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OfflineMeph
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An email to my girlfriend
    #1612192 - 06/05/03 06:01 PM (13 years, 6 months ago)


Hi,

I think you already know what I'm going to tell you. Our conversations over the phone have become dead and akward, so I'm not catching you by surprise.

I think we've done our time.

This relationship did not turn out to be what I expected. It has become an emotional burden. When we first started going out, I was imagining a stable relationship, a relationship in which we would be equal.

You've always lowered yourself. Some guys might like that, but I don't. I can't stand it. I can't stand the way you refuse to get something out of your freedom by ignoring the choices that you do not like or those that seem unimportant. I wanted you to stand up for yourself. What you need  is motivation, not a puppetmaster.

This is going to be weird at first. After over five months of being with someone, you get used to them. But in the long-term I think it's going to be much better. I don't want to fake that everything is going well.

I'm guessing that you wanted to talk to me about it. That's probably what you wrote in the email you didn't send me.

Summer is starting, there's never been a better time for renewal. Don't swear off guys like you did before you met me. Relationships come and go. You're single now, and you are free to do anything.

I'm not sure if talking over the phone tonight would be a good idea. I think we both need a little time. I'd like it if you emailed me though, to tell me what you think.

I'm not pissed at you. I wanted to clearly say what I had to say, but it was no attempt at being mean or something. You've been wonderful, and you changed both me and my views of relationships. I do not regret anything.

Take care,

Bruno


P.S. Sorry about telling you this in an email. I would never have been able to do it over the phone, and I did not want to wait some more.






It hasn't hit me yet. I know it will, soon. I can hardly beleive it. Sending that email completly drained me.

I need to hear something. Anybody?...  :frown: 
   


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Edited by Meph (06/06/03 03:05 PM)


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1612306 - 06/05/03 06:41 PM (13 years, 6 months ago)

nicely said..

let down, not put down...

good luck..

i just got thru the same thiing, read below !!!!

keep you chin up!!


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: PooPs]
    #1612314 - 06/05/03 06:45 PM (13 years, 6 months ago)

Yeah, I followed your story. I actually feel releived in a way. I'm free to start over again. I can have more time to spend with my friends and all...


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1612343 - 06/05/03 07:01 PM (13 years, 6 months ago)

nicely put.

I wish I could have composure when I write e-mails similiar to this.
I recently was in the same boat as you.

Good luck,

zerohero


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: ]
    #1612441 - 06/05/03 07:43 PM (13 years, 6 months ago)

Jeez guys, stop dumpin yer girlfriends.
Get em some flowers... take em out to dinner...
Hike the appalachian trail with em and make love
under the stars... squeeze em... chase em around
the house yelling "me vont pretty voman"...have
a pillow fight... dance...tell em u find em irrisistable...
LOVE EM !...
then u can leave em  :grin: JUST KIDDING !
 


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: lucid]
    #1613512 - 06/06/03 01:51 AM (13 years, 6 months ago)

lucid I tried,

I am not a mean guy by nature but when your ex-girlfriend of 3 years starts to date your roommate/"best-friend" after breaking up for only 2 days. Shit is going down.

No one on the face of the earth deserves that. I am in hell right now. and have been for over one month. And like you, I have to be reminded everyday of my pain. The only peace I get is that my lease is up in 2 months then I am out of here.

So I give respect to anyone who can be really honest to someone and do it in a very thoughtful way.

peace :smile:

zerohero

P.S. I am not mad, just upset.  I give you the most respect lucid, and I feel like we have been in the same places before. 


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1613547 - 06/06/03 02:14 AM (13 years, 6 months ago)

I just think it's great that your name is Bruno. I had a dog named Bruno once. My son will be named Bruno.

Oh and good luck with your situation. It sounds like you did the right thing. Doing it is rarely easy.


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: ]
    #1613918 - 06/06/03 05:08 AM (13 years, 6 months ago)

Hey zerohero,
u did the right thing !
I was just trying to add a bit of levity to the situation.
Perhaps it was inappropriate and came across as
being judgemental - if so, my sincere appologies  :frown:
I have absolutely no right or inclination to judge anyone.
People struggle and try their best, and the easiest thing
to do is to find fault with others - I hate being judgement.

relationships are damn hard, and breaking up can
be emotional hell. My wife left me rather spontaneously,
saying that there was no one else, I was the nicest guy
in the whole world, and she had no idea why she was
leaving (she later found out that she was going through a major
depression exacerbated by thyroid problems - neither of us knew
this, I would have done *anything* to have helped her
through and stood by her). I was confused as hell and in
anguish, but I was glad at her honesty (rather than if she
continue to live with me and act like nothing was wrong).

No one on this planet deserves any pain. I realize this is blashpemous,
but "the Boss" up there in the heavens ain't doin his job :wink:
Heck all this talk of being the most compassionate, loving and generous,
and yet I see unbearable grief all around me. Even a pathetic slob like
me can't stand to see the pain of others. If I had one wish, I'd wish for
eternal happiness, peace and fulfillment for ALL.

we certainly have been in the same places before my friend :smile:
after all we are all connected, all One, and we share each others pain
and joy.

Someone once told me that I should pray for people (that my prayers
will be answered) - ha ! what a joke, I can't even get myself out of my
own predicament. But for what it's worth, I'll pray today for your happiness...
if only as a gesture of good will.
Wishing u the best :smile:

 


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: lucid]
    #1614224 - 06/06/03 10:39 AM (13 years, 5 months ago)

WOW thanks lucid, :smile:

A prayer would be nice. And for what its worth, I shall do the same for you.


peace :smile:

zerohero



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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: ]
    #1614791 - 06/06/03 03:54 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

did you disown your friend? that is the lowest thing i could imagine a "friend" doing... i would say beat his face to a bloody pulp.. but that would be wrong :smile:


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: ]
    #1614813 - 06/06/03 04:00 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

back stabing bastart.. i'd kill him. and burry her in the hole alive with him.


