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do girls usually say yes if asked out
#16711746 - 08/16/12 10:41 PM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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if a girl met a guy who she thought was funny and he never did anything to embarassing around her or anything like that and was always confident in himself and good looking and has bought her a drink before and they've talked a decent bit about casual stuff and joked before and whatnot and he wasn't yet in the "friend zone" and she was nice and not stuck up and he asked her out would she probably say yes
oh yeah and he's also two years younger than hertho but they are pretty much the same maturity wise
stupid question of inexperience the question stems from fear and generalizations dont even work but yea dont have much experience with dating
Edited by Anonymous (08/17/12 07:15 PM)
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16711819 - 08/16/12 10:53 PM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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ask her to do something and act like its a date but don't label it as such and see if there is clickage going on.
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Larrythescaryrex said: ask her to do something and act like its a date but don't label it as such and see if there is clickage going on.
yep thats what i'd planned on doing like not neccessarily a one on one thing at first but some group smoke sesh with a bunch of people or something and then getting alone with her and talkng for a while then asking her out
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16711862 - 08/16/12 11:00 PM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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but clearly act like its a date or your in danger of friend zone, definately go for a hug at the end of the exchange.
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ok sounds good
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16713232 - 08/17/12 05:29 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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eh.. you should go for the hug at the start of the exchange. i mean, you should typically give your friends hugs when you see them anyway, right? hugs build closeness. if the two of you can comfortably hug on a friend level, then your connection is that much deeper. you dont need to take her out on a date to hug her.
and ask her out? id say just roll with it, if the two of you vibe, you vibe. no need to claim her as yours. that adds unnecessary expectations and anxieties to what should be a fun, playful experience/relationship.
really, the best thing you can do is go with the flow. by the sound of it, the two of you have kicked it enough to be comfortable around each other so id say go on a spontaneous adventure together and see where it ends up.
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: AUX]
#16713239 - 08/17/12 05:34 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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yes FRIENDS hug at the start of the exchange.
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so? from the sound of it, she's his friend right now. if you go into the situation with the goal of hugging her at the end as though hugging means something more than friends (it doesnt as you've pointed out), you're overthinking it too much and it is going to show in the way you interact. personally, if theres a girl im digging, ill hug her in a different manner than i hug my other friends.. a warmer, more thorough hug. its like saying, "im comfortable enough with you to make intimate contact, it is perfectly normal and i enjoy it" with body language and it puts off positive energy, which will end up with both of you being that much more comfortable with each other.
really, going with the flow is key. dont think about what was or what will be, just be.
Edited by AUX (08/17/12 06:03 AM)
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: AUX]
#16713465 - 08/17/12 07:11 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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I agree with your hug description.
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dude yea we hugged each other when we first saw each other at the party since we only hung our IRL twice befoer but we bonded a decent bit we're definatly at that start of friendship point she initiated the hug i dunno yea im not thinkin too hard abuot it or anything its all flowing and all good but yea friendzone is just a concept everything is possible not hard to get a girl to like u
at the end of the night there was only a few of us left at the party she was talkin to me for a little but i was wrecked as fuck couldn't hold much of a conversation but yea dude we both seem pretty comfortable with each other
don't think i'm friendzoned by her and besides freindzone shit doesn't even exist like it does to an extent but changing peoples perception of you is possible to do on a big level i've had long time friends i've known for many years that started liking me, female its all about getting in their heads making the think about you
imm gona try and hang out with her tommorow tho and see how things go though i might end up chickening out but prolly not i think i have a decent chance with her she seems to have a positive perspective of me
and thank you all for the perspectives and advice
Edited by Anonymous (08/17/12 07:50 PM)
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16719658 - 08/18/12 09:31 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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hey guys guess what? that girl ended up texting me before i got a chance to hit her up
but yea ill try and hang out with her today and see how things go
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16719744 - 08/18/12 09:47 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: dude yea we hugged each other when we first saw each other at the party since we only hung our IRL twice befoer but we bonded a decent bit we're definatly at that start of friendship point she initiated the hug i dunno yea im not thinkin too hard abuot it or anything its all flowing and all good but yea friendzone is just a concept everything is possible not hard to get a girl to like u
at the end of the night there was only a few of us left at the party she was talkin to me for a little but i was wrecked as fuck couldn't hold much of a conversation but yea dude we both seem pretty comfortable with each other
don't think i'm friendzoned by her and besides freindzone shit doesn't even exist like it does to an extent but changing peoples perception of you is possible to do on a big level i've had long time friends i've known for many years that started liking me, female its all about getting in their heads making the think about you
imm gona try and hang out with her tommorow tho and see how things go though i might end up chickening out but prolly not i think i have a decent chance with her she seems to have a positive perspective of me
and thank you all for the perspectives and advice
funny how this reads like you, the supposed "man" in this encounter, are seeking "her" approval. sounds pretty emasculated to me. almost reads like how a girl would have sounded about her interest in a man long ago.
