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24 years old and still a virgin
#15003966 - 08/30/11 09:06 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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In the past I've just been too insecure and awkward to be in any relationship with a girl. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and that was when I was 13, 11 years ago. And we never kissed.
In fact I've never even kissed a girl. I am not ugly but I used to be very skinny. I am in good shape now and much more confident but I don't feel ready to have sex yet.
I don't really care that I'm a virgin (probably because I don't know what I'm missing) but what girl out there is going to want to be with a guy who has no skills? I'm a little concerned about this. I guess it will happen with a girl much younger than me.
Really I am just trying to live day by day and I don't actively pursue women, I feel like if I just keep living right that things will just happen naturally. Is this delusional?
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15003979 - 08/30/11 09:08 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Let the comments begin
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15004060 - 08/30/11 09:28 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yes, you are being delusional. You have some warped Disneyesque ideal of what sex will be. Probably from watching too many chick flicks. Stop putting your virginity on a pedestal like it's some golden chalice of the Gods reserved only for the select few to drink from. It's sex, and once you get laid you'll cum to realize it's just another sport in the game of life. You'll also realize how dumb it was to hold out for an ideal moment with the perfect girl (it doesn't exist btw except in movies) and curse yourself for not spending your latter teens and early 20's fucking everything that moves.
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draGONMAN90000
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Billahat]
#15004071 - 08/30/11 09:30 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Hey man, if you look at it different ways, it's not bad at all. Maybe you use this to your advantage, I assure you there are many women out there that love to claim V cards, now careful though, these ladies aren't always relationship material, and also you can't look at losing your virginity as you have found the one... sometimes you get laid, simple as that.
It's good not actively pursuing women, I am the same way, I love women, I'll look at them, flirt with them, and if I do really like one, I'll be gutsy and ask them out, see where things lead, but I'm not always trying to get laid or get a date, and I think by doing so, let's you be cool if it doesn't happen. I don't get laid every day, but I do get laid, haha.
But I'd not think to much on it man, it will happen when you are good and ready, and it may be a short experience, it may last hours, it may be difficult, or it may come naturally, but the point is... sometimes you get laid man
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But just like your favorite drug, once you get that rush the first time or two after you get laid, lookout! You might realize you want to become addicted to pussy! But it's healthy to chase women and try to fire off some loads Its wired in our brains, can't fight nature man!
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Doobalicious]
#15004148 - 08/30/11 09:48 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Aye, pussy is a very addicting substance... nothing quite like it
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Doobalicious
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No there certainly is not my friend! It single-handedly destroys more lives that any other drug out there...and just think, your always paying for it even if your not getting it!
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Hi Anonymous #1, I was 20 when I lost my virginity, and it happened to be with a woman I later married, who broke me into little pieces emotionally when she figured out two years later that she's a lesbian.
I'm 40 now, and what I wish I had learned is that sex is not an indicator that you have found the one. I hope that for you it becomes something fun - let it be fun. I didn't. I took it all very seriously until I was 37 and went through my second divorce (the second woman I had sex with). I've learned a Lot since then, and would encourage you to see sex as one more game in the bigger game of life.
The thing I didn't understand until recently is that - many, many women today also think sex is a fun past time. They can hook up once, or a few times, and then leave a relationship that hasn't grown the way they like it without mean-hearted feelings and without being irreparably hurt. It can also be part of a great relationship that lasts for years. Don't wait until you've met the woman you want to marry to have sex, or to kiss, or to ask a girl out.
Look at it this way - you need practice dude! I do too, and am starting to get it. Without practice, how will you flirt, kiss, and have fun sex with the woman you really do love once you meet her? I hate to tell you brother, but you probably won't get that far with the woman you really love because you'll be too uncertain. I also hate to say it, but that is part of what ended my second marriage, and stopped a good relationship from developing with a great woman I met more recently. She told me straight out that she is in a relationship mainly for fun, and without experience I wasn't very fun sexually.
Good news! It's not too late at all You're doing great dude! You've been living your life the way you choose, and that is a great accomplishment. Good for you.
I'm thinking that since you posed this question that now you are ready to begin living a more active segment of your life. Alright! Good for you.
I have gained a new insight into being a man, a boyfriend, and a person in the world over the past year. It's been pretty rough, but I am excited about the future now, as I feel I understand better what is happening all around me and how I can start joining the party.
My tough talking girlfriend has helped me a lot, although I can't guess if she cares to stick around long enough to benefit from my education. More importantly, I've learned that what I am learning is good for my life with her, and if we end the relationship, good for my life on my own also.
Once I was aware of a bit of what is going on around me that I've not understood, I began reading everything I could find to get a handle on running my life the way I want to.
