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Bundy
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I'm not much for the human body.
#16792339 - 09/05/12 12:58 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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(Or any body for that reason. except... maybe... aliens )
Anyway, as I posted before about sexuality, and as I found it in myself to be non-existent in terms, as well as gender. And further found that love is love.
Thus I lead myself to this new point.
I don't really get turned on by the female body, nor do I, the male body.
I watched some porn to see if I'd get off from it. (I watched porn when I was like 12, but never re-visited it.)
So I'm watching porn, and I check out quite the list. Hardcore, soft core, bbw, teen, role-play, lesbian, gay, et cetera. Nothing got me really going.
I did however watch these clips, with much awe. As it seems I don't find sex, or the body to be arousing in my mind or my minds eye, I did find that I was extremely attracted to the art of the human body.
I stopped watching clips, and started looking at pictures.
The human body is extremely artful. Not sure if we're made to see the body as a work of art, or as something sexual, I'm going to guess sexual as that is what seems to be the general consensus of the people, but I feel as if the body was not intended for that propaganda.
Every body is just so different. Curvy, toned, slim.
I'm probably just a very weird person.
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luisacuadillo

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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy]
#16794845 - 09/05/12 08:12 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Nah you're not weird. I'm the same way. I think women and men are beautiful, and I can recognize and appreciate their beauty from a distance, but don't seem to get much pleasure unless they directly physically stimulate me, in which case my body has no choice but to exhibit some physiological response--I don't get turned on by visual stimuli though, like porn. I actually find literotica mildly stimulating, just because I like to use my imagination when imagining the relationship between people. Further, I never seem to get preoccupied or entranced thinking about sexual matters.
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy] 1
#16794962 - 09/05/12 08:25 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bundy,
I suspect that most of the 'differences' you point out in your lack of sexual response relate to the powerful medications that you take. Most psychopharmacotherapies diminish libido. If you want to have more sexual feelings talk to your physician. There are meds that they can prescribe to help diminish some of these side effects. The problem with this of course is that you are taking meds (which have potential side effects) to treat side effects from other meds. It's a slippery slope--but sexual appetite is just so damn great it is probably worth it
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Bundy
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: pslyke]
#16795011 - 09/05/12 08:32 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Nah man. It's not my meds.
I've been like this for a VERY long time. Way before meds. I just never understood it.
All the pressures of school taught me... "FUCK BITCHES!! GET PUSSY!!!"
So I manifested that kind of mind-set in my head. Now that I'm older, and I evaluate this more often, I understand it more.
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luisacuadillo

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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy]
#16795232 - 09/05/12 09:02 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Do you want to be aroused by the human body? Do you feel you are missing out on this pleasure in life, or do you have a certain commitment to a person you need to follow through on and are having trouble doing so?
Personally I don't see it as a bad thing to be somewhat asexual, leads to less emotional turmoil overall.
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: luisacuadillo]
#16796245 - 09/05/12 11:41 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Very interesting you feel this way, it doesnt sound like a bad thing. Do you find no pleasure in the concept of sexuality tho? or is it just hard for you to get turned on? Have you ever been turned on at all? I find the idea of you not to have to be impossible.
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luisacuadillo

