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Anonymous #1

Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship Update: she's a sociopath
    #15013651 - 09/01/11 06:58 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Well after 10 weeks of dating, and some of the best time in my life, my girlfriend tells me she's not quite ready.

Her background
Absolutely gorgeous with a stunning personality with a great sense of humor
Wanted to be a virgin til marriage or at least wait for the right guy to make it very special
First bf in high school basically raped her while she was blacked out
Her last boyfriend cheated on her constantly  and has since then been completely damaged she says.
She told herself she wouldn't date another guy this year and then I came along.

I'm a pretty happy go lucky guy, I'm sincere and treat girls with respect, yeah I'll tease them to flirt but they all know that. This girl said I was perfect and was so happy to meet me, blah blah blah you get the point. We were having an amazing relationship and I was so happy that I even introduced her to my family (who I've never introduced any girl to) and invited her to my sisters wedding. Things were serious.

2 weeks ago she was gone for a week helping her grandmother clean up her house across the country, the whole time we were talking every day on the phone and couldn't wait to see each other. Last week when she came back we were all over each other, I slept at her place the whole week up until Friday when I had to go to Reno for my future brother in laws bachelor party, I come back spend one more night with her.

On Monday, I didn't hear from her at all and I sent her a few texts throughout the day, I'm not very clingy but it's weird when I don't hear from her all day and I began to worry. I finally get a text at 2:30am saying that she was sorry she didn't have her cell phone on her and she said she was helping her friend Sean move out of his apt, I've never met the guy so I was furious. I didn't sleep the rest of the night.

Tuesday, same thing very little talking she started school that day which I get. Wednesday we talked a little cause she was at school, I had her come meet me after class so we could talk and basically she said she's damaged and can't get close to me because she doesn't know how to and top of all that she can't fit me into her schedule. She said she didn't do anything with that guy Sean she just said he's like a brother to her and the reason why she didn't talk to me is because she didn't know how to handle me.

I'm really bummed out about this, I did everything I could, I was perfect to her and she keeps telling me that. She just has a lot to deal with and she didn't realize it, I just have to pick up from here and move on I suppose.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, I just had to tell my story. Maybe someone could shed some light. What bums me out is I finally FINALLY found someone so beautiful with such an amazing personality and everything was so great and just magical and it quickly turned into crap. I don't want my coworkers to know and I can't tell my family these type of details. I move around a lot so I don't have much friends to talk to so that's why I'm here at Shroomery.


Edited by Anonymous (09/07/11 02:33 PM)


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #15015471 - 09/02/11 01:31 AM (12 years, 5 months ago)

She's fucking someone else bro


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: dispizeme]
    #15015825 - 09/02/11 03:18 AM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

dispizeme said:
She's fucking someone else bro



This. Or she's just not in love with you. Shit happens man, gotta let it go. You could try and talk with her once more (I mean, really talk, face to face, share deepest feelings and whatnot, no inhibitions) to find out what's holding her back, but there's no guarantee she's going to be completely honest and open with you.


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Anonymous #2

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15016852 - 09/02/11 10:25 AM (12 years, 5 months ago)

This girl has emotional issues she needs to work out, so although she might seem perfect for you, she isn't right now.  In addition, she probably fucked Sean, or at least hooked up with him, why else would she dodge your calls all day? 

You seem to know what you gotta do, and ya it sucks, but move on to greener fields. 

ps. do you know this Sean guy?  5$ on him being the ex-boyfriend.


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #15018338 - 09/02/11 03:20 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

She's not the one; and by "the one" I don't mean "The One".


I mean she's not good for anything right now.  Maybe ya'll can be friends or hook each other up with dr00gs?  Drop your interest in the sexual relationship because she isn't interested.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Humility]
    #15038732 - 09/06/11 03:55 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Well holy shit, I am so glad this is over, the chick is a complete sociopath! My friend that introduced me to her became friends with her old roommate and she told my friend that she constantly gets "serious" with guys to make her ex-boyfriend whose also a sociopath jealous! And he does the same exact thing to her, when he's seeing girls she's crazy about him. When she's seeing guys he's crazy about her, showing up at her doorstep unannounced late at night to win her back but she just tells him to fuck off so she can "win" and be back in control. It's all about dominating and manipulation.

There were so many red flags that I avoided because she was so sweet and charming, she would tell me so genuinely how perfect of a guy I was and how her whole family loved me and how much she loved me. As soon as she "confessed" her love to me the next week she went AWOL. She was constantly unreliable with her phone and there were Saturday nights were she stood me up and I would go to bed furious. When I would confront her about it she wouldn't admit it was her fault and always said she didn't have her phone on her. I was completely manipulated and I feel humiliated. I was just a puppet to make her ex jealous with.

So the other night when my friend came over to tell me what her old roommate had told her, I was in shock. She said she didn't tell me because she didn't want to believe it and we were doing so well so it seemed. She said if she knew any of the details she knew about her now she would have never set me up with her. I couldn't believe I had been fooled. The people at her work have always been cautious of her because her stories would never add up, now that they're aware of our details of the breakup nobody talks to her.

I've done massive amounts of research on APD and socio/psychopathy and its shocking how evil these people are, most of them aren't violent at all (contrary to popular belief) they just have no regard whatsoever for other peoples emotions because they don't have any. They just mimic others emotions to blend in, which would explain how weird she would get when I would confront her about the stuff that she was doing wrong. She would look extremely sad and innocent acting like she had done nothing wrong.  They can get away with anything and if you expose them to others nobody will believe you because they think that person is so cute and sweet; totally reminds me of how American Psycho ended.

