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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Rebel_At_War]
#15436026 - 11/28/11 03:37 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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fbi365 said: Because I don't know anybody who wants that. All of the girls I know just want to fool around.
I like a couple of them. But they just don't like me the same. Whaddaya gonna do? 
Dont give up guys...
You might be looking in the wrong places, there is tonnes of girls out there looking for a descent relationship, but most likely u wont find them in the clubs ect.. (Not saying thats where ur looking just an example of where not to look)
Try to go out and meet new people, go to the library, maybe get into a conversation with someone randomly in the store, be sure you dont send off signals that u are looking for someone to fool around with.. Maybe stop spending a lot of time with those that do want to fool around, as they might keep u distracted from a possible partner passing u by. U never know who might come along.
The problem therein is Im shy myself.
The drunk girl at the club is gonna hit on me and ask for my number.
The shy girl at the library ma smile at me but I never know what to say...and Im afraid I might scare her off if Im like "so...hey...how you doin? wanna grab a coffee?"
Sometimes I will ask one of these girls out but I feel like they are uninterested because the may be shy and flake out on me for a date...then I feel discouraged and look for someone who seems to be "for sure" interested in me.
I would love to go out with a shy/quiet/sensitive girl who is more like me anyway but Im afraid Ill never meet one because we are too socially awkward and introverted to ever really have a good conversation with eachother.
I am absolutely AWFUL at small talk and these girls tend to be in the same boat as me. I pretty much just nod and say "yeah...okay....nice....cool" until they go away....and then Ill only think of what I could have said a week or so later.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#15436430 - 11/28/11 05:12 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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fbi365 said: Because I don't know anybody who wants that. All of the girls I know just want to fool around.
I like a couple of them. But they just don't like me the same. Whaddaya gonna do? 
Dont give up guys...
You might be looking in the wrong places, there is tonnes of girls out there looking for a descent relationship, but most likely u wont find them in the clubs ect.. (Not saying thats where ur looking just an example of where not to look)
Try to go out and meet new people, go to the library, maybe get into a conversation with someone randomly in the store, be sure you dont send off signals that u are looking for someone to fool around with.. Maybe stop spending a lot of time with those that do want to fool around, as they might keep u distracted from a possible partner passing u by. U never know who might come along.
The problem therein is Im shy myself.
The drunk girl at the club is gonna hit on me and ask for my number.
The shy girl at the library ma smile at me but I never know what to say...and Im afraid I might scare her off if Im like "so...hey...how you doin? wanna grab a coffee?"
Sometimes I will ask one of these girls out but I feel like they are uninterested because the may be shy and flake out on me for a date...then I feel discouraged and look for someone who seems to be "for sure" interested in me.
I would love to go out with a shy/quiet/sensitive girl who is more like me anyway but Im afraid Ill never meet one because we are too socially awkward and introverted to ever really have a good conversation with eachother.
I am absolutely AWFUL at small talk and these girls tend to be in the same boat as me. I pretty much just nod and say "yeah...okay....nice....cool" until they go away....and then Ill only think of what I could have said a week or so later.
Hmmm i would say ditch the drunk girl at the club, she might not remember you tomorrow.
Instead of asking the girl in the library for a drink or a coffe try asking her what she is reading, how she feels about the book, which authors are her favorites and other readingmaterials she may be into. This shows her that you are interessted in her mentality, which most girls see as a HUGE plus. You could always ask for the coffe AFTER you have spent some time feeling the vibe out...
If you are not good at smalltalk ask her questions to make her tell more about herself. Most women love doing this, lol.. Ask her for her interesses and hobbies, maybe spiritual religious or political views, about her family and her childhood, (she may not want to tell u the last two on the first meeting but hey its worth a shot!) Then all u need to do is sit there and listen to what she has to say instead of feeling awkward because you cant come up with anything good to speak about at the moment. 
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Rebel_At_War]
#15436452 - 11/28/11 05:17 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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Haha I feel like Id be annoying her by interrupting her reading session.
"what sorts of things do you like to do in your spare time?" is one thing I often ask but I always feel so silly asking that.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#15436490 - 11/28/11 05:25 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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Unemployed Drop Out Single Never cheated on someone I've never finished a project unless it could finish itself. (So much for masturbation)
But I'd love to change all this.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Icesyn]
#15436522 - 11/28/11 05:30 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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Then find you a girl who's also unemployed, a dropout, single and never finished a project.
They're out there...those are the ones who usually tr to make the first move on me.
Another issue i have with the girls I initiate conversation with is the convo will go great, she'll be smiling, laughing, talking, Ill even get her number.
Then I call her up all shyly and she agrees to go out with me...but when the time comes she mysteriously has plans pop up...this has happened hundreds of times.
So I tried another approach...to give her MY number...but then she never calls at all.
