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AroundtheSon
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What is the proper way to respond to people?
#11480811 - 11/18/09 06:44 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am genuinely unsure.
When someone needs to tell you something really important, or you can tell the topic is serious, how are we supposed to respond?
What is the right way to respond to someone emotionally?
I tend to intellectualize shit, or try to find solutions to the issue, but in my experience, these types of reactions do not help people.
People want to feel heard. They want their feelings validated.
I am not stupid. But I guess I am socially stupid. What is the proper way to respond. Doe a 'hmm-uh' really work? like in the psychologist movies?
Seriously?
1 ) Serious topic
2 ) ??????
3 ) Profits!!!11?
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: AroundtheSon]
#11480833 - 11/18/09 06:46 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you're just trying to get out of the situation without hurting their feelings, tell them what you think they want to hear. Just don't stray too far from what your real opinion may be, because they will be able to tell what you're doing and you'll ruin your chances of feigning interest/empathy.
If you're actually being empathetic, it'll probably come naturally.
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AroundtheSon
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: lukeboots]
#11480838 - 11/18/09 06:47 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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lukeboots said: If you're actually being empathetic, it'll probably come naturally.
most of the things people worry about are so petty
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: AroundtheSon]
#11480849 - 11/18/09 06:49 PM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I agree. Like you said, they just want to be validated.
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AroundtheSon
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: AroundtheSon]
#11524636 - 11/25/09 07:43 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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bump for jesus
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druqs
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: AroundtheSon]
#11524649 - 11/25/09 07:47 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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''there there'' *pat/rub on back* for A woman
''wow fuckity fuck christ dude'' *man-hug* for a man
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Life Upon Death
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: AroundtheSon]
#11524662 - 11/25/09 07:50 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
AroundtheSon said: I am genuinely unsure.
When someone needs to tell you something really important, or you can tell the topic is serious, how are we supposed to respond?
What is the right way to respond to someone emotionally?
I tend to intellectualize shit, or try to find solutions to the issue, but in my experience, these types of reactions do not help people.
People want to feel heard. They want their feelings validated.
I am not stupid. But I guess I am socially stupid. What is the proper way to respond. Doe a 'hmm-uh' really work? like in the psychologist movies?
Seriously?
1 ) Serious topic
2 ) ??????
3 ) Profits!!!11?
depends on the person and depends what they tell me
I tend to speak from the heart and try to be understanding I guess
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: Life Upon Death]
#11524686 - 11/25/09 07:57 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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I usually respond with, shut up pussy and then
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Salomon
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: Maurer]
#11524721 - 11/25/09 08:06 AM (14 years, 2 months ago) |
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swift kick in the testicles. the best way for them to forget about thier feelings.
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: Salomon]
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: xbloodwhipx]
#16721347 - 08/18/12 03:57 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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JesusIsLord
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: xbloodwhipx]
#16721357 - 08/18/12 03:59 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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If people want validation instead of solutions, I'd tell them to go find an emotional tampon (aka niceguy) elsewhere. Cry me a river
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: JesusIsLord]
#16721393 - 08/18/12 04:09 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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Emotions are meaningless, all direction must stem from the desire for the benefit of the motherland.
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JesusIsLord
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: EvolveShrooms]
#16721404 - 08/18/12 04:11 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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EvolveShrooms said: Emotions are meaningless, all direction must stem from the desire for the benefit of the motherland.
that's right comrade, all for the good of Oceania!
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Re: What is the proper way to respond to people? [Re: xbloodwhipx]
#16721438 - 08/18/12 04:19 PM (11 years, 5 months ago) |
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xbloodwhipx said:

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