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Offlinenubious
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How do YOU tell someone you care?
    #1670316 - 06/28/03 11:26 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

I seek all your council on something ...

I've just started seeing this new girl.. we've been seeing each other for a couple weeks now.. She perfect - I've yet to find anything that I DON'T like about her, and I really wanna show her how much I like her, but as much as I'd like to say I'm a ladies, when it comes down to crunch time I get as nervous as anyone else. My stomach flutters when she's around, and I would be content just staring into her eyes for hours. Should I just sit back and enjoy things the way they are, and let time play itself out? Is it too soon do go out and do something really special for her as a token of my appreciation?

Any thoughts would be appreciated... Thank guys! (and gals)


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: nubious]
    #1670378 - 06/29/03 12:00 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)


-make her a mix cd (with songs that represent your feelings) with a hand-drawn cover and buy her some really nice flowers (but actually steal them from a garden)



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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: atomikfunksoldier]
    #1670381 - 06/29/03 12:03 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Give her a smooch and tell her you love her.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Earth_Droid]
    #1670393 - 06/29/03 12:08 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

My favorite method-

Stare her in the eyes, really lovingly and all, then lightly touch her cheek, slowly bring her face up to yours and give her a really nice and soft kiss, then whisper something really nice in her ear, like how beautiful and special she is, or that you really care about her, or love her (probably to soon for that), or whatever. If that doesn't make her melt she must have lost an X chromosome.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Gixxer_boy]
    #1670396 - 06/29/03 12:09 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Good advice !


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Offlineatomikfunksoldier
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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Earth_Droid]
    #1670401 - 06/29/03 12:12 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

no, do this:

hey (insert girl's name), i know this might sound wierd, but....just in case something happens....like, if i get in a car accident, or if you meet a guy that you like more than me, or if I have to leave the counry immediatly....i want to tell you, seriously, I think you are the most beautiful girl that I have ever met.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: atomikfunksoldier]
    #1670494 - 06/29/03 01:14 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

smoke a bowl of kind bud with her.  Or do an mx missile with her :smile:


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Malachi]
    #1670505 - 06/29/03 01:23 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Well, here's what I might do:

Write her a form letter. But it's not just any form letter... it contains your proclamation within the body of the letter (not the first line though). Just copy word-for-word a form letter and throw a "...and another exciting piece of information, I love you {insert her name here}!!"

You'll need:
-A word processing program
-lame stationary from the company you're imitating
-one of those happy plastic-window envelopes
-no stamp... have the post office do one of those ink stamps on it (so it looks like real junk mail)
-cojones (sp?)

If you don't do this, I'm gonna do it one day (no need right now).


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: nubious]
    #1670751 - 06/29/03 03:28 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

My stomach flutters when she's around, and I would be content just staring into her eyes for hours.




That's actually a good idea: stare into her eyes for hours. Hypnotize her :loveeyes:

Whatever you do, don't just wait for her to accidentally get thrown into your arms. Actually that happened to me once, but very early in the relationship so I didn't have to wait very long.

Just ask her if she'd like to do something together with you sometime (eat lunch, get stoned, go for a walk, whatever).
 


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Rhizoid]
    #1670758 - 06/29/03 03:31 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Ooops, I see that I missed the part where you said you are already seeing her. So ignore those last parts of my advice :smile:
 


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Rhizoid]
    #1670765 - 06/29/03 03:37 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

I hate to sound like Rikki Lake, but just be yourself. If you pretend to be somebody that you aren't (i.e, using a script situation), you're going to have to keep up the act every time you're around her. Could be a trip, I guess, but easier in the long run to be honest. If she slips you off, then hey, one down, at least a billion others in your eligibility age range to go.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Earth_Droid]
    #1670777 - 06/29/03 03:47 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

"Give her a smooch and tell her you love her."

yeah make it physical and then the other stuff is way easier..


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Strumpling]
    #1670862 - 06/29/03 04:56 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