This is the craziest thing that's ever happened to me (I guess I'm very boring) the whole summer I spent with this chick was a complete lie, nothing she said to me was the truth. I just thank god she's not coming to my sister's wedding and met my entire family, I have a feeling that's why she left now to make it easier for herself to get out. The only thing I'm surprised about is she hasn't communicated with me at all, it's been cold turkey, most socios go nuts if you don't talk to them. But I guess she's nuts about her ex and not me. Anywho, I'm also thankful that it was only a 10 week long relationship, I'm not devastated or anything anymore. I'm going to get tested and if all is well I'm on to the next.

My best advice to any of you guys/gals out there, the immediate signs of these evil scumbags is how amazing of a person they come off as and most importantly you need to act on any gut feeling that something is not right. Read any story of people's experience with a sociopath and there all very similar.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15038833 - 09/06/11 04:16 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Also I know there's lots of socio/psychopaths here on Shroomery, feel free to respond it's always interesting hearing from them, at least if they're honest which you could never tell because they're masters at lying.

I should also say that even though I called her scum I pity her and I forgive her, she has no control over what she did to me and there's a big part of me telling me she's trying to stop hurting people but just can't control herself. I would help her but from the research I've done on this, there is no cure and treatments have a very low success rate.


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Anonymous #3

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15039006 - 09/06/11 04:56 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

i had a Dr. for two years tell me i was a socio-path. your gal sounds about right. i honestly find it fun and amusing doing shit like this...i mean ive cut back severely since my teenage years, cant be doing that shit all the time or other people wil start catching on.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #15039336 - 09/06/11 06:09 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Anonymous 3, that's the type of response I was expecting. I have a few questions and please only answer if you're going to be honest. How old are you now? And have you ever wanted to seek treatment? If so did it help? Would you manipulate everyone or just a gf/bf?


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Anonymous #3

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15039706 - 09/06/11 07:39 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

about to turn 20

FUCK NO, i feel like its a privilege to have a gift like this. you just gotta know how and whens the right time to release it. i feel like how Dexter(the HBO show) does; he feels as if theres another side to him people dont know and its to be kept a secret no matter what(except i dont go to the extent of killing people). if my family(or anyone for that matter) knew the shit ive done and how fucked up it is they'd disown me and think of me as a monster.

i remember it was the last session with the doc when he found out. i had decided on the ride there i was going to be honest as possible and never go again cause i knew what was going to happen after.up until this point i had told him utter lies. by the end of the session he realized what i was, told my parents and confronted me about it with them. they didnt believe him. and i never returned. it felt good to let someone in on the secret though im not gonna lie.


ive manipulated all my gf execpt my current one(anyone else is up for grabs though). she's different.she got to me while on psychedelics and pretty much saved herself. idk the feeling to do anything to her isnt there :shrug:


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Anonymous #3

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #15039722 - 09/06/11 07:44 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

really to be a successful sociopath you need alot of self control:shrug: thats what ive realized. i met someone else like me once. kid was ALWAYS fucked up on drugs and sketchy as fuck. always screwed people over but somehow remained friends with the. HE clearly could not for the life in him control his urges.


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #15039902 - 09/06/11 08:19 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

hey OP you took it really well. Cool man. Now you will know better next time. yea put her in the back burner. ADIOS !


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Anonymous #1

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #15043168 - 09/07/11 02:36 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
about to turn 20

FUCK NO, i feel like its a privilege to have a gift like this. you just gotta know how and whens the right time to release it. i feel like how Dexter(the HBO show) does; he feels as if theres another side to him people dont know and its to be kept a secret no matter what(except i dont go to the extent of killing people). if my family(or anyone for that matter) knew the shit ive done and how fucked up it is they'd disown me and think of me as a monster.

i remember it was the last session with the doc when he found out. i had decided on the ride there i was going to be honest as possible and never go again cause i knew what was going to happen after.up until this point i had told him utter lies. by the end of the session he realized what i was, told my parents and confronted me about it with them. they didnt believe him. and i never returned. it felt good to let someone in on the secret though im not gonna lie.


ive manipulated all my gf execpt my current one(anyone else is up for grabs though). she's different.she got to me while on psychedelics and pretty much saved herself. idk the feeling to do anything to her isnt there :shrug:




You're very young so I'll have to take it with a grain of salt. It's true from what I've read; lot of y'all don't think you have a problem, if you can't see it than you must truly be evil deceiving people like that.


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Anonymous #2

Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship Update: she's a sociopath [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15044497 - 09/07/11 07:02 PM (12 years, 5 months ago)

wheres mah 5$?


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship Update: she's a sociopath [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #15046466 - 09/08/11 05:01 AM (12 years, 5 months ago)

LOL@all the misplaced anger

a sociopath is a hilarious concept, isn't it? someone who isn't overtly emotional and who puts a cap on them; and someone who doesn't take getting emotional over their ambitions is somehow EVIL!!1

LOL


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Re: Girlfriend isn't ready for our relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #15051628 - 09/09/11 02:50 AM (12 years, 5 months ago)

Interesting story anon 1. I know for a fact that there is lots of men and women like this.
You just gotta be careful who you trust and learn to read people for who and what they are.

Some people are just like the mythical monsters in the fables we read. Some are vampiric, some straight like to hunt you like a wolf, some even are just so evil you never will be able to see who they truly are for fear or preservation of being exposed. There are monsters out there and they walk the in the form of humans.

Of course some people are the likes of the good myths as well which is what i try to focus on.

That is my theory on human evil anyways and its relation to historical myth.

Also, I come to the conclusion that angry, selfish, spiteful people dont want a healthy relationship.
They are too self absorbed. And trust me they all eventually get what they deserve and more.

Which is sad. They never have fruitful lives or love because they live in torment and are not able.

Unless of course they have a miraculous epihany. Or someone utterly destroys them to the point they decide to change.


Better luck next time and try to not let these people consume you because that is what they live for.


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