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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Connoisseur]
#16796787 - 09/06/12 03:11 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Are you talking to me or him
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Jordy
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: luisacuadillo]
#16797477 - 09/06/12 08:57 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bundy,
Going with the assumption here that you're a guy, by the sounds of it your brain may be wired very similarly to the way a woman's brain is wired.
Do you enjoy reading? If you do - and I know that this may sound a little silly - maybe try and pick up that new 50 shades book that women are going crazy over. If your libido is of concern to you, then it might help to stimulate it a bit more (my wife went crazy for a week, it was brilliant!!). There is a reason people say 'guys like to watch porn and girls like to read it' The reason why women like to read about it could be the very same sub-conscious reason that you prefer to look at pictures.
And I am not AT ALL insinuating that you should've been born a female by ANY means, so please don't take offence. People have very different brains, there are many women who think alot like men and vice versa. There are tests you can take that can help identify how you think. I took such a test once, and I came out as having a balanced brain.
I dunno, I could be way off - I am pretty stoned right now. But a dim light bulb switched on in my head as I was reading this and thought I might as well chip in with my .02
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Bundy
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Connoisseur]
#16797479 - 09/06/12 08:57 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Connoisseur said: Very interesting you feel this way, it doesnt sound like a bad thing. Do you find no pleasure in the concept of sexuality tho? or is it just hard for you to get turned on? Have you ever been turned on at all? I find the idea of you not to have to be impossible.
If you're talking to me, I'll answer, if the other guy, well... I'm still gonna answer. And he can answer if he wants on his own, if it was directed to him. (Reply function is hardly used.)
I find no pleasure in the concept of sexuality. It's not hard for me to get turned on. My first love was great at what she did, however, we both just lost our virginity to each other, so I'm sure we were thinking we were pro. I get turned on all the time. But not by random sex. My wife and I engage in foreplay for about 30-45 minutes before the actual sex starts.
But just merely seeing a naked body does nothing for me, except to see the beauty in it. There is no sexual pleaser/gratification in seeing a woman/man doing anything sexual.
Like I said, the last time before this past time, I Haven't looked at porn since I was 12. I might have jerked once or twice here and there, but only once to porn.. when I was 12. And I just lost interest. I need the touch of stimuli to get turned on, not the visual.
Honestly, if my wife was all for it, I'd probably never have sex again. She has told me before that If I didn't want sex, she would be fine, but I feel that sex is a vital part of a relationship.
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Bundy
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Jordy]
#16797492 - 09/06/12 09:01 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Jordy said: Bundy,
Going with the assumption here that you're a guy, by the sounds of it your brain may be wired very similarly to the way a woman's brain is wired.
Do you enjoy reading? If you do - and I know that this may sound a little silly - maybe try and pick up that new 50 shades book that women are going crazy over. If your libido is of concern to you, then it might help to stimulate it a bit more (my wife went crazy for a week, it was brilliant!!). There is a reason people say 'guys like to watch porn and girls like to read it' The reason why women like to read about it could be the very same sub-conscious reason that you prefer to look at pictures.
And I am not AT ALL insinuating that you should've been born a female by ANY means, so please don't take offence. People have very different brains, there are many women who think alot like men and vice versa. There are tests you can take that can help identify how you think. I took such a test once, and I came out as having a balanced brain.
I dunno, I could be way off - I am pretty stoned right now. But a dim light bulb switched on in my head as I was reading this and thought I might as well chip in with my .02 
No offense taken I understand completely.
I've tried "Reading porn" before, not 50 shades, but other "porno" reads, and it also did nothing.
Maybe it's just that my brain has no imagination in this department.
Porn is just an elegant work of art for me. (not video's)
I told my wife I wanted a "pin-up-girl" tattoo'd on my leg and she told me no, because they are half naked, and I tried to tell her I view it as art, but she said it's a no go. I'll probably get it done anyway. But for now I'll humor her. I enjoy all kinds of art, and the nude human body isn't exempt.
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy]
#16797558 - 09/06/12 09:23 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bundy, you're quite the character man. From what i've read on your posts (correct me if i'm wrong) you are a gay man, married to a woman, to whom you love very much.
Now i think you said that you love your woman because of her persona and how much she had shown you over years of sacrifice and loyalty.
Then i think to myself, what if you would've married a man, a guy that you're attracted to? would you be having crazy sex with him now? I think so.
Hey but maybe i'm wrong but if another man, that you're attracted to, was to run his hands all over your body and breath in your ear, maybe you would feel more aroused.
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Bundy
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shallowbastard said: Bundy, you're quite the character man. From what i've read on your posts (correct me if i'm wrong) you are a gay man, married to a woman, to whom you love very much.
Now i think you said that you love your woman because of her persona and how much she had shown you over years of sacrifice and loyalty.
Then i think to myself, what if you would've married a man, a guy that you're attracted to? would you be having crazy sex with him now? I think so.
Hey but maybe i'm wrong but if another man, that you're attracted to, was to run his hands all over your body and breath in your ear, maybe you would feel more aroused.
Negative.
I identified myself as a Gay male, because when I dated a Gay man, I felt a more romantic connection with this guy, more so than with a woman.
However, when It came down the the sexual, I froze up. Sure part of it was fear of this new thing going on, but the other was just... lack of interest. Not in him, just in sex.
My wife, that guy, and my first love are the only ones I've had sex with in my life.
I haven't enjoyed, or been interested in the sexual aspect of any. When I lost my virginity I was pumped. That was fun. But, that was it. It was pretty much... "Alright, I did it, woot, time to find something else to do now. Monopoly anyone?" < Best way I can describe it.
In my other thread in here, I pretty much identified myself as neither gay, nor straight, nor bi. Simply, I put off the idea of sexuality and Gender.
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy]
#16797633 - 09/06/12 09:46 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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huh, then maybe you're not as horny as other people are? maybe different things turn you on, like personality. maybe if you were to meet someone who you feel really attracted to his/her personality, then the fire under your pants would burst into flames on its on
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Bundy
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shallowbastard said: huh, then maybe you're not as horny as other people are? maybe different things turn you on, like personality. maybe if you were to meet someone who you feel really attracted to his/her personality, then the fire under your pants would burst into flames on its on
Would be something aye? But I am forever married.
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: Bundy]
#16798007 - 09/06/12 11:22 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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It is what it is. No need to decode anything. If you really want to conceptualize your experience, why not go with asexual?
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: eira]
#16798128 - 09/06/12 11:47 AM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Funny you picked Al Bundy as your avatar considering he is one of the most overtly sexual characters in any sitcom outside of maybe Charlie Harper 
But honestly I kinda doubt your wife was being honest when she said she was cool never having sex again. Unless she is equally asexual
I can't even imagine a marriage like that, I feel like it would grow cold pretty quickly
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Bundy
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Re: I'm not much for the human body. [Re: bloodsheen]
#16800595 - 09/06/12 06:58 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: Funny you picked Al Bundy as your avatar considering he is one of the most overtly sexual characters in any sitcom outside of maybe Charlie Harper 
When I picked Bundy, I was aiming more towards Ted, not the sitcom guy. I HATE married with Children, that show is sooooo annoying.
I just thought it was more characteristic to pick Al.
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