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: JesusIsLord]
#16720032 - 08/18/12 10:50 AM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: dude yea we hugged each other when we first saw each other at the party since we only hung our IRL twice befoer but we bonded a decent bit we're definatly at that start of friendship point she initiated the hug i dunno yea im not thinkin too hard abuot it or anything its all flowing and all good but yea friendzone is just a concept everything is possible not hard to get a girl to like u
at the end of the night there was only a few of us left at the party she was talkin to me for a little but i was wrecked as fuck couldn't hold much of a conversation but yea dude we both seem pretty comfortable with each other
don't think i'm friendzoned by her and besides freindzone shit doesn't even exist like it does to an extent but changing peoples perception of you is possible to do on a big level i've had long time friends i've known for many years that started liking me, female its all about getting in their heads making the think about you
imm gona try and hang out with her tommorow tho and see how things go though i might end up chickening out but prolly not i think i have a decent chance with her she seems to have a positive perspective of me
and thank you all for the perspectives and advice
funny how this reads like you, the supposed "man" in this encounter, are seeking "her" approval. sounds pretty emasculated to me. almost reads like how a girl would have sounded about her interest in a man long ago.
yea i know way to kill my asteem even more haha )
i think i only was thinking like that cuz i was high i get self conscious like that when im high
now that im sober i'm willing to take the risk of her rejecting me and plan on asking her out regardless of whether or not she seems interested
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Re: do girls usually say yes if asked out [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16720739 - 08/18/12 01:53 PM (11 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: dude yea we hugged each other when we first saw each other at the party since we only hung our IRL twice befoer but we bonded a decent bit we're definatly at that start of friendship point she initiated the hug i dunno yea im not thinkin too hard abuot it or anything its all flowing and all good but yea friendzone is just a concept everything is possible not hard to get a girl to like u
at the end of the night there was only a few of us left at the party she was talkin to me for a little but i was wrecked as fuck couldn't hold much of a conversation but yea dude we both seem pretty comfortable with each other
don't think i'm friendzoned by her and besides freindzone shit doesn't even exist like it does to an extent but changing peoples perception of you is possible to do on a big level i've had long time friends i've known for many years that started liking me, female its all about getting in their heads making the think about you
imm gona try and hang out with her tommorow tho and see how things go though i might end up chickening out but prolly not i think i have a decent chance with her she seems to have a positive perspective of me
and thank you all for the perspectives and advice
funny how this reads like you, the supposed "man" in this encounter, are seeking "her" approval. sounds pretty emasculated to me. almost reads like how a girl would have sounded about her interest in a man long ago.
yea i know way to kill my asteem even more haha )
i think i only was thinking like that cuz i was high i get self conscious like that when im high
now that im sober i'm willing to take the risk of her rejecting me and plan on asking her out regardless of whether or not she seems interested
Oh, so your self esteem depends on other people's criticism and support of you? You don't have any confidence in yourself outside of what crumbs others may give you? You sound like a boat being tossed in the waves.
What you wrote in the end is better - become indifferent to all outcomes. Be assertive - you are a man, or a human with the semblance of one at least - act like it. You lead, she follows. You are the one to be sought after, not her.
At least that's how'd frame it if I were interested in a relationship where the gender roles weren't reversed and I was an emasculated lapdog. 
Oh and you were right to connect weed with your insecurity. Weed makes men pacifist weenies a lot of the time. Stay sober.
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Edited by JesusIsLord (08/18/12 01:55 PM)
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