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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: RebeccaBlack]
#15299990 - 10/30/11 03:40 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm jealous of guys that get to go around having sex with a lot of girls. I'm a pretty lonely person.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: smokin427]
#15300033 - 10/30/11 03:52 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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sex between two ppl who just want to fuck can be awesome. however, considering you want an emotional connection it's not likely that you would enjoy it think of it like baseball: it's not a sport that everyone enjoys but there is nothing wrong with liking or disliking it.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: broken]
#15301460 - 10/30/11 09:15 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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i agree and feel the same way. I have some friends who could be considered playas of da game, and others who are like me. I've mostly noticed though that people my age who grew up with divorced parents sleep around way more then kids who grew up with a 'together' household.(Just what i observed in my community)
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: smokin427]
#15304863 - 10/31/11 05:34 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree. It's not that I don't find sex without an emotional connection not enjoyable; rather, sex with an emotional connection is just better overall. Having wild sex and then cuddling in the warmth of your girl is pretty fucking nice. I think my desire for the emotional connection is more due to parents who have always been extremely emotionally distant though rather than some "moral" reason. It just feels good to be loved, if only for a night.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: All We Perceive]
#15304902 - 10/31/11 05:46 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm 21 man and I feel the same way. The first time I almost had sex I was fifteen, I made out with this chick in her moms drug addict oasis of a two bedroom apartment. We went from making out on the couch to getting ready to plow on a futon.
Maybe it's because she was chubby, maybe it's because her brother who had been kicking me while we were making out was now passed out on a floor mattress next to us, maybe it was the junkies surrounding us, maybe it's because I couldn't get hard, or maybe it was just the fact I didn't feel anything for her.
I've had several experiences like this but I couldn't go through with them. It just seems wrong. I don't expect to spend the rest of my life with the first person I sleep with but I'd like to look back on it and not feel disgusting or slimey. Those "I got so fucked up... & hit that!" stories don't really appeal to me.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: astroblack]
#15304955 - 10/31/11 06:02 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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right on, many more good answers. just lookin for some insight
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: astroblack]
#15305005 - 10/31/11 06:16 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sooooooooooooooooo true. I have hooked up with a decent amount of girls in a one night stand type situation and there's always some weirdness about it. The people who fuck mad bitchezzzz claim that one night stands are the best EVAR so I always think there is something more there but, as I found out again a few weeks ago in a random one night stand situation with a girl I talked to for about 5 minutes, nope, not that good. On the flip side, girls tend to think that guys want to fuck everything that moves at all points in the day. This kind of messes with my head when I meet a girl out who is giving me the I want to bang look and I'm trying to figure out how to keep her interested outside of sleeping with her that night. Maybe it's the bar scene, but meeting a girl who "seems cool" and then interacting with her when she's no longer drunk in the future is russian roulette. Further, girls seem to raise this ridiculous "I'm not pretty enough for you???" psychobabble if you communicate that you aren't interested in hooking up that night that just irritates the hell out of me. It's like bitch, grow some fucking balls (figuratively) and quit being so goddam insecure.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: TTT]
#15308171 - 11/01/11 10:24 AM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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TTT said: However, as I get older people fail to impress me on an even larger scale than I ever imagined so I've accepted lowering my standards at times for hedonistic pleasure.
this is spot on.
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Maybe I'm just a stuck up bitch.
nahhhhh. We're just totatlly shroomey and other folks are totally lame.
@ OP
some of the best sex i ever had was with someone i despise. Pointless? yea i guess you could say that. i'd do it again tho
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: Apostle]
#15308683 - 11/01/11 12:41 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think it's different for everybody, OP, but for you it means a lot less heartache/emotional scarring and risk of accidental pregnancy or disease. If these are your beliefs and they aren't just a mask for sexual insecurity (performance or size anxiety for example) and they don't ever keep you from having sex with some one you *do* want it with, you're fine.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: Apostle]
#15309891 - 11/01/11 05:58 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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this is by far your best post ever.
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: broken]
#15310863 - 11/01/11 09:07 PM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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hmmm almost makes me wish i don't have him on ignore...almost 
there is a lot of awesome in both having sex with a loved and trusted person and a random person and both serve different purposes
both are fun in different ways
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Re: Am I being naive for thinking that sex should only happen between people with a special connection? [Re: broken]
#15312007 - 11/02/11 03:14 AM (12 years, 3 months ago) |
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closed veil said: sex between two ppl who just want to fuck can be awesome. however, considering you want an emotional connection it's not likely that you would enjoy it think of it like baseball: it's not a sport that everyone enjoys but there is nothing wrong with liking or disliking it.
This exactly.
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