I feel like Im damned if I do and damned if I dont and only those loud, obnoxious club girls will actually wanna meet up with me.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#15436555 - 11/28/11 05:35 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Haha I feel like Id be annoying her by interrupting her reading session.
"what sorts of things do you like to do in your spare time?" is one thing I often ask but I always feel so silly asking that.
If she was really REALLY trying to be all alone in silence while she is reading she would most probably be reading at home and not in the library, i would suppose unless she comes from a huge noisy family or something. Try out with "Excuse me miss i dont mean to interrupt you but may i ask you which book you are reading?" "How come you chose this book, what is it about and how do you like it so far?" or something similar, i dont know. I guess sometimes one have to risk it to get where you want to be. Rejection is sort of inevitable, it happens to most of us, but the most important thing is that you dont let it discourage you, practice makes perfect, and there IS good girls out there just waiting for a man to show her attention.
Try to reformulate your questions maybe if u feel like it gets silly. "I dont mean to be nosy but what are your interrests? Do you have any hobbies?" Maybe even tell her what your interessted in doing just to get the conversation going, (maybe leave out if ur a heavy tripper and such in the beginning lool)
If none of these advices works for you then i dont know my friend, i hope you manage to find someone in time.. 
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Rebel_At_War]
#15436589 - 11/28/11 05:42 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I guess the convo isnt the hard part if I let my guard down...it's more the whole follow up and maintaining relations thing.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#15436619 - 11/28/11 05:46 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: I guess the convo isnt the hard part if I let my guard down...it's more the whole follow up and maintaining relations thing.
Well if thats the case then thats a completely diffrent issue...
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Rebel_At_War]
#15436644 - 11/28/11 05:50 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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Breaking the ice and finding someone who will maintain interest in me are the two problem areas.
im good at conversing once ive become comfortable. (ie; with the girl who already breaks the ice so I dont have to...or with someone Ive let my guard down and accidentally started talking to without noticing it)
I initiate conversation with is the convo will go great, she'll be smiling, laughing, talking, Ill even get her number.
Then I call her up all shyly and she agrees to go out with me...but when the time comes she mysteriously has plans pop up...this has happened hundreds of times.
So I tried another approach...to give her MY number...but then she never calls at all.
I feel like Im damned if I do and damned if I dont and only those loud, obnoxious club girls will actually wanna meet up with me.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#15436656 - 11/28/11 05:52 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I always go for those girls. But only the fat ones come my way.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Icesyn]
#15437307 - 11/28/11 08:02 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I was minding my own business and she floated into my life, and I still mind my own business unless we have an arrangement to get together, and I see no reason why I should commit to anything. It feels the same being me as it did before. The same.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#15438823 - 11/29/11 03:24 AM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've cheated during a few relationships. The first time when I was with my highschool girlfriend because, well, I was in highschool and got the chance to fuck a different girl and didn't give a fuck. The last time I was on tour and a. just really needed to get laid, b. it was with a chick I had been promising to meet up with for years and years, a dream come true, and c. the relationship I was in wasn't entirely serious. I think that is an important point, its one thing to cheat on your girlfriend of a week, its another thing to cheat on your wife. And finding yourself with an opportunity is different than actively looking to cheat on your partner. If I get into a relationship where we live together and have seriously spoken about being committed I would never screw around like that.
Flirting while in a relationship is great, you can let loose and have fun without worrying where it will go- just leave it at flirting tho.
MM- If they back out, reschedule! And if that doesn't work, well, whatever. Just keep getting those numbers dude.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15439962 - 11/29/11 12:07 PM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I'm someone who, when I'm in a relationship that is serious, I want to be committed, and if the other person does not, then I won't go forward with it until or unless they do want to.
For me, I just like being totally devoted to one person and I commit to them. I can masturbate if I have a sexual urge and I have no problem with controlling anything because I'm just simply a devoted person.
So for those of you who knowingly cheat or who have not been committed or something, what is it like for you? Why can't you or won't you commit? I'm just trying to see your perspective here.
It. Is. Awesome.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15443957 - 11/30/11 09:09 AM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know somebody who has sex with girls he met a few days or even the day he met them and pretty much never talks to them again. He's a dumbass and he uses slang like a black guy on facebook. It must be really cool and popular to use slang like a black guy when you're a white dude.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#15444033 - 11/30/11 09:36 AM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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what is this NGR an abbreviation for?
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: HeadTripVertigo]
#15444152 - 11/30/11 10:09 AM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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I see people typing out the whole word sometimes, so I apologize if typing the abbreviation was a problem.
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Re: For all you people who don't commit, or who cheat, what's it like to be you? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#15444174 - 11/30/11 10:13 AM (12 years, 2 months ago) |
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it's ok, just stop being a nigger and explain what you meant by NGR
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