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cateyes


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Re: Foot Fetish... What's It All About? [Re: Joolz]
#15262587 - 10/22/11 04:52 PM (12 years, 4 months ago) |
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Joolz said: Half the joke is that its your subconscious thinking about it. Isn't the subconscious the part we don't have any control over? So why should we give a fuck about what its thinking anyways?
The whole theory is just derp imo.
you're right, it all comes from the subconscious mind... if life is good and you fit in in society then why care what it thinks... but if you have difficulty getting along, have low self esteem and can't seem to fit in among other things then what it thinks should be important to you... the subconscious mind tells you who you are, how to respond to situations, how to perceive your world among other things... it's constantly at work pulling the strings... and it could care less how it effects you...
it's like having a drunk for a father when you're a child... he may have a habit of constantly calling you stupid or telling you you're worthless all the time or flat out ignore you even exist... you could watch him beat your mother all the time... after a while of living this shit you begin to believe you're really stupid and worthless and unworthy of his love... you begin to think it's normal to beat women... you grow up and this baggage hangs with you throughout your life... you might become a procrastinator or feel you can never achieve anything... you may have difficulty relating to people and if you get married, there's a very high chance you'll put your wife and children through the same pain you grew up with... you constantly live it, it's who you are... and there's nothing you can do about...
there is something you can do about it...
you can gain control over it by using methods to reprogram subconscious mind... the process can take as long as 2-3 months and requires daily practice in order for it to be effective... if you miss a day of practice you have to start all over from the beginning(that's just the way that area of the brain works) but this works... i spent over 7 years going through 5 psychologists, getting nowhere... they all used the same method of CBT... then i met Kelly... the first day we met she gave me instructions on how to reprogram my subconscious... it took me between 2-3 months before it kicked in but when it did the doors flew wide open... it's similar to meditation in minor ways...
do a websearch "how to reprogram your subconscious mind"... you'll come up with about two dozen sites, their instructions are generally the same...
sorry for going off topic!!! LET'S GET BACK TO FOOT FETISHES!!!
Kensho
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Joolz


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Re: Foot Fetish... What's It All About? [Re: cateyes]
#15262760 - 10/22/11 05:35 PM (12 years, 4 months ago) |
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I learned a long time ago to not be effected by my past or what emotions spark in me. I had a workaholic, asshole father. I'm basically the person I am today because I chose to not be a temper filled, jerk off like him. Nothing like learning from your parents by doing the opposite of what they do.
Your subconscious can effect you, sure. Its really dependent on how strong willed of a person you are. Are you gonna say fuck it and that's the way the cookie crumbles or are you going to do something to change yourself for the better?
-------------------- Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.
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Re: Foot Fetish... What's It All About? [Re: cateyes]
#15263000 - 10/22/11 06:36 PM (12 years, 4 months ago) |
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i didn't mean for anyone to read the text link, i was just using the link for the image, from a google image search, which shows the genitals and feet as being closer than wrist and index finger.
i don't think it means something subconscious is going on, especially not that freudian shit about it's really a cock. i think it means that some people get the genital oxytocin/dopamine hit feeling from having their feet played with or playing with their partners feet that most people get from sex.
all this is to say to the OP it's normal, healthy, fun and no big deal. the hypothesized neurological basis for the fetish has a lot more explanatory value than 'he really wants you to have a cock' or theories based on conscious or unconscious desires. you kwow how you play with your partners thighs or lower stomach before oral sex? lick her thighs before eating her pussy? well sucking toes is probably like that, but based on whats close to the genitals in the brain, rather than in the body.
also, better an honest foot fetishist than a dishonest necrophilliac.
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Joolz


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Re: Foot Fetish... What's It All About? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15263323 - 10/22/11 07:49 PM (12 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think we all need to learn/be reminded that putting effort into other body parts besides the obvious main ones is a fantastic idea. It doesn't necessarily have to be feet, but definitely try to rub/tickle/kiss/caress/lick/whatever other areas of your partner to cause more
-------------------- Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.
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Re: Foot Fetish... What's It All About? [Re: Joolz]
#15274429 - 10/25/11 12:47 AM (12 years, 4 months ago) |
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Foot fetish doesnt have anything to do with a penis desire or anything like that. The area of the brain that deals with sexual arousal is oddly close to the portion of the brain that deals with sensation in the foot. Sometimes theres cross communication. Shit Happens. To get back your topic though, I think you just need to talk to him. Every guy likes something a little different so see what he wants. If he doesnt feel like talking about it then maybe you should give it some time then take the initiative yourself and he WILL appreciate the forwardness.
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