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Mark1
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Is it possible to get out of FZ?
#16041934 - 04/04/12 07:31 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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-Rewind to 2005
-Im 15 years old in HS
-Cute as fuk girl next to me in class
-We hit it off
-She has a boyfriend, so we become friends
-We go to different colleges
-Keep in touch, but never see each other for 4.5 years. During this time she had a couple BFs
-Fastforward to now: we are 23. meeting up for drinks Thurs
-She just broke up with her bf of 1.5 to 2 years
-Is there ANY way I can hook up? Will be tough as fuk. She talks to me about her boyfriend and chit. Any ideas, or too grandeur to even think about?
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16041955 - 04/04/12 07:41 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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just lay it out there. be so upfront that (hopefully) if it works out great and if it doesnt, you stay friends. say something like: i always liked you but we somehow entered the fz, but i always kept hope.... and just see what happens. if it works out that it ruins a fz friendship then look at it this way: You took that chance. and if you didn't take the chance you'd regret it. and if you became a couple and broke up, there is the chance you would not be friends anymore anyhow. or just keep on keeping on keeping hope alive. (could be miserable.)
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16041956 - 04/04/12 07:41 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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just ask her, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: CosmicFool]
#16042015 - 04/04/12 08:08 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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CosmicFool said: just ask her, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
Bad advice...You'll never negotiate your way into a romantic relationship..
She feels safe with you, so don't be. Flirt a lot...overtly...As the date progresses, lean in for a kiss...
The LAST thing you want to do is discuss the possibilities...If she's considering it, that could very well change her mind...
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Mark1
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Enlil]
#16042054 - 04/04/12 08:19 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Enlil said:
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CosmicFool said: just ask her, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
Bad advice...You'll never negotiate your way into a romantic relationship..
She feels safe with you, so don't be. Flirt a lot...overtly...As the date progresses, lean in for a kiss...
The LAST thing you want to do is discuss the possibilities...If she's considering it, that could very well change her mind...
I agree with this, thanks.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16042126 - 04/04/12 08:51 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Mark1 said:
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Enlil said:
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CosmicFool said: just ask her, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
Bad advice...You'll never negotiate your way into a romantic relationship..
She feels safe with you, so don't be. Flirt a lot...overtly...As the date progresses, lean in for a kiss...
The LAST thing you want to do is discuss the possibilities...If she's considering it, that could very well change her mind...
I agree with this, thanks.
One last thing that I would add...remember....your whole vibe has to be "it's no big deal." If she pulls away from the kiss or says anything...respond like it's not a big deal and that she shouldn't read too much into it...
P.S. After you bang her, you owe me an ass pic...preferably of her.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Enlil]
#16042190 - 04/04/12 09:15 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Enlil said:
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Mark1 said:
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Enlil said:
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CosmicFool said: just ask her, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
Bad advice...You'll never negotiate your way into a romantic relationship..
She feels safe with you, so don't be. Flirt a lot...overtly...As the date progresses, lean in for a kiss...
The LAST thing you want to do is discuss the possibilities...If she's considering it, that could very well change her mind...
I agree with this, thanks.
One last thing that I would add...remember....your whole vibe has to be "it's no big deal." If she pulls away from the kiss or says anything...respond like it's not a big deal and that she shouldn't read too much into it...
P.S. After you bang her, you owe me an ass pic...preferably of her.
I'm not holding out hope to bang her will try though. And if so, you'll get your pic
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16047017 - 04/05/12 09:52 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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bump
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16047097 - 04/05/12 10:15 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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dude of course you have a shot. she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she hit you up for drinks!
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Dr. P. Silocybin said: dude of course you have a shot. she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she hit you up for drinks!
This, one hundred percent.
Don't assume you're friend zoned because she talked to you about her ex. If she KEEPS talking about her ex, run like hell. Otherwise, Enlil is pretty on point. I hate the overly nonchalant thing that some guys pull sometimes. Though if she rejects you, acting like it's no big deal is the way to go. No one wants crazy.
Just go for it. Call her beautiful, flirt, make a move.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: keyohnah]
#16047236 - 04/05/12 11:03 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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sounds good fellas, thanks.
i know this is lame - but Im afraid of losing a great friend too. they are hard to find.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16047255 - 04/05/12 11:09 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Mark1 said: sounds good fellas, thanks.
i know this is lame - but Im afraid of losing a great friend too. they are hard to find.
Seriously not even a worry if you take my advice...make sure you keep the "no big deal" vibe...that way, if it doesn't happen...you go back to how it was....
It could be awkward for a little bit...but that subsides.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: Mark1]
#16047257 - 04/05/12 11:10 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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Mark1 said: sounds good fellas, thanks.
i know this is lame - but Im afraid of losing a great friend too. they are hard to find.
With no risk there is no reward be ok with losing the friend if you do this just in case women are strange willy creatures.
Dont want to loss the friend dont try to stick your dick in em.
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Re: Is it possible to get out of FZ? [Re: trekie]
#16047380 - 04/05/12 11:40 AM (11 years, 10 months ago) |
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just rape her, god dam
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