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XUL
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Am I overreacting?
#15867398 - 02/26/12 07:06 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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So the other day I went to visit my friends up at my old college town. My friend said he was getting a 5,000 dollar tax return (he got it on the 23rd). We are going on a trip together at the end of March and after that I am leaving to the Navy. I told him my dad was going to get rid of my car for me while I was gone. He then told me he would like to buy it. I asked him are you serious? He says yes, very serious. He said he would buy it after our trip and take it back to his home.
The 3 days ago I called him and asked him if he would be interested in buying it sooner because I found another car I would like to buy. He said absolutely. I asked him if it would be cool if I possibly brought it up to him in a couple days and gave it to him. He said that would be great.
After we had that conversation I sat down with the lady who has a car I want. We set up the deal. I was going to take the money my friend gave me on top of some of my own money and buy her car.
So tonight I call my friend and tell him everything is in place and that I will bring the car up to him on Tuesday. He says... Yea.. cool man... *pause*. I ask whats wrong and if its still on. He said yea everything is still good. Then we get to talking and eventually he tells me he is not sure if he wants my car. He said he would let me know tomorrow.
Now, this is all AFTER he told me to my face and on the phone that he wanted it. He is my friend and it seems to me like he is treating me like a jackass. Like he doesnt care what plans I have or what arrangements I made. So much that he will back out on the deal a DAY before I have arranged to pay the lady. Its an insult to me.
I wouldnt have cared if he had said... I am not sure about the buy yet man or... I might buy it but I need time. But no, he was like. YEA! I want that car man! Ill take it!
Am I overreacting...?
Because if he doesnt buy my car I am going to let him know how fucking jacked I am. Hell, I dont even want to talk to the guy again I am so jacked.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL] 2
#15867419 - 02/26/12 07:10 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Totally call your friend out on being a bag of dicks.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL] 1
#15867420 - 02/26/12 07:10 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Compassion is key man. He may have let you down severely, and I would not hold it lightly. But I would suggest approaching it calmly.
Everyone is fighting their own battles, so be kinder than necessary.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL]
#15867428 - 02/26/12 07:14 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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while i understand and have been in a similar situation, it is your fault for relying on your friend to come through and arranging the deal with the lady to buy her vehicle counting on it
don't count your chickens before they hatch. or don't spend money you don't have. or...
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL] 1
#15867474 - 02/26/12 07:25 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Call him a douche, continue being friends, and never get into a situation like this again with him. People back out all the fucking time. If I held that against everyone, I would never have friends.
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XUL
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He just called me and said he wanted it now. Tuesday. He gets it tuesday.
He better not back out again!
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL]
#15867490 - 02/26/12 07:30 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Have you already paid money for the car you want to buy? If so you could probably sue your friend successfully to get the money from him for your car. Have you talked about price or any other details? It seems like you've already talked about delivery, which is important if you sue him. So, what else can you tell us about this deal with your friend.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL] 2
#15867507 - 02/26/12 07:33 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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get it in writing next time
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: XUL]
#15867514 - 02/26/12 07:34 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Did he know you are buying a new car with the help of his money?
I don't think he is a jackass for it. He thought he wanted it, he gave it some real thought, and realized he didn't really want it.
Honestly, I think you are. But, if he did know you needed his money to buy the car and he hold you he would, yeah, that kinda is a dick move.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: Uzziel]
#15867524 - 02/26/12 07:37 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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Quote:
Uzziel said: Did he know you are buying a new car with the help of his money?
I don't think he is a jackass for it. He thought he wanted it, he gave it some real thought, and realized he didn't really want it.
Honestly, I think you are. But, if he did know you needed his money to buy the car and he hold you he would, yeah, that kinda is a dick move.
This. It sounds like your friend said he wanted the car, you got way to overzealous and just made a deal with invisible money you didn't have yet. Sounds like it's your fault more than it is his.
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Until the cash is physically in your hands, you shouldn't be making pre-arranged deals.
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Re: Am I overreacting? [Re: Niffla]
#15867941 - 02/26/12 09:14 PM (12 years, 7 days ago) |
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agreed
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