you like staring, or rather "lovingly gazing" into her eyes, eh? have you told her how much you adore spending time in her presence and that you just.. "i just love looking at you"? or say (or add) "i love feeling you near" and either take hold of her hand, put your arm around her or, if you have a mirror, stand behind her and wrap your arms around her and express your wonder and happiness that YOU are actually at that particular moment in time with HER.. none of this is to be said if it isnt really true by the way.. i always hesitate to make things just about "looks" or physical attraction. then again i dont know you or her.. i always have ideals in mind and in forums it never quite pans out. i dont know who you or the others who gave their grand advice deem "love".. it could be that youre just infatuated (im sorry, no one who is IN LOVE wants to hear that word but) do you dream of her? if you do then write her a letter telling her that you do. does she like christmas? what does she like? what do you own that means something to you?? something youve had a long time, something you would never want to part with and yet want HER to have? wrap it up and give it to her.. are you sure?? i guess i should ask if you believe in the concept of "a one".. or is it more "one of many, and more to come"? you must know her, know what is important to her, know how you feel.. theres a good cat stevens song called "how can i tell you". does she like cat stevens? dont give her flowers... dont get anything expensive. and dont say something as silly as "i love you".. that word has little meaning, and i dont know how old you and she are but odds are it was worn out years ago regardless of age. i like this subject.. haha.. i would say dont be afraid of appearing stupid. lie down with her and hold hands and close your eyes.. meditate and explain to her that "youre trying to FEEL her." if youre into that sort of thing of course. then, after all that you can take the outsides of your index fingers and run them from her cheeks to below her ears, look into her pretty eyes and kiss her tenderly; then pull away to look (gaze upon her brilliance) once more. smile, then laugh (hopefully she will laugh too) and continue kissing her. basically, let her know what she MEANS to you.. "being the one is just like being in love, no one can tell you youre in love, you just know it, through and through; balls to bones." i liked the mix cd idea too. or tape (what we had in MY day, hahaha.. the POOR version!)i sincerely hope it works out between the two of you. good luck my friend


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: gedezia]
    #1670873 - 06/29/03 05:11 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

You just have to get up the courage to make your move, either tell her or catch her eyes and don't look away, or something that unmistakebly says "I have feelings for you," or "I think I have deep feelings for you" (whatever may apply).  It takes courage to do it, but it is such a rush when you do (especially if she has mutual feelings) :smile:  Just be sure to pick the right time/place.  Most likely at one of your places, alone.  Or whatever you see fit.  Also, I hope that it goes well for you and that you two find happiness.  Go for it  :thumbup:


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: neutralizer]
    #1670991 - 06/29/03 08:09 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Don't try to act cool, or be afraid of your feelings, or model your relationship on what you see other people doing in their relationships.  Have lots of fun together!  A special thing to do is cook a romantic dinner for her, if you like to cook.  Eating food that is cute, or requires you to eat with your hands is sexy, like sharing an artichoke or stuffed mushrooms...yum.  If you need any recipes, just pm me, I am always making simple, romantic food for my girlfriend.  Nothing beats feeding the one you love. (I know it's corny... :heart:


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: champ]
    #1671006 - 06/29/03 08:26 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

"She perfect - I've yet to find anything that I DON'T like about her, and I really wanna show her how much I like her, but as much as I'd like to say I'm a ladies, when it comes down to crunch time I get as nervous as anyone else. My stomach flutters when she's around, and I would be content just staring into her eyes for hours."

dude, chicks eat this stuff up! (so I'm told) heh, maybe you could "accdentally" leave this thread open for her to read :wink: heh, I dunno, but somehow get these feelings across to her.


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Offlinenubious
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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Faaip_De_Oiad]
    #1671199 - 06/29/03 11:58 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Hahah well I appreciate the abundance of resposnes on this one...

I'll have to say that some advice was pretty good, yet some might be a little overbearing - it's only been like 2 weeks and to be honest we haven't hung out more than like 6 times...


But regardless, things are going well..  We actually work together, so I see her most mornings when she gets into work at 6 am - I leave at 9 AM, go home, sleep - and sometimes we hang out when I get up at like 7ish, or on mutal days off we'll go out and chill.  This coming Friday a buddy of mine is having a house party and Sloan (the band) might be there - he's got a hot tub, trampoline, and all sortsa shit - so we're gonna check that out after going to someone's birthday party..

Either way - it's only been 6 times - but things are sweet.  Let's let time do it's thing - I can't MAKE someone like me, so if she walks it's for the best.
Being myself's gotten me to where I'm at - I think I'll stick with that! :wink:


Thanks again!
 


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: nubious]
    #1671245 - 06/29/03 12:37 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

2 weeks is plenty of time... I did the shit I said when I was seeing my last girlfriend for only like 2 weeks. Girls love confidence in a guy, so just be confident in yourself. Thats probably the most important thing.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: nubious]
    #1671612 - 06/29/03 04:11 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

"Let's let time do it's thing "

man time isn't going to do ANYTHING for you - you have to take action or nothing will progress - this is the game most women play - you have to go get her, she's not going to come to you..

And the longer you wait; the longer you're just "pals" or "buddies" or "friends" with her, the more hopeless it is going to get, from my experience.


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Re: How do YOU tell someone you care? [Re: Strumpling]
    #1672329 - 06/29/03 10:52 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

The more you apply yourself to her, the more she will pull away. Determine what she is attracted to, and without comprimising or misrepresenting yourself, place yourself underneath her canopy of appeal.


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