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Re: An email to my girfriend [Re: PooPs]
    #1615440 - 06/06/03 08:41 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Meph, I thought your email was great.
Only wish I'd thought of it when I dumped my GF! ((Infact I might save it for my current one!))
Don't feel so bad, you did the right thing.


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1618646 - 06/08/03 05:39 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

I'm in the most fucked-up condition I've ever been in. This is the first conversation I've had with my ex since I broke up. It was over MSN, so I copied it and pasted it here.

I don't give a crap anymore. I'm cold and hot all at once. Tired and restless at the same time. I'm emotionally dead. Not happy, not sad. I'm confused... I tried crying. One sob, that's it.

Probably no-one is gonna read all that. But I don't care. I don't even care if anyone answers to this post.



(conversation removed)



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Edited by Meph (06/09/03 08:10 PM)


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1618887 - 06/08/03 07:32 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Wow, that was a long conversation.

First, let me just tell you that your origional email was great; it was honest, to the point, compassionate. Just a well-though, heart-felt explination. It sucks that she didn't treat it like it deserved to be.

Now on to the conversation. It seems as though she is trying to act like she really doesn't care that you wrote her that email. I think the real deal is that she is actually really hurt deep down. But I'm pretty sure that she isn't ready to face that hurt, so asking her about it will probably be useless, in fact she may get really defensive and not want to talk at all.

My advice to you, let her try to be happy for a little while. Talk if you see her online, and if she wants to talk about the situation between you two, then be exactly like you were in the email, cool, composed, but most importantly, HONEST, even if she gets hurt by what you say, it will be much harder in the short term, but a million times easier in the short run.

Best of luck man, and realize that you can/should only worry about the things that you can control, I know that is much easier said than done, but you gotta try.

Peace.



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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Skikid16]
    #1618902 - 06/08/03 07:48 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

I agree with Skikid16.
She's obviously hurt and her ego is hurt big time.
Skikid16 advice is excellent. Meph, I read quite
a bit of the conversation, and it seems like you're
a very smart and sensitive guy. You didn't do anything
wrong... KNOW this... u have to let go... I know, easier said
than done. Please keep us posted on how u're doing.
I'll look forward to your posts...


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Skikid16]
    #1618905 - 06/08/03 07:51 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:


Now on to the conversation. It seems as though she is trying to act like she really doesn't care that you wrote her that email. I think the real deal is that she is actually really hurt deep down. But I'm pretty sure that she isn't ready to face that hurt, so asking her about it will probably be useless, in fact she may get really defensive and not want to talk at all.





I thought that too. I know her very well, and that's not her I was speaking to this afternoon. She was talking like a Barbie doll: plastic, artificial and covered-up. She tried to sound like nothing was wrong, but it did sound too good to be true...

Quote:


My advice to you, let her try to be happy for a little while. Talk if you see her online, and if she wants to talk about the situation between you two, then be exactly like you were in the email, cool, composed, but most importantly, HONEST, even if she gets hurt by what you say, it will be much harder in the short term, but a million times easier in the short run.





(Note: I think you meant "long run")

I'm always honest. I didn't try to cover up my feeling miserable when I talked to her. Notice that she was surprised, too. She even accused me of having problems. No, seriously?

She comes up and tells me that she's going to do speed at her prom. Now, she said that without me asking to hear it. She shoved it in my face. I've always warned her of the dangers of harder drugs, and now that we break up, one of the first things she comes and tells me is that she's going to try crank. Sounds like a big load of provocation to me!

Quote:


Best of luck man, and realize that you can/should only worry about the things that you can control, I know that is much easier said than done, but you gotta try.





I'm not worried so much about her as I am about myself... Summer will be long.

Thanks for the advice, friend. You're the man of the day. You made me feel a whole bunch better.


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: lucid]
    #1618907 - 06/08/03 07:53 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

I agree with Skikid16.
She's obviously hurt and her ego is hurt big time.
Skikid16 advice is excellent. Meph, I read quite
a bit of the conversation, and it seems like you're
a very smart and sensitive guy. You didn't do anything
wrong... KNOW this... u have to let go... I know, easier said
than done. Please keep us posted on how u're doing.
I'll look forward to your posts...




Thanks! I'll be sure to keep you updated on whatever happens in the next few days... thanks for this post, and the previous ones! A little personal experience is always welcome. It's good to know I'm not alone in this.


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1618929 - 06/08/03 08:08 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

yeh, it sounds like she WANTS you to worry about her; like she told you she wanted to do speed JUST because she knows that you don't like the idea of it.

if she wants to do it, let her. she might have just said it so you would be concerned. us chicks are wierd like that. but i bet you that if you tell her to go ahead and do it, she probably won't. reverse psychology always works on dumb broads. i know... i've fallen victim to it a couple times. >_<


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: Meph]
    #1618934 - 06/08/03 08:10 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Salut Bruno!
Je vois que ?a pourrait aller mieux  :crazy:

You wrote a nice email to your ex-girlfriend.
About the conversation, it seemed that she didn`t care anymore.
If I were you, I would probably block & delete her (on msn) and wouldn`t talk to her anymore, but that`s just me... I believe it would be a lot easier that way.


PS:
Si jamais tu chat beaucoup sur msn, je peux t`envoyer mon email :wink:
 


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Re: An email to my girlfriend [Re: MushMushi]
    #1618938 - 06/08/03 08:11 PM (13 years, 5 months ago)

Envoie moi un PM avec ton email  :smirk:

A_D, thanks for the tip. I'll keep that in mind. 


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