I highly, highly recommend you go to Amazon . com and order the book "How to Succeed with Women" by Ron Louis and David Copeland (get the first edition, as the revised edition leaves out some helpful advice on long-term relationships). It is a very plain-speaking text, and while some of it may seem too forward, in reading it and beginning to practice some of their instructions I have actually rebuilt some of my current relationship, and more importantly I have come to know that the world is full of women who are looking for a good time (not always sex, but often including sex) with a clean, friendly guy. I just had to ask them. Playing for adults is flirting, laughing, kissing, and more. If done without lying, it is generally fun. Order it! Read it! Start practicing their suggestions! Have fun 
Best wishes, Sunlight
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Sunlight]
#15004914 - 08/31/11 02:16 AM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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*posts something about pussy, and without substance.*
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15005159 - 08/31/11 04:56 AM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I don't really care that I'm a virgin (probably because I don't know what I'm missing) but what girl out there is going to want to be with a guy who has no skills?
You can learn. And no, you won't attract a sex-crazed nymphomaniac with your honesty and virginity, but it seems to me that that wouldn't be your perfect match anyway.
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Really I am just trying to live day by day and I don't actively pursue women, I feel like if I just keep living right that things will just happen naturally. Is this delusional?
No, it isn't. It would be delusional if you added to this 'and I expect it to happen within the next month.' But you come across as an honest and patient person. It'll most likely happen one day for you; you'll come across someone you like and who likes you, and things will develop naturally. That is, with all the usual and expected hiccups, frustrations, hesitations and annoyances. Just like with every first love (and second, third, fourth....)
But there's something that bugs me. On the one hand, I get from your post that you're not very unhappy about still being a virgin - it's something you simply seem to observe without a distinct pressure to change the situation. In that case, don't worry, fuck the peer pressure/external expectations and carry on as you're doing now; be happy. But if you made this thread because you somehow feel a strong urge to be with a woman, then I guess there's only one thing you can do: become active. Because no man is getting laid by sitting at home looking pretty.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15007354 - 08/31/11 03:23 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: In the past I've just been too insecure and awkward to be in any relationship with a girl. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and that was when I was 13, 11 years ago. And we never kissed.
In fact I've never even kissed a girl. I am not ugly but I used to be very skinny. I am in good shape now and much more confident but I don't feel ready to have sex yet.
I don't really care that I'm a virgin (probably because I don't know what I'm missing) but what girl out there is going to want to be with a guy who has no skills? I'm a little concerned about this. I guess it will happen with a girl much younger than me.
Really I am just trying to live day by day and I don't actively pursue women, I feel like if I just keep living right that things will just happen naturally. Is this delusional?
Though put pretty bluntly there were some good points in this thread, but really everyone has a different relationship with themselves and sex so we can only tell you how we would want it. Personally I fear the idea that I'll grow old and not be able to look back on some good youthful sex.
At that point my penis won't really work any more. There's going to be a time in your life when your run is up, your candle is spent, and even if you had finally found love of your life you could not enjoy the carnal pleasure of being a human at it's most ripe.
Love is beautiful but trying to enter it with the expectation that it will make you happy is specifically the reason why it won't. We need to fall in love and get hurt, and fall in love and hurt, a few times before we realize that while love is a beautiful part of our being we can't expect any one other person to be a life time's source of happiness. It's impossible. Instead I'd say life's all about juggling the small sources of joy and pleasure with the sources of shit and anxiety to live with enough ease to enjoy the ride. Now keep in mind, sex and affection is one of our main sources of pleasure, and I think you should enjoy it while you can because your dick will stop working! Seriously, think about that fact for a minute. You are under the pressure of time my friend.
But like I said at the start, we can only tell you what we want, and thus I'm projecting onto you how I live my life. Maybe you just want to find some religious dame and have sex with that for the rest of your life, but that leaves out the self discovery and benefits to being a young confident sexually active human. Once those insecurities are gone and you realize you're something that is actually desired by more than you thought, it's easier to make friends without needing to cling to anyone you have sex with.
At the very least, make a nice lady friend, someone you get along with and feel comfortable with and see if she'll help you out. For a man to lose his virginity you could probably do it in a commercial break, and we just feel embarrassed and want to forget it as quickly as it came. But the biological shift that takes place is I think necessary to be healthy of a mind and body. You'll feel better about yourself, and like that one dude said, you'll see it's just another sport. Another you will suck at at first and only get better by playing.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Tropism]
#15009203 - 08/31/11 09:26 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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The idea that girls/women won't get with a virgin is just plain wrong. Sure, you might find someone who won't want to take your virginity because they want you to keep it for someone you love, but many MANY don't care.
I didn't tell the girl I lost my virginity to that she was my first until after 2 weeks from the first time. I kept it from her because I was ashamed/embarrassed because of this stupid idea. She laughed and thought I was silly, and shit it fucking was.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15009247 - 08/31/11 09:37 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I don't really care that I'm a virgin (probably because I don't know what I'm missing) but what girl out there is going to want to be with a guy who has no skills?
a dom. OR a chick that is worried about VD.
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Really I am just trying to live day by day and I don't actively pursue women, I feel like if I just keep living right that things will just happen naturally. Is this delusional?
not at all.
read up on female body language, then go to a club/bar/coffee shop and observe. then read about male body language. then you will be ready to know what prey wants to be hunted and how to hunt them.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: broken]
#15009431 - 08/31/11 10:14 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Thank you all for your responses, you have been very helpful!
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koraks
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Tropism]
#15009909 - 09/01/11 12:38 AM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Tropism said: Now keep in mind, sex and affection is one of our main sources of pleasure, and I think you should enjoy it while you can because your dick will stop working! Seriously, think about that fact for a minute. You are under the pressure of time my friend.
C'mon, don't scare the guy. There's still a good 40 years of service in that device of his, assuming he's not a raging alcoholic.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15016472 - 09/02/11 08:31 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hey anon 1, you arnt delusional, your still young and something mad will happen that will bring you and a girl together.
As a girl I have to say that I totally dig the not having sex thing. I used to get really frustrated the times when a prev b/f wouldnt have sex with me when I wanted him to, and because of this I imagine I might not have thought it was cool in the same way that I do now this time last year, until this recent experience I have had with my latest b/f. There was chemistry it was mind blowing, just merely kissing I would get lost in this dream world and then when we came to sleep together he told me that he didnt want to have sex, and because I felt so sexually fulfilled and wanted by him, I didnt actually mind and was willing to give the not having sex thing ago. I have to say that the foreplay has been so much hotter than a lot of the sex I have had in my life. Because we both know that we are not going to do it, it becomes more creative as we spend many hours just playing to get each other off, going off and doing some household shit and then coming back for some more play, its like the sex has become more continuous, rather than a wam bam and "oh look at the time...". Its a real shame this guy turned out to be someone I cant live my life with, because if it were just the sex I needed he would have been a keeper.
Also, I dont think a guy without skills is as much of a deal breaker to girls as a girl without skills is to a guy. There is something very arousing for a lady to have that sort of power as the teacher in the bed room who gets to show you how to please her and lead the way. I guy who is open to learning, is a guy who will turn out to be the best lover anyway. Much better than a cocky fucker who just wants to get his end away aye...I would much prefer someone who wants to explore my body and learn what turns me on.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #2]
#15020962 - 09/03/11 02:03 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Let me ask you this. Do you masterbate frequently? I had a similar problem when I was younger. I complained about never getting laid to my room mate at the time, who was kind of a ladies man. He said "dude you wack off to porn all the time, if you let some of that sexual pressure build up you would have no choice but to go out and get some" or something to that effect. I tried this a few times but usually said fuck it and turned on the porn until I finally decided to stop cold turkey. It sucked for a while, but then I became level headed(looking back probably more level headed then I am now having sex regularly) My sex drive took over, and not in a creepy "I've gotta get laid" kind of way. But I just had a much cooler attitude and a girl at work that I had had the hots for for a while picked up on it, the rest is history. Haha turns out she was a virgin too.
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15021620 - 09/03/11 08:24 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: In the past I've just been too insecure and awkward to be in any relationship with a girl. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and that was when I was 13, 11 years ago. And we never kissed.
In fact I've never even kissed a girl. I am not ugly but I used to be very skinny. I am in good shape now and much more confident but I don't feel ready to have sex yet.
I don't really care that I'm a virgin (probably because I don't know what I'm missing) but what girl out there is going to want to be with a guy who has no skills? I'm a little concerned about this. I guess it will happen with a girl much younger than me.
Really I am just trying to live day by day and I don't actively pursue women, I feel like if I just keep living right that things will just happen naturally. Is this delusional?
No your not living delusional, sometimes it takes time to meet the rite person to share yourself with. Any piece of shit moral less pig can stick there cock in someone to ejaculate, but is that what you really want. In my opinion sex and love go hand in hand, without one the other is meaningless. If your lonely and want to start dating you got to get out there and start meeting people and asking them out. It seems hard but it really isn't. Good men are hard to come by, dont ruin yourself just because you want to cum or fit in with the other pigs.. Stay true to yourself and your beliefs and some lucky person will see that. Good luck!!
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Re: 24 years old and still a virgin [Re: unfoldedbrain]
#15022043 - 09/03/11 10:36 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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unfoldedbrain said: Let me ask you this. Do you masterbate frequently? I had a similar problem when I was younger. I complained about never getting laid to my room mate at the time, who was kind of a ladies man. He said "dude you wack off to porn all the time, if you let some of that sexual pressure build up you would have no choice but to go out and get some" or something to that effect. I tried this a few times but usually said fuck it and turned on the porn until I finally decided to stop cold turkey. It sucked for a while, but then I became level headed(looking back probably more level headed then I am now having sex regularly) My sex drive took over, and not in a creepy "I've gotta get laid" kind of way. But I just had a much cooler attitude and a girl at work that I had had the hots for for a while picked up on it, the rest is history. Haha turns out she was a virgin too.
I have been masturbating frequently but I stopped about a week and a half ago and don't plan on masturbating for a while. I know what you mean about the sexual pressure. Thanks.
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There is something very arousing for a lady to have that sort of power as the teacher in the bed room who gets to show you how to please her and lead the way.
I never considered that. Thanks!
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If your lonely and want to start dating you got to get out there and start meeting people and asking them out.
It does seem hard but I suppose I should start doing this sooner than later.
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