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Difference between Open Relationship and FwB?
#16116336 - 04/20/12 01:37 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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What is it?
Difference is that you love the person but he/she does not satisfy you? So he(she is a friend and you need to seek sex from somewhere else? Or you are settled down and use each others financial and emotional aid, but neverthless need to be with other people because you two are not enough? IMHO this could be named as Friends with (nonsexual) Benefits also? Or beneficial relationship? In that case, FwB is much better, because its friendship+sex without settling down.
Am I missing something?
Its one of those things that I never understood and it bothers me. Just like the other thing they have on dating sites: Short term dating. So when I meet with someone who wants only short term dating, should I ask when its going to end? Maybe even make a contract?
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Re: Difference between Open Relationship and FwB? [Re: Simms]
#16116462 - 04/20/12 02:15 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Open relationship usually implies some sort of level of commitment with the understanding that sexually the boundaries are open or semi-open. The commitment is still expected. Reasons for open relationships vary from relationship to relationship. It can involve some sort of lack of sexual satisfaction, but its not necessarily so. I haven't known too many open relationships that last very long, but for some couples it works. It really depends on what the individuals in question value about their partner and their reasons for seeking intimacy outside of the relationship. Some would classify poly relationships under open relationships, but I'm not one of them. Poly relationships are complicated as hell, but I'm not even going to elaborate; one of the poly-enthusiasts here would be better off explaining the difference. Open works for some people, but I'd warn any poster here thinking about an open relationship to tread carefully.
Friends with benefits is usually used to refer to a sexual relationship that is at least initially based solely on sexual intimacy. That's not to say that you can't be friends beforehand and/or afterward, but with that label sex is for sex sake not some deeper connection and there are no unrealistic expectations regarding the future. Depending on where people are in life it can be an optimal scenario, but I wouldn't say it's necessarily better than an open relationship or even necessarily a good thing. A lot of people seek them out for stupid reasons like to cope with the loss of another partner or linger in them too long and delay pursuing a real relationship. In general eventually at least one partner finds themselves developing deeper feelings at which point things either work out wonderfully because the other partner has the same feelings or things end disastrously due to conflicting interests. A FwB scenario with the right partner can be amazing while it lasts though.
I've never heard of short-term dating. Sounds really stupid to set the tone of the relationship like that before getting started. I wouldn't get involved with anyone who approached a relationship with that sort of attitude.
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Re: Difference between Open Relationship and FwB? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16116557 - 04/20/12 02:47 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Open relationship = you're in a relationship but you're allowed to see people on the side n shit like that.
FWB = no strings, no relationship as far as being "attached" to someone, just fuckbuddies/booty call
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Simms
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Re: Difference between Open Relationship and FwB? [Re: Mr. Bojangles]
#16116611 - 04/20/12 03:03 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Ok, what does "relationship" mean then?
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Re: Difference between Open Relationship and FwB? [Re: Simms]
#16116647 - 04/20/12 03:10 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Like a girlfriend...you have a girl but you two have some side projects going or you swing or swap etc...
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Re: Difference between Open Relationship and FwB? [Re: Mr. Bojangles]
#16118262 - 04/20/12 10:22 PM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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yea its a bit strange... im in something undefined, it started as fuck buddies and now we are really enjoying eachothers company. even when we fuck now there are tender moments but we havent talked about it i think we are exclusive but we have never had that conversation...i think its easier to just let it become whatever it becomes without putting these strict limits of what you can do and what you cannot do.
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