the first line of this thread.
koods you sound like a level headed person. i am thinking of going to a clinical psychologist, do you think this is a good idea? do you have any further advice?
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: koods]
#16866574 - 09/18/12 01:04 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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Look, as a gay dude, I can confidently state that there is not a gay man on this planet who prefers lesbian porn.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: steelyNads205]
#16866576 - 09/18/12 01:05 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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franc36 said: i feel bad for op 
thanks
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: koods]
#16866578 - 09/18/12 01:06 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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koods said: Look, as a gay dude, I can confidently state that there is not a gay man on this planet who prefers lesbian porn.
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: quinn]
#16866582 - 09/18/12 01:07 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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i hope you guys are getting the title of this thread by now. wtf can i do about this shit tho
Edited by quinn (09/18/12 01:16 AM)
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Re: the most hilarious traumatic experience ever [Re: quinn]
#16866592 - 09/18/12 01:14 AM (11 years, 4 months ago) |
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I know this is going to sound crazy specific, but I don't think sitting in an office talking to someone is going to do shit. Your problem is confidence. Its hard to kick start confidence if you dont have it, but once you have some, you can built on it. I think you should try Prozac for a